I recently ran across a profile of someone that I new in college. Back then, this individual was somewhat conservative and would never be caught dead on a swinger site. Since then, they’ve divorced and remarried and are now exploring their sexual freedom. I’m tempted to reach out, but don’t want to embarrass anyone by doing so. Wondering if others have experienced this and what the outcome was. If this was you, would you want someone from your past to reconnect with you? Seeking advice.
So we both discussed this cause it would be fitting 😂. It would depend on what the relationship was before? Did you date back then or was it just we knew each other. We both agree if they were single we would be congenial but would prefer not to have any further discussions. If you both wanted the relationship back then you would have kept it. If you didn’t, why now? Is it because they are in the lifestyle that interest you now? Yes things in life change but from our perspective we would prefer to keep things status quo from our past relationships. Again without knowing more and both of you, that would be our advice. Every situation and person is so different and unique. That’s what’s beautiful about the LS we get to explore those beauties in others more 😃!
My personal opinion... I wouldn't want someone from my husband's past in a sexual situation with us. My husband wouldn't want an old friend of mine in our bed either. We keep our swinger lifestyle so separate feom our personal life that we literally travel 3-6 hours away when we play.
Nope, they are in the past for a reason. You'll most likely come off as a creeper.
Thats one of my biggest fantasies is running into somebody from one or both or our pasts. She doesnt share the same thoughts though.
I should clarify that we never dated. In fact, we would barely even clarify as friends. We just had a class together. I doubt she even knew I had a crush on her. We’re talking 20 + years here if that makes a difference.
It's a big fantasy of mine also!
The Mr here, but I would say there won’t be a general consensus because everyone has different rules, thought processes, fantasies. As for us, that’s happened to each of us, both for good and for ill. Each experience is its own, don’t regret not reaching out even if you’re just curious about their journey. Just my opinion.
That's a big fantasy. Maybe we're different but that would be awesome! Go for it!
Thanks everyone that responded. I knew I wouldn’t find consensus on this topic, but your opinions/stories helped confirm a few things for me.
In my opinion, it can't hurt to reach out. She has her profile out there, so why would she be embarrassed? Worst case scenario, she says no! On the other hand, what could happen could be great!