Swingers Forum - Friend requests accepted then unfriended after only minutes

I am completely with you for the most part.
However, I can honestly say that I have accepted a friend request and then deleted that friend after seeing their "private photos".
But also I can say this for myself...I have done so because it will be from a profile that has zero pics upfront, they've sent a message along with their request, and then only offer dick pics on their private profile. This is usually a red flag for me when the profile says "couple" along with a turn off from a single male profile.

COEDS4EV wrote:

I think anyone who unfriends a new friend before they have an equal chance to view private pics should be shamed publicly. Their names should go on a list for all to see so we all know about their cowardly behavior. Or perhaps New friends should have all private pics locked open for at least the first 24 hours of a new friendship. Of course these chickenshit pic collectors would never post anything about themselves and that's why we need to list them. So we all know who they are.

We do exactly what you describe regularly 🙋🏽
We don’t collect pics.

This is what we have in our profile if anyone were to actually read it:

“If you message or friend request us, please either have face pics in your private albums as well, or send one with a message. If we accept a friend request and you don’t have face pics, you are giving us permission to delete you as a friend immediately so that our face pics are safe. If you send us a blind friend request with no message and there is no attraction for us after seeing your private pics, you are giving us permission to delete you if we are not attracted.”

We have a lot of face pics in our private album, and we are not going to let people that only have 15 dick pics and boob shots in theirs see our faces if the have no face pics of their own. We would rather see faces, not nudes.

We have a fair warning for anyone sending us blind friend requests, but we will also give anyone that DOES have face pics in their private album (and also sends us a message) a chance to see ours. Whether we are attracted to them or not.

We have a lot of face pics in our private folder. If someone sends us a friend request, we accept it. However, if the other person(s) have zero face pics, we immediately unfriend. It's not cool to expect to see our faces if you are not willing to reciprocate.

Utahldscouple wrote:

Guess we don’t see this as an issue. They saw our pics and it wasn’t a match for them so there is no need to see their pics.

^^^THIS is the correct answer... at least for us.

We have accepted then promptly deleted friend requests ...when we were a bit newer here. We didn't necessarily feel good about doing it. However, the very few (a couple?) we did it to must not have read our profile. Or, they gave it nothing but a cursory look, as we were clearly not a match. Either way, we felt it to be unmindful on their part and it left us wondering if they were pic collectors, or otherwise unscrupulous in some way ...and so we wished to know what they looked like out of curiosities sake.

Well sometimes I have done that but it was by an accident and I messaged the person to give them the chance to refriend me to give them the opportunity to refriend me to look at them

I think the original poster is talking about Us. We are 100% guilty as charged and can be put on said list. He or they sent a friend request to check out the profile. We accepted, and the only two pictures were up close penis pictureS and that was all. That’s been a red flag for us, so we quickly unfriended. From our experience (can be completely wrong) when we only see pictures of a male and only his junk, it’s usually a single male and/or we know that we aren’t going to be a good fit. We are looking to see people, not another penis.

If that was offensive to you, feel free to take us off any list of future contacts.

We, like others are guilty of this as well. But we have had the same experience others have had in finding memes, dic pics or no body or face pics in the requesters private album. This in turn makes us immediately delete the "friendship". We don't need to see intimate pics, but expect to see your faces and general body type to ensure mutual attraction. There have been several that we approved in which we were not attracted to, but left open for them to see ours out of respect because they had similar pictures to ours.

And to be honest we are tired of public shaming for the simplest of things. When in the world did it become the norm to blast people for doing the right thing for them. Again, there are circumstances when it's appropriate and well-earned such as " laypipe/Ryan Reynolds" step cousin twice removed. But most the time it's just not appropriate even though it makes you feel good for a split second. Just move on and get over it as you probably wouldn't have meshed anyway. Just our opinion.

OP sure sounds butthurt. For someone that had NO pics to openly see. These are the ones that We don't even accept a friend request from.

Besides, all Our pics are there to see. Except 1 that shows ink. The only hidden pic.

If people actually read a profile they'd see if there's any chance at a connection. If single males are ok. Single females are ok. If a couple has a certain taste or not.

Yet most just send a blind request.

We added one and all it showed were stretched pics (2). And nothing else. Reading their profile was not what We were wanting.. so deleted and moved along lol

Good luck in your searches, and read before you send! Lol

COEDS4EV wrote:

I think anyone who unfriends a new friend before they have an equal chance to view private pics should be shamed publicly. Their names should go on a list for all to see so we all know about their cowardly behavior. Or perhaps New friends should have all private pics locked open for at least the first 24 hours of a new friendship. Of course these chickenshit pic collectors would never post anything about themselves and that's why we need to list them. So we all know who they are.

We don't mean to be disagreeable but we can tell you this . . .

if we accept a friend request to see you only have 2 or 3 pics in your friends only folder . . . and see that there are no face pics anywhere in your profile . . . we will IMMEDIATELY delete you as a friend. Its fine to be offended by the friend-delete action if you have an equivalent risk in your picture folders . . . but for those who don't . . . We don't feel you have a leg to stand on.

. . . just sayin . . .

The funniest part of this entire thread is we've discovered those that we offend are those we have exactly zero interest in to begin with.

If you find things we do to be offensive we obviously have different values and shouldn't be fucking.

So we'll just chalk that up as a win.

It goes both ways. I've had several accept my requests or I accept their requests and they do the exact same thing. However, I really don't give a rats fart about their arrogance and self righteous attitude. I just move on to a better class of losers so to speak. Most people on here are all show and no go. Just like any other dating site!

Sounds a bit petty. You gotta realize that you have no public pics for them to even go off of. If you FR someone & they opened your PP & decided physically you're not a fit for them, whats the issue here???
Perhaps, add some photo's to your public album so people have something to go off of in the future.

I concure

If we aren attracted to the people after viewing the private photos, we cut ties right there. No reason to waste anyone's time. Sometimes they have limited photos publicly. If that makes us cowards or shitty people, we will put out own name on your list.