We are discussing if this is a thing or not. If so, I’d there another LS term for such a mythical creature?
It’s up to the individual
Starlights wrote:We agree!!!
We don’t think women that are part of a couple are really unicorns. Can they play by themselves? Depending on the couple, most definitely… but they are still part of a couple.
In our experience unicorns aren’t all that mythical or hard to meet either. I think the reason why they seem so hard to find is because couples in the LS are constantly HUNTING for them.
A few thoughts on this:
I don’t think anything or anyone in their right mind enjoys being hunted. From what we’ve heard the single women in the LS can be nuts or at the very least rude. Understandable since they are actively sought after by thousands of couples.
If you’d like to have a threesome with a woman I have some helpful suggestions (if you’re able). Go out and date women solo, but without the specific intent to add to a threesome. Just have fun for yourself. Whether it’s the male or female half of the couple. I know, I know… most couples aren’t comfortable with this. Jealousy creeps in, comfort levels are pushed… but why? If you’re indeed secure in a relationship there should be no threat. Most couples will never be comfortable with this though, so YMMV.
This circles back to my initial observation…
Unicorns don’t like to be “hunted” imo. Why? Because they are mainly treated as a thing. A novelty. A toy to be played with for a couple for a night or maybe two. Then what? I know most couples talk about wanting to become friends with them, spoiling them, all that… but I suspect most couples that are afraid to play solo are the same couples that would see this new lovely lady as a threat to their relationship. So back to them being a thing to play with. Not a person with feelings, wants, or needs.
We meet people solo outside of the “swinging” LS often. They don’t have the same behaviors as singles within the swinging LS, and we’re grateful for that. They’re just people out dating… and open to dating people in open relationships for whatever reasons. Some of these people become friends. Close friends… and some of those become curious about our other halves in a sexual way. This is how we’ve come across “unicorns” and cool single guys. Not because we’re specifically hunting for them to be part of a threesome. Not at all. They’re human first, then friends, and sometimes they become play partners for both of us as a couple.
I think true respect for what a “unicorn” is, is lacking for most people. They’re human. Not a mythological creature to be hunted down. I mean, I’m sure some single women like the idea of being hunted… but I suspect those are the same ones we’ve heard are bat shit crazy, or just have bad personalities 🤷🏽♂️
**These are just my opinions on unicorns over the last 10 years of experience in the LS. No offense meant to anyone.
Well, I met a woman whose husband doesn’t mind that she plays with me and has a naughty GF. She has a hall pass to play with just me or both of us. They really aren’t swingers, so I guess she’s a hotwife of sorts, and for us she’s a Unicorn 🦄
Do you blame her husband l, your sexy as hell. You can play with my wife anytime 😎
FunKinkyDuo wrote:
Well, I met a woman whose husband doesn’t mind that she plays with me and has a naughty GF. She has a hall pass to play with just me or both of us. They really aren’t swingers, so I guess she’s a hotwife of sorts, and for us she’s a Unicorn 🦄
This is more of our thought process. We did not mean disrespect to anyone.
Agree. We've had luck (I guess) and have met friends super organically. Enjoy this season, Tis'the season. 😘 🎄
I had a girlfriend that would go play with a couple. So for them she was a unicorn, unless they don't want to label her that because she had a boyfriend.