We've been in the LS a long time and it's been interesting to see how it's changed over the years. There was a time when weeknights in the chatroom on Swingular were really fun and full of flirty, half-naked people and we got to know a lot of people that way.
We also used to be part of a decent-sized friend group and that was lots of fun. Most weekends whoever was available would all go out together. It was also nice to have peeps that we knew at LS events.
Lately all this seems pretty fractured. Most of the couple-friends we used to have are married to other people now or have left the lifestyle. Nobody ever chats anymore. We're members of a private facebook group and have met a few people there but it's pretty lacking. Since it's on FB it has to be really locked down so people can only find it by referral. We suspect there are a lot more of these FB groups but who knows? Nobody can find or join them unless you already know someone.
We'd really like to find a new group of friends to go out with, dance, flirt, chat, and play with if there's a connection. My question is do you have a group of friends like this and how did you find them?
We also used to be part of a decent-sized friend group and that was lots of fun. Most weekends whoever was available would all go out together. It was also nice to have peeps that we knew at LS events.
Lately all this seems pretty fractured. Most of the couple-friends we used to have are married to other people now or have left the lifestyle. Nobody ever chats anymore. We're members of a private facebook group and have met a few people there but it's pretty lacking. Since it's on FB it has to be really locked down so people can only find it by referral. We suspect there are a lot more of these FB groups but who knows? Nobody can find or join them unless you already know someone.
We'd really like to find a new group of friends to go out with, dance, flirt, chat, and play with if there's a connection. My question is do you have a group of friends like this and how did you find them?
We have a few different groups that we hangout with, and travel. Some we met on here but most through other friends, or at parties.
We build them one new couple at a time. We periodically have to rebuild as people move on. We have recently had a lot of success with very intimate house parties where we invite existing friends and a few new friends. It takes a lot of introductory messages and a lot of follow up to find the couples that are interested in us and want to play.
We feel the same way. We attended some fun Halloween parties in the past and we were just reminiscing. We stayed away for the Covid times and are back looking for the same kind of thing as OP.
Back in the day we had the most success just chatting a bit to filter couples out then trying to get a few couples to go out casually for drinks.
Back in the day we had the most success just chatting a bit to filter couples out then trying to get a few couples to go out casually for drinks.
Hi we are a newer couple to the scene and have been looking at making new friends in the life style we wish there was a better way of meeting people we have been going to the New Yorker in slc and so far that has been the best way we have found
We have a nice circle of friends in Salt Lake City area from a combination of: dates from swinger websites and introductions from friends. Certainly, going to house parties helps to establish new friendships too. I do find it interesting that most of our friends are skiers too.
We had a nice group here in Las Vegas. But relationship changes, friends moving away, some leaving the lifestyle has us rebuilding that circle here. We've already made some strides toward that goal and anticipate completing this process sooner than later.
We had a nice group here in Las Vegas. But relationship changes, friends moving away, some leaving the lifestyle has us rebuilding that circle here. We've already made some strides toward that goal and anticipate completing this process sooner than later.
Kik or discord groups can be great but to get a good one is very difficult. For us we are a bit more selective and don't want just anyone in the chat groups. And we find some of our friends get along with others we don't so if they invite friends into the group it creates new dynamics but this is with any friends or groups you have (vanilla or not).
We feel if you don't meet as a group or haven't met many in the group keeping the group active and together is difficult. Even when you do that life events happen and change your friends and those in the group. In the LS it seems change of partner is the most common one. And it becomes difficult if both want to still stay part of the "friend group".
We tend to get overwhelmed with active groups because you come into the app to see 100 messages at the end of the day and try to catch up but responding to the 1st message 12 hours later doesn't really have the same affect. It takes a lot of time sometimes to stay caught up and this isn't our main driving force in our lives but a side entertainment.
If anyone can find the magic bullet let us know we would gladly participate as well.
We feel if you don't meet as a group or haven't met many in the group keeping the group active and together is difficult. Even when you do that life events happen and change your friends and those in the group. In the LS it seems change of partner is the most common one. And it becomes difficult if both want to still stay part of the "friend group".
We tend to get overwhelmed with active groups because you come into the app to see 100 messages at the end of the day and try to catch up but responding to the 1st message 12 hours later doesn't really have the same affect. It takes a lot of time sometimes to stay caught up and this isn't our main driving force in our lives but a side entertainment.
If anyone can find the magic bullet let us know we would gladly participate as well.
My partner and I run Fantasies of SLC if you would be interested. We have themed events, game nights, meet N greets, play parties, a rope group and even family friendly outings.
We were part of a close friend's group with couples and singles. Couples moved out of state for work. Singles ended up in committed vanilla relationships, the pandemic hit, etc. We used to kind of be the spark that brought people together. Our family life kind of eats up too much of our time these days to be the cruise directors. So, we are up for sexual group adoption.
We'd be very interested in joining groups where we get together regularly, and we love to host cocktail parties or board game nights or go dancing.
If you're organizing such, feel free to invite us.
Anyone else interested in Escape Rooms?
If you're organizing such, feel free to invite us.
Anyone else interested in Escape Rooms?
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We'd be very interested in joining groups where we get together regularly, and we love to host cocktail parties or board game nights or go dancing.
If you're organizing such, feel free to invite us.
Anyone else interested in Escape Rooms?
Code for dungeons and orgies?
We've got some new ideas and contacts to follow up on. Thank you everyone for your thoughtful responses! We really appreciate it.
We are always up for fun groups and meetings people of course we are interested
Our initial foray into the LS consisted of meeting people here and on Kasidie. We had success but experienced too high of a percentage of negative experiences. We spend very little time here these days. Our exposure to events, like NUKE, and private house parties is where we’ve met most people we’ve formed friendships and close relationships with. Most of those are also in private FB groups which is where we have most of our communication now. It’s an evolving exposure & referral process that is as dynamic as our own progression. We now know so many quality people it’s amazing! Don’t be shy about reaching out to us. We are communicators, but please know that we’ll be very direct if we feel it’s a good fit or not.
I new to Boulder Utah been here a month & am heading to Salt Lake City today 10/29 would love a single or couple willing to accept me in & out the bed room.. I’m a great cook & amazing company I have stories for days & always productive/active I love chopping wood, hiking, riding motorcycles , good food , nice bar w/hood folks, hunting, love reading & staying in a peaceful place… If your into black men. & trust I aim to please & I’m very open to trying all you guys would want to experience/try in the bed room & am open to suggestions I’m 6ft ,168-78pds , athletic/fit , clean, df , African American 8 1/2- 9 inches, great girth, long stamina, descent humor an a great smile
Would love to add a picture here but I’m unaware how to do so.. Just ask in mail & I’ll send
Would love to add a picture here but I’m unaware how to do so.. Just ask in mail & I’ll send
Damn! We miss your faces!
We have a great group that we have collected.
From the days of utsluts and you two.
Sure would love to hangout again soon.
We have a great group that we have collected.
From the days of utsluts and you two.
Sure would love to hangout again soon.
Love to find a fun group. Bar pool table, foosball and of course hot tub. We can always host.
We are new to the lifestyle. We are looking to make some connections.
Please check our profile out and let us know you’re interested!
We live in Draper
Please check our profile out and let us know you’re interested!
We live in Draper
We’d be super interested in groups of like minded people!
Who would be interested if wife and I plan something? Couples and ladies only for now.
RECON wrote:
Damn! We miss your faces!
We have a great group that we have collected.
From the days of utsluts and you two.
Sure would love to hangout again soon.
Hey guys! Those were fun times. Would be great to see you again.
Did the decline in the community start with COVID or did it begin before that? I didn’t become a member until a short time ago.
Jeffers wrote:
Did the decline in the community start with COVID or did it begin before that? I didn’t become a member until a short time ago.
Welcome! Not at all, the community has been growing out of control since before the pandemic. The pandemic simply simply required orgy enthusiasts to wear masks, gloves and practice sanitizing. In today's post-pandemic world, the community has expanded worldwide to include 52 US States, Canada and some parts of Idaho.
We establish a lot of our friends thru swingular at first and then it moved to parties and different event's and eventually ee created a LS Facebook group and our circle expanded..
FUNSALTLAKECOUPLE wrote:RECON wrote:
Damn! We miss your faces!
We have a great group that we have collected.
From the days of utsluts and you two.
Sure would love to hangout again soon.
Hey guys! Those were fun times. Would be great to see you again.
I thought I recognized you guys. Those were the days.
We’ve hoped that something would sprout up around where we live. Like maybe just some casual meet-ups at a bar for drinks to meet LS friendly people would be fun. Seems like all of those casual get-togethers that we’ve seen on here are a bit of a drive for us. I guess we need to check out the New Yorker one of these weekends.
Excuse my naivety but, when it comes to LS Facebook groups, do people who are already on Facebook just use their real names? Or do they use a separate account using an alias? Or, perhaps some use their real names while others use alias's...?
We were wondering the same thing.