We are a very stable couple that enjoy same room encounters that also enjoy a bit of girl on girl fun added into the mix and maybe a little camera fun with the right couple, but we are not looking for anything more than that for now.
We have sent out very specific meet-up request before and stated exactly what we are looking for, what we are into, and what our boundaries are. We do get a fair amount of responses, however it is usually people responding that try to talk is into more than we want, try to tell us hardly anyone wants just same room and we should be open to more, or a bunch of blind friend request that we just ignore. So in short, we haven’t have the best results with meet-up request in the last little while. And please, if we have spoke to you in the past we are not calling anyone out in any way.
We are giving up on the meet-up request thing for now and we will try and meet couples this way. If you are a HWP couple, in our age range, reasonable close to the Ogden area, and the two of you would like to have the type of encounters that we described above please reach out in a message to us. We don’t mind at all hearing from full swap couples as long as you completely respect our boundaries and know that we won’t go past those anytime soon.
Who knows, maybe if we find that there are a few more couples out there who like what we like then we can host a little get together…
M & K
We have sent out very specific meet-up request before and stated exactly what we are looking for, what we are into, and what our boundaries are. We do get a fair amount of responses, however it is usually people responding that try to talk is into more than we want, try to tell us hardly anyone wants just same room and we should be open to more, or a bunch of blind friend request that we just ignore. So in short, we haven’t have the best results with meet-up request in the last little while. And please, if we have spoke to you in the past we are not calling anyone out in any way.
We are giving up on the meet-up request thing for now and we will try and meet couples this way. If you are a HWP couple, in our age range, reasonable close to the Ogden area, and the two of you would like to have the type of encounters that we described above please reach out in a message to us. We don’t mind at all hearing from full swap couples as long as you completely respect our boundaries and know that we won’t go past those anytime soon.
Who knows, maybe if we find that there are a few more couples out there who like what we like then we can host a little get together…
M & K
We prefer same room as well. Seems that we enjoy it a lot more.
That’s where we’re at too. It’s hard to meet other couples who are at that level.
We are typically same room full swap. Definitely doesn't have to be full swap. We never have any expectations, just hanging out with like minded people can be a great time.
We have the same problem. Anybody serious about this feel free to hit us up as well.
When you say same room, do you mean swap in the same room? Or with your spouse doing it in the same room while the other couple does the same…in the same room? 
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.Yeah we prefer same room
As well if u guys wanna chat anytime hit us up
As well if u guys wanna chat anytime hit us up
Deedub70 wrote:
When you say same room, do you mean swap in the same room? Or with your spouse doing it in the same room while the other couple does the same…in the same room?
I am also wondering this…
We are from the Kanab area, we cant find anyone close to play in any capacity.... lol
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Hmcarey62 wrote:
Not sure why some don't like same room. Some of our best experiences have been that way.
We are fine with same room play or separate rooms play. But, we are keenly aware that most couples prefer same room play (especially in Utah). So, we always defer to the other couple's preference. There are many good reasons for both situations. I would estimate that 80% of our play has been same room play. But, there is just one negative aspect to same room play that we have to explain to "same room only" couples.
That is, during playtime, the other husband is so into watching his wife with me, he loses focus on my wife. My wife believes that if she is going to offer her body to a man and spread her legs open for him, then he should be respectful enough to pay attention to what she enjoys. She completely understands and gladly accepts that there will always be occasional glances to watch his wife. But, some guys are too focused on talking to and watching their wives. My wife loves to kiss while having sex. I recall a situation when other other husband wasn't kissing her while he was having sex with her because he was too busy staring at me with his wife the whole time. My wife got very annoyed.
We mean same room with our own partners
Same room for us as well, although we haven’t had our first experience yet!
Jetset4play wrote:
We mean same room with our own partners
Maybe that’s the confusion. Your profile says yes to soft swap and full swap. But this reply indicates no swap but just same room sex or parallel play.
Did I read that incorrectly?
THEGOODLIFE wrote:Jetset4play wrote:
We mean same room with our own partners
Maybe that’s the confusion. Your profile says yes to soft swap and full swap. But this reply indicates no swap but just same room sex or parallel play.
Did I read that incorrectly?
You are right about our profile…. However, as we stated in the beginning, we put in our meet up exactly what we are looking for and what we currently want
THEGOODLIFE wrote:Jetset4play wrote:
We mean same room with our own partners
Maybe that’s the confusion. Your profile says yes to soft swap and full swap. But this reply indicates no swap but just same room sex or parallel play.
Did I read that incorrectly?
Yeah, that threw me too. But, we've noticed this with other profiles. The "full swap" box is checked "yes", yet, posts say otherwise. Since swapping isn't our thing right now, we look for others with the same comfort levels....those with the "full swap" box checked "no".... and skip past those with "full swap" checked "yes". I assume there are others who do the same. A shame, the confusion....since compatible couples could be missing each other.
Hang in there, you'll find what your looking for. We are a same room couple only as well. However, we prefer full swap or generally won't waste anyone's time. Fortunately for you, lots of couples are soft swap only or prefer soft swap.
Actually, you're sort of lucky that people who wrote you back try to talk you into doing more at that early juncture instead of the all too common ploy where they think they can convince you to do more once you're all getting ready to play or actually playing.
It all comes down to a matter of respect and a lot of swingers, sadly, are just too concerned about their own desires and agenda and think they can persuade you to go beyond your rules and limits once you see how amazingly hot they are and realize how utterly lucky you are to be able to be with them at all. Yes, that last little part was sarcasm.
It all comes down to a matter of respect and a lot of swingers, sadly, are just too concerned about their own desires and agenda and think they can persuade you to go beyond your rules and limits once you see how amazingly hot they are and realize how utterly lucky you are to be able to be with them at all. Yes, that last little part was sarcasm.
I think this is an interesting topic I’ve seen a few times. It seems that understandings of consent are often followed by attempts at negotiation. I think there is room for this with all boundaries. However approach is often most important. We prefer same room but our limitations can both flex and are often more open. I find the best way to approach someone with limits less than yours are to acknowledge theirs, share yours, let them know that you will respect theirs, and share that you will leave the ball in their court to express if they happen to feel comfortable going further.
We personally feel that what you guys describe (same room/no swap or female only swap) is something that we can all enjoy and would usually have no concerns with (not to mention we know we’d enjoy). However it seems that other seem to know what they want and only want that. Not sure why they wouldn’t just move on if they can’t enjoy the least common denominator in the agreed consent.
We personally feel that what you guys describe (same room/no swap or female only swap) is something that we can all enjoy and would usually have no concerns with (not to mention we know we’d enjoy). However it seems that other seem to know what they want and only want that. Not sure why they wouldn’t just move on if they can’t enjoy the least common denominator in the agreed consent.
Jetset4play wrote:
We mean same room with our own partners
Same as us. There might be a rare exception but ultimately same room with own partners, and girls play is our jam.
candelsadventure wrote:
I believe behind sex with your own partner while in the room with another couple having sex with their respective partners is called "parallel play"
Might be where some of the confusion is coming from. Same room in the lifestyle generally means full swap, or soft swap but everyone in the same room. Parallel play is a type of voyeuristic / exhibitionist activity.
You are absolutely correct about the parallel play term.
Same room is so much fun! The more the merrier!
Albert and I are into this as well, we know it as MGS (monogamous group sex). No pressure and just lots of fun watching and being watched.
We are off to Las Vegas on Wed for the weekend. Will probably be at Whispers as we can indulge in this activity Maybe we will bump into some folks from here!
We are off to Las Vegas on Wed for the weekend. Will probably be at Whispers as we can indulge in this activity
Maybe we will bump into some folks from here!We are only wanting same room. We are happy with parallel or swap play. We are fairly new to the lifestyle and have yet to have our first. Anyone who would like to get to know us better can message us.
It does sound interesting if that’s your thing. We would be interested.
That's the deal.. 2 (couple )is one 1 is none 🤷🏽♂️
We love to hear all the feedback on this! 😁👍
We think Parallel play is what we have been calling “same room”. Thanks for clarifying this for us. Any couples want to give parallel play a shot.
Kik on profile
Kik on profile
Sounds just our speed. Let us know if you’re interested.
Jetset4play wrote:
We love to hear all the feedback on this! 😁👍
Given your receptiveness to feedback, here's a little more. Hope you don't mind.😃 Shortly after we signed up here, some experienced members suggested we have more than one pic in our public album. Having been around long enough now to have viewed many hundreds of profiles, we understand the suggestion.
Think of your profile as your resume. The better and more complete your resume, the better your chances at getting your foot in the door at that job interview. More pics give potential friends more to go off from and can generate interest that may otherwise be lost. For us (and I know we're not alone), when we click on peoples public albums and only find one pic, it's an instant let down.😕 We don't expect face pics but we do want to get a decent sense of what people look like (they don't have to be nudes but no one's going to complain if they are😉 ) in different environments, stances, etc. So, unless there's a killer write up in the profile (which is almost always accompanied by a number of pics in the public album), if there's just one pic that doesn't show much, we just pass and move on. It's a bummer because I'm betting we've missed more than one great couple this way. But how are we to know? 🤷♂️
Best of luck. ✌️ 👍
Would it be offensive if the ladies are playing and I want to play with my wife in this situation?
Same room is definitely the only way we play much hotter to see everyone enjoying themselves
Jetset4play wrote:
We are a very stable couple that enjoy same room encounters that also enjoy a bit of girl on girl fun added into the mix and maybe a little camera fun with the right couple, but we are not looking for anything more than that for now.
We have sent out very specific meet-up request before and stated exactly what we are looking for, what we are into, and what our boundaries are. We do get a fair amount of responses, however it is usually people responding that try to talk is into more than we want, try to tell us hardly anyone wants just same room and we should be open to more, or a bunch of blind friend request that we just ignore. So in short, we haven’t have the best results with meet-up request in the last little while. And please, if we have spoke to you in the past we are not calling anyone out in any way.
We are giving up on the meet-up request thing for now and we will try and meet couples this way. If you are a HWP couple, in our age range, reasonable close to the Ogden area, and the two of you would like to have the type of encounters that we described above please reach out in a message to us. We don’t mind at all hearing from full swap couples as long as you completely respect our boundaries and know that we won’t go past those anytime soon.
Who knows, maybe if we find that there are a few more couples out there who like what we like then we can host a little get together…
M & K
We have talked to you several time's and we also have a bunch of friends that know you as well and I personally have talked to you also. With that being said I think its more of a Profile issue. When were looking to party or play we look at the likes and dislikes of the couple we are talking to just mainly to see if we are on the same page as we DO NOT want to offend people. Remember people this is suppose to be fun! I feel and my wife feels if the people your meeting are not being respectful of your wishes then there not the ones for you we would get up and leave! However I do have to say that its pretty tuff to understand what you are looking for when your profile says your good with full swap and soft swap ( I SEE YOU HAVE CHANGED THAT NOW ). I believe most people here just want to have fun and enjoy themselves and if your profile matches you wants I feel you will get a much more tame group to message you and join you than if your profile is wrong. We for one would love to meet you guys just to have more friends and if we play great if we don't that's ok also.
Good luck man I hope this helps..
We will do full and soft swap, in the same room. We have discussed the possibility of separate room play, but have not yet.
So may be a little touching in the beginning but when my wife is with another woman, she is giving her absolute full attention to her partner. According to her, any distraction keeps her from orgasm.
Done same room, your own partner as well, it is so fun!
We are definitely same room, preferably same bed! We like to play with each other as well, kind of mix it all up. Is there a name for that? We thought it was full swap because everyone plays with everyone (maybe not the guys), but sounding more like full swap means splitting up the party to a lot of people .
That’s where we are at right now too. So if you are down to talk
Specialk123XXX wrote:
We are definitely same room, preferably same bed! We like to play with each other as well, kind of mix it all up. Is there a name for that? We thought it was full swap because everyone plays with everyone (maybe not the guys), but sounding more like full swap means splitting up the party to a lot of people .
we agree,,, same room to us it's like a total 4some so hot...also it's about my woman being safe, we have heard that things have gotten out of control and the other cpl's wife and ended very scary fearful situation.
Specialk123XXX wrote:
We are definitely same room, preferably same bed! We like to play with each other as well, kind of mix it all up. Is there a name for that? We thought it was full swap because everyone plays with everyone (maybe not the guys), but sounding more like full swap means splitting up the party to a lot of people .
Totally agree with this concept I mean we are in a swing site for a reason. The more the merrier in the same room, same bed or couch lol
We are all about “more some” play - same room - bed, couch, floor, playroom…. All having fun together. As for full swap - we’ve always considered that as having intercourse with someone others than your spouse.
First let me state there is room for most preferences in the lifestyle. However if you have more limits then there are probably less people that will want to participate. I make no judgement on your preferences, everyone should participate where they are comfortable.
Many on this site are very experienced and started with similar limits in their play preferences but would not consider same room watching. We will do same room but we prefer full swap and only do soft swap under the right circumstances. Your comfort level should be the determining factor in how you want to play. We have met many couples we did not play with for various reasons but we never regretted meeting to find out if we liked them enough to get naked.
Many on this site are very experienced and started with similar limits in their play preferences but would not consider same room watching. We will do same room but we prefer full swap and only do soft swap under the right circumstances. Your comfort level should be the determining factor in how you want to play. We have met many couples we did not play with for various reasons but we never regretted meeting to find out if we liked them enough to get naked.
I concur with sexygoodtime. That is a lot of fun.
We are looking for exactly that. Just some same room fun with our own partners with another fun sexy couple.
that's us we do full swap but we do everything together. we have met alot of good people but if they aren't ok with that then that part doesn't happen. we are open to alot just for us the best part is watching each other have fun
Same room or separate rooms work well for us.
DOOGLE83 wrote:
that's us we do full swap but we do everything together. we have met alot of good people but if they aren't ok with that then that part doesn't happen. we are open to alot just for us the best part is watching each other have fun
100% AGREE
Same room "Parallel Play" has been pretty damn fun and sexy for us! Meaning we all play in the same room, each couple stays together as a couple. We just are not ready for full swap so this scenario works great for us! Often if the ladies feel a good vibe there has been some pretty sexy girl/girl play!
We have found that even full swap couples can appreciate our boundaries and have had a good time with us! So if you find your selves horney and in southern utah hit us up! We like to meet first for drinks, have some conversation to make sure we there is some good vibes!
We have found that even full swap couples can appreciate our boundaries and have had a good time with us! So if you find your selves horney and in southern utah hit us up! We like to meet first for drinks, have some conversation to make sure we there is some good vibes!
We enjoy same room play for a couple reasons. She’s my favorite porn star and I love watching her. Also with new couples I feel the need to be closer for her protection. But the first reason is mostly why. We’re perves and love to watch each other’s sexiness.
Full swap, same room, girls bi = Good, ol' fashion fun.
Couple chubby kids here looking for exactly this. Would love to find another couple who isn’t insistent on swapping. Same room sounds super hot!
We are also looking for soft swap girl on girl then same room with your own partners. If anyone is interested please message us.
This really sounds like exactly what we are looking for.
kinkycpl269u wrote:
Personally I think people that are strictly separate room have low key jealousy issues. Seems like a red flag IMHO.
EXACTLY!!!
If you have to be in separate rooms is it really swinging or cheating .
We would totally love this!!!
We love us some same room! Anybody on the string that’s down, hit us up!
We enjoy same room fun, hopefully full swap. Anyone on the string who things we would be a match let us know.
RNB4play wrote:
This is very interesting to read. It seems the terminology used within the LS has a lot of personal interpretation? When you’re new-ish to the scene I think same room, parallel play, live porn, voyeurism is a perfect way to explore but still feel safe & respectful. We think we’re pretty good at sex and really enjoy other people watching us, and really would enjoy the opportunity of watching others do the same. It’s nice to know we’re not alone. Everyone has to start somewhere right?
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We are unfortunately Southern Utah, but totally get the desire for same room only. It's our preferred way to connect with other couples. Good luck in your search for sexy times and who knows, our paths may cross someday.
We've done a lot of both. Just depends on the people and situation.
Personally I have no issue leaving the room and letting the wife play. That can be a real turn on. Vice versa.
I guess when you've been in the lifestyle a good bit of time, things get easier as long as the trust is there.
I know who I'm going home with.
Personally I have no issue leaving the room and letting the wife play. That can be a real turn on. Vice versa.
I guess when you've been in the lifestyle a good bit of time, things get easier as long as the trust is there.
I know who I'm going home with.
Your thought process is same as ours please reach out. We would love to chat more in a private setting. Me and my wife are new to this
Your thought process is same as ours please reach out. We would love to chat more in a private setting. Me and my wife are new to this
We are same room and most of the time same bed ww really enjoy being able to touch each other
We enjoy same room parallel play, where we just play with our own partners in the same room, or bed, or couch, wherever it happens. Voyeurism and exhibitionism are wonderful, and can really fill up our senses, and we enjoy these sorts of encounters! If there is enough chemistry, and we are all in agreement, and we all want to do it, we really love full swap encounters. Again, it comes down to connection, chemistry and consent! It's better and more fulfilling to get lost in the moments, and let encounters flow naturally, and comfortably. If we just really enjoy what does happen, rather than worry about what doesn't happen, then won't most hook-ups be fun?
We are new to the scene and would be very interested in trying same room no swap play but with girl on girl play. Let us know if anyone would be interested!
And since we're at it, can anyone explain us what "soft swap" is? Does it mean just kissing and maybe touching?
Up to now we always thought that the expression "same room" meant "same room without swap" . We never thought of the possibility of "swap I'm separate rooms" . Might be something we'd look into.
Up to now we always thought that the expression "same room" meant "same room without swap" . We never thought of the possibility of "swap I'm separate rooms" . Might be something we'd look into.
Our interpretation is kissing, touching and maybe some oral but no penetration from others partner. Same room is sexual acts/swapping with others partner in same room, some would more like it to be swapping but in different rooms and others like to swap in same room and have excitement of watching your partner with another person while your also doing the same with their partner 🤷♂️
When I started it was before I got married, in college, there was a lot of soft swap but usually more than 2 couples, everyone getting turned on playing with their partner but also getting turned on watching and being watched. Even after that play, afterwards was also a blast playing with your partner discussing fantasies, how good she looked or how good he looked, introducing the ones we watched into our own fantasies. Then at some point I started playing with the other women, my fantasies escalated with pillow talk. Later on married other fantasies started for both of us. I think it’s just a progression and what you and your partner are comfortable with. Now single I have progressed as I personally want.
I would love to just watch
We love same room some couples are not secure in there relationship to dealw that. We live in Bountiful...not too far from u
i for one think that watching my most important, be completely satisfied is on my list of most import6ant to a play night, i have watched her play with another guy and it was beyond my dreams of excitement. both he and her were amazing. the most amazing thing i have ever seen.
i for one think that watching my most important, be completely satisfied is on my list of most import6ant to a play night, i have watched her play with another guy and it was beyond my dreams of excitement. both he and her were amazing. the most amazing thing i have ever seen.
Come out to the stansbury island nude beach for some same beach sex😉
We are same room for so many reasons. Always looking for others who enjoy that as well. Or same boat, or camp trailer or spot in the woods lol. Will have to make it to this naked beach sometime soon to try that!
Some interesting posts on this forum, to be sure. I think it may be useful to have a separate forum about what each box on these profiles means. Some on this forum have suggested they believe that a couple (like us) who posts 'yes' to Full Swap means they kind of expect it. Others have deduced that it only means that couple HAS Full swapped and would do it again situationally (this is what it means on OUR profile). It could mean they have NEVER full swapped, but are open to the idea. Since this site doesn't provide much in the way of differentiation tools - one should probably be careful about reading too much into the profile check boxes and just ask. At least, that has been our experience - and we have met at least one couple in EACH of the three categories above.
At the end of the day, we all have a limited amount of time to spend in this hobby/lifestyle - so prioritizing who we will meet with and creating a 'funnel' that works is kind of essential to happiness in the Lifestyle (IOHO). Our priority is always each other first; Long-time friends in the LS second; couples we are attracted to and who we feel are a good match for us third; and then everyone else. We place a HIGH value on our long-time friends because we recognize how rare it is to have a genuine caring relationship where there is a 4-way connection and attraction. We also genuinely enjoy meeting new couples in the LS, (whether or not we would ever get naked with them). It's probably good for every couple to assess what they are looking for BEFORE they reach out so they don't waste each other's time.
As far as naked time - When I think of the few couples we have played with at any level - I can't imagine ANY of them or us being upset by the prospect of playing with our own partners laying next to this uber-attractive (and Naked) couple right next to us. Is there anyone on the planet that would NOT enjoy that? If so . . . they are outside of our orbit. That doesn't mean they are not open to more later . . . or even that they don't strongly desire more later. The few couples we've met who were DTF only . . . have not been a good match for us. They seems to find their own and they are not difficult to spot from a mile away. So if you are not looking for them . . . they are easy to screen out . . . and we don't just mean by the little check box next to the 'Full Swap' option of their profile.
Once again - YMMV - but that has been our experience. Hope it helps SOMBEBODY.
Good luck and Happy Hunting . . . that is half the fun (well, maybe not half . . . but at least SOME of the fun)
At the end of the day, we all have a limited amount of time to spend in this hobby/lifestyle - so prioritizing who we will meet with and creating a 'funnel' that works is kind of essential to happiness in the Lifestyle (IOHO). Our priority is always each other first; Long-time friends in the LS second; couples we are attracted to and who we feel are a good match for us third; and then everyone else. We place a HIGH value on our long-time friends because we recognize how rare it is to have a genuine caring relationship where there is a 4-way connection and attraction. We also genuinely enjoy meeting new couples in the LS, (whether or not we would ever get naked with them). It's probably good for every couple to assess what they are looking for BEFORE they reach out so they don't waste each other's time.
As far as naked time - When I think of the few couples we have played with at any level - I can't imagine ANY of them or us being upset by the prospect of playing with our own partners laying next to this uber-attractive (and Naked) couple right next to us. Is there anyone on the planet that would NOT enjoy that? If so . . . they are outside of our orbit. That doesn't mean they are not open to more later . . . or even that they don't strongly desire more later. The few couples we've met who were DTF only . . . have not been a good match for us. They seems to find their own and they are not difficult to spot from a mile away. So if you are not looking for them . . . they are easy to screen out . . . and we don't just mean by the little check box next to the 'Full Swap' option of their profile.
Once again - YMMV - but that has been our experience. Hope it helps SOMBEBODY.
Good luck and Happy Hunting . . . that is half the fun (well, maybe not half . . . but at least SOME of the fun)
We’ve pretty much come full circle in the LS and actually prefer this, especially with a new couple we have never met before. There are simply too many pushy people! And since we’re primarily looking for friends first…staying with your own partner takes the pressure off the whole swapping thing, until…and if ever…everyone agrees and would like to explore a bit more. Who doesn’t enjoy the voyeuristic pleasure of laying in bed side by side watching and being watched? It’s a real…live porn show, right in front of you. 🙌😈🙌
We are really trying to find that right sexy fun couple we can trust, spend time with at dinner, drinks, and play naughty together from time to time. Same room only. We have only done soft play, but we are thinking with the right couple we might venture into full swap. We have kids and very busy schedules, but we are trying to find time to venture out and really enjoy what the lifestyle has to offer. Figured we'd throw this out on this thread being it's perfect label. We are hesitant to share images, but let's pm chat and when we feel comfortable we will be happy to share. Many of you want to kik, but we'd prefer to just pm on here for now.
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