We have gotten messages from couples wanting to chat and get to know each other to determine whether there is chemistry there. We usually like to chat on kik and we don’t mind answering questions and getting to know there likes etc. Anyway it gets frustrating when we commit to chatting and we start and get no response back. We have been in the lifestyle for a long time and it used to be easier to connect with people because they actually followed through. Is there another site out there where members are a little more forthcoming and friendly.
Right. I’m new to the area and a single male 50+ I too would like to chat to couples and singles even if people are not sexually interested in me. Just to get to know the area and expand connection. I’m real and always available.
Unfortunately there are a lot of flakes, fakes, and picture collectors on all sites. Just my opinion.
alchemyinbdr wrote:
Unfortunately there are a lot of flakes, fakes, and picture collectors on all sites. Just my opinion.
Well I’m no flake if your ever interested Alchemyinbdr & would be down to have an erotic sesh w/you… you can email or get my cell whichever you prefer & we can exchange info & I’ll send some pics
We personally get bored of chat after so much. We prefer to meet up and see if there is chemistry. The chats are easier to keep going if you meet outside of chatting. Busy schedules we get it we have one too but after weeks of chatting and not meeting it we will die off. Maybes it’s our ADHD.
Utahldscouple wrote:
We personally get bored of chat after so much. We prefer to meet up and see if there is chemistry. The chats are easier to keep going if you meet outside of chatting. Busy schedules we get it we have one too but after weeks of chatting and not meeting it we will die off. Maybes it’s our ADHD.
Yes I understand that it’s more the ones that say let’s chat and then crickets it never even gets to the point of let’s meet frustrating
In our opinion chatting over messages doesn’t indicate real chemistry. We did this in the beginning hoping to have a good initial connection, and found that messaging for weeks and getting a great vibe from people is useless when you finally meet up in person and know within the first 10 minutes that there is no chemistry.
People can be vastly different in person. Their personalities can be very quiet in comparison to their outgoing demeanor through messages, or they can be obnoxious when they barely participated in a group messaging conversation. There can also be a big difference physically, obviously… Old pics are rampant on Swingular. If you look about the same a few years ago as compared to today, that’s great, we can understand that… but don’t say your pics are recent if you’re holding a flip phone in one of them.
We’d rather meet up after some introductions and a little chatting. Screw the forever chatters. We will just move on…
People can be vastly different in person. Their personalities can be very quiet in comparison to their outgoing demeanor through messages, or they can be obnoxious when they barely participated in a group messaging conversation. There can also be a big difference physically, obviously… Old pics are rampant on Swingular. If you look about the same a few years ago as compared to today, that’s great, we can understand that… but don’t say your pics are recent if you’re holding a flip phone in one of them.
We’d rather meet up after some introductions and a little chatting. Screw the forever chatters. We will just move on…
Starlights wrote:
In our opinion chatting over messages doesn’t indicate real chemistry. We did this in the beginning hoping to have a good initial connection, and found that messaging for weeks and getting a great vibe from people is useless when you finally meet up in person and know within the first 10 minutes that there is no chemistry.
People can be vastly different in person. Their personalities can be very quiet in comparison to their outgoing demeanor through messages, or they can be obnoxious when they barely participated in a group messaging conversation. There can also be a big difference physically, obviously… Old pics are rampant on Swingular. If you look about the same a few years ago as compared to today, that’s great, we can understand that… but don’t say your pics are recent if you’re holding a flip phone in one of them.
We’d rather meet up after some introductions and a little chatting. Screw the forever chatters. We will just move on…
We totally agree. Learn a little and then meet up.
We're are on swinger sites to actually meet people. We get bored with chatting and therefore, we keep our chats brief. Basically, the chats are just to see if everyone is on the same page regarding boundaries and preferences to see if it makes sense to meet . If everyone is happy after the vetting process, then we ask for a list of possible dates that will work for them to meet us. If the replies stop coming, we interpret that as being non committal and we won't waste anymore time with them. If they can't commit, then they are clearly not interested in us. There are plenty of couples and singles that will meet us. So, we just move on to the next person(s) on our queue.
However, after we have met another couple or single, we don't mind the chats because we are now friends.
However, after we have met another couple or single, we don't mind the chats because we are now friends.
Nakkidfun wrote:Starlights wrote:
In our opinion chatting over messages doesn’t indicate real chemistry. We did this in the beginning hoping to have a good initial connection, and found that messaging for weeks and getting a great vibe from people is useless when you finally meet up in person and know within the first 10 minutes that there is no chemistry.
People can be vastly different in person. Their personalities can be very quiet in comparison to their outgoing demeanor through messages, or they can be obnoxious when they barely participated in a group messaging conversation. There can also be a big difference physically, obviously… Old pics are rampant on Swingular. If you look about the same a few years ago as compared to today, that’s great, we can understand that… but don’t say your pics are recent if you’re holding a flip phone in one of them.
We’d rather meet up after some introductions and a little chatting. Screw the forever chatters. We will just move on…
We totally agree. Learn a little and then meet up.
I totally agree we don’t like endless chats and we want to meet just don’t like getting ghosted after 2 messages kinda makes it hard to meet
If you want to skip the long worthless time WAISTING chats but get to truly know eachother & vibes I sent you a personal message hope to hear from you…
Whiskey_Girl wrote:
We have gotten messages from couples wanting to chat and get to know each other to determine whether there is chemistry there. We usually like to chat on kik and we don’t mind answering questions and getting to know there likes etc. Anyway it gets frustrating when we commit to chatting and we start and get no response back. We have been in the lifestyle for a long time and it used to be easier to connect with people because they actually followed through. Is there another site out there where members are a little more forthcoming and friendly.
Nope, there isn't and it is not about the websites. Kikin' and texting besides some basic info/pics and meeting arrangements just create erroneous perceptions. The longer you kik/chat with someone, the less likely you are to play with them. Just meet, have a drink, share some laughs, be sexy, fuck and later decide if they are worth a second date.
Whiskey_Girl wrote:
Yes I understand that it’s more the ones that say let’s chat and then crickets it never even gets to the point of let’s meet frustrating
Then move on to the next profile, don't let that get to you. Block them too, do not accept excuses.
breeze30 wrote:
Right. I’m new to the area and a single male 50+ I too would like to chat to couples and singles even if people are not sexually interested in me. Just to get to know the area and expand connection. I’m real and always available.
Ok so if you are not worried whether the people are sexually into you then visit your local church or any other social activity/group, get a Harley and joing a HOG, organize a Haunted House, volunteer at your local soup kitchen/hospital and, if you are not on the sex offender list, become a scouting leader. That way you meet people while doing something good for your new community. I'm pretty sure there are better chances to get laid doing that stuff than here.
To be the contrarian here, we sometimes have to chat for quite a while before we can find a time and place that works for all couples. Also, people are busy and forget to keep up the communication. I for one try to cut people a lot of slack as long as it seems that they really want to find the time. I have conversation threads that go back months with couples while we all try to fit extra curricular sex into our busy lives.
We always chat for a bit but then want to meet. But there are a lot of flakes out there. As soon as a meeting is set up they no show or drop of the face of the earth. I get people get busy but as long as there is some communication we give they the benefit for a while.
Me I'm a single 43 year old male but I'm more than willing to chat become friends meet up have a couple drinks play some games or something I prefer that in person but whatever people are interested in I'm willing to do I want to make new friends and possibly have some benefits with those friends if it comes down to it these people that say they want to chat and then flake out they're not true people they are disrespectful jerks the ones that just want the picture collections that ain't right either they should all be banned from doing it but those ones that do it how are you to know which ones are which ones are anyways if someone wants to hit me up and chat become friends meet in person for a couple drinks or whatever I'm up for it
Ya we don't want to chat forever. We consider that good for an introduction but then it's time to meet and see where it leads.
There are a ton of flakes on this site. A lot of married posers also, but hey, we don't want to judge.
We can go awhile in between visits on here but if we set something up we like to follow thru. It would be nice if more people did the same.
There are a ton of flakes on this site. A lot of married posers also, but hey, we don't want to judge.
We can go awhile in between visits on here but if we set something up we like to follow thru. It would be nice if more people did the same.
Like all things there are good and not so good, not sure if it's the site , we feel it's just the members on the site. our latest flake would the female on the side of the cpl she cancelled 3 times as well as we were have a gang bang party at our friends and she wanted to go sooooo bad keep in mind this was a private event, i got her in. but the night of the party guess what she cancelled again. so when i told her that we would not be interested going any further and she get pissed at me, lol talk about flakes.
with that being said we still try not to let that influence us going forward, we have made and have meet some great folks in the lifestyle
with that being said we still try not to let that influence us going forward, we have made and have meet some great folks in the lifestyle