Does anyone actually read their emails, or do you just look at the profile and hit delete, without seeing what they said, if they are not perfectly in line with your wants?
Admittedly, you do look fun! So I can see why you get lots of mail.
SLOWHAND311 wrote:
or do you just look at the profile and hit delete, without seeing what they said, if they are not perfectly in line with your wants?
...and we block them too!
We always read our emails. Admittedly, we don't receive that much. Something that is just a "Hi, how are you?" might not receive a response, but any message that shows some thought and effort will get a reply. We like making friends and welcome email from old and new alike.
Read? Yes. Respond to? Depends. Unsolicited emails that 1) Are very non-specific and/or look spammed 2) Don't mention anything that would indicate they read our profile 3) Are from a type of profile that we have specifically mentioned in our profile that we AREN'T looking for 4) Are a new and/or trial profile 5) Have a profile with little to no info about the person who sent us an email 6) Have zero pics 7) Are from a geographic area far enough away from us to make meeting difficult if not almost impossible...all pretty much get deleted out of hand.
About the only time we DON'T simply delete without responding is if the sender's profile DOESN'T have any of the characteristics mentioned above and DOES contain something that we feel is a common interest or something we find very compelling.
About the only time we DON'T simply delete without responding is if the sender's profile DOESN'T have any of the characteristics mentioned above and DOES contain something that we feel is a common interest or something we find very compelling.
Not if they are from single males.
Ur a single guy. On a swinger site. Most of us are happily married couples that enjoy other people in the bedroom etc but most of us in the lifestyle are couples. Now don’t get me wrong a good few like introducing singles guys into the fun. We do as well but when ur a single guy Sending out tons of emails etc then u get wat ur can. Hope I was in no way disrespectful just my opinion
We always read abs always respond. It may be sorry not interested but we definitely read them.
We read all email. We respond to all email. We get blind friend requests, which we ignore, and on occasion, multiple repeat blind friend requests. WTF, people???
We reply with a no thank you, and have run into persistent people that simply don’t take no for an answer. Frankly, it’s kinda predatory. No should mean no, and while there is the block feature, that should rarely need to be employed. Like respect the decision and move on??
We reply with a no thank you, and have run into persistent people that simply don’t take no for an answer. Frankly, it’s kinda predatory. No should mean no, and while there is the block feature, that should rarely need to be employed. Like respect the decision and move on??
I understand what the OP is talking about. When I first joined the site in January, I sent out 29 introductory messages. I was cordial and friendly and hoped to start a dialogue. I ONLY messaged people who were specifically looking for single males. About half were single females and half were couples, all were roughly in my age group.
Even now, out of the 29 messages I sent out 6 weeks ago a total of ONE has been OPENED so far, and I received zero responses. I am convinced that the VAST majority of people on this site are not active.
Even now, out of the 29 messages I sent out 6 weeks ago a total of ONE has been OPENED so far, and I received zero responses. I am convinced that the VAST majority of people on this site are not active.
Welcome to a swinger sight as a single male. I have been a member for years and gave up introducing myself in emails early on. My profile is up and current and I have met some great singles and couples here. But the ones I’ve met are those that have reached out to me. It’s slow, only 1-2 a month and some times less but hey if your a single male expecting tons of couples to come running on a swinging sight then your expectations are way to high.
My advice is to stop filling up people’s mail boxes be active (and respectful) in the forums and connect with those that reach out to you. It will happen.
My advice is to stop filling up people’s mail boxes be active (and respectful) in the forums and connect with those that reach out to you. It will happen.
Easy2226 wrote:
Ur a single guy. On a swinger site. Most of us are happily married couples that enjoy other people in the bedroom etc but most of us in the lifestyle are couples. Now don’t get me wrong a good few like introducing singles guys into the fun. We do as well but when ur a single guy Sending out tons of emails etc then u get wat ur can. Hope I was in no way disrespectful just my opinion
No disrespect taken, I have been in the lifestyle now going on 20 years, so I am quite familiar with the place of single males here. Heck, I used to throw big house parties with over 100 in attendance, and had a great reputation, back when the world (and the lifestyle), was more sociable. I don't send out many emails, and only to those that,I think I would fit what they seek, based on their interests mentioned in profiles. Never have I gone for the shot gun approach of mass emails hoping to "get what I can", and never emailed anyone that I clearly wasn't what they were looking for. If I do send anything now, which is rare, it's usually more akin to a letter of introduction, instead of a blind friends request, which I admit, sometimes don't respond to because they are obviously just looking to see the private pics, and aren't truly interested in corresponding. I do read all emails, and respond to most, unless they are rude, and have never blocked anyone.
I always had to laugh a bit when I would get shut down, told I wasn't their type, or ignored, and then run into them at a Meet & greet, house, or hotel party (yes, they used to have those), and then have them be the interested ones, after actually meeting me. Funny the biggest shift was turning 50. it was like in one day... No response at all. even from those that knew of me. Yes, there is a lot of "ageism" in the lifestyle...lol But I do understand it. and have never resented it, even if I didn't do it myself.
I started this thread mainly just out of curiosity, and not as any kind of gripe. People want what they want. But it has confirmed that indeed, many will choose not to even open, or read single male emails, just because they are single males, even ones with female partners, (guess they don't even look at the profile either)...lol
I do appreciate the responses, and thank you all for them.
SLOWHAND311 wrote:
Does anyone actually read their emails, or do you just look at the profile and hit delete, without seeing what they said, if they are not perfectly in line with your wants?
Always. Can't imagine deleting without reading. I want to see what people have to say...to hear them out. Besides curiosity, it just seems the courteous thing to do. It would seem odd to me that someone would look at someone's profile first and if it didn't align with their own desires or interests, that they'd just delete the persons words without actually seeing what they were. But, different strokes for different folks....
We read our emails, unless its the second or third from a single male that we have already declined or not replied to. Best email yet from a single male:
"Are you Guys real? ... I’m too handsome for people not to be interested in me. Let me know what’s up with your guys"
Delete!
"Are you Guys real? ... I’m too handsome for people not to be interested in me. Let me know what’s up with your guys"
Delete!
We read all direct messages & respond.
Blind FR - if someone that looks interesting, we will message them and ask why they reached out with a FR. Maybe 1 out of 20 respond. Otherwise, a blind FR is the big IGNORE. Obviously the person can’t read since I’m our profile we say “no blind FR”
Blind FR - if someone that looks interesting, we will message them and ask why they reached out with a FR. Maybe 1 out of 20 respond. Otherwise, a blind FR is the big IGNORE. Obviously the person can’t read since I’m our profile we say “no blind FR”
I'm new here....I love the inbox emails. Although we haven't met anyone yet. Still need to figure it out.
Rarely ever read SM emails unless they are responding to us.
We read our emails. Try to reply even if we are not into the profile. WE try to be some what polite, not saying others are not being. Blind friend request we see as pitcher hunters, but have accept a few as the profile seemed to be interesting. Of course we don't get 50 emails a day so we completely understand why some don't want to waste their time.
We read ours.
We always try to read ours at least once a week 😜😜
Just as a matter of information you can block single males in the account drop down under settings.
We always try to respond to those who actually write something to respond too and we have met some great couples that way. We have written many members in Houston with no response. We realize this site is mainly the Utah area and we utilize it accordingly when we are going to be in the area. We are also on other sites that are more responsive to our emails.
The thing for us is to step up to the plate and swing (pun intended). I guess if your young and hot everyone wants to meet you. We keep our correspondence to those that are age appropriate and if they don’t respond no big deal we just move on. We have written emails just to complement with no intention of anything ever happening because of it. If you get bummed out because of no response to emails then just find another way through the door. Once covid is under control hopefully things will be much easier for everyone.
We always try to respond to those who actually write something to respond too and we have met some great couples that way. We have written many members in Houston with no response. We realize this site is mainly the Utah area and we utilize it accordingly when we are going to be in the area. We are also on other sites that are more responsive to our emails.
The thing for us is to step up to the plate and swing (pun intended). I guess if your young and hot everyone wants to meet you. We keep our correspondence to those that are age appropriate and if they don’t respond no big deal we just move on. We have written emails just to complement with no intention of anything ever happening because of it. If you get bummed out because of no response to emails then just find another way through the door. Once covid is under control hopefully things will be much easier for everyone.
SKICOUPLE wrote:
Just as a matter of information you can block single males in the account drop down under settings.
We always try to respond to those who actually write something to respond too and we have met some great couples that way. We have written many members in Houston with no response. We realize this site is mainly the Utah area and we utilize it accordingly when we are going to be in the area. We are also on other sites that are more responsive to our emails.
The thing for us is to step up to the plate and swing (pun intended). I guess if your young and hot everyone wants to meet you. We keep our correspondence to those that are age appropriate and if they don’t respond no big deal we just move on. We have written emails just to complement with no intention of anything ever happening because of it. If you get bummed out because of no response to emails then just find another way through the door. Once covid is under control hopefully things will be much easier for everyone.
I wouldn’t want to block SM’s completely, but I would sure like to block everything from profiles with no photos. Cracks me up all the requests we get to be friends from profiles with no photo or just a few lame photos and no private photos lol
SKICOUPLE wrote:
Just as a matter of information you can block single males in the account drop down under settings.
Did that shortly after signing up on Swingular. For some reason, it didn't work...though, we don't get enough friend requests or messages from them to be of bother.
random unsolicited email from people who dont remotely meet our needs just get deleted