Some times, the damnedest things will set off my reflections on aging. This morning, while updating our profile, I see our ages and it just struck me: "Shit. We're getting OLD!!", I thought to myself. "What the hell happened???. We're not THAT old!".
I try to place myself in the shoes of a 20, 30, or even 40 something year old seeing our numbers. What would I have thought about a 50 something year old in this realm if I were 20, 30, or even 40? The things I thought back then seem so shallow and ignorant now.
In reality, I see our ages and wonder where the last 20 years went!!?? Physically speaking, other than a few character lines, we haven't changed that much in those 20 years. As far as mindsets, though our confidence has risen and our level of thinking and views have settled into a more relaxed state, I still feel much the same there. We're still kids at heart. And the sex we have now is better than ever. Still though, I look at those numbers and ask how can it be. I thought we could subtract 5-10 years from our profile and no one would be the wiser. But if we can't be true to others, how could we be true to ourselves? Our values come first.
The questions in our minds linger, and become more prevalent with time: "Will those who are younger than us think the same as I may have?". Will they think "Ewwww, old people. GROSS!"?
Does any of this really matter in the big picture? No. But that's to expose the vulnerability of the human mind, and particularly so in a field such as this where the goal is to attract others with whom we are attracted to.
Sex. It's a powerful thing. Aging. It's a simple yet perplexing and humbling occurrence. The art of aging. I'm still trying to understand how this painting fits on our canvas.
I try to place myself in the shoes of a 20, 30, or even 40 something year old seeing our numbers. What would I have thought about a 50 something year old in this realm if I were 20, 30, or even 40? The things I thought back then seem so shallow and ignorant now.
In reality, I see our ages and wonder where the last 20 years went!!?? Physically speaking, other than a few character lines, we haven't changed that much in those 20 years. As far as mindsets, though our confidence has risen and our level of thinking and views have settled into a more relaxed state, I still feel much the same there. We're still kids at heart. And the sex we have now is better than ever. Still though, I look at those numbers and ask how can it be. I thought we could subtract 5-10 years from our profile and no one would be the wiser. But if we can't be true to others, how could we be true to ourselves? Our values come first.
The questions in our minds linger, and become more prevalent with time: "Will those who are younger than us think the same as I may have?". Will they think "Ewwww, old people. GROSS!"?
Does any of this really matter in the big picture? No. But that's to expose the vulnerability of the human mind, and particularly so in a field such as this where the goal is to attract others with whom we are attracted to.
Sex. It's a powerful thing. Aging. It's a simple yet perplexing and humbling occurrence. The art of aging. I'm still trying to understand how this painting fits on our canvas.
Very well said Canvas!
We feel much the same. Where did all those years go? We are as young in our minds as we were in our 30s and 40s. For some reason our bodies just keep going forward though.
We have become more accepting of who we are, other people, our common sense, confidence in those things you experience from the war, wounds of life have mellowed us out. From a physical perspective, I weigh 10 pounds more than when I got out of the military 30 years ago. My wife, not much more than she was at that time as well.
Sexually? Better than ever lol! We have played with a number of couples, and I can guarantee everyone had a fantastic time lol!
It will be interesting to see what happens in the years ahead lol
We feel much the same. Where did all those years go? We are as young in our minds as we were in our 30s and 40s. For some reason our bodies just keep going forward though.
We have become more accepting of who we are, other people, our common sense, confidence in those things you experience from the war, wounds of life have mellowed us out. From a physical perspective, I weigh 10 pounds more than when I got out of the military 30 years ago. My wife, not much more than she was at that time as well.
Sexually? Better than ever lol! We have played with a number of couples, and I can guarantee everyone had a fantastic time lol!
It will be interesting to see what happens in the years ahead lol
I have posted in forum similar comments over the past years. During the first decade that we became involved in lifestyles we would only become involved with people that were within a few years of our age. As time went on, we became more open and liberal to those we met. When we started into our 50's we no longer regarded age at all and found many people older than us were much more entertaining to be with. The sex was great but the friendships became more genuine. I find now that body types can still be a deterrent to a lot of people. With age comes come changes but it doesn't always make the sex better or worse, it's the attitude society has engrained in our minds about having perfect bodies that can cause issues. We have found personality can make more of an impact on how good the sex can be rather than looks. There is no doubt that there has to be some physical attraction but having too strict of requirements on the people you meet can really limit how good your experience in lifestyles can be.
HYM4CYN wrote:
I have posted in forum similar comments over the past years. During the first decade that we became involved in lifestyles we would only become involved with people that were within a few years of our age. As time went on, we became more open and liberal to those we met. When we started into our 50's we no longer regarded age at all and found many people older than us were much more entertaining to be with. The sex was great but the friendships became more genuine. I find now that body types can still be a deterrent to a lot of people. With age comes come changes but it doesn't always make the sex better or worse, it's the attitude society has engrained in our minds about having perfect bodies that can cause issues. We have found personality can make more of an impact on how good the sex can be rather than looks. There is no doubt that there has to be some physical attraction but having too strict of requirements on the people you meet can really limit how good your experience in lifestyles can be.
We feel to be a bit caught. Our ages, according to the numbers in our profile, will likely be a turn-off to many who are more than a few short years younger than us. And it is often times those who are younger that we are attracted to physically, presumably because we feel to be more like them in regards to what we do recreationally. And of course, because we still feel like kids at heart. π Fortunately, time has yet to take much of a toll on our bodies. But, at our age, we realize that inevitable change is just around the corner.
That said, there are some incredibly sexy people out there our age and older. However, the pool is much smaller than it is with those who are younger. But, like you said, at the end of the day, there's much more to attraction than just the physical aspect. It's an eye opener to get to know a beautiful young person only to be turned off by their personality, lack of maturity, or both. And there seems to be a larger pool of those compared to the younger who are older at heart. Just my quick take on it.π
Nakkidfun wrote:
Very well said Canvas!
We feel much the same. Where did all those years go? We are as young in our minds as we were in our 30s and 40s. For some reason our bodies just keep going forward though.
We have become more accepting of who we are, other people, our common sense, confidence in those things you experience from the war, wounds of life have mellowed us out. From a physical perspective, I weigh 10 pounds more than when I got out of the military 30 years ago. My wife, not much more than she was at that time as well.
Sexually? Better than ever lol! We have played with a number of couples, and I can guarantee everyone had a fantastic time lol!
It will be interesting to see what happens in the years ahead lol
π
We know that right now is the best life will have to offer going forward. With that in mind we do everything we can to enjoy life to the fullest extent. We do our best to not be bothered by the things we can't control and we continue to do what we want without fear of being judged. That's the perspective aging has given us. Enjoy it now because you never know what's around the corner and we ain't getting any younger.
Youth is wasted on the young.... LMAO...
For fun and games, here is a picture of us on our honeymoon 30 years ago. At the time we probably made fun of people our current age, after all, they were really old.... hahah.... life is for the living, enjoy what you have today.
For fun and games, here is a picture of us on our honeymoon 30 years ago. At the time we probably made fun of people our current age, after all, they were really old.... hahah.... life is for the living, enjoy what you have today.
There are advantages and disadvantages that come with aging. At any age some people will find some of us sexually attractive, and some people will not. Living an active healthy lifestyle obviously makes a difference at any age. Most people probably are not searching for people twenty years older than they are. That may be even more true the older the searcher is. They may still find a few people a couple decades older than they are attractive and hit on them but in general that's probably not going to happen all that often. This is okay. Find the joy when and where we are in life!
We have been in the LS for about a year and a half. We have said we wished we started when we were younger, it is so much fun. And we are only getting older and it is only going to get harder to find matches. But honestly, we probably wouldn't have been able to handle it when we were younger. So we just don't look back. I hope people can see us as how old we see ourselves in our head and not what our age says. You are the youngest you will ever be right now. Go and have fun you sexy couples. We also live by a quote by Samuel L Jackson "personality goes a long way". A big surprise after entering the LS is how a couple might not be our type, but with the right personality w3 can find 5h3m attractive.
I hate 42 year olds who think that they are old.
LFMFUN wrote:
I hate 42 year olds who think that they are old.
No kidding and at that age you donβt have the flexibility to live life the way you want with family commitments. We find ourselves really living now I guess we are reborn 10 years olds lol
LFMFUN wrote:
I hate 42 year olds who think that they are old.
Sometimes I think I'd give about anything to be 42 again. At the same time, I ask myself, "what have I really lost since then?". Knock on wood, it isn't that much. On the other hand, the life experiences since the age of 42, and everything that accompanies that, have been invaluable. And, rather than thinking about sex 24/7, it has been a big relief that it is only on my mind 23/6 now. π
My wife and I are on the flip side of that coin. Just turning 30 myself I was reflecting on things and have only one thing to say. Age is a beautiful thing that brings wisdom and experience. I wouldn't trade it for anything.
I agree π―. I hate hearing "kids" 15-20 years younger complain about aches and pains.