We are newly intrigued to the lifestyle and have found it so difficult to connect. We know the best possible way to meet people is at the club in SLC but with VERY busy life and a little one at home we haven’t been able to go. What other ways have you met other people? How do we initiate contact in everyday life with anyone we might think is interested?
We would also like a good answer to these questions.
Seriously so difficult to even get people to respond to our messages. We both work very involved jobs and have to be available 24/7. Hoping we don’t have to resort to calling an escort to come join. 😂
For us, meeting people here or on Facebook swinging or poly groups and then setting up a dinner to meet and greet and see where things go has kind of become our norm. That way we can plan ahead and know we have some chemistry before meeting.
What are the Facebook groups? Is it one where you have to know someone prior to being allowed to join?
ReesAnn wrote:
We are newly intrigued to the lifestyle and have found it so difficult to connect. We know the best possible way to meet people is at the club in SLC but with VERY busy life and a little one at home we haven’t been able to go. What other ways have you met other people? How do we initiate contact in everyday life with anyone we might think is interested?
A good profile will entice people to respond. Looking at your profile, it states you are basically only looking for females. That eliminates over 95% of those on this site. If you only want to find a unicorn then it will take you quite awhile. If you are open to couples then update your profile to be inclusive to couples.
Being new to this we for sure want our first experience to be with a female to see if we are ready for a couple. I know that’s not ideal but unicorns exist, right? 😂
Unicorns do exist, we know quite a few. They are heavily sought out and have the luxury of picking their "dream team". Good luck on your journey.
It has been very difficult finding time to go to the LS friendly clubs and messages sent through the sight are left unanswered. Many have kik accounts that they recommend messaging through but no responses there either.
We are finally able to set aside time to go to the club in Ogden next Friday Mar 4. Just to see how the club scene is. We would rather be in smaller groups but haven't been able to find a group to join.
We are finally able to set aside time to go to the club in Ogden next Friday Mar 4. Just to see how the club scene is. We would rather be in smaller groups but haven't been able to find a group to join.
Some of our understanding of the clubs, is almost like going to the meat market and not In a good way. We prefer to meet for dinner and or drinks. Sometimes even more then once. But like some have said, alot depends on Profiles and then alot seems to depend on your age limits, etc.
Where is the club in Ogden and how do get invited to it?
There are so many ways to connect. Join a kik group or the discord group advertised on the site. We prefer meet and greets or small house parties. They give you a chance to talk and get to know the people your interested in before playing. Or I don’t know if your brave wear your black ring to Walmart grab an upside down pineapple and cruise the store 🍍but also I noticed your profile indicates you don’t full or soft swap which is what swinging is so that might deter couples from reaching out or answering messages 🤷♂️ Happy hunting
Here and elsewhere there is a constant theme of how busy everyone is. Anything worth doing requires you to make time. It's not really that important if you're not finding the time. True or not, it's off putting to leave people feeling like you're too busy.
There are many methods for meeting that accommodate style and schedule. When just simply meeting seems harder than it should have to be, people move on. We do. Especially if it feels like a silly game or there's a lack of courtesy.
There are many methods for meeting that accommodate style and schedule. When just simply meeting seems harder than it should have to be, people move on. We do. Especially if it feels like a silly game or there's a lack of courtesy.
We can get pretty busy. Especially withb3 kids. Our oldest can hold the fort down once we put our youngest to bed. So we will meet for a couplebdrinks after 8. If we connect then we will schedule a more intimate meet-up later. Sometimes it will take weeks to find a date that works. But we kee0 the interest alive with a kik chat.
You can also try various dating apps. They are hit or miss, but we have had some success with them in the past. There are several that are targeted at swingers/ethically non-monogamous couples like Feeld and 3fun. Okcupid has also opened up and will let you and your partner link your accounts so that whenever someone visits your profile they can see that you are in a relationship with "Bob/Jane" and can check his/her profile out at the same time.
DragonDuo801 wrote:This is your biggest challenge, like they said they are sought after by everyone; therefore, further limiting your choices. Even at the clubs and events there aren’t too many unicorns.ReesAnn wrote:
We are newly intrigued to the lifestyle and have found it so difficult to connect. We know the best possible way to meet people is at the club in SLC but with VERY busy life and a little one at home we haven’t been able to go. What other ways have you met other people? How do we initiate contact in everyday life with anyone we might think is interested?
A good profile will entice people to respond. Looking at your profile, it states you are basically only looking for females. That eliminates over 95% of those on this site. If you only want to find a unicorn then it will take you quite awhile. If you are open to couples then update your profile to be inclusive to couples.
3kisses0506 wrote:They are definitely “meet” markets. We strongly feel clubs, events, and most things in life are what you make them. We go to the New Yorker and Unspoken all the time and enjoy each other. If someone or something more happens great that much better. These are great ways to meet people you know are in the lifestyle and cut through all the BS quickly.
Some of our understanding of the clubs, is almost like going to the meat market and not In a good way. We prefer to meet for dinner and or drinks. Sometimes even more then once. But like some have said, alot depends on Profiles and then alot seems to depend on your age limits, etc.
SexyPowSkiers wrote:Can’t agree with this more! Especially if you are looking for a unicorn, they have many options with people that will make the time for them. You may need to rethink your approach or if this is right for you right now? Maybe come back later? It’s ok to pause.
Here and elsewhere there is a constant theme of how busy everyone is. Anything worth doing requires you to make time. It's not really that important if you're not finding the time. True or not, it's off putting to leave people feeling like you're too busy.
There are many methods for meeting that accommodate style and schedule. When just simply meeting seems harder than it should have to be, people move on. We do. Especially if it feels like a silly game or there's a lack of courtesy.