How does one dive into the LS? Do you need to be invited to places (bars/clubs)? It's so hush hush (especially in Utah) My husband and I are ready to explore and meet new friends, but where do you start?
Start by building out your profile, good pics, description of you / what your looking for. Participate in conversations, watch the events page / local parties etc.
Reach out to people that match what you are looking for / who you think would get along with you.
That’s a 1st step!
Reach out to people that match what you are looking for / who you think would get along with you.
That’s a 1st step!
Before we even knew what the lifestyle was (100% vanilla), we went on a week long swinger cruise. We were looking for an adult vacation and that cruise didn't allow kids, so we went. Needless to say, we were no longer vanilla by the end of the week. We will be going on our 5th lifestyle cruise next week.
That said, you just have to slowly build your lifestyle friends. Send messages out on here, go to clubs, look at the party posts (and go). Eventually you will have so many you can't keep up with all of them.
That said, you just have to slowly build your lifestyle friends. Send messages out on here, go to clubs, look at the party posts (and go). Eventually you will have so many you can't keep up with all of them.
There are monthly meet and greets from there you can find people that you relate to. Also check out the local party section, there are numerous house parties going on. House parties are generally really fun. You can treat them as a meet and greet no pressure or if your adventurous they usually have play rooms. We are about half and half when we attend them depending on mood or finding an attraction to a couple or playing with a single. Good luck I’m sure it won’t take long to get your feet wet 💦
We personally find everyone is different on what they like. Some like events, some don’t, some like clubs, some don’t, etc. We personally did meet and greets, not a fan but was able to get some info on other information. We found a lot of success going to events, parties, and clubs. We would meet people there usually. We also, enjoy one on one dinners with couples. Just makes it a little difficult matching as your focus is on one couple and if there isn’t a four way connection, you hopefully at least found some friends.
Others mentioned making sure your profile is completely filled out. Reach out to other couples you see and ask if there is any interest (don’t send friend request without at least an introductory note). Don’t be afraid to approach couples (on here or at events). We find most people in the LS are very receptive. Having friends in the LS (even if you don’t play with them) helps you make more friends. We meet the most compatible people from friends of friends.
Others mentioned making sure your profile is completely filled out. Reach out to other couples you see and ask if there is any interest (don’t send friend request without at least an introductory note). Don’t be afraid to approach couples (on here or at events). We find most people in the LS are very receptive. Having friends in the LS (even if you don’t play with them) helps you make more friends. We meet the most compatible people from friends of friends.
We'd love to meet you! Being up in Logan is kind of a drag, seems like most people are around SLC.
We started out by posting in the encounters section what we looking for and found couples with our same interests and kinks. Meet for drinks and go from there. Meeting one couple in a private setting you seem to have chemistry with and understands you're new to the LS takes a lot of pressure off, especially if they will lead the way. Your mileage may vary.
We started out on nude beaches, Hedonism & various LS resorts….
We are pretty new as well, up in Northern utah. The conversations have been little slow for us lately on the site. And we're still trying to figure out some of the lingo😂
It’s easy send a message and start conversations with people who you are interested in. And have fun I know we have over the years
The New Yorker is open every Saturday night. A great place to go when you are new, along with meet and greets. It is BYOB, bartenders work for tips along with the DJ. Pretty loud, but it will give a an idea of the lifestyle and people. Good luck and happy playing.
This should help. You're welcome!
We are in the Ogden area. Best thing to do is go to local meet and greets. Search profiles your interested in and write a nice email etc. if you need help we would be happy to help. We know a few of the spots around.
We are in the Ogden area. Best thing to do is go to local meet and greets. Search profiles your interested in and write a nice email etc. if you need help we would be happy to help. We know a few of the spots around.
All of the above is good information. I think it's important to keep an open mind, and not speaking sexually, though that is important. I see so many people decide that the lifestyle is x or y or whatever they deem it to be and then get frustrated when people don't see it the same was as they do. Realize that everyone has certain goals and needs and that combining your own with theirs can be daunting. Try not to judge others for what they want and take a few risks while setting good guidelines for yourself. Don't let yourself get pushed into something that makes you too uncomfortable but also be willing to bend a little. You may not even know what you want exactly and what you want now may change quickly as you get more comfortable.
I don't think this site is as useful as it used to be, but that's just my opinion. I see many more people using Facebook groups and such to find out about parties and events. The information may trickle down to this site so it will take some work to figure out where to go and who to meet. Get a good system for keeping notes(there is a note section under the profiles) and keep track of who you met, their contact details and even what your impressions of them are. Saves time in the long run.
The lifestyle can be a little clicky and many groups are fairly hard to join unless you know someone. But the more you branch out the more you will be invited.
There are lifestyle clubs in Ogden and SLC and both are great places to start. If you talk to enough people you will find yourself surrounded by fun people and fun parties. But it does take some work so don't get frustrated. Or, throw some events of your own and invite some people you would like to meet. I used to do a lot of pre-hotel parties before club nights and parties and it was a great way to meet a lot of couples. Get a hotel and invite some people over for drinks before the New Yorker or other venue. The cruises and places like Hedonism are so fun but you will meet people from all over the world which makes it hard to establish a friendship after you come home. But it's a good way to dip your toes in, get used to being naked around others and providing lots of opportunity to play if you desire.
Best of luck
M
I don't think this site is as useful as it used to be, but that's just my opinion. I see many more people using Facebook groups and such to find out about parties and events. The information may trickle down to this site so it will take some work to figure out where to go and who to meet. Get a good system for keeping notes(there is a note section under the profiles) and keep track of who you met, their contact details and even what your impressions of them are. Saves time in the long run.
The lifestyle can be a little clicky and many groups are fairly hard to join unless you know someone. But the more you branch out the more you will be invited.
There are lifestyle clubs in Ogden and SLC and both are great places to start. If you talk to enough people you will find yourself surrounded by fun people and fun parties. But it does take some work so don't get frustrated. Or, throw some events of your own and invite some people you would like to meet. I used to do a lot of pre-hotel parties before club nights and parties and it was a great way to meet a lot of couples. Get a hotel and invite some people over for drinks before the New Yorker or other venue. The cruises and places like Hedonism are so fun but you will meet people from all over the world which makes it hard to establish a friendship after you come home. But it's a good way to dip your toes in, get used to being naked around others and providing lots of opportunity to play if you desire.
Best of luck
M
All of the above is good information. I think it's important to keep an open mind, and not speaking sexually, though that is important. I see so many people decide that the lifestyle is x or y or whatever they deem it to be and then get frustrated when people don't see it the same was as they do. Realize that everyone has certain goals and needs and that combining your own with theirs can be daunting. Try not to judge others for what they want and take a few risks while setting good guidelines for yourself. Don't let yourself get pushed into something that makes you too uncomfortable but also be willing to bend a little. You may not even know what you want exactly and what you want now may change quickly as you get more comfortable.
I don't think this site is as useful as it used to be, but that's just my opinion. I see many more people using Facebook groups and such to find out about parties and events. The information may trickle down to this site so it will take some work to figure out where to go and who to meet. Get a good system for keeping notes(there is a note section under the profiles) and keep track of who you met, their contact details and even what your impressions of them are. Saves time in the long run.
The lifestyle can be a little clicky and many groups are fairly hard to join unless you know someone. But the more you branch out the more you will be invited.
There are lifestyle clubs in Ogden and SLC and both are great places to start. If you talk to enough people you will find yourself surrounded by fun people and fun parties. But it does take some work so don't get frustrated. Or, throw some events of your own and invite some people you would like to meet. I used to do a lot of pre-hotel parties before club nights and parties and it was a great way to meet a lot of couples. Get a hotel and invite some people over for drinks before the New Yorker or other venue. The cruises and places like Hedonism are so fun but you will meet people from all over the world which makes it hard to establish a friendship after you come home. But it's a good way to dip your toes in, get used to being naked around others and providing lots of opportunity to play if you desire.
Best of luck
M
I don't think this site is as useful as it used to be, but that's just my opinion. I see many more people using Facebook groups and such to find out about parties and events. The information may trickle down to this site so it will take some work to figure out where to go and who to meet. Get a good system for keeping notes(there is a note section under the profiles) and keep track of who you met, their contact details and even what your impressions of them are. Saves time in the long run.
The lifestyle can be a little clicky and many groups are fairly hard to join unless you know someone. But the more you branch out the more you will be invited.
There are lifestyle clubs in Ogden and SLC and both are great places to start. If you talk to enough people you will find yourself surrounded by fun people and fun parties. But it does take some work so don't get frustrated. Or, throw some events of your own and invite some people you would like to meet. I used to do a lot of pre-hotel parties before club nights and parties and it was a great way to meet a lot of couples. Get a hotel and invite some people over for drinks before the New Yorker or other venue. The cruises and places like Hedonism are so fun but you will meet people from all over the world which makes it hard to establish a friendship after you come home. But it's a good way to dip your toes in, get used to being naked around others and providing lots of opportunity to play if you desire.
Best of luck
M
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Lilyut82 wrote:
How does one dive into the LS? Do you need to be invited to places (bars/clubs)? It's so hush hush (especially in Utah) My husband and I are ready to explore and meet new friends, but where do you start?
I can't speak from a lot of personal experience in what you ask about. However, from the standpoint of your profile, you look to be off to a great start! You have a variety of photos showing personality and some of your interests. Between them and the video, you leave no doubt in the viewers eyes to your physical attractiveness and beautiful smile. 👍 I'm sure by now you've had plenty of interest and friend requests itching to see what is in your "private" album, us included.
Keep tweaking your "About Us" and "What We're Looking For" as you go and get a clearer idea of what you want. Keep posting too. Almost everyone who has contacted us mentioned learning of us by one of our posts.