We have been on this site for quite some time, have been to a local club in the past and been exploring this lifestyle. Had to pause for awhile due to a pregnancy and now are trying to get back into it. We have had a great time on this site and the people on here are awesome. We have decided we would like to break our virginity with another couple. Due to a baby it difficult for us to get out or travel. We are hoping to find a compatible local cpl but have had no luck yet. Would appreciate any suggestions and comments. Maybe the cpl we are seeking will read this and contact us.
Thanks in advance!
C&K
Thanks in advance!
C&K
We have done the club thing in the past fun but if you want real fun find cpls meet over a drink and see where it leads. We have been in the lifestyle for a bit over 7yrs. and have found the most enjoyment comes once you meet a small circle of friends that can get together on a regurlar basis for some fun times how do you find them? Best meet them one at a time and soon you will have that small circle of friends that you can share fun times with. We have done this and are always looking to expand the circle wish we lived closer to you. Be sure to check out our swingurlar group southern skibums couples.
Norm&Sharon
Norm&Sharon
We're still looking for a local cpl.
All i can say is good luck were still looking for a couple also...... were not always sure how to let them know that were interested or how to make the first move...... still trying to work that part out.............:q
Go up to them and say hello then introduce yourselves!
We, when brand-new, had a hard time also...ESPECIALLY when you look at the "ladies must start the conversation thing" because she is quite shy...BUT we found that HE could do the same as long as he is a gentleman...And him being in sales, he never met a stranger...
It is really no different than a pick up at a bar, go up, say hello, it will progress or not whatever is meant to be...Naturally...We are all adults, basically looking for the same thing...
We, when brand-new, had a hard time also...ESPECIALLY when you look at the "ladies must start the conversation thing" because she is quite shy...BUT we found that HE could do the same as long as he is a gentleman...And him being in sales, he never met a stranger...
It is really no different than a pick up at a bar, go up, say hello, it will progress or not whatever is meant to be...Naturally...We are all adults, basically looking for the same thing...
I think that the key is to truly be interested in finding partners. That may seem odd to say, but my wife and I spent a couple of *years* slowly making contact thru websites, slowly picking "the one", setting up a meeting, waiting for it, finally meeting and seeming to "hit it off" - only to never really "take the final step". I concluded that website contacts are just not useful - since there are so many people who are total fakes - or flakes - or whatever.
So. We switched to the club scene. And that worked for us. Because if you meet someone in a swing club you're already 90% of the way there: everyone there has agreed that they're into swinging enough to actually get out, get dressed, and GO to the club - and there is no issue of a single guy posing as a couple - or peoples' photos not looking ANYTHING like them. I've found that I can tell more in 1 minute of talking to someone - looking in their eyes - than in a month of emails.
So I used to tell people "get out, go to the clubs".
But now I'll go back to my first paragraph. And I just realized that perhaps the reason it took us YEARS - literally - to make the plunge - is because *WE* were the fakes. We didn't think we were, but my wife was only doing it because I wanted to. She really didn't want to - and other couples probably sensed the hesitation - and quietly backed off. Because she really wasn't into it, we also tended to try to find THE couple - as if we were going to marry them - before we went to bed. No couple could live up to that kind of criteria.
Subsequently, my wife has withdrawn from the lifestyle entirely. She and I went through some long discussions - and have tried nearly all possible approaches. I can't get over the desire for other sex partners. She has no interest. In all other ways, we have a great marriage. So we have agreed to a "don't ask/don't tell" policy. And it works for us.
So. What I'm really saying is: First, take a long look at yourselves. Let each partner HONESTLY express their feelings. Then decide what you really want to try - with whatever limits you BOTH want to impose - and look for that. I think that once you have your goals clear to yourselves, you really won't find it terribly difficult to find the right partners - regardless of what approach you try. I think that the difficulties are really only caused by putting a huge "significance" to finding "THE ONE" couple you're going to play with. If you want to play - then play. You'll make a few mistakes, but that's probably better than holding off forever while searching for the "perfect" couple - first-time out. Hey. We all date before we marry. Allow yourselves to "date" some couples. When you find the ones who really click, then you can really party.
So. We switched to the club scene. And that worked for us. Because if you meet someone in a swing club you're already 90% of the way there: everyone there has agreed that they're into swinging enough to actually get out, get dressed, and GO to the club - and there is no issue of a single guy posing as a couple - or peoples' photos not looking ANYTHING like them. I've found that I can tell more in 1 minute of talking to someone - looking in their eyes - than in a month of emails.
So I used to tell people "get out, go to the clubs".
But now I'll go back to my first paragraph. And I just realized that perhaps the reason it took us YEARS - literally - to make the plunge - is because *WE* were the fakes. We didn't think we were, but my wife was only doing it because I wanted to. She really didn't want to - and other couples probably sensed the hesitation - and quietly backed off. Because she really wasn't into it, we also tended to try to find THE couple - as if we were going to marry them - before we went to bed. No couple could live up to that kind of criteria.
Subsequently, my wife has withdrawn from the lifestyle entirely. She and I went through some long discussions - and have tried nearly all possible approaches. I can't get over the desire for other sex partners. She has no interest. In all other ways, we have a great marriage. So we have agreed to a "don't ask/don't tell" policy. And it works for us.
So. What I'm really saying is: First, take a long look at yourselves. Let each partner HONESTLY express their feelings. Then decide what you really want to try - with whatever limits you BOTH want to impose - and look for that. I think that once you have your goals clear to yourselves, you really won't find it terribly difficult to find the right partners - regardless of what approach you try. I think that the difficulties are really only caused by putting a huge "significance" to finding "THE ONE" couple you're going to play with. If you want to play - then play. You'll make a few mistakes, but that's probably better than holding off forever while searching for the "perfect" couple - first-time out. Hey. We all date before we marry. Allow yourselves to "date" some couples. When you find the ones who really click, then you can really party.