Seems most on here seek some sort of connection with like minded people. That's what we have sought. But, we're not a swap couple. We wanted to find a couple with similar interests as us outside of the "lifestyle" who were interested in becoming friends then experimenting in the slower and lighter side of the lifestyle. From pure curiosity though, I've often wondered about full or soft swapping with someone you clicked with and felt a connection, that connection that so many seek. However, if there's a connection, how does one keep from developing some level of emotional attachment? I assume this trips some couples.
That said, I've been wondering if perhaps it's good for those with a disposition of getting attached to get together with someone with opposing views, someone who they normally wouldn't hang out with, so they would be less likely to get attached.
Thoughts? Experiences?
That said, I've been wondering if perhaps it's good for those with a disposition of getting attached to get together with someone with opposing views, someone who they normally wouldn't hang out with, so they would be less likely to get attached.
Thoughts? Experiences?
Love does not equal sex... Sex does not equal love. If there is doubt where your love lies, you'll get twisted.
My wife is exactly the opposite of what you are describing ... she jokes and says we have enough friends, she simply likes the sex without any commitment. She created the rule we will never see anyone more than 3 times. Not to avoid attachment but because she likes the idea of the other people being strangers and thinks that is more exciting.