Swingers Forum - where to start

Private parties is where we started. They are simple as you can stay, leave, watch, or join in to where you're comfortable.

Your mileage may vary....

Whichever you choose putting some effort into your profile and having photos goes a long way if you’re hoping to meet anyone here. Many here, for good reason, won’t give you the time of day with an empty profile.

Utahldscouple wrote:

There is no wrong answer here or a right answer. The answer is what is best for you two and where you are. Everyone’s journey is different and so will yours. Just communicate and agree upon where you are with each other. Also, be sure to communicate this with prospective partners you meet up with. The more communication usually results in less drama, which usually means a better experience for everyone involved.
PS….agree with FunKinkyDuo, if you are serious about this your profile will reflect it.

Could not have said it better. Also, improve your profile like FunKinkyDuo wrote.

Full swap is the only way to go. Soft swap is teenage style mormon levi loving type stuff. Not very fun and leaves the men going home with blue balls. Several years ago We had a couple that were nudists and they invited us to some private hot tub and we thought that with all four of us being naked something work happen but we just sat and talked in the hot tub with boners. They didn't even want to be touched. Super boring but to each their own. I so like letting her go see her bull as long as I get to know him but I am more secure than most men are on here. Most of the so called "cuckolds" are like dogs when it comes to food. They'll take all they can get and not share.

Gitterdone wrote:

Full swap is the only way to go. Soft swap is teenage style mormon levi loving type stuff. Not very fun and leaves the men going home with blue balls. Several years ago We had a couple that were nudists and they invited us to some private hot tub and we thought that with all four of us being naked something work happen but we just sat and talked in the hot tub with boners. They didn't even want to be touched. Super boring but to each their own. I so like letting her go see her bull as long as I get to know him but I am more secure than most men are on here. Most of the so called "cuckolds" are like dogs when it comes to food. They'll take all they can get and not share.

Curious if you knew they were nudist beforehand? If so, why did you expect more? Lastly, going home with a “boner” and worked up with your wife was a bad thing? Best thing we love about the lifestyle is getting home after playing and playing together!

Like everyone else has said, everyone has their comfort levels and situations and scenarios they are comfortable with and with time things change. When we got it into it we eased into it and went full swap (I guess you could say ease into it) but we talked a lot and set boundaries, limitations and comfort levels and what we were looking for and wanted to see happen and together. When we meet people we expect nothing to happen other than talking and getting to know them and see if everyone clicks and is comfortable and trust one another. We look for friendship before we look for partners or play.

When my ex and I started, we definitely eased into it. We decided that we would rather do too little than too much, especially when you meet people for the first time.

We started with a single guy giving her an erotic massage. He left with blue balls and we screwed like rabbits. (He was told up front to expect this, although it was obvious he hoped we would change our minds.)

Our next encounter was with a couple. We soaked naked in a hot tub, gave each other erotic massages and then had sex with own partners on the same bed while watching each other. Eventually we enjoyed soft swap, and including a 3rd a few times before we split.

Every person has their comfort zones and levels. The most important thing is to be on the same page with your partner and CLEARLY communicate boundaries. We also found it good to discuss each encounter afterwards. Often on the drive home, or the next day we would discuss the things that worked, what we would do differently and whether we wanted to adjust our boundaries in the future.

It's all about respecting everyone's boundaries. Not getting what you hoped for or having something happen that you didn't want are both frustrating.

Remember: Disappointment is the difference between expectation and reality.

FUN50ISH wrote:

we have home parties; we invite all to show up and we do have rules I post with the invites or look on local parties at the bottom of the home page we let anyone show up, it is very laid back if you meet someone or a couple you like to play with we have 2 play rooms, if someone dont follow the rules you will be ask to leave and not return.

Great parties...I might add! Definitely a good way to meet folks in a relaxed, no pressure, atmosphere.