I would like to know from men.
When you see your spouse partner girlfriend naked and she has saggy belly lined with stretch marks with extra weight or saggy boobs......do you look at her and think that woman gave up her body to carry and feed children
Or do you think oh man she needs to loose weight and get surgery or do you not really see any of that very much your just thinking oh yah lets have sex.
When you see your spouse partner girlfriend naked and she has saggy belly lined with stretch marks with extra weight or saggy boobs......do you look at her and think that woman gave up her body to carry and feed children
Or do you think oh man she needs to loose weight and get surgery or do you not really see any of that very much your just thinking oh yah lets have sex.
Most of the time for me it is just let’s play. Depends on confidence and attitude. Try to be kind to the whole person.
I’m thinking yeah! That’s sexy af just because I know the process she sacrificed her body for and acknowledge it.. Which I really adore! That been said I’m kissing every single part of her body and whispering in her ears while my fingers are still busy down below bringing her insides out!
I'm just happy she loves sex and loves playing with me... maybe I'm the rare what's on the insides counts more than what's on the outside type guy. Your mileage may vary...
If you are looking for perfect you will never find it. There is so much more to attraction than just the body. Sexy is a state of mind and connection you make with people. By the time the clothes get off you are way beyond those concerns!
Personally things like that don't bother me... I am more attracted to personality.. I love my wife for WHO she is... Same with our girlfriend... Looks aren't that so important to me...
Utahldscouple wrote:
If you are looking for perfect you will never find it. There is so much more to attraction than just the body. Sexy is a state of mind and connection you make with people. By the time the clothes get off you are way beyond those concerns!
This is so true, we have parties and do not look at what people look like at all we are a equal party inviter, look us up on local parties we like to have fun people come to the parties have a good time enjoy their self meet new people that is what this is all about
FUN50ISH wrote:Best ribs in townUtahldscouple wrote:
If you are looking for perfect you will never find it. There is so much more to attraction than just the body. Sexy is a state of mind and connection you make with people. By the time the clothes get off you are way beyond those concerns!
This is so true, we have parties and do not look at what people look like at all we are a equal party inviter, look us up on local parties we like to have fun people come to the parties have a good time enjoy their self meet new people that is what this is all about
!I honestly, look at my wife as a goddess and how beautiful and sexy she is. She turns me on. I have met women with similar characteristics, and never judged them for that. Beauty and sexual attraction doea not always come from the outside. I get more turned on by minds and personality. To me that gets me excited and horny, more then body features. Obviously I am not saying I don't look and think wow she is hot. But for a sexual experience, I don't always rely on body looks. Have a great day.
Women are amazing. Their bodies are amazing and beautiful. I’m not going to say I dont notice this or I don’t notice that, what I do notice is power, intelligence, kindness and so much more. I see the tiger stripes, stretch marks, as battle wounds. Something they should be proud of and wear with pride. You are a bad ass.
When I look at my wife I honestly do not pay much attention. To me she is and has always been beautiful. She may have put a cpl pounds on but so have I. I’m just happy we’re both still active and in decent shape both physically and mentally. We’re still happily married and doing fine
I only see the woman I love, and she is still as sexy as the day I met her.
I'm proud of my Woman @ 60 I took her virginity in high school and she is just as Sexy now as she was then. Yes Gravity Child birth and age have taken over we have a little sag and a few scares but it's Life right? Or are we missing something??? Boob jobs Plastic surgery Belly tucks Ass risers WTF??? Our opinion as a couple and yes it's been discussed... Shallow Narcissist and not natural TRUE or False.? We are a couple who are true Why be Fake...Her desire for the next Orgasm is real nor Fake ..what more could a man ask for?????
I just think about how sexy she is. Women are much harder on themselves for their appearance then men. Honestly, we are just happy you like us and want to have sex with us.
Honestly I just look and think "holy shit I'm a lucky dude!" I'm a fat guy though so I'm always pretty aware of how lucky I am lol.
I think we're all our own worst critics. I could stand to lose a few (dozen) pounds, but I'm happy so I'll take it. When I look at my wife I literally don't see see the imperfections, I see my perfect teammate.... Also sometimes her tits. I'm pretty sure she sees the same things when she looks at me (the tits part too).
Your partner has access to unlimited porn on their phone, if you're on this website they have access to other bodies. Many of these people will have "better" bodies than yours, but they still come home to you. Trust that they know what they like and what they like is your imperfections.
I think we're all our own worst critics. I could stand to lose a few (dozen) pounds, but I'm happy so I'll take it. When I look at my wife I literally don't see see the imperfections, I see my perfect teammate.... Also sometimes her tits. I'm pretty sure she sees the same things when she looks at me (the tits part too).
Your partner has access to unlimited porn on their phone, if you're on this website they have access to other bodies. Many of these people will have "better" bodies than yours, but they still come home to you. Trust that they know what they like and what they like is your imperfections.
I don't think of the sacrifice, or even how or why her body looks the way it does. Except for the thigh bulges... fucking cross fit...her thighs are solid now..so I do think of how those got there. Aside from that though, I just look at her and growl. I don't look at her belly and see stretch marks anymore than I look at someone's face and see freckles. Sure, I see them, but they don't register as anything that needs any attention or thought.
I haven't been able to decide if stereotypical men really are the judgmental assholes that we all perceive them to be, or if women are just so damn hard on themselves that they are just convinced that men are judgmental that way. What I do know is that the last option is most correct... I'm not thinking about how or why or even that there is sag or stretch marks... I'm just wondering if I can wrap myself up in that sexy body and bury my face in the goodness, or is she too busy right now and that will lead to a kick in the head. Hard questions, you know?
I haven't been able to decide if stereotypical men really are the judgmental assholes that we all perceive them to be, or if women are just so damn hard on themselves that they are just convinced that men are judgmental that way. What I do know is that the last option is most correct... I'm not thinking about how or why or even that there is sag or stretch marks... I'm just wondering if I can wrap myself up in that sexy body and bury my face in the goodness, or is she too busy right now and that will lead to a kick in the head. Hard questions, you know?
Oh shit! I totally lied. I DO think about the sacrifice she made every time I see her saggy, (but fabulous) boobies. I see them, immediately think of how amazing the whole breastfeeding thing was. Just how perfect nursing two boys was for all involved (and of course some misery for mama too), but all in all it was just awesome. But I totally blew it. I absolutely failed to take adequate advantage of the absolute godsend that a nursing wife is. I thought it would last forever, and there was always tomorrow, but then suddenly it was just gone....
interesting question.....I LOVE my wife....that includes her body however it is....we both have aged together and both our bodies are not as it were years ago....we both have shared in transforming ourselves into the people we are today.....so when I see her...holding her gives me comfort because this is the person who has "put up with me" and we have grown together.
Basically it’s…yeah let’s fuck! It is all beautiful and we don’t think much (if at all) about the saggy stretch marked marks of life. Attitude and hygiene are far more important.
Yes I still feel my wife is an extremely sexy woman.
The context of the original post is not something I have ever thought of since my wife is not the mother of my child. However my wife’s natural curves still excite me. Perhaps I’m fortunate because for her age she goes to great lengths to stay fit and look fabulous. I believe physical beauty comes in all forms and many times it’s enhanced by the attitude they project.
With my wife I think that she absolutely gave up her body to create little humans and it’s hot as ever. She’s the best. Guys that think the other way are just ignorant assholes and don’t get it.
My wife and I met in our early twenties when sags, stretch marks and wrinkles didn’t exist. Today I honestly can say that I am in love with every little lump, mark, and wrinkle on her body as she does mine. We are each other’s best friends.
With that said, we will both turn our heads to see a hot sexy lady with a nice figure. Not necessarily sexual, but more admiration. She is the best wingman a husband can have😄😄.
With that said, we will both turn our heads to see a hot sexy lady with a nice figure. Not necessarily sexual, but more admiration. She is the best wingman a husband can have😄😄.
Can't say that I ever looked at my wife and thought about anything other than how attractive and sexy that I think she is, just the way she is. Her body is just one of the many things that I love about her, but it does not define her.
A wise person once said look at your partner and pretend you are stricken blind would you still want to be with them... THAT is how I feel about my wife
The sexiness of attitude and energy can far outweigh physical looks any day. A woman with saggy boobs and stretch Mark's that is Debbie Downer and a bitch rolled into one, will need to lose weight etc... a woman with saggy boobs and stretch marks that is fun and happy and confident is sexy as hell and could lead to many hours of phenomenal sex.
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Beauty comes from more places that just appearance. Personality, sense of humor, and the willingness to put up with my dumb ass. I am an extremely lucky man to have a beautiful wife, but in the inside and out.
I met my wife in high school and have never wanted anyone else to be my wingman. She is still as hot now as way back when but has amazing skills in other realms. I couldn’t ask for a better lover or partner in crime 😈
If I had a body like Adonis perhaps I'd have room to judge, but I don't. I personally think that the form of a woman is beautiful, non of us are perfect so who am I to judge? Just my 2 pennies if it's worth that!
Utahldscouple wrote:
If you are looking for perfect you will never find it. There is so much more to attraction than just the body. Sexy is a state of mind and connection you make with people. By the time the clothes get off you are way beyond those concerns!
Well said
The first one every single time. And I could stare at them for days they are my favorite feature
I personally have always found my wife very sexy and attractive. A very sexy and desirable women before giving birth to our chired, but gained a kind of sexy and beautiful glow to here aurora while pregnant, and also gained a type of nurturing to her personality, which was even more attractive as it brought our family closer each time. After having all of our children, and with the earned battle scars and a few changes to her body, not once have I ever thought that she was less sexy or desirable than the first day the I married her. In fact, 28yrs and multiple children later, I find her every bit as attractive in her looks, mind, soul and watching her be this amazing mother, and we still flirt with each other daily, we both have a great sex life together after 30 years; with a minimum of 6 times each week, and not the same routine each time. She is so beautiful to me and the love I have for her is so great, and her love to me, we still randomly pull our car over for a while just to talk or cuddle, maybe getting out of the car under the moon light, look into her beautiful and dance and talk which usually bring us feeling feeling so close to each other and aroused that the desir to make love is too strong to pass up or postponed, so we end up doing it the car or find some near. 3 decades and she is still gorgeous, sexy, beautiful, and has a great personality and body. It doesn't hurt that she is magnificent in bed, and that we are both givers to one-another most of the time😼
I’ve been thinking a bit about this question and enjoyed the comments. Like many others we’re a bit older & time & life takes its toll. No matter what we do. For the wife side of things, there are certainly the effects of age & having 3 kids.
When my wife gets nakkid or wears a shirt with great cleavage - I’m rock hard in under minute. So, yes, I find her extremely sexy physically.
Having said that, I’d say her attitude, sexy personality, fun attitude about life and sex are a massive turn on. When she wants to make a night a sexy affair, it will happen. Guaranteed to get everyone nakkid at a LS friends gathering.
As it relates to other ladies, there is always an initial physical attraction or not. After that, it moves to personality, sexy attitude, flirting etc. and I find that extremely sexually attractive. Do stretch marks or saggy boobs matter at that point l? They don’t matter at all. Let’s have fun!
I love all boobs - but ones that are hanging down & I can burry my face in are the best!
At one of our meet & greets at our house, my wife met people at the wearing the below. How are you not going to have fun when the hostess kicks it off from the time you walk in the door. Now that’s sexy!
When my wife gets nakkid or wears a shirt with great cleavage - I’m rock hard in under minute. So, yes, I find her extremely sexy physically.
Having said that, I’d say her attitude, sexy personality, fun attitude about life and sex are a massive turn on. When she wants to make a night a sexy affair, it will happen. Guaranteed to get everyone nakkid at a LS friends gathering.
As it relates to other ladies, there is always an initial physical attraction or not. After that, it moves to personality, sexy attitude, flirting etc. and I find that extremely sexually attractive. Do stretch marks or saggy boobs matter at that point l? They don’t matter at all. Let’s have fun!
I love all boobs - but ones that are hanging down & I can burry my face in are the best!
At one of our meet & greets at our house, my wife met people at the wearing the below. How are you not going to have fun when the hostess kicks it off from the time you walk in the door. Now that’s sexy!
Nakkidfun wrote:
I’ve been thinking a bit about this question and enjoyed the comments. Like many others we’re a bit older & time & life takes its toll. No matter what we do. For the wife side of things, there are certainly the effects of age & having 3 kids.
When my wife gets nakkid or wears a shirt with great cleavage - I’m rock hard in under minute. So, yes, I find her extremely sexy physically.
Having said that, I’d say her attitude, sexy personality, fun attitude about life and sex are a massive turn on. When she wants to make a night a sexy affair, it will happen. Guaranteed to get everyone nakkid at a LS friends gathering.
As it relates to other ladies, there is always an initial physical attraction or not. After that, it moves to personality, sexy attitude, flirting etc. and I find that extremely sexually attractive. Do stretch marks or saggy boobs matter at that point l? They don’t matter at all. Let’s have fun!
I love all boobs - but ones that are hanging down & I can burry my face in are the best!
At one of our meet & greets at our house, my wife met people at the wearing the below. How are you not going to have fun when the hostess kicks it off from the time you walk in the door. Now that’s sexy!
That is a sexy woman with a sexy body.
My wife won't ever have those lines or issues. but for every woman, I've encountered in the LS that is the least of my worries. If you're hot and confident then no amount of stretch marks or baby belly is going to change who you are.
I think it's sexy
The wife and I just got back from Desire and this was a popular topic between us. There were MANY STUNNING women and men there. We found that many of the couples who were absolutely STUNNING physically were often sitting by themselves . . . we think because people were too intimidated to talk to them. Most of them could NOT have been nicer or kinder people. We often think that judgement about body type is always tipped against those who are not 'perfect', but our experience is the scale tips both ways.
We also met plenty of people who felt they needed to lose some weight (most of us do). Honestly - we loved hanging out with ALL of them. The only people we did not spend any time getting to know were those who were so negative or full of themselves that they sucked the energy out of the room (or jacuzzi as the case may be).
Attraction is a very individualized thing. What I find attractive as a man is positive energy! In terms of physical attraction - that is not unimportant . . . but neither is it ALL important. While I am first attracted to a pretty face and eyes - others may see boobs, butts, or . . . .
Both my wife and I have found ourselves attracted to people that don't fit what we ourselves would describe as 'our type' until we got to know them - and then BAM! . . . we are so happy we met them. We are also keenly aware of the many friends we have made with people who might not have found us attractive initially - but took the time to get to know us - and then BAM - we are besties!
The LS is a friendly and body/sex- positive community. Hopefully all those in the community are doing their level best to meet some minimal level or threshold of attractiveness. We owe it to our partners to be the best version of ourselves we can be - or at least be making a consistent effort to do so. Effort goes a LONG ways!
The fact that it is such an open community shouldn't be misconstrued to mean that every couple is going to play with any other couple regardless of their body type. We have found that meeting other couples in the LS enhances our relationship and that our lives are much richer and more full due to the amazing people we continue to meet. We may have missed some of those opportunities had our focus always been "Is this someone I/we feel comfortable 'playing' with?"
Having said that - we make it as clear as possible that just because we meet . . . doesn't suggest we will play . . . even if we REALLY like you. For some people . . . that is unattractive. We respect that. In the meantime - body type really has little to do with whether or not we will meet and/or become friends - but effort to be your best self does (that includes personality, sense of humor, and positive outlook on life).
I feel sorry for those whose only criteria to meet is the size of the boobs/butt/cock/belly/stretch marks/etc or whether or not there will be 'guaranteed' play time. Attraction can grow on you . . . at least it has for us and the folks we hang out with. YMMV.
We also met plenty of people who felt they needed to lose some weight (most of us do). Honestly - we loved hanging out with ALL of them. The only people we did not spend any time getting to know were those who were so negative or full of themselves that they sucked the energy out of the room (or jacuzzi as the case may be).
Attraction is a very individualized thing. What I find attractive as a man is positive energy! In terms of physical attraction - that is not unimportant . . . but neither is it ALL important. While I am first attracted to a pretty face and eyes - others may see boobs, butts, or . . . .
Both my wife and I have found ourselves attracted to people that don't fit what we ourselves would describe as 'our type' until we got to know them - and then BAM! . . . we are so happy we met them. We are also keenly aware of the many friends we have made with people who might not have found us attractive initially - but took the time to get to know us - and then BAM - we are besties!
The LS is a friendly and body/sex- positive community. Hopefully all those in the community are doing their level best to meet some minimal level or threshold of attractiveness. We owe it to our partners to be the best version of ourselves we can be - or at least be making a consistent effort to do so. Effort goes a LONG ways!
The fact that it is such an open community shouldn't be misconstrued to mean that every couple is going to play with any other couple regardless of their body type. We have found that meeting other couples in the LS enhances our relationship and that our lives are much richer and more full due to the amazing people we continue to meet. We may have missed some of those opportunities had our focus always been "Is this someone I/we feel comfortable 'playing' with?"
Having said that - we make it as clear as possible that just because we meet . . . doesn't suggest we will play . . . even if we REALLY like you. For some people . . . that is unattractive. We respect that. In the meantime - body type really has little to do with whether or not we will meet and/or become friends - but effort to be your best self does (that includes personality, sense of humor, and positive outlook on life).
I feel sorry for those whose only criteria to meet is the size of the boobs/butt/cock/belly/stretch marks/etc or whether or not there will be 'guaranteed' play time. Attraction can grow on you . . . at least it has for us and the folks we hang out with. YMMV.
The amount of body shaming in this community is a bit of a let down TBH. I feel men are WAY more understanding & accommodating than women these days. Seems like a bunch of women who want to be desired regarding of what they look like all while men are expected to be fit, tall & pack a huge cock!!!
It's quite silly & shallow if you're going to base everything off size & shape. We have found cool chill people are way funner to be around & play with...
It's quite silly & shallow if you're going to base everything off size & shape. We have found cool chill people are way funner to be around & play with...
[quote=SHYCOUPLEID]The amount of body shaming in this community is a bit of a let down TBH. I feel men are WAY more understanding & accommodating than women these days. Seems like a bunch of women who want to be desired regarding of what they look like all while men are expected to be fit, tall & pack a huge cock!!!
It's quite silly & shallow if you're going to base everything off size & shape. We have found cool chill people are way funner to be around & play with...
What a revealing and astute observation. Sounds like you managed to grasp the fun aspects of swinging as opposed to the more judgmental observations that some prefer.
It's quite silly & shallow if you're going to base everything off size & shape. We have found cool chill people are way funner to be around & play with...
What a revealing and astute observation. Sounds like you managed to grasp the fun aspects of swinging as opposed to the more judgmental observations that some prefer.
All bodies change, for a myriad of reasons. Its just part of this weird experience we call life. If someone is shaming someone over physical appearance, they are a douche. Lucky for men we don't have to deal with our hips getting fucked up to push out a kid, or our gut getting cut open to pull out a kid. We have no right to diminish our sweet gals for experiencing some of life's nuances of reproduction.
Sad to say but this place is going down fast! when this is one of the more popular forum topics on a swingers site LOL … #titanic
Male half here and i love it. No shame at all. Somthing. To be proud of.
Personality is way more important than physical attributes. After 17 years of having kids and health problems I still get hard when she just looks at me. Love can make you blind or whatever that saying is...and having an open mind to the fact that most of us are not a perfect picture of health is key. Is there shallow people who only want hwp couples yes but us who like to eat pizza and drink more than just water are more interested in who are than what you look like.