My (the MR.) new Job requires me to travel often and we have been toying with the idea of meeting new people while I am on the road. We figured someone else in the lifestyle must be doing this too and can shed some light on the Do's and Dont's of travel play..
Well I would say this: make sure you are both on the same page, and know the limits. It may be helpful to be able to provide possible play partners with a way to verify you are not cheating ie snap chat. I don't travel but have had guys contact us that do. If they can't provide solid proof, we absolutely say no and disregard the conversation. Hopefully this helps.
Another question if you want to hook up while traveling do you let your wife have the same latitude just saying
Yes and yes! But its been my experience, that as a male, its near impossible to "hookup" unless its a single lady... especially when your straight, which I am
And even then once you devulge your marital status regardless of proof of the ever questionable "hallpass" being male and married leave you most time with pornhub your hand and a hotel room....
Not always, we enjoy single males. Even straight ones. It all depends on the couple and what they want and are willing to accept. Just saying all things can't be categorized as the same.
Just be upfront and don't try to pull off any cons with people. We've had so many "couples" over the years who've tried to entice us into letting Ms. Evil play with some guy who was here for work by claiming that what they REALLY wanted was for the four of us to get together but that the lady hadn't been able to accompany the guy "this time".
Almost every single time it's turned out that there either WASN'T a lady in the picture at all or that they never had any intention of doing anything other than the dude getting busy with other swinger ladies by promising that the ultimate goal was a four-way meet and possibly play. Not saying or implying that is the case here at all, just putting it out there to be honest about your intentions whatever they may be.
We finally decided to tell people who contacted us with that sort of proposal that we would absolutely be open to Ms. Evil meeting and playing with a guy passing thru for work AFTER the four of us had met and established some connection and trust. Yeah, you guessed it, it was mostly crickets after that.
Almost every single time it's turned out that there either WASN'T a lady in the picture at all or that they never had any intention of doing anything other than the dude getting busy with other swinger ladies by promising that the ultimate goal was a four-way meet and possibly play. Not saying or implying that is the case here at all, just putting it out there to be honest about your intentions whatever they may be.
We finally decided to tell people who contacted us with that sort of proposal that we would absolutely be open to Ms. Evil meeting and playing with a guy passing thru for work AFTER the four of us had met and established some connection and trust. Yeah, you guessed it, it was mostly crickets after that.
Being a resident in a destination city I have enjoyed meeting with couples during their travels, and while all nice, safe, public meet-n-greets are always in a safe, public spot either for a cup of morning coffee or a cold afternoon beverage, we talk, get to know each other a bit, and if the level of "Trust and Lust" is their with the mutual desires to explore more and enjoy, off we go, if not, and I can only give some insight to the lifestyle opportunities in the area they might enjoy, then so be it. I'm also aware that as a single male there are so many negative opinions and experiences going in that things might not go as fun as I'd hope, but when you go into the situation with an open mind, mutual respect for each other outlook and preferences then things will go as they may. I was fortunate to find one local couple with whom I enjoyed a little over three year ongoing poly-style scenario, but unfortunately his local office closed during the pandemic and they moved out of State. So, back to being re-cycled SWM, and just going with the flow. Hope everyone enjoys the lifestyle experience they desire and deserve and that the negative experiences don't send potential fun folks running.
Whiskey_Girl wrote:Yes, I know some people don't but that just wouldn't be fair.
Another question if you want to hook up while traveling do you let your wife have the same latitude just saying
NO
JimNLaina is right.
I used to travel extensively and had a full hall pass, which the Mrs was more than willing to validate. That never cut any mustard and in fact she was never even contacted by anyone. Once the prospective couple or single woman found out I was married, which I was very up front about and is obvious from our profile, it was a complete show stopper. Period. Married men playing while out of town without the wife is highly suspect, no matter how legit.
I used to travel extensively and had a full hall pass, which the Mrs was more than willing to validate. That never cut any mustard and in fact she was never even contacted by anyone. Once the prospective couple or single woman found out I was married, which I was very up front about and is obvious from our profile, it was a complete show stopper. Period. Married men playing while out of town without the wife is highly suspect, no matter how legit.