Hi everyone,
So I've been wondering what your thoughts are on the difference and what your situations have been like for;
Swingular vs. Ashley Madison site.
Have you liked one more than the other?
So I've been wondering what your thoughts are on the difference and what your situations have been like for;
Swingular vs. Ashley Madison site.
Have you liked one more than the other?
Off topic. But my coffee kicked in. Maybe the site or sites aren't the real issue? People quite often have a thought in their mind, about what a relationship with a person should be, rather than just really connecting with that person, and allowing the relationship to be a true communicative agreement that ends up defining the relationship. Something closer to a shared reality agreement. Is it possible that this sort of limerence, perhaps, is even more common, and colors our expectations, and approach toward swinging? The moniker carries with it a somewhat common definition. Our own sexual desires are pretty much, inescapable. It's frankly somewhat unkind, when we find culpability in others, because they just don't match up with the expectations, our deeply held limerence, does to color our expectations. It's not so easy to see people for who they are, rather than as someone we want them to be. Fantasy feels safer than real connections. Real and lasting connections require a high degree of flexibility and vulnerability. Everyone, even highly functional people, have some level of undiscovered personality distortion, and some level discovered that still gets the best of them. Connective, and committed relationships, help people to conquer their weaknesses. Fuck buddy relationships are not going to go that deep. Still, communicative relations with a casual fuck buddy, may well define realistic expectations, and diminish the disappointment factor. In my opinion, the closer we can come to approaching a web site with no expectations, but open to possibilities, the happier with the site we may be. The "site" has no passions. It's a veil of sorts.
We have no experience with Ashley Madison so, again, sorry for going off topic.
We have no experience with Ashley Madison so, again, sorry for going off topic.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
Off topic. But my coffee kicked in. Maybe the site or sites aren't the real issue? People quite often have a thought in their mind, about what a relationship with a person should be, rather than just really connecting with that person, and allowing the relationship to be a true communicative agreement that ends up defining the relationship. Something closer to a shared reality agreement. Is it possible that this sort of limerence, perhaps, is even more common, and colors our expectations, and approach toward swinging? The moniker carries with it a somewhat common definition. Our own sexual desires are pretty much, inescapable. It's frankly somewhat unkind, when we find culpability in others, because they just don't match up with the expectations, our deeply held limerence, does to color our expectations. It's not so easy to see people for who they are, rather than as someone we want them to be. Fantasy feels safer than real connections. Real and lasting connections require a high degree of flexibility and vulnerability. Everyone, even highly functional people, have some level of undiscovered personality distortion, and some level discovered that still gets the best of them. Connective, and committed relationships, help people to conquer their weaknesses. Fuck buddy relationships are not going to go that deep. Still, communicative relations with a casual fuck buddy, may well define realistic expectations, and diminish the disappointment factor. In my opinion, the closer we can come to approaching a web site with no expectations, but open to possibilities, the happier with the site we may be. The "site" has no passions. It's a veil of sorts.
We have no experience with Ashley Madison so, again, sorry for going off topic.
Thank you.so much for your very inspiring thoughts. I agree with you and that a connection is truly amazing and makes it all worth it.
Ashley Madison was founded on the premise of having secret affairs that your spouse would not know about. That is the exact opposite of ethical non monogamy, which is what Swingular was designed for.
PARTYINLV wrote:Well said and simplified. With that said, there is usually a monetary agreement between parties on Ashley.
Ashley Madison was founded on the premise of having secret affairs that your spouse would not know about. That is the exact opposite of ethical non monogamy, which is what Swingular was designed for.
Utahldscouple wrote:
Well said and simplified. With that said, there is usually a monetary agreement between parties on Ashley.
Then then the comparison is apples to expensive oranges eaten behind your marital partners back.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:More like Yubari King Melon!Utahldscouple wrote:
Well said and simplified. With that said, there is usually a monetary agreement between parties on Ashley.
Then then the comparison is apples to expensive oranges eaten behind your marital partners back.
Utahldscouple wrote:
Well said and simplified. With that said, there is usually a monetary agreement between parties on Ashley.
I never had anyone hit me up for money on AM. But that is exactly what Seeking Arrangement is for.
MoreFun4U wrote:We will have to take your word on it, as we haven't been on neither. If you search you will find several sites that list it as one of the best sugar daddy sites (ashley madison that is).Utahldscouple wrote:
Well said and simplified. With that said, there is usually a monetary agreement between parties on Ashley.
I never had anyone hit me up for money on AM. But that is exactly what Seeking Arrangement is for.
https://chicagoreader.com/reader-partners/sugar-baby/
Hookitup.com is probably the one we've had the most responses with. No single males and the make everyone verify with a couples selfie with that days newspaper.
Utahldscouple wrote:
We will have to take your word on it, as we haven't been on neither. If you search you will find several sites that list it as one of the best sugar daddy sites (ashley madison that is).
https://chicagoreader.com/reader-partners/sugar-baby/
AM doesn't even have a way to search for SB's or SD's, you would spend days trying to find them. I'm sure some of both exist on the site, but it's rare. It's similar to the occasional sugar baby that wanders into Swingular, it happens but doesn't get much action because it's not the sites base clientele. If you want a SD/SB relationship there are much better sites that cater to that specific clientele and you'll have your pick from a dozen within an hour. Your mileage may vary.
SantaClaraFunCouple wrote:
Hookitup.com is probably the one we've had the most responses with. No single males and the make everyone verify with a couples selfie with that days newspaper.
Newspaper?!? LMAO.... I haven't held in my hands an actual paper and ink newspaper in years. Where would you even find one outside the local museum?
SantaClaraFunCouple wrote:
Hookitup.com is probably the one we've had the most responses with. No single males and the make everyone verify with a couples selfie with that days newspaper.
I tried researching hookitup.com and it took me to a towing site that is actually for sale lol
MoreFun4U wrote:Like I said we don't know. We only rely on sources like the ones mentioned about and the many articles that talk about it being a site for sugarbabies. We can send you a few hundred more to reference if you would likeUtahldscouple wrote:
We will have to take your word on it, as we haven't been on neither. If you search you will find several sites that list it as one of the best sugar daddy sites (ashley madison that is).
https://chicagoreader.com/reader-partners/sugar-baby/
AM doesn't even have a way to search for SB's or SD's, you would spend days trying to find them. I'm sure some of both exist on the site, but it's rare. It's similar to the occasional sugar baby that wanders into Swingular, it happens but doesn't get much action because it's not the sites base clientele. If you want a SD/SB relationship there are much better sites that cater to that specific clientele and you'll have your pick from a dozen within an hour. Your mileage may vary.
!Whiskey_Girl wrote:SantaClaraFunCouple wrote:
Hookitup.com is probably the one we've had the most responses with. No single males and the make everyone verify with a couples selfie with that days newspaper.
I tried researching hookitup.com and it took me to a towing site that is actually for sale lol
It looks like it is Hookupit.com not hookitup. A site for singles looking for singles from what I saw from the homepage.
That's funny.... I just made that site up. Good to know it exists.
SantaClaraFunCouple wrote:It doesn’t exist! Bored are we?
That's funny.... I just made that site up. Good to know it exists.
SantaClaraFunCouple wrote:
Hookitup.com is probably the one we've had the most responses with. No single males and the make everyone verify with a couples selfie with that days newspaper.
Based on the last photo on your profile, you must get a lot offers to " hookitup". Lol.
Utahldscouple wrote:
Like I said we don't know. We only rely on sources like the ones mentioned about and the many articles that talk about it being a site for sugarbabies. We can send you a few hundred more to reference if you would like
Yeah... nothing better than someone making comments, suggestions and recommendations about a website that they admit they have never been to, have no experience with and have no use for.
Sometimes it's better to just admit you don't know shit and have zero experience on certain subjects. It also helps to understand that kinks come in all different types and flavors and just because it's not your kink doesn't make it wrong or less worthy.
MoreFun4U wrote:Yep I admit I haven’t been on that site to know but rely on experts and others who do. Wow imagine that. Everyone but you knows it’s known for sugar daddy hook ups?!?! At least I am using references and not making shit up like, “I have never seen it. Just because you haven’t seen it doesn’t makes it fact.Utahldscouple wrote:
Like I said we don't know. We only rely on sources like the ones mentioned about and the many articles that talk about it being a site for sugarbabies. We can send you a few hundred more to reference if you would like
Yeah... nothing better than someone making comments, suggestions and recommendations about a website that they admit they have never been to, have no experience with and have no use for.
Sometimes it's better to just admit you don't know shit and have zero experience on certain subjects. It also helps to understand that kinks come in all different types and flavors and just because it's not your kink doesn't make it wrong or less worthy.
I can post more and more references saying it is, if you’d like. My research shows it is. Per the great Chris Farley “I can get a great look at a t-bone steak by shoving my head up a bull’s ass but I’d rather take the butchers word for it.”
Not sure why you take things so personal? Easily offended are we when challenged with facts? Sorry to offend you with sources to prove my point (that you challenged me on)! Now how’s the Tbone looking there at Ashley Madison?
Utahldscouple wrote:
Yep I admit I don’t know but rely on experts and others who do. Wow imagine that. Everyone but you knows it’s known for sugar daddy hook ups?!?! At least I am using references and not making shit up like, “I have never seen it” because you haven’t seen it makes it fact. I can post more and more references for you saying it is. My research shows it is. Not sure why you take things so personal? Easily offended are we when challenged with facts? Sorry to offend you!
First off what makes some guy writing an article an expert? Anyone can write an article these days and post it. I'd suggest someone with actual experience in the sites in questions would at least be knowledgeable on the subject.
Second off, I never said it doesn't exist. I said it's rare and similar to Sugar Babies on Swingular. They do exist, but they are rare, and there is no method of searching for them unless I somehow missed that button on Swingular Or AM. So stop trying to spin this ad place words in my mouth I never said. How about you stick to actual facts of the things you actual know and have experience in?
I read it on the internet so it must be true. -Abraham Lincoln 1865
MoreFun4U wrote:OMG! Here you go how many writers suggesting it to be one of the best for sugar baby relationships do you need? These are all writers that used the site or researched the site. Literally after a 2 minute search. We will let everyone come to their own conclusion (if they already haven’t because it’s so well known to be).Utahldscouple wrote:
Yep I admit I don’t know but rely on experts and others who do. Wow imagine that. Everyone but you knows it’s known for sugar daddy hook ups?!?! At least I am using references and not making shit up like, “I have never seen it” because you haven’t seen it makes it fact. I can post more and more references for you saying it is. My research shows it is. Not sure why you take things so personal? Easily offended are we when challenged with facts? Sorry to offend you!
First off what makes some guy writing an article an expert? Anyone can write an article these days and post it. I'd suggest someone with actual experience in the sites in questions would at least be knowledgeable on the subject.
Second off, I never said it doesn't exist. I said it's rare and similar to Sugar Babies on Swingular. They do exist, but they are rare, and there is no method of searching for them unless I somehow missed that button on Swingular Or AM. So stop trying to spin this ad place words in my mouth I never said. How about you stick to actual facts of the things you actual know and have experience in?
I read it on the internet so it must be true. -Abraham Lincoln 1865
https://sugar-place.com/reviews/ashley-madison/
https://sugardatingreview.com/reviews/ashley-madison/
https://sugar-daddies.us/top-websites/ashley-madison-review
https://washingtoncitypaper.com/article/539894/8-best-sugar-baby-sites-and-apps-meet-sugar-local-babies/
https://www.outlookindia.com/outlook-spotlight/best-sugar-daddy-baby-dating-sites-top-12-websites-to-find-sugar-partner-news-231854
https://eastbayexpress.com/sugar-dating/
Had to laugh at the title of this Post …. “Singular or other “. Singular is pretty accurate haha
Haha, you need to get a better hobby instead of just being miserable all the time.. honestly, buy a motorcycle or something..pick a hobby vs. just picking apart people on the site..its depressing
Harleynight12345678 wrote:
Haha, you need to get a better hobby instead of just being miserable all the time.. honestly, buy a motorcycle or something..pick a hobby vs. just picking apart people on the site..its depressing
Oh there he goes again … the King SM Snowflake of Singular
But you’re so right, I’m so miserable … the last 10 days in Key West on the yatch have been horrible 🤣😂🤣
Haha!!! Must be..if your on the web making fun of post...haha!! You truly make it so easy.
Harleynight12345678 wrote:
Haha!!! Must be..if your on the web making fun of post...haha!! You truly make it so easy.
Sweetie, I think you really need to grow a sense of humor... you haven't a shred. It was just kind of funny ... "Singular" posted by a single guy (with a dick pic for a profile) .. get it? I suspect not! (and by the way, this is the HER half, always is .. I don't need a motorcycle hehe )
TaTA for now ... gotta get going back out to Fantasy Fest
FunKinkyDuo wrote:
Sweetie, I think you really need to grow a sense of humor... you haven't a shred. It was just kind of funny ... "Singular" posted by a single guy (with a dick pic for a profile) .. get it? I suspect not! (and by the way, this is the HER half, always is .. I don't need a motorcycle hehe )
TaTA for now ... gotta get going back out to Fantasy Fest
I do get it and find it hilarious. It's just this couple in particular always post and pokes fun or negativity comments on post usually.
I'm just find it funny is all.