Thinking of trying to put together a "KEY PARTY" type party... Is anyone ESPECIALLY OTHER COUPLES interested?
Wanting to put together a key party type event if anybody is interested especially other couples please let us know
SOJOURNER2232 wrote:
Thinking of trying to put together a "KEY PARTY" type party... Is anyone ESPECIALLY OTHER COUPLES interested?
Um, I could be wrong but, I'm pretty sure that at key parties you can ONLY do them with couples...unless there are some married guys who are, like, cucks and don't mind being left out of the fun.
What exactly is a key party?
You put your key in a bowl when you arrive and then you pull a key out at the end and match it to its owner and that’s who you go home with or back to their room. Old school swinging
Could be interesting. Maybe fun.
EVILDOERS wrote:that is why I put the emphasis on especially other couples.. perhaps if a couple brought a friend whether it be male or female they would have the option of staying with the couple they are with or perhaps putting their token in a "singles" bowl to perhaps be drawn by a couple or another singleSOJOURNER2232 wrote:
Thinking of trying to put together a "KEY PARTY" type party... Is anyone ESPECIALLY OTHER COUPLES interested?
Um, I could be wrong but, I'm pretty sure that at key parties you can ONLY do them with couples...unless there are some married guys who are, like, cucks and don't mind being left out of the fun.
I attended a key party one time where everybody had the option of coming as a couple or the couple could decide to attend as single participants.. it was everybody's own choice but you had to be a couple or attend the party with a couple you could not just come as a single
go for it, it would be a blast, and I have heard of them and they sound like fun. One thing that you have to remember, age and ethnicity cannot play a role, as it is for everyone that is a couple. My wife and I would love to attend, and My wife and I would enjoy the whole party, and be open to almost anything. It really sounds like someone needs to put one together, but you need enough time to get it planned so anyone coming from out of town can get a hotel, or a place to park their r.v.
SOJOURNER2232 wrote:
I attended a key party one time where everybody had the option of coming as a couple or the couple could decide to attend as single participants.. it was everybody's own choice but you had to be a couple or attend the party with a couple you could not just come as a single
I'm not exactly certain what you're saying here. Isn't the whole premise that a guy puts his keys in a bowl and the ladies draw a set of keys and go with the guy whose keys she drew? What happens if someone goes as a single and then draws the keys of someone from a couple? Would that not now leave an uneven number and leave someone out of the fun?
Key Party- Urban Dictionary
Interested
EVILDOERS wrote:that is why there would be a single bowl and a couples bowl.. if a single attendee came with a couple they could choose to remain with the couple or put their token in the bowl.. or said persons ladies choice of course could choose to give their token to another single or couple or people could choose not to put a token in the bowl it is everybody's free choice but if there is a single person they must be accompanied with a coupleSOJOURNER2232 wrote:
I attended a key party one time where everybody had the option of coming as a couple or the couple could decide to attend as single participants.. it was everybody's own choice but you had to be a couple or attend the party with a couple you could not just come as a single
I'm not exactly certain what you're saying here. Isn't the whole premise that a guy puts his keys in a bowl and the ladies draw a set of keys and go with the guy whose keys she drew? What happens if someone goes as a single and then draws the keys of someone from a couple? Would that not now leave an uneven number and leave someone out of the fun?
Key Party- Urban Dictionary
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:that is why I am trying to make a modern-day equivalent type where everybody has a choice of selection of who and what they want to participate with it is a challenge but I am open to ideas
This is old school Hugh Hefner era swinging. Unless you know that everyone at the party shares attraction, trust and chemistry, and that all involved are happy to fuck anyone at the party it ignores consent. Nope not interesting or interested.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
This is old school Hugh Hefner era swinging. Unless you know that everyone at the party shares attraction, trust and chemistry, and that all involved are happy to fuck anyone at the party it ignores consent. Nope not interesting or interested.
Thats kinda what I was thinking...no way this works unless its a really small group of select people you know. I do think it would be fun in more of a get to know people type party(i.e. have some drinks, etc)
Would work if everybody is in their 30's and hot. otherwise..... Besides, my wife likes to get her fuck on, then go home to her own bed.
The original idea was meant to be something better than the typical clicky type meet and greet
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
If all of the women at the party would be delighted to have sex with any man at the party, and the men would all be delighted to have sex with any of the women, the party would be a success. Vetting the participants would require that everyone that would be attending the party give their pre-key selection okay on everyone that might potentially be their sexual adventure for the night. Maybe an in person meet and greet, and if there are any couples where either the husband or the wife is reluctant, they just politely let the others know they are going to respectfully decline and they leave. That way nobody knows why or who was their reason for leaving. I hope you can pull it off!
Gotta agree with DELICIOUS here. Unless you want to get into the arena of one or more of the participants potentially "taking one for the team" you'll need to somehow make sure everyone is pretty much in the same "league" (a rather old school term for level of attractiveness) and/or just willing to fuck any other given attendee. The difficult part, in our experience, is that many if not most people often have somewhat unrealistic ideas about their own attractiveness and that of their partner.
A meet and greet would probably be the best option along with laying out the format of the potential party for everyone beforehand so that they could recuse themselves if they found themselves not attracted to one or more of the other couples. That would help prevent potentially unpleasant situations from occurring.
Another factor to take into account is the activity level of each of the participants. Trust me in that you really don't want to have to deal with a situation where one person gets upset because the person (well, the keys-lol) they selected has different rules or expectations and they feel slighted because someone who ended up with their partner got to "do" more than they did. This particular phenomenon, along with other possible negative scenarios, is often magnified greatly by the presence of alcohol.
Not trying to dissuade you here, just trying to help you avoid potential drama. Good luck!
I thought key parties were a thing of the past…. 70’s era swinger porn style events lol!
EVILDOERS wrote:like I said I was trying to come up with an alternative to the average boring seemingly clicky type meet and greet event... Maybe if tokens are matched up the people sit down and talk for a little bit then tokens are put back in the bowls redrawn and other people get to meet each other and actually talk and get to know somebody kind of like speed swinging if you willDELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
If all of the women at the party would be delighted to have sex with any man at the party, and the men would all be delighted to have sex with any of the women, the party would be a success. Vetting the participants would require that everyone that would be attending the party give their pre-key selection okay on everyone that might potentially be their sexual adventure for the night. Maybe an in person meet and greet, and if there are any couples where either the husband or the wife is reluctant, they just politely let the others know they are going to respectfully decline and they leave. That way nobody knows why or who was their reason for leaving. I hope you can pull it off!
Gotta agree with DELICIOUS here. Unless you want to get into the arena of one or more of the participants potentially "taking one for the team" you'll need to somehow make sure everyone is pretty much in the same "league" (a rather old school term for level of attractiveness) and/or just willing to fuck any other given attendee. The difficult part, in our experience, is that many if not most people often have somewhat unrealistic ideas about their own attractiveness and that of their partner.
A meet and greet would probably be the best option along with laying out the format of the potential party for everyone beforehand so that they could recuse themselves if they found themselves not attracted to one or more of the other couples. That would help prevent potentially unpleasant situations from occurring.
Another factor to take into account is the activity level of each of the participants. Trust me in that you really don't want to have to deal with a situation where one person gets upset because the person (well, the keys-lol) they selected has different rules or expectations and they feel slighted because someone who ended up with their partner got to "do" more than they did. This particular phenomenon, along with other possible negative scenarios, is often magnified greatly by the presence of alcohol.
Not trying to dissuade you here, just trying to help you avoid potential drama. Good luck!
SOJOURNER2232 wrote:like I said I was trying to come up with an alternative to the average boring seemingly clicky type meet and greet event... Maybe if tokens are matched up the people sit down and talk for a little bit then tokens are put back in the bowls redrawn and other people get to meet each other and actually talk and get to know somebody kind of like speed swinging if you will[/quote]EVILDOERS wrote:
[quote=DELICIOUSLYWET]If all of the women at the party would be delighted to have sex with any man at the party, and the men would all be delighted to have sex with any of the women, the party would be a success. Vetting the participants would require that everyone that would be attending the party give their pre-key selection okay on everyone that might potentially be their sexual adventure for the night. Maybe an in person meet and greet, and if there are any couples where either the husband or the wife is reluctant, they just politely let the others know they are going to respectfully decline and they leave. That way nobody knows why or who was their reason for leaving. I hope you can pull it off!
Gotta agree with DELICIOUS here. Unless you want to get into the arena of one or more of the participants potentially "taking one for the team" you'll need to somehow make sure everyone is pretty much in the same "league" (a rather old school term for level of attractiveness) and/or just willing to fuck any other given attendee. The difficult part, in our experience, is that many if not most people often have somewhat unrealistic ideas about their own attractiveness and that of their partner.
A meet and greet would probably be the best option along with laying out the format of the potential party for everyone beforehand so that they could recuse themselves if they found themselves not attracted to one or more of the other couples. That would help prevent potentially unpleasant situations from occurring.
Another factor to take into account is the activity level of each of the participants. Trust me in that you really don't want to have to deal with a situation where one person gets upset because the person (well, the keys-lol) they selected has different rules or expectations and they feel slighted because someone who ended up with their partner got to "do" more than they did. This particular phenomenon, along with other possible negative scenarios, is often magnified greatly by the presence of alcohol.
Not trying to dissuade you here, just trying to help you avoid potential drama. Good luck!
Ms and Mr SmithCurious -
Maybe have it be a face to face 'chat' for a pre-determined time frame. Removes the 'clicky' aspect without obligating anyone to any physical contact. Surely, people will not consider a 5-10 minute discussion (could even just be a vanilla chat) with a random person (of the opposite sex) as 'taking one for the team'.
Plus, after the first round the keys could go back into the bowl for the next round. Within the first couple of hours each person could have checked the 'chemistry' level with a little less than a dozen people of the opposite sex. By then, people will know whom they have interest in and not; while curtailing the 'clicky' stigma a much as a host can.
Thoughts?
SMITHCURIOUS wrote:like I said I was trying to come up with an alternative to the average boring seemingly clicky type meet and greet event... Maybe if tokens are matched up the people sit down and talk for a little bit then tokens are put back in the bowls redrawn and other people get to meet each other and actually talk and get to know somebody kind of like speed swinging if you will[/quote]SOJOURNER2232 wrote:
[quote=EVILDOERS][quote=DELICIOUSLYWET]If all of the women at the party would be delighted to have sex with any man at the party, and the men would all be delighted to have sex with any of the women, the party would be a success. Vetting the participants would require that everyone that would be attending the party give their pre-key selection okay on everyone that might potentially be their sexual adventure for the night. Maybe an in person meet and greet, and if there are any couples where either the husband or the wife is reluctant, they just politely let the others know they are going to respectfully decline and they leave. That way nobody knows why or who was their reason for leaving. I hope you can pull it off!
Gotta agree with DELICIOUS here. Unless you want to get into the arena of one or more of the participants potentially "taking one for the team" you'll need to somehow make sure everyone is pretty much in the same "league" (a rather old school term for level of attractiveness) and/or just willing to fuck any other given attendee. The difficult part, in our experience, is that many if not most people often have somewhat unrealistic ideas about their own attractiveness and that of their partner.
A meet and greet would probably be the best option along with laying out the format of the potential party for everyone beforehand so that they could recuse themselves if they found themselves not attracted to one or more of the other couples. That would help prevent potentially unpleasant situations from occurring.
Another factor to take into account is the activity level of each of the participants. Trust me in that you really don't want to have to deal with a situation where one person gets upset because the person (well, the keys-lol) they selected has different rules or expectations and they feel slighted because someone who ended up with their partner got to "do" more than they did. This particular phenomenon, along with other possible negative scenarios, is often magnified greatly by the presence of alcohol.
Not trying to dissuade you here, just trying to help you avoid potential drama. Good luck!
Ms and Mr SmithCurious -
Maybe have it be a face to face 'chat' for a pre-determined time frame. Removes the 'clicky' aspect without obligating anyone to any physical contact. Surely, people will not consider a 5-10 minute discussion (could even just be a vanilla chat) with a random person (of the opposite sex) as 'taking one for the team'. Plus, after the first round the keys could go back into the bowl for the next round. Within the first couple of hours each person could have checked the 'chemistry' level with a little less than a dozen of the opposite sex. By then, people will know whom they have interest in and not while curtailing the 'clicky' stigma a much as a host can.
Thoughts?[/quote] that was kind of the idea but I was looking for input from others to make it a more fun inclusive event that is why I kind of jokingly called it speed swinging
I thought I'd throw in a fun little factoid. TIL that WWII fighter pilots would hold "key parties" to wife swap in an effort to build a community between pilots and their families so that their fellow pilots would help take care of their family in case of their death due to the high mortality rates.
U2LOVER wrote:
Could be interesting. Maybe fun.
I am the other half of this gentleman - and I agree it could be interesting.
We 'get' and actually applaud the effort to find some way to avoid the often typical cliquey swing party but still have to wonder how feasible it might be in practice. The problem, as we see it, is that swinging is an atypical social construct in that it is driven almost entirely by superficial factors such as relative attractiveness (age, height, weight, body type, breast size, cock size, and any number of other physical characteristics).
When we first started swinging, back around the time Cleopatra was busy inventing hookup culture and the term unicorn, we quickly discovered that swinging wasn't the sexual egalitarian utopia that many people believe it should be. Indeed, there was actually a broad, distinct caste system, if you will, that governed who hooked up with who and who was relegated to the sidelines at least in certain circles or situations.
This might be best illustrated by one of our very early encounters with two couples at a swinger meet and greet back east. One of the couples was loudly expounding on their utter disgust with the concept that people in the lifestyle seem to be so "stuck-up" (their term) and were too concerned about "looks" and other superficial characteristics. They went on and on for probably close to an hour before they, I guess, ran out of steam and decided to leave.
After they were gone, the other couple at the table laughed a little bit and gave us some fairly sage advice. They told us that we would likely meet three general kinds of swingers in the lifestyle. They said that the first couple was the "Hey, you're swingers and we're swingers so let's fuck!" kind of people and that on the opposite end of the spectrum were the extremely picky, "beautiful people" who spent more time "watching the door" at a swing function always looking for the BBD (bigger, better, deal) and who more often than not left without actually hooking-up/playing.
They said that the relatively smaller group in between those two extremes were those who had a little more realistic attitude and who were, while still giving a good amount of weight to initial physical attraction, actually looking a little more FOR reasons to play rather than for reasons NOT to play. They told us to decide for ourselves what kind of swingers we wanted to be and go from there but to never fuck someone that we really didn't want to fuck. *shrug*
As to your idea of making it more of a "speed swinging" type of party, I'm almost certain that there are at least a few people here on Swingular who have talked about, if not hosted, just such a party. It might be interesting if they or any of their guests chimed in as to how it turned out.
When we first started swinging, back around the time Cleopatra was busy inventing hookup culture and the term unicorn, we quickly discovered that swinging wasn't the sexual egalitarian utopia that many people believe it should be. Indeed, there was actually a broad, distinct caste system, if you will, that governed who hooked up with who and who was relegated to the sidelines at least in certain circles or situations.
This might be best illustrated by one of our very early encounters with two couples at a swinger meet and greet back east. One of the couples was loudly expounding on their utter disgust with the concept that people in the lifestyle seem to be so "stuck-up" (their term) and were too concerned about "looks" and other superficial characteristics. They went on and on for probably close to an hour before they, I guess, ran out of steam and decided to leave.
After they were gone, the other couple at the table laughed a little bit and gave us some fairly sage advice. They told us that we would likely meet three general kinds of swingers in the lifestyle. They said that the first couple was the "Hey, you're swingers and we're swingers so let's fuck!" kind of people and that on the opposite end of the spectrum were the extremely picky, "beautiful people" who spent more time "watching the door" at a swing function always looking for the BBD (bigger, better, deal) and who more often than not left without actually hooking-up/playing.
They said that the relatively smaller group in between those two extremes were those who had a little more realistic attitude and who were, while still giving a good amount of weight to initial physical attraction, actually looking a little more FOR reasons to play rather than for reasons NOT to play. They told us to decide for ourselves what kind of swingers we wanted to be and go from there but to never fuck someone that we really didn't want to fuck. *shrug*
As to your idea of making it more of a "speed swinging" type of party, I'm almost certain that there are at least a few people here on Swingular who have talked about, if not hosted, just such a party. It might be interesting if they or any of their guests chimed in as to how it turned out.