There seem to be quite a few couples that like to share (publicly) who they’re friends with and who they’ve met in person on Swingular. Is it about bragging rights? Is it just friendly banter? 🤔
There is so much talk about “discretion” in profiles it would be nice if people applied that to everything… not just to keeping pics private, or careers safe.
In our opinion there’s no reason why the whole site should know which couples are on your friends list. Whether you’ve had sex or not, or whether you’ve met them or not. Send them a private message to meet again, or if you want to continue talking… don’t put them on blast in front of the world. We’ve seen this across various threads since we joined, and don’t understand it. It makes us cringe, and wonder if the couple being called out is okay with it 🤷🏽♂️
Who we have met should be as discreet/private as our private photo album is to us. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and definitions on this LS, but if you don’t share this particular opinion there’s no need for us to be friends.
Whether we’ve played, or whether we just met at a party. Anything we say or share is meant to be kept between us and that couple, not shared with others publicly. We don’t want our “friends” divulging anything about us. This includes gossip with other couples we haven’t even met.
How do you define discretion? Is it one thing you want to keep secret? Your career? Pics? Sexuality? LS friends? All of the above?
There is so much talk about “discretion” in profiles it would be nice if people applied that to everything… not just to keeping pics private, or careers safe.
In our opinion there’s no reason why the whole site should know which couples are on your friends list. Whether you’ve had sex or not, or whether you’ve met them or not. Send them a private message to meet again, or if you want to continue talking… don’t put them on blast in front of the world. We’ve seen this across various threads since we joined, and don’t understand it. It makes us cringe, and wonder if the couple being called out is okay with it 🤷🏽♂️
Who we have met should be as discreet/private as our private photo album is to us. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and definitions on this LS, but if you don’t share this particular opinion there’s no need for us to be friends.
Whether we’ve played, or whether we just met at a party. Anything we say or share is meant to be kept between us and that couple, not shared with others publicly. We don’t want our “friends” divulging anything about us. This includes gossip with other couples we haven’t even met.
How do you define discretion? Is it one thing you want to keep secret? Your career? Pics? Sexuality? LS friends? All of the above?
We used to own a retail store and my wife had a customer follow her around and, with other people around, talk about how much he liked her new pictures. Great times.
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Bob
Thats not cool and very creepy to do something like that private life is private be respectfully of that
Agreed We would have to strongly agree
On that note, this includes if you are at an event or club. Be careful of pictures and videos. We don’t want to be in any of those you are taking inadvertently. And those that think it’s ok to take pictures of others (costumes or participating in wet T-shirt contest), it’s not ok. You need to ask before you do. No need to ask us, we don’t consent. We love the friends in the lifestyle because a majority are respectful of others.
What about Member Comments? I've never had any or given any. Is there any approval process? Can a member (the member the comment is on) delete or not show them?
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What about Member Comments? I've never had any or given any. Is there any approval process? Can a member (the member the comment is on) delete or not show them?
Yes you can comment on people’s profile but they have to approve it before it posts. I would like to see more of it because it gives you an idea about who they are. So if you have really enjoyed a couple or single please give them a shout out
To play devil’s advocate. We are all members of a swingers site! That being said there are definitely people in here that we don’t care to know our business. As far as the couples we know and chat about or share stories with. It’s not a notch on our belt. For the most part we honestly enjoy and are proud to be friends with people in here. Now we never share without permission and we never Disclose who we are with without permission. But we do have a close group of people that we trust and are pretty open with. Now in public that’s another story a wink and a nod is fine but people really need to respect your boundaries.
If you aren't involved you don't need to know
Sojourner nailed it.
We chose to keep it private unless both parties agree to let it be known