We are new to the lifestyle and have been having a hard time finding couples that are like minded and around our same age. We are m(26) and f(25) and have been together for over 9 years. We are very open with eachother and have been in discussions about expanding in the bedroom. We are on swingular, AFF, and reddit. And so far our best response through the community is from reddit. It has been a difficult challenge to find couples. We are only interested in same room play/swap for now. What advice can you give to a new couple starting out so young in the lifestyle? We would like to try clubs, but we both havent been much of partiers since high school and feel as if we'd be that awkward couple that stands in the corner. Not to mention there isnt many LS clubs in utah. Any feedback would be appreciated โบ
I would recommend finding some people you are interested in on this site and sending them an email. Read their whole profile and check out their pics. In the email mention what you liked about their profile or how you think you guys would get along. Ask if they want to meet up for some drinks one night. Do a little date with no intentions of sex on the first date. Getting out there and meeting people helps, because they know people. If it doesn't work out with them they might know a couple that you guys might get along with. Also, Reddit is full of flakes and single horny guys. Lots of talk and pic exchange but very flakey people (or just a dude posing as a couple) that rarely meet up. And I have had some luck on Kasidie. Best of luck.
We agree, great advice.
IDK_gtAkttn wrote:
I would recommend finding some people you are interested in on this site and sending them an email. Read their whole profile and check out their pics. In the email mention what you liked about their profile or how you think you guys would get along. Ask if they want to meet up for some drinks one night. Do a little date with no intentions of sex on the first date. Getting out there and meeting people helps, because they know people. If it doesn't work out with them they might know a couple that you guys might get along with. Also, Reddit is full of flakes and single horny guys. Lots of talk and pic exchange but very flakey people (or just a dude posing as a couple) that rarely meet up. And I have had some luck on Kasidie. Best of luck.
Great advice IDK, our main advice we like to share is to be completely open and honest with each other and your expectations, set your boundaries as a couple and hold to them. We started out slow with same room parallel play and soft swap and moved up to full swap at our own pace. They are single dude creepers as well as couples who will try to catch you in the moment and pressure you into more than what you're wanting, but if you hold to your rules you will have lots of fun. We also found that Risque Soiree puts on great low pressure fun events.
I like this thread, we are new to LS as well. We've had a few experiences together and a few before we meet. We are definitely not Ken and Barrbie, we are tho, laid back people and enjoy just hanging out, having a BBQ, playing some card games with drinks and she is definitely more of the social butterfly. Feel free to look us up and send a message. Hell couples can't have enough friends,.of the like minded people.
Thank you all for your feedback, it is greatly appreciated ๐ ๐
Added to whatโs already been said, we would say that you get out of any website, event, etc. what you put into it. Be active in looking for people you click with, events you like to go to, parties you like to attend. Go, get out, introduce yourselves. Find a group of people you adore and actively seek out activities to attend with them, or create them yourselves. Just our two cents based on ten years on the site, some more active than others.