Swingers on Swingular - Swingers Forum - Play with a sexy stranger for a night

After years in the LS, we've had enough experiences to recognize that the way the LS could be most successful (at least for us) is to have extremely clear boundaries...because, to be honest...we've dealt with a LOT of people who have very poor boundaries especially when it comes to playing solo, and (to be fair) we have also made it easy for them to have poor boundaries because playing solo can be a bit messy. Ultimately, this has not been good for our relationship, and as we look to future experiences, what I am wondering is if there are couples out there who are really just down to fuck? And down to fuck solo, without any emotional confusion or ties.

I don't mean doing a bunch of texting beforehand
I don't mean going to dinner to see if there is "chemistry"
I don't mean that we have to be friends

I mean that I want to find a couple where I meet up with the male half at a hotel, walk in the door and bang. Then leave. That's it. Get me off a bunch, I'll get you off, it'll be fun and sexy and intense and fast and then it's a wrap. At the same time, my man meets your woman somewhere and they have a fun night...maybe it's just a cold hotel hookup like what I'm looking for, maybe they do dinner first or go dancing...My husband keeps telling me that he is not sure there are a lot of other women out there who like to have sex the way I do in this cold-call, stranger-hook-up style...so, he's down to possibly grab dinner or drinks or go dancing, blah, blah, blah....and I'm fine with him and a one-night lover spending the time how it works for the two of them....whatever your woman's sexy stranger fantasy entails.

So....are there attractive, clean, interesting folks out there that this kind of thing appeals to? I'm thinking we could exchange true and current photos etc. through Swingluar to make sure there is enough attraction to meet everybody's needs....and maybe a few messages to make sure expectations are clear.

(Also - if you ARE already friends with us and seeing this message, don't hit me up about this sort of arrangement, you are - by de-facto- not stranger enough for how I like these sort of experiences to play out....We'll love on you in our own ways on other days, xoxoxoxo)

IF you are looking for a sexy stranger fantasy night, send me a message with the subject line "Sexy Stranger Fantasy"

OR....if other people out there have insight on how to successfully do this, by all means lovelies, please discuss.

Probably not our speed but… damn that’s hot!

We would surely be interested

Starlights wrote:

I’d say there are very few couples on Swingular that would be DTF without getting to know each other, let alone playing solo without a first meet beforehand. We’ve come across more than plenty that are too shy to even meet up.
Both of us aren’t against the scenario, as we can be DTF under the right circumstances, but the circumstances would need to be extreme attraction. Which seems to be rare without first meeting. There seems to be a disconnect between profile pics much of the time, and real life 🤷🏽‍♂️

YES!!! Totally agree on the picture front. Ideas for ways around that? Facetime convo beforehand or something? I REALLY like the straight-up stranger scenario, and used to use Tinder for this purpose, because I was extremely comfortable telling someone I was leaving if they did not look like what I was expecting or their in-person energy was just icky....it's easy for a woman to use Tinder like that, it seems way less easy for a man to do so...I think many women like to be wined and dined or chased more, so the DTF Tinder sexy-stranger-strategy was just not working for my guy.

This is definitely not our cup of tea seems like all the couples we meet are though so shouldn’t be a problem to find them. For us attraction goes far more than physical. Hygiene is difficult to determine with pictures, and it’s huge for us. You will find more men willing to do this than women. Mrs definitely needs some flirting/chemistry.

Definitely the ideal scenario regarding solo play for the female half of this couple! Reading the op, I thought they were actually describing the wife’s ideal play scenario 😂.

My other half for play time prefers the carnal side of meeting up. Walk in strip and go for. She doesn’t hesitate and is a little aggressive at first. You best be ready, because if your pants are on they won’t be for long. That is hot. Obviously there has to be some attraction. If you want, and like no strings attached, sorry I won’t wine and dine you, Carnal sex. We are there. Did that last night. Booty call. No strings, just sex.

Wildfire wrote:

(Also - if you ARE already friends with us and seeing this message, don't hit me up about this sort of arrangement, you are - by de-facto- not stranger enough for how I like these sort of experiences to play out....We'll love on you in our own ways on other days, xoxoxoxo)

Everyone is now unfriending you before they email you

Starlights wrote:

Utahldscouple wrote:

This is definitely not our cup of tea seems like all the couples we meet are though so shouldn’t be a problem to find them. For us attraction goes far more than physical. Hygiene is difficult to determine with pictures, and it’s huge for us. You will find more men willing to do this than women. Mrs definitely needs some flirting/chemistry.

I’d think the OPs scenario is more difficult to find than you’d think for the same reasons you listed. At least for a couple to achieve with another couple.
For a lot of couples on Swingular this is more a place to think about fantasies, but not actually fulfill them. Even in the more adventurous cases it probably rarely gets to the level of the OPs scenario. For various reasons. It’s true, you can’t gage hygiene, or a lot of other factors without meeting. That’s why we like to meet, and develop at least that base connection. Most of the time it just means we met cool new people 🤷🏽‍♂️
To just be DTF? I think extreme attraction would be needed for all, and that’s not something that easily translates through pics. Maybe not even FaceTime.
In the end, it’s another scenario that might not be for all… just like the Dogging thread, or the gloryhole thread. It’s still interesting to talk about though.

We hear you on this but seems like many of the couples we meet up with just want to fuck as soon as possible. As for dogging and glory holes, yep great in the fantasy (Mrs loves the ideal of a glory hole) thought about it but reality is different. Yes lots of fantasies on here but reality of them happening is minimal. Gang bang and orgy just waiting for the stars to align

Male half here. I would definitely go for a scenario like you describe, but as a couple I have to take into consideration what my partner is comfortable with, and she is much more selective than I am. She is also demisexual, so having an emotional connection is a neccessary part of sexual attraction on her part. She would probably like to watch me in an interaction like you describe, but she wouldn't necessarily want to reciprocate with your other half.

I would be totally into that, but the wife would not.

We do generally like to get together to meet for drinks for a first date. After that, if there's chemistry, we love to host. You'd have to read our profile for more details; it's all there.

Wildfire wrote:

Starlights wrote:

I’d say there are very few couples on Swingular that would be DTF without getting to know each other, let alone playing solo without a first meet beforehand. We’ve come across more than plenty that are too shy to even meet up.
Both of us aren’t against the scenario, as we can be DTF under the right circumstances, but the circumstances would need to be extreme attraction. Which seems to be rare without first meeting. There seems to be a disconnect between profile pics much of the time, and real life 🤷🏽‍♂️

YES!!! Totally agree on the picture front. Ideas for ways around that? Facetime convo beforehand or something? I REALLY like the straight-up stranger scenario, and used to use Tinder for this purpose, because I was extremely comfortable telling someone I was leaving if they did not look like what I was expecting or their in-person energy was just icky....it's easy for a woman to use Tinder like that, it seems way less easy for a man to do so...I think many women like to be wined and dined or chased more, so the DTF Tinder sexy-stranger-strategy was just not working for my guy.

I lost my partner thru this lifestyle, but if your interested in a single guy for a stranger hookup one night party I'm down

Interesting. A few of the responses so far make me wonder about another scenario…maybe just my husband could meet interested parties for drinks or something beforehand…he’d actually feel better about having a chance to get a vibe for the guy, as well as see if he and the other woman had chemistry, (he worries a little about me just going to a hotel to meet a total stranger, safety, etc)… If everything was a go then maybe I’d set up a hotel date for another night soon after, and my guy and the other woman go on what would basically be a second date or meet-up at that point…I’ve just found that I am way less likely to want to sleep with someone after meeting for drinks etc to get to know one another as opposed to if I just could cold hook up.

SUNRISE wrote:

Male half here. I would definitely go for a scenario like you describe, but as a couple I have to take into consideration what my partner is comfortable with, and she is much more selective than I am. She is also demisexual, so having an emotional connection is a neccessary part of sexual attraction on her part. She would probably like to watch me in an interaction like you describe, but she wouldn't necessarily want to reciprocate with your other half.

Very interesting. I’d actually describe myself as pansexual, meaning that I’m super into people’s brains…BUT in the solo dating sphere that has caused problems, I have occasionally gotten too close to a solo play partner because I was picking those guys on my pan sexual attraction….however, we’ve done a few anonymous orgies at Burning Man and I started doing some Tinder hookups with strict instructions that when I got to the hotel to just fuck me, not try and talk to me a bunch because a lot of personalities turn me off. Sometimes my partner would pick a guy and have him waiting in bed at home for me, but same thing, give him instructions not to try and talk with me or connect with me, just let me physically enjoy him and him me. I’m not sure if that sounds crazy or not, but it really really works for me, whereas if I’m leaning into my more pan sexual tendencies in picking partners, I don’t like how messy those relationships can be emotionally. But disconnected, straight physical sex works well for me, I LOVE having sex with new lovers while I’m wearing headphones actually, cause it helps me stay in just the physical experience and I have enjoyed experimenting with that. My guy does like more of a connection too, that’s why he is more into getting dinner or drinks and going on a date of some sort before deciding if sex is on the table, for him that social connection is more important than for me. I find all of the different sexual psychologies out there so fascinating. And I’m really curious to see if more women can vibe on the stranger sex thing, or if mostly men are attracted to that scenario.

Utahldscouple wrote:

Starlights wrote:

[quote=Utahldscouple]This is definitely not our cup of tea seems like all the couples we meet are though so shouldn’t be a problem to find them. For us attraction goes far more than physical. Hygiene is difficult to determine with pictures, and it’s huge for us. You will find more men willing to do this than women. Mrs definitely needs some flirting/chemistry.

I’d think the OPs scenario is more difficult to find than you’d think for the same reasons you listed. At least for a couple to achieve with another couple.
For a lot of couples on Swingular this is more a place to think about fantasies, but not actually fulfill them. Even in the more adventurous cases it probably rarely gets to the level of the OPs scenario. For various reasons. It’s true, you can’t gage hygiene, or a lot of other factors without meeting. That’s why we like to meet, and develop at least that base connection. Most of the time it just means we met cool new people 🤷🏽‍♂️
To just be DTF? I think extreme attraction would be needed for all, and that’s not something that easily translates through pics. Maybe not even FaceTime.
In the end, it’s another scenario that might not be for all… just like the Dogging thread, or the gloryhole thread. It’s still interesting to talk about though.

! [/quote]

Orgies are the best! I have really liked the ones I’ve participated in because of the same thing as my original post, many have basically been anonymous, just join, play however long you want and then leave. This has been at Burning Man. I hope you guys get to experience that soon!

Utahldscouple wrote:

Starlights wrote:

[quote=Utahldscouple]This is definitely not our cup of tea seems like all the couples we meet are though so shouldn’t be a problem to find them. For us attraction goes far more than physical. Hygiene is difficult to determine with pictures, and it’s huge for us. You will find more men willing to do this than women. Mrs definitely needs some flirting/chemistry.

I’d think the OPs scenario is more difficult to find than you’d think for the same reasons you listed. At least for a couple to achieve with another couple.
For a lot of couples on Swingular this is more a place to think about fantasies, but not actually fulfill them. Even in the more adventurous cases it probably rarely gets to the level of the OPs scenario. For various reasons. It’s true, you can’t gage hygiene, or a lot of other factors without meeting. That’s why we like to meet, and develop at least that base connection. Most of the time it just means we met cool new people 🤷🏽‍♂️
To just be DTF? I think extreme attraction would be needed for all, and that’s not something that easily translates through pics. Maybe not even FaceTime.
In the end, it’s another scenario that might not be for all… just like the Dogging thread, or the gloryhole thread. It’s still interesting to talk about though.

lavahotswings wrote:

Wildfire wrote:

[quote=Starlights]I’d say there are very few couples on Swingular that would be DTF without getting to know each other, let alone playing solo without a first meet beforehand. We’ve come across more than plenty that are too shy to even meet up.
Both of us aren’t against the scenario, as we can be DTF under the right circumstances, but the circumstances would need to be extreme attraction. Which seems to be rare without first meeting. There seems to be a disconnect between profile pics much of the time, and real life 🤷🏽‍♂️

YES!!! Totally agree on the picture front. Ideas for ways around that? Facetime convo beforehand or something? I REALLY like the straight-up stranger scenario, and used to use Tinder for this purpose, because I was extremely comfortable telling someone I was leaving if they did not look like what I was expecting or their in-person energy was just icky....it's easy for a woman to use Tinder like that, it seems way less easy for a man to do so...I think many women like to be wined and dined or chased more, so the DTF Tinder sexy-stranger-strategy was just not working for my guy.

Maybe you could set up where the husband's facetime each other and the wives facetime each other to guage if they are matching their pictures, but not take away the suspense of you actually seeing them beforehand?[/quote]

Oh!!!! I like that idea of the husbands facetiming or even grabbing lunch or coffee or something a lot! Thank you.

Wildfire wrote:

I’d think the OPs scenario is more difficult to find than you’d think for the same reasons you listed. At least for a couple to achieve with another couple.
For a lot of couples on Swingular this is more a place to think about fantasies, but not actually fulfill them. Even in the more adventurous cases it probably rarely gets to the level of the OPs scenario. For various reasons. It’s true, you can’t gage hygiene, or a lot of other factors without meeting. That’s why we like to meet, and develop at least that base connection. Most of the time it just means we met cool new people 🤷🏽‍♂️
To just be DTF? I think extreme attraction would be needed for all, and that’s not something that easily translates through pics. Maybe not even FaceTime.
In the end, it’s another scenario that might not be for all… just like the Dogging thread, or the gloryhole thread. It’s still interesting to talk about though.

! [/quote]
Orgies are the best! I have really liked the ones I’ve participated in because of the same thing as my original post, many have basically been anonymous, just join, play however long you want and then leave. This has been at Burning Man. I hope you guys get to experience that soon!

lavahotswings wrote:

Wildfire wrote:

[quote=Starlights]I’d say there are very few couples on Swingular that would be DTF without getting to know each other, let alone playing solo without a first meet beforehand. We’ve come across more than plenty that are too shy to even meet up.
Both of us aren’t against the scenario, as we can be DTF under the right circumstances, but the circumstances would need to be extreme attraction. Which seems to be rare without first meeting. There seems to be a disconnect between profile pics much of the time, and real life 🤷🏽‍♂️

YES!!! Totally agree on the picture front. Ideas for ways around that? Facetime convo beforehand or something? I REALLY like the straight-up stranger scenario, and used to use Tinder for this purpose, because I was extremely comfortable telling someone I was leaving if they did not look like what I was expecting or their in-person energy was just icky....it's easy for a woman to use Tinder like that, it seems way less easy for a man to do so...I think many women like to be wined and dined or chased more, so the DTF Tinder sexy-stranger-strategy was just not working for my guy.

Maybe you could set up where the husband's facetime each other and the wives facetime each other to guage if they are matching their pictures, but not take away the suspense of you actually seeing them beforehand?[/quote]
Oh!!!! I like that idea of the husbands facetiming or even grabbing lunch or coffee or something a lot! Thank you.[/quote]

Orgy Dome!!

We need a local Orgy Dome ala Burningman.

Wildfire wrote:

... I started doing some Tinder hookups with strict instructions that when I got to the hotel to just fuck me, not try and talk to me a bunch because a lot of personalities turn me off. Sometimes my partner would pick a guy and have him waiting in bed at home for me, but same thing, give him instructions not to try and talk with me or connect with me, just let me physically enjoy him and him me. I’m not sure if that sounds crazy or not, but it really really works for me, whereas if I’m leaning into my more pan sexual tendencies in picking partners, I don’t like how messy those relationships can be emotionally. But disconnected, straight physical sex works well for me, I LOVE having sex with new lovers while I’m wearing headphones actually, cause it helps me stay in just the physical experience and I have enjoyed experimenting with that.

Doggy style is best, because then you don't even have to look at the guy.

DesertAdventures wrote:

Wildfire wrote:

... I started doing some Tinder hookups with strict instructions that when I got to the hotel to just fuck me, not try and talk to me a bunch because a lot of personalities turn me off. Sometimes my partner would pick a guy and have him waiting in bed at home for me, but same thing, give him instructions not to try and talk with me or connect with me, just let me physically enjoy him and him me. I’m not sure if that sounds crazy or not, but it really really works for me, whereas if I’m leaning into my more pan sexual tendencies in picking partners, I don’t like how messy those relationships can be emotionally. But disconnected, straight physical sex works well for me, I LOVE having sex with new lovers while I’m wearing headphones actually, cause it helps me stay in just the physical experience and I have enjoyed experimenting with that.

Doggy style is best, because then you don't even have to look at the guy.

well there is no wrong or right way,, the right way is the way u like to do it.. we are having a glory hole party this sat if u just like to cum and go maybe throw a burger or dog down

This is actually one of the easiest methods, good idea.

We are looking for something similar. The only difference is we would all be in the same place. We don't do separate but would love to watch each other be pleasured by someone else or maybe we all end up in a big pile together. We don't mind finding friends but would love to just hook up and go out separate ways sometimes.

You are my kind of people! Keep it simple 👍