So which partner first brought up swinging, HOW did you bring it up to your S.O., and how long did it take you to convince them to give it a try? Obviously this won't apply to singles unless you started out with a partner and now are no longer with them.
Wife half first mentioned it, we wanted to play with others and have some fun so we talked about finding a girlfriend for one or both at first whether it be the same girl or each have a different one then we looked into polyamory and dabbled a little bit in that for a minute then that’s when she brought up about swinging and testing that out and we have taken it slow and small steps and with the few experiences we have had have been fun.
About the same time…. We went to Hedo, looks fun, should we? And the rest is history lol!
However, I (male half) certainly drive the communication, social etc. when we get together with other couples, she is the instigator & mistress of fun!
However, I (male half) certainly drive the communication, social etc. when we get together with other couples, she is the instigator & mistress of fun!
We started out early in our marriage. I wanted he to have some experience with other men. It has mostly been spontaneous circumstances through the years and mostly MFM or the occasional hot wife. In 2015 we went to the regional burning man and attended a class on consensual sex. On the long drive home we discussed the lifestyle and decided to be a little more organized about picking play partners.
We hit it hard and heavy for a few years but have drifted back to being more spontaneous and letting things just happen
We hit it hard and heavy for a few years but have drifted back to being more spontaneous and letting things just happen
We have always been pretty frisky with our friends. We both pretty much knew that we were headed this way. I finally decided to put it all on the table and see where it landed. As I barely started in on the "what do think about swinging?" She pretty much said "yeah why aren't we doing it?" It was a very painless quick talk.we have been loving it since.
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We have always been pretty frisky with our friends. We both pretty much knew that we were headed this way. I finally decided to put it all on the table and see where it landed. As I barely started in on the "what do think about swinging?" She pretty much said "yeah why aren't we doing it?" It was a very painless quick talk.we have been loving it since.
Lol! I love this one.
I (Mr.) brought it up with her on rare occasions every few years in different ways. I never pushed her at all, it was just something that would come up while talking about sex and what to try next and so on... It's been a hard no for a long time but at some unknown point we became mature enough and comfortable enough to handle it, I think. Eventually it made it's way around in the conversation again and we discovered that we both had some level of interest in watching each other have sex with another. Regular dirty talk ensued, a lot of time passed, more conversations were had, and at some point we were like, "We should actually do this. Where do we start?" And here we are.
OMG !!!! Best night of truth or dare ever !!!!
Oh what a night !!!!
Oh what a night !!!!
A stimulating post and experiences...love em all !
I think our situation is very unique. We’ve been married for 22 years. And had never talked about swinging other than We heard about a few people that did it, which we thought was weird. (We were naive). Neither of us ever expressed any desire to have anybody different as we do everything together.
Well about two years ago we started drinking alcohol, and we are both naturally flirty. So one VERY drunken night with some friends it just happened without ever having a conversation. 🤷🏼♀️ We talked about it the next day and discovered it could be fun. So then we decided to look into some websites like this, and here we are. Neither of us are the jealous type. And we just do everything together and enjoyed talking about the fun experience afterwards.
Well about two years ago we started drinking alcohol, and we are both naturally flirty. So one VERY drunken night with some friends it just happened without ever having a conversation. 🤷🏼♀️ We talked about it the next day and discovered it could be fun. So then we decided to look into some websites like this, and here we are. Neither of us are the jealous type. And we just do everything together and enjoyed talking about the fun experience afterwards.
One night in Vegas about 3-4 years ago, my wife and I were watching some TV before going out for the night; there was a Playboy mini-series on the TV called "The Swing"... She looked at me and told me she wanted to do that, I asked what part, she said the swinging part. I was shocked, she is usually very reserved. I feel the first time she attempts to swing she is looking to be in an atmosphere kinda like the show. Maybe one of those places in the Bahamas or something. She always talks about it when we are out for the night but we have never really had the opportunity. She stated she wants nothing forced, it has to 'just happen'. So, we are just waiting to see how it goes.
Love all the replies! Thanks for sharing!!
We have been talking about swinging for a long time. She is bi and loves women. We are in a small town full of gossip, so it’s difficult. We have found a few friends but need to get out of town to play the way we want.
Since the beginning. We both had singles profiles on here when we met, however we met on a vanilla dating site lol.
The wife was the one who first instigated our first few play situations. She didn’t want to officially announce to herself she was in the lifestyle until I sat her down for a talk… but she fully admitted we were in it right after. It’s been about 7 years and we have had fun, got busy with kids/life, ventured back then out then in… lol but now we are ready to be fully in here in Utah.
We were discussing bucket list items one day and I mentioned I would like to experience another threesome before I died. I had done a few FMF long before we met but none in over 20 years. Her reply was "we could do that." We progressed from there to couples through this forum as it seemed only fair that we both get to play.
Great topic! For us, the idea or desire started with dildo play. He loved watching me play with a dildo and it was a turn on for me that he liked watching me enjoying it and cuming on it. He finally brought up wanting to watch me with another guy, which I was not into at first. After years of role playing and bedroom talk around being with another guy or couple, I don't think either of us thought we could go thru with it. However, it did and was just by accident. The first time we every experimented with another guy, was in Park City on vacation. We started talking with a great guy in our hotel bar and my husband just blurted out and asked if he wanted to go back to our room for a drink. I think we were both shocked he said it. But, it was wonderful and we haven't looked back. We love our PC vacations! lol.
She brought it up a little bit after hearing about my FMF before we got married while were at a party playing truth or dare and was interested in hearing more and then wanting to know more and maybe trying it out. Joined the website looking for a unicorn but have been opening up to the idea of couples. took her awhile to convince me ha but we are here now looking
Since 2005. The evolution of our non-monogamy has always been mutual, intellectually, and physically, and somewhat always revolves around the intimacy we enjoy as a couple. That's not to say we are not frequently, and totally present and immersed in the intimacies we choose to share with special friends. We just always have each other in our minds too, whether we are playing together or using a hall pass.
For our anniversary she planned a helicopter tour of the grand canyon and he planned meeting up with a couple. It was an interesting night. Needless to say 9 years later and here we are still 
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!Wife’s friend at work was in the lifestyle and we would here her stories and we both thought it sounded like a lot of fun and here we are 15 years later
Before we were in the lifestyle, we went to Hedonism. Nothing happened, but it started an itch that I knew I had to scratch one day if I could convince my wife. Years later at a vanilla party with friends and being drunk, I inadvertently mentioned we went to Hedonism. Our best friends picked up on that and asked if we were swingers. To our astonishment, they told us that they were in the lifestyle and encouraged us to consider it. A few months later, the wife and I went to Sea Mountain in Palm Springs and I told her that I wanted to watch her have sex with another guy. Later that day, she introduced me to a guy and stated that he would be the guy she would have sex with. So, it happened and I loved it. I told my friend who then helped me set up a profile on a swingers website and shortly afterwards, we met another couple from it for our first couples experience. The rest is history. BTW, that initial profile has undergone 1000 revisions as our strict rules were eventually eliminated. Haha!
Not swinging exactly but lifestyle oriented, I suppose. It was 2019 that I mentioned to my wife we should watch another couple. She thought it was crazy at first but started asking questions right away. She was game... but her big question was how we were going to find a willing couple. Shortly after, I ran across this site, created a profile, and posted a classified. I found a couple right out of the gate. So, I hatched up a plan for us to watch them while we were in SLC for work. I did all this completely unbeknownst to my wife. Shame on me, I know...
After I found the couple, I said "Hey. Guess what?" to my wife. She was surprised to say the least...but not mad. I explained that nothing was set in stone and that it was ultimately up to her if we followed through. After the shock went away, I showed her our profile (which we later tweaked together) and her curiosity with all things "LS" was in high gear, along with the sexual energy.
And so here we are...
After I found the couple, I said "Hey. Guess what?" to my wife. She was surprised to say the least...but not mad. I explained that nothing was set in stone and that it was ultimately up to her if we followed through. After the shock went away, I showed her our profile (which we later tweaked together) and her curiosity with all things "LS" was in high gear, along with the sexual energy.
And so here we are...
So around 1992, when we started dating she had a girlfriend and later that summer we kinda hooked up with a group of friends while camping. As for the start of the lifestyle does anyone remember ICQ or Utah After Dark? Also she started it but I was 24 and horny so it was an easy sell.
We were living in California, just left a church, she wanted to explore her sexuality and we've been exploring since.
BTW, outside of Utah is much more straight forward. Utah is a challenge.... however, we've met super nice people here.
BTW, outside of Utah is much more straight forward. Utah is a challenge.... however, we've met super nice people here.