Lets be really honest here and explain the reason you joined Swingular and visit this sight. I can think of many reasons alot of us might share.... Making new friendships, exploring our sexual fantasies, finding ways to enhance our private intimate moments, hopes of seeing free nudes or porns, hoping to just get lucky.. etc. etc.
We joined back many years ago in hopes of finding other couples who werent living a sterile life and could be free with thoughts and some actions. This websight at the time was fairly new and great for setting up lifestyle get togethers, finding other couples to friend and chatting in the room with dozens of other guests. Over the years it seems alot of the people that we knew have left, divorced, moved or been abducted my aliens.
We currently are finding it difficult to practice the many reasons we became members and have kept our membership for so long. No more chat rooms filled with people to talk to, finding and making new friendships is nearly impossible, enjoying a lifestyle thats a bit more open has become a deep secret with passwords and secret handshakes. Has anyone else felt similar feelings and wondered what they really come here to accomplish? We were just curious if the COVID shots may have altered our perception on things or if there are others waiting for the missionaries to bring them the truth. Whats your outlook and feelings?
We joined back many years ago in hopes of finding other couples who werent living a sterile life and could be free with thoughts and some actions. This websight at the time was fairly new and great for setting up lifestyle get togethers, finding other couples to friend and chatting in the room with dozens of other guests. Over the years it seems alot of the people that we knew have left, divorced, moved or been abducted my aliens.
We currently are finding it difficult to practice the many reasons we became members and have kept our membership for so long. No more chat rooms filled with people to talk to, finding and making new friendships is nearly impossible, enjoying a lifestyle thats a bit more open has become a deep secret with passwords and secret handshakes. Has anyone else felt similar feelings and wondered what they really come here to accomplish? We were just curious if the COVID shots may have altered our perception on things or if there are others waiting for the missionaries to bring them the truth. Whats your outlook and feelings?
We too joined when the chat rooms were full of like minded couples many many years ago. Then the chat rooms filled with people who were so stuck up and easily offended that it wasn’t fun anymore. We’ve met only a handful of cool people in here. We stay hoping that there’s still a few people like us in here. We aren’t into the free porn or nudes so much anymore. We’d prefer to make our own. We get the secrecy but really once you’ve found someone why keep that shit up???
Do you remember the fun chats with Travis, Gummy and the whole gang? Actual sex and challenges in the chat room. We self regulated the weirdos! Those were the good old days!
We like the discussions/forum post. We do find the occasional person to chat with but very few interested in really meeting. End of the day the Mrs would rather meet than chat forever. Feels pictures don't tell the whole story and either do profiles. Chat rooms are nice but we feel meeting eliminates a lot of wasted time. With that said, finding like minded friends is our main goal.
PS...what is with everyone lying about their age? Why? LS friendship needs to be based on being truthful.
PS...what is with everyone lying about their age? Why? LS friendship needs to be based on being truthful.
We were officially in the lifestyle as of last November and have made some really great friends. They told us about swingular and we joined
I just joined because my wife and I are starting to get interested in all of this and we aren't sure where to start or even how much we are willing to do. We are hoping to explore everything and learning more about this lifestyle
We joined #1 to meet new friends, since we have few because many have moved away..
#2 To explore our sexuality both as individuals and as a couple
#3 To explore our boundaries and create and live out fantasies.
#4 Added bonus: it has really brought us closer, deepened our love and trust of each other.. we really have 100% true intimacy
#2 To explore our sexuality both as individuals and as a couple
#3 To explore our boundaries and create and live out fantasies.
#4 Added bonus: it has really brought us closer, deepened our love and trust of each other.. we really have 100% true intimacy
It used to be the place to check for house parties and events, but now we just rely on Facebook instead. I'll still login and read the forums once in a while.
We joined as a way to meet other females. Then we started adding a guy which was the new best thing. Couples have been hit or miss for us. A lot more challenging making a 4 way connection then a 3 way connection. We read the forums often. We'd love to do the parties in the near future when we can leave the kids home alone.
We are here because we knew the guy who started the website and joined. If what you meant by "Why are you really here?" was really asking "Why are you in the swinging lifestyle?" then it's because we both grew up in strict Mormon families and always wondered what we missed out on or were missing out on so we decided that it would be fun and naughty to share that untapped sexual energy and exploration together as a couple.
Eventually, our curiosity was pretty much satisfied and now we're here for the friendships and to hang out with people that we can just be ourselves around. Vanilla people are often SO FUCKING BORING and we almost always have to censor ourselves around them so they don't get offended. The sex part is almost completely secondary now.
Don't get us wrong, we still enjoy being naughty with other people but it's not our raison d'être. It's now just the cherry on top of fun friendships and is never required or expected in any way.
Eventually, our curiosity was pretty much satisfied and now we're here for the friendships and to hang out with people that we can just be ourselves around. Vanilla people are often SO FUCKING BORING and we almost always have to censor ourselves around them so they don't get offended. The sex part is almost completely secondary now.
Don't get us wrong, we still enjoy being naughty with other people but it's not our raison d'être. It's now just the cherry on top of fun friendships and is never required or expected in any way.
We have an awesome group of friends we have met through this web site. Since we are partimers in Utah it’s somewhat limiting in Houston but we feel very fortunate for our friends on Swingular. Not the best site for social interaction but the forums can get very active on occasion. Local sites are ideal for meeting the locals but after a few years they start to dwindle as people cycle through the site and it’s members.
My wife and I enjoyed the lifestyle for a couple of years before we split. I found that many people in the lifestyle are more honest and open than most people. I very much appreciate the company of people that understand the infinite complexities of human relationships, sexual and otherwise.
Now I'm hoping to eventually meet a lady that wants a committed ethically non-monogamous LTR. Until,then I am enjoying meeting and playing with single ladies and couples with open minds.
Now I'm hoping to eventually meet a lady that wants a committed ethically non-monogamous LTR. Until,then I am enjoying meeting and playing with single ladies and couples with open minds.
[quote=josie4u]Is that really cyn on: (Cyn boating 06/05/2021) just asking and curious.
To answer your question, yes, that is really Cyn on that date. I wanted to get a more current photo of her so I took it on Deer Creek while we were out.
We too got to know Rob when he started this sight. It was great for getting parties arranged at many of the venues around the Salt Lake Area. For us, Provo is very boring and offered nothing for us to do. This sight gave us a great break into meeting people and socializing in a new way. Becoming part of the lifestyles opened something else up that proved to be a great benefit. As we loved to travel around the states on our Harleys, we found that lifestyle couples were great to tour with. We could share a suite or BNB and not get all nervous about relaxing, showering, getting dressed or doing things that we mainly did privately when traveling with vanilla couples. We also found a great deal of satisfaction and close friendships by being able to hug someones significant other without causes drama or rumors. I found no jealously or concern when my wife went out somewhere with one of our group and in fact, enjoyed seeing her expand her relationships with other couples by having girls nights out and such. We found friendships in other states and enjoyed traveling to spend time together. Boating on Lake Powell took on a whole new meaning and left us with memories we can never forget. The benefits of these type of relationships were numerous, benefical and above all else... honest and sincere. We miss those days.
To answer your question, yes, that is really Cyn on that date. I wanted to get a more current photo of her so I took it on Deer Creek while we were out.
We too got to know Rob when he started this sight. It was great for getting parties arranged at many of the venues around the Salt Lake Area. For us, Provo is very boring and offered nothing for us to do. This sight gave us a great break into meeting people and socializing in a new way. Becoming part of the lifestyles opened something else up that proved to be a great benefit. As we loved to travel around the states on our Harleys, we found that lifestyle couples were great to tour with. We could share a suite or BNB and not get all nervous about relaxing, showering, getting dressed or doing things that we mainly did privately when traveling with vanilla couples. We also found a great deal of satisfaction and close friendships by being able to hug someones significant other without causes drama or rumors. I found no jealously or concern when my wife went out somewhere with one of our group and in fact, enjoyed seeing her expand her relationships with other couples by having girls nights out and such. We found friendships in other states and enjoyed traveling to spend time together. Boating on Lake Powell took on a whole new meaning and left us with memories we can never forget. The benefits of these type of relationships were numerous, benefical and above all else... honest and sincere. We miss those days.
We have amazing friends who are like family to us so the thought of jumping in bed has never come to our mind. I guess we are here to find friends to enjoy each other in the bedroom as well.
We are here to meet people in the LS. In and out of the bedroom. Ever time we heard talk about LS websites and Utah this site was mentioned. So we joined. Unfortunately if seems people in our area are not to active. We recently joined another site (don't want to be censored so it starts with a K ends in asidie) and have better luck there. But we love the forums and more social part of this site.
We went to a number of nude and lifestyle resorts and had great friends from there. However, we wanted to find some local friends that were in the lifestyle that you could just have fun with, that are like-minded and if playtime happens, it’s a bonus.
That’s why we joined.
That’s why we joined.
EVILDOERS wrote:
We are here because we knew the guy who started the website and joined. If what you meant by "Why are you really here?" was really asking "Why are you in the swinging lifestyle?" we decided that it would be fun and naughty to share that untapped sexual energy and exploration together as a couple.
Eventually, our curiosity was pretty much satisfied and now we're here for the friendships and to hang out with people that we can just be ourselves around. Vanilla people are often SO FUCKING BORING and we almost always have to censor ourselves around them so they don't get offended. The sex part is almost completely secondary now.
Don't get us wrong, we still enjoy being naughty with other people but it's not our raison d'être. It's now just the cherry on top of fun friendships and is never required or expected in any way.
We're here for the free popsicles! . . . wait . . . what were we talking about???? Oh - we got on this site to meet fun couples we could hang out with, flirt shamelessly with, engage in a little light petting and kissing with from time to time, and occasionally play with. We've found that LS couples are just more real and a LOT more fun to be with . . . I mean, we've never had a naked hot tubbing experience with any of our vanilla friends so . . .
Also - we agree with much of what Evil says.
We've met quite a few people from here. We've made lasting friendships and enjoyed exploring our fantasies. We get stood up, conversations dwindle, but for the most part, we don't find meeting people we enjoy difficult. Maybe it's because we also have hall passes and that gives us more flexibility. Maybe it's because we prioritize meeting people at parties, meet and greets or one of the local LS bars and that cuts out those who aren't ready. Ultimately, we just enjoy people who are sex positive and have found lifestyle and swolly peeps to be more closely aligned to this value.