I'm so flipping sick of being called a cheater! My wife has partners lining up while I deal with bots and warrior females who rush to defend my wife of 22 years!
To the female warriors who protect her, thank you for nothing!!!!!
To the female warriors who protect her, thank you for nothing!!!!!
Unfortunately it’s the nature of the lifestyle. 20 men to 1 woman. At the same time there are plenty of opportunities for men that are in decent shape, decent looking, and aren’t a douche bag.
Everydaycuriouscouple wrote:
I'm so flipping sick of being called a cheater! My wife has partners lining up while I deal with bots and warrior females who rush to defend my wife of 22 years!
To the female warriors who protect her, thank you for nothing!!!!!
Is not bad to be just a dude, is just that hardly anybody gives AF about singe males.
In other news, we had a fuckfest last night with a cute couple in their late 20's.
Have you two considered playing/dating as a couple occasionally? First off, a guy playing alongside his wife is instantly a more rare and "vouched for" commodity in the lifestyle than one who plays alone. And secondly, if you meet other women in a safe foursome environment, there's a fair possibility of those situations sometimes evolving into playing separately too. Much more than hunting it out explicitly.
It can be very frustrating. My ex-wife and I met and had fun with numerous people and couples without problem. Then we got divorced and I changed my status to single and now it's as if I have the plague.
You can be educated, respectful and sexy as hell and still be bashed constantly by people here who think that swinging is only about couples or that every single guy is an asshole. Many are, but most of us aren't.
Much of the time that I have been "single" including now, I have been dating and had a female partner to include in meeting and play, but most couples refuse to believe that I am not alone, because so many single guys pretend to have a partner when they don't. Most won't even give us the time of day because my profile says "single male".
It's tough to keep a positive attitude when people are so quick to judge without understanding you or your situation.
You can be educated, respectful and sexy as hell and still be bashed constantly by people here who think that swinging is only about couples or that every single guy is an asshole. Many are, but most of us aren't.
Much of the time that I have been "single" including now, I have been dating and had a female partner to include in meeting and play, but most couples refuse to believe that I am not alone, because so many single guys pretend to have a partner when they don't. Most won't even give us the time of day because my profile says "single male".
It's tough to keep a positive attitude when people are so quick to judge without understanding you or your situation.
69Sensualist wrote:
It can be very frustrating. My ex-wife and I met and had fun with numerous people and couples without problem. Then we got divorced and I changed my status to single and now it's as if I have the plague.
You can be educated, respectful and sexy as hell and still be bashed constantly by people here who think that swinging is only about couples or that every single guy is an asshole. Many are, but most of us aren't.
Much of the time that I have been "single" including now, I have been dating and had a female partner to include in meeting and play, but most couples refuse to believe that I am not alone, because so many single guys pretend to have a partner when they don't. Most won't even give us the time of day because my profile says "single male".
It's tough to keep a positive attitude when people are so quick to judge without understanding you or your situation.
If you're actually a couple with your new woman why not just start a couples profile together? That's what we did and it works fine. No one has ever asked to see a marriage certificate, most just care that you're an actual real couple that plays together.
As for single males in the LS, you are correct, a few bad apples spoil the barrel. But the real issue is single males are a dime a dozen and the majority of couples already know where to find a good one if that's what's on tonight's menu. If a couple is interested in a single male they can be extremely picky as there are literally hundreds to choose from and being whiney that you're not being picked doesn't help your case. YMMV
My wife enjoys single males, mostly because she plays and I don't. Our problem with single males is finding men who understand getting together is mostly for sex. We would love to find a few who could be regulars. A similar problem we find is so many singles want to find the perfect HWP model wife who is young and flawless. Age can change alot of physical features but not your sex drive and desires. Physical attraction does have some importance to a fun relationship, but if your standards as a single guy are so refined that no one fits your criteria, don't bitch about being rejected. That kind of attitude turns most women and wives off and they do talk among each other about who to and who not to get involved with.
FunCouple84020 wrote:69Sensualist wrote:
It can be very frustrating. My ex-wife and I met and had fun with numerous people and couples without problem. Then we got divorced and I changed my status to single and now it's as if I have the plague.
You can be educated, respectful and sexy as hell and still be bashed constantly by people here who think that swinging is only about couples or that every single guy is an asshole. Many are, but most of us aren't.
Much of the time that I have been "single" including now, I have been dating and had a female partner to include in meeting and play, but most couples refuse to believe that I am not alone, because so many single guys pretend to have a partner when they don't. Most won't even give us the time of day because my profile says "single male".
It's tough to keep a positive attitude when people are so quick to judge without understanding you or your situation.
If you're actually a couple with your new woman why not just start a couples profile together? That's what we did and it works fine. No one has ever asked to see a marriage certificate, most just care that you're an actual real couple that plays together.
As for single males in the LS, you are correct, a few bad apples spoil the barrel. But the real issue is single males are a dime a dozen and the majority of couples already know where to find a good one if that's what's on tonight's menu. If a couple is interested in a single male they can be extremely picky as there are literally hundreds to choose from and being whiney that you're not being picked doesn't help your case. YMMV
Of course that is an option, but the lady I am dating now is my 3rd one since my divorce (2 of who were LS friendly), and I'm not keen on making a new profile every time I date someone new. I suppose if we continue dating for quite awhile, I might do that.
And I do not think that I am being "whiny" by expressing the challenges, or supporting the OP in his observation.