We are new to LS, we comfortably with another woman join us. We are ready to explore adding another man. I have close friend, that is in and not new to LS. He has been very helpful, to us in our short time. In the LS, in your/anybody's experience. What are your thoughts, about him, joining us. Or would we, be better off, having a neutral 3rd (man) joining us?? Thanks in advance, for all the advice.
I would not include him. It could potential destroy your friendship. A neutral third that respects boundaries and is willing to take things at your pace is best…. Just my opinion
Talk to your friend about joining you, with you being friends already, could really enhance your mfm.
I vote neutral third male.
I was the third male for a couple early in their exploration. He ended up being jealous over dick size. No, I'm not huge, he was just a bit under average. But they were able to cut me out and work on their issue.
You don't yet know what might set either of you off (or the extra guy) and adding a complication to your friendship strikes me as risking the friendship unnecessarily.
I was the third male for a couple early in their exploration. He ended up being jealous over dick size. No, I'm not huge, he was just a bit under average. But they were able to cut me out and work on their issue.
You don't yet know what might set either of you off (or the extra guy) and adding a complication to your friendship strikes me as risking the friendship unnecessarily.
You know, we as a "couple" was asking for advice, this was not!!! For people to volunteer, their services. We was just, looking for feedback.
My advice to u man is if u trust the man and feel comfortable that they ain't trying to do nothing sneaky and that it's going to be a great time for u and ur wife then u guys should do it
We're with Dogwater on this one... dipping your toes with a friend is potentially high risk. But high risk has high reward, right? I think it largely depends on the dynamic the 3 of you already have. Assuming things go smoothly, that friendship and trust that you all have already established will no doubt make the experience that much better. And perhaps because you've already dabbled in the lifestyle things will most likely go smoothly.
In our experience there are often some unexpected bumps in the process. Nothing serious or problematic, but some truly unexpected feelings can sometimes pop up, even for those who are truly confident and fully committed to openly exploring. Playing with a friend just adds another layer of complexity... that complexity is what will add to the amazingness if things go well, but will certainly add to the hazards if things get bumpy.
In our experience there are often some unexpected bumps in the process. Nothing serious or problematic, but some truly unexpected feelings can sometimes pop up, even for those who are truly confident and fully committed to openly exploring. Playing with a friend just adds another layer of complexity... that complexity is what will add to the amazingness if things go well, but will certainly add to the hazards if things get bumpy.
We just wanted to, thank all of feed back. It is highly appreciated and gives us, a since of direction to, at least look at. We hope to meet new friends as well.