The one thing I like more about S.D.C. site is there's a place for "validations ", where one couple can say "hey this profile is real"
Cause on here it's not so easy to tell, have to see who's real and who's fake. If someone is being upfront or not.
Cause on here it's not so easy to tell, have to see who's real and who's fake. If someone is being upfront or not.
I think that’s what the “real” and “VIP” tags are for right? Have you found any verified profiles to be fake?
Polycouple wrote:Yes but in the end people flake even the real ones!
The one thing I like more about S.D.C. site is there's a place for "validations ", where one couple can say "hey this profile is real"
Cause on here it's not so easy to tell, have to see who's real and who's fake. If someone is being upfront or not.
Bay2Play wrote:
I think that’s what the “real” and “VIP” tags are for right? Have you found any verified profiles to be fake?
Have had a couple profiles come across as couple, but its always msgs from the hubby, never the wife.
On this account both of Us answer or msg, and We let it known which is answering. 🤷♂️
Utahldscouple wrote:Polycouple wrote:Yes but in the end people flake even the real ones!
The one thing I like more about S.D.C. site is there's a place for "validations ", where one couple can say "hey this profile is real"
Cause on here it's not so easy to tell, have to see who's real and who's fake. If someone is being upfront or not.
Yeah that's true at times as well, hopefully the quality ones don't flake. That's why We tend to plan things out, as (J) isn't always here, so when He's in town We want to do things. So We try to schedule.
Polycouple my wife never gets involved with corresponace prior to meeting, she is just not into it. We are a real couple and we have never been stood up or not showed for a meet with another couple. We use some other ways of filtering who is interested and who is not. The fact that a spouse or significant other is not involved initially is not a red flag for us. However if a couple was not interested in sharing a vanilla pic of the couple together then we get suspicious. Good luck and good swinging.
I agree with SKICOUPLE and if someone thinks our account is fake, or is secretly a single male instead of a couple, just ask for a pic of us to verify. No big deal.
One anti scam procedure I often apply "if" it's VERY obvious (and some are Very obvious) is: The obvious ones at times want me to call their ph.# or email them...so I write down their ph.# and save it for the next very obvious scammer and give the obvious scammer the obvious scammers ph.#
Kinda keeps me from feeling irritated ...
Kinda keeps me from feeling irritated ...
SKICOUPLE wrote:
Polycouple my wife never gets involved with corresponace prior to meeting, she is just not into it. We are a real couple and we have never been stood up or not showed for a meet with another couple. We use some other ways of filtering who is interested and who is not. The fact that a spouse or significant other is not involved initially is not a red flag for us. However if a couple was not interested in sharing a vanilla pic of the couple together then we get suspicious. Good luck and good swinging.
Hmmm interesting. We actually do considerate it a red flag if it’s only the guy chatting. And as you stated, your wife “is just not into it” with corresponding before meeting …. we have a rule that the wife actually needs to be into it. Isn’t that kindof the point lol
They're Isa verification process but I've dinner it twice and it still doesn't say that I'm verified😳
So true, or they can be a bit crazy 🙃
I'm anti- drama and don't need used as a tool in A couples wierd head games😳
I'm anti- drama and don't need used as a tool in A couples wierd head games😳
Femalethird wrote:
They're Isa verification process but I've dinner it twice and it still doesn't say that I'm verified😳
Someone with VIP status can verify you. If someone you had dinner with has VIP status just ask them to verify you and it's usually no big deal. Or attend a meet and great and you can usually get verified, that's the road we took. Hope that helps....
Swingular gives you the opportunity to validate a couple as SDC does. It's called Comments on Swingular. If you look at our profile, you will read the comments other couples made about us, which should eliminate the possibility that we aren't real or flakes.
The "Real" verification process by admin is frustratingly slow. Best option is to meet a VIP couple here. Seeing that you're genuine shouldn't take long, but it should be taken seriously. That's really not much of a validation though. "Real" couples may not be fakes, but they can certainly still be flakes.
PARTYINLV is right. The comments are really a better validation, but they seemed to stall out years ago when this site was more active and genuine. They are meaningful on other sites, but this site is a sausagefest for sure. Lots of broken features and disingenuous members making the OP's second sentence correct unfortunately. Personal techniques mentioned in this thread become necessary.
Many real women leave it to their men to sort through the noise. "Just let me know if you've found someone worth meeting."
PARTYINLV is right. The comments are really a better validation, but they seemed to stall out years ago when this site was more active and genuine. They are meaningful on other sites, but this site is a sausagefest for sure. Lots of broken features and disingenuous members making the OP's second sentence correct unfortunately. Personal techniques mentioned in this thread become necessary.
Many real women leave it to their men to sort through the noise. "Just let me know if you've found someone worth meeting."
We are very close friends with this couple. Oh, I promise you she is 100%. Social media is not her thing, nor is it for us. This might be my first visit here in many months; my partner (also 100%) has no interest in social media messaging or posting. Everybody is a little different, no? But we all totally enjoy our life and style of socializing! 😊
Leaving reviews would be super helpful. So much time is wasted chatting with fake profiles and flake people.
FunKinkyDuo wrote:SKICOUPLE wrote:
Polycouple my wife never gets involved with corresponace prior to meeting, she is just not into it. We are a real couple and we have never been stood up or not showed for a meet with another couple. We use some other ways of filtering who is interested and who is not. The fact that a spouse or significant other is not involved initially is not a red flag for us. However if a couple was not interested in sharing a vanilla pic of the couple together then we get suspicious. Good luck and good swinging.
Hmmm interesting. We actually do considerate it a red flag if it’s only the guy chatting. And as you stated, your wife “is just not into it” with corresponding before meeting …. we have a rule that the wife actually needs to be into it. Isn’t that kindof the point lol
We have known Skicouple for several years and have even traveled with them. We consider them very close friends. My wife is also not into flirting and texting a lot either before we meet a couple. She always has the final say and doesn't feel the need for "endless" chat prior to a meeting with another couple. In our several years in the lifestyle, we have discovered that there a lot of other couples we have met where the other wife wasn't into getting chatty prior to our date with them.
However, when my wife approves of setting up a date, she will join a group chat to participate in chatting about when and where to meet. She just doesn't want to chat about personal lives, work, or start flirting yet. She reserves all this when we actually meet. Everyone has different approaches to setting up dates.
NYCnSLO wrote:
We are very close friends with this couple. Oh, I promise you she is 100%. Social media is not her thing, nor is it for us. This might be my first visit here in many months; my partner (also 100%) has no interest in social media messaging or posting. Everybody is a little different, no? But we all totally enjoy our life and style of socializing! 😊
We couldn't agree more!
SexyPowSkiers wrote:
Many real women leave it to their men to sort through the noise. "Just let me know if you've found someone worth meeting."
^^^This is us. Her comment is "you know what I like and I trust you to find a good match for us". Also, maybe we've just been lucky or we're good at reading the actual profiles, but we have yet to encounter any flakes, but I'm sure their are some out there.
We both talk on kik separate accounts so people know we are real plus we only meet together. I don't get why people lie
FunCouple84020 wrote:SexyPowSkiers wrote:
Many real women leave it to their men to sort through the noise. "Just let me know if you've found someone worth meeting."
^^^This is us. Her comment is "you know what I like and I trust you to find a good match for us". Also, maybe we've just been lucky or we're good at reading the actual profiles, but we have yet to encounter any flakes, but I'm sure their are some out there.
This is the same for us, except if we are looking for a woman only then she will take the lead and message. Any other situation she wants me to do the searching.
PolyCouple, I think you're pointing to a cultural gap that we've also been frustrated with for years. We fall more into the independently open category, which puts us closer to the poly-lite and kink communities than the swinger community. We've found that a lot of swingers have the men negotiate the process and that's a huge turn off for us so we end up considering it a red flag in terms of what we're looking for. No judgement, it just clearly wouldn't work with our dynamic. We're free to talk to and do whatever we want with whomever we want. And we do. It's just different. But, in general, only hearing from the man does also make it hard to figure out if you're talking to a real couple or if there's true enthusiastic consent involved on all sides. Especially with so much catfishing going on over on other apps. Maybe the site could have badges or tags that filter searches.
I remember about 13+ years ago, meeting a VIP (verified in person) was a fast way to get verified. I'm pretty sure we got our VIP badge the day after we met a couple at the bar. (We are still really good friends with them to this day.)
We are in the camp where I (husband) have done all of the correspondence on behalf of my wife for the 16 years we've been doing this. She doesn't have the time or the desire to go back an forth with people. She has tried and never enjoyed it so I've continued to do it for the both of us.
We are in the camp where I (husband) have done all of the correspondence on behalf of my wife for the 16 years we've been doing this. She doesn't have the time or the desire to go back an forth with people. She has tried and never enjoyed it so I've continued to do it for the both of us.
I just wish this site would eliminate or hide the profiles of people that are no longer active, which appears to be well over half the profiles. Some have been inactive for years, but still show up because they are "lifetime" members. Yes, I realize you can sort by recent activity, but even those dates are clearly wrong much of the time.
Oh, and any idea why this site has never fixed the issues making it impossible to post new videos? It has been down for over 18 months, and nobody seems to care.
Oh, and any idea why this site has never fixed the issues making it impossible to post new videos? It has been down for over 18 months, and nobody seems to care.
69Sensualist wrote:
Oh, and any idea why this site has never fixed the issues making it impossible to post new videos? It has been down for over 18 months, and nobody seems to care.
We've posted several videos over the past year, the most recent was about two weeks ago. The videos were a posted from a desktop computer as I've noticed that sometimes makes a difference with certain functions.
FunCouple84020 wrote:69Sensualist wrote:
Oh, and any idea why this site has never fixed the issues making it impossible to post new videos? It has been down for over 18 months, and nobody seems to care.
We've posted several videos over the past year, the most recent was about two weeks ago. The videos were a posted from a desktop computer as I've noticed that sometimes makes a difference with certain functions.
You two sound like so much fun!
We would love to get verified as real. If any vip's would like to get to know us please reach out.
sugarhouse2 wrote:
PolyCouple, I think you're pointing to a cultural gap that we've also been frustrated with for years. We fall more into the independently open category, which puts us closer to the poly-lite and kink communities than the swinger community. We've found that a lot of swingers have the men negotiate the process and that's a huge turn off for us so we end up considering it a red flag in terms of what we're looking for. No judgement, it just clearly wouldn't work with our dynamic. We're free to talk to and do whatever we want with whomever we want. And we do. It's just different. But, in general, only hearing from the man does also make it hard to figure out if you're talking to a real couple or if there's true enthusiastic consent involved on all sides. Especially with so much catfishing going on over on other apps. Maybe the site could have badges or tags that filter searches.
That might be it. We go out with a lot of couple and play with few. Once we have met for dinner, we're all involved in texting, etc. Prior to that - its been my responsibility (the male half) to set up the dates and coordinate the logistics while keeping her in the loop. It works for us. We generally won't give out our real phone numbers until we have something set up - at which point we generally create a group text to make sure everyone is 'looped' in.
At the end of the day - what we learn from this topic is that everyone's approach is different. We haven't had anyone flake out yet - YMMV. Good luck sexy peeps!