We have taken on a huge project so haven't had time to think or talk much about this "lifestyle". A break today has me here.
Seems most here are interested in the hard-core aspects of this "lifestyle". I find it intriguing but, it's not for us as a couple. My wife isn't interested in swapping. But she's comfortable with the fact I'd be interested... with the right person and circumstance. And she is curious about the lighter side of the lifestyle.
That said, we both like the idea of becoming friends with another couple (or single woman or one with a pass) who may be new to this who feel similarly...who may feel somewhat bound by their religion (we aren't)... or, are afraid of others finding out, or having fear of feeling "sleazy"....or are shy and may just want to flirt a bit to feel out their comfort levels....maybe working up to something like massage, therapeutic or sensual....and maybe exhibitionism or voyeurism or light touch after getting to know each other well.
That may seem lame to many but that's our speed... and we figure there are plenty with similar comfort levels. Whether or not they are here on Swingular may be another story....
For the sake of curiosity, and to help those in a similar boat, can we have a raise of hands of kindred spirits?
(We're not aggressive at contacting people so, if you think we could possibly be a fit after reading our profile, PLEASE reach out to us with a message👍 )
Seems most here are interested in the hard-core aspects of this "lifestyle". I find it intriguing but, it's not for us as a couple. My wife isn't interested in swapping. But she's comfortable with the fact I'd be interested... with the right person and circumstance. And she is curious about the lighter side of the lifestyle.
That said, we both like the idea of becoming friends with another couple (or single woman or one with a pass) who may be new to this who feel similarly...who may feel somewhat bound by their religion (we aren't)... or, are afraid of others finding out, or having fear of feeling "sleazy"....or are shy and may just want to flirt a bit to feel out their comfort levels....maybe working up to something like massage, therapeutic or sensual....and maybe exhibitionism or voyeurism or light touch after getting to know each other well.
That may seem lame to many but that's our speed... and we figure there are plenty with similar comfort levels. Whether or not they are here on Swingular may be another story....
For the sake of curiosity, and to help those in a similar boat, can we have a raise of hands of kindred spirits?
(We're not aggressive at contacting people so, if you think we could possibly be a fit after reading our profile, PLEASE reach out to us with a message👍 )
Here. We definitely feel out of place for so many reasons 
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!We love soft play. Switch partners to play a game of pool loosing team has to take a article of clothing off each other. Groping allowed.
We definitely fit the softer side of things. We have no interest in swapping partners but do enjoy adult fun around trusted friends. We would be interested in getting to know you better and see how our interests match up.
You can find us on here or on Kik at "DMDForFun"
D and M
You can find us on here or on Kik at "DMDForFun"
D and M
We 'swing' both ways. Soft AND hard. Both are fun with the right people. But if your wife isn't comfortable even with soft swap then I'm not sure what the point would be. Are you thinking something like same room sex with your own partner? Basically, watching?
EVILDOERS wrote:
We 'swing' both ways. Soft AND hard. Both are fun with the right people. But if your wife isn't comfortable even with soft swap then I'm not sure what the point would be. Are you thinking something like same room sex with your own partner? Basically, watching?
Yes. Watching, same room...and other things I mentioned above.
The point for us would be to add something we've not tried before, with people we've developed a close friendship with... in small enough steps that everyone is comfortable.
We prefer soft fun, but like a lot of others have/will full swap ( with the right people of course )
Soft play for us for now. Start with getting are feet wet first...
This is the exact situation my wife and I are in. We are curious about swinging, but we were hoping for the opportunity to make friends here first, get comfortable, flirt online and in person, and see where things go. But a lot of what we have experienced are couples who are more comfortable with going straight to the hardcore. Which is great for those that are comfortable with that. But we felt a little left out in the cold in the couple meet and greets we went to. We got the vibe that if we were not ready to just jump to it, we were not worth wasting time on. Again, we don't fault those couples for want the quick reward. We know we are the odd ones out in this lifestyle. But we still want to have fun, just maybe not the same level of fun yet.
Thank you for posting this so we know we are not alone.
Thank you for posting this so we know we are not alone.
Utahldscouple wrote:
Here. We definitely feel out of place for so many reasons
But it looks like you two soft swap, right? Without that even, we really feel out of place here.
Canvas,
It sounds like you and your wife are not quite on the same page yet, which is quite normal at the beginning of exploring the Lifestyle. You are looking for friendships with those who are in a similar situation. That's a good idea, but be prepared that even those friendships may be fleeting as the chemistry or level of comfort may still be different.
At the beginning of our lifestyle journey, my wife and I were just as you are today, (I was also at a different level as my wife too). TheFunCouple offers excellent advice on going to meet & greets. I also add that you might want to check out a place like Sea Mountain Inn in Palm Springs. There you can see how comfortable it is to be nude in front of others and witness all the different levels of the lifestyle. You will have opportunities to talk to others and learn more. There is no pressure to play. Plus, you will be out of Utah and away from people who might recognize you.
If you are adventurous enough, maybe plan a vacation to Temptations Resort in Mexico. This resort is not truly a lifestyle resort but is a lifestyle friendly resort since so many non swingers go there. It still is a sexually charged resort. You will meet a lot of people who are similar to you there and you have a whole week to be relaxed, get into vacation mode, and explore your steps into the lifestyle together without judgement or pressure.
It sounds like you and your wife are not quite on the same page yet, which is quite normal at the beginning of exploring the Lifestyle. You are looking for friendships with those who are in a similar situation. That's a good idea, but be prepared that even those friendships may be fleeting as the chemistry or level of comfort may still be different.
At the beginning of our lifestyle journey, my wife and I were just as you are today, (I was also at a different level as my wife too). TheFunCouple offers excellent advice on going to meet & greets. I also add that you might want to check out a place like Sea Mountain Inn in Palm Springs. There you can see how comfortable it is to be nude in front of others and witness all the different levels of the lifestyle. You will have opportunities to talk to others and learn more. There is no pressure to play. Plus, you will be out of Utah and away from people who might recognize you.
If you are adventurous enough, maybe plan a vacation to Temptations Resort in Mexico. This resort is not truly a lifestyle resort but is a lifestyle friendly resort since so many non swingers go there. It still is a sexually charged resort. You will meet a lot of people who are similar to you there and you have a whole week to be relaxed, get into vacation mode, and explore your steps into the lifestyle together without judgement or pressure.
PARTYINLV wrote:
Canvas,
It sounds like you and your wife are not quite on the same page yet, which is quite normal at the beginning of exploring the Lifestyle. You are looking for friendships with those who are in a similar situation. That's a good idea, but be prepared that even those friendships may be fleeting as the chemistry or level of comfort may still be different.
At the beginning of our lifestyle journey, my wife and I were just as you are today, (I was also at a different level as my wife too). TheFunCouple offers excellent advice on going to meet & greets. I also add that you might want to check out a place like Sea Mountain Inn in Palm Springs. There you can see how comfortable it is to be nude in front of others and witness all the different levels of the lifestyle. You will have opportunities to talk to others and learn more. There is no pressure to play. Plus, you will be out of Utah and away from people who might recognize you.
If you are adventurous enough, maybe plan a vacation to Temptations Resort in Mexico. This resort is not truly a lifestyle resort but is a lifestyle friendly resort since so many non swingers go there. It still is a sexually charged resort. You will meet a lot of people who are similar to you there and you have a whole week to be relaxed, get into vacation mode, and explore your steps into the lifestyle together without judgement or pressure.
Thanks. I'm totally fine with my wife not wanting to be with another man. And she's ok with me being comfortable with another woman. So, not being on the same page doesn't cause issues as much as it adds to the challenges.
Any way, I completely agree with you and TheFunCouple about meeting people in person, going to meet-and-greets, etc. That would be the best way to meet and get a feel for people. Two problems with that for us though: 1) We live in Podunk i.e., a long ways from Lifestyle events and 2) neither of us likes parties or any sort of large social gatherings. We're not hermits or socially awkward. It's just not our thing.
I appreciate your post as well as the others.👍
I'm much more comfortable taking things slow and easy !
We enjoy anything from just watching or being watched, or both at the same time, or soft swap to full swap. Obviously, it’s wrong and no fun at all for anyone with a healthy mind to try and pressure anyone to do anything they don’t want to do or feel comfortable doing.
Slow and steady is definitely our jam. This is a good thread bc, quite frankly, the assumption that everyone here wants to fuck strangers every weekend makes newbies very hesitant. It's good to see that a good number on here (perhaps a majority?) want good friends and the ability to push boundaries without going from 0 to 100 all at once.
Thanks, everyone! Nice to know there are others with similar thoughts. Makes my curious mind wonder how many friends, acquaintances, and people in general we cross paths with day in and day out who fantasize about similar things. Damn! If only I could read minds.....
We throughly enjoy soft swap, we'd definitely be interested in meeting up with a bunch of other soft swap couples.
This is us too. We want more of the friendship and hanging out with like minded people. We don't really want to full swap, just enjoy the company of another couple.
Let’s face it, sex is fun and very intimate with the right person. However for us, for the short time we’ve been in the lifestyle (1 year) we have learned that the best part of the lifestyle is meeting like minded friends.
We enjoy dinner and drinks and getting to know people. And if everything clicks and you can tell there is chemistry amongst everyone, let’s do a little flirting, touching, teasing, and and possibly kissing.
That can get somebody all horned up and then you can go have a great passionate sex night with your own partner. For us, the excitement comes from the chase and the potential of something new without expecting to go have sex with a stranger. Just our .02.
So if there other couples that get out to the Idaho Falls area, look us up. let’s share some Drinks and laughs.
We enjoy dinner and drinks and getting to know people. And if everything clicks and you can tell there is chemistry amongst everyone, let’s do a little flirting, touching, teasing, and and possibly kissing.
That can get somebody all horned up and then you can go have a great passionate sex night with your own partner. For us, the excitement comes from the chase and the potential of something new without expecting to go have sex with a stranger. Just our .02.
So if there other couples that get out to the Idaho Falls area, look us up. let’s share some Drinks and laughs.
Thank you so much for this thread!
We too are seeking fun sexy friends! Wanting to enjoy some good laughter about adult topics🤣
We enjoy meeting for dinner and drinks, so fun to hear each other's sexy stories and experiences!
We like things slow, no hurry to mess anything up!
We have reached out to a few of you in this thread as it sounds like we all could enjoy some fun conversations👍🏻
If anyone else wants to meet up with us, chat, dinner, we are enjoying the slower life pace as we are kinda retired.
Thanks again for the great thread!
We too are seeking fun sexy friends! Wanting to enjoy some good laughter about adult topics🤣
We enjoy meeting for dinner and drinks, so fun to hear each other's sexy stories and experiences!
We like things slow, no hurry to mess anything up!
We have reached out to a few of you in this thread as it sounds like we all could enjoy some fun conversations👍🏻
If anyone else wants to meet up with us, chat, dinner, we are enjoying the slower life pace as we are kinda retired.
Thanks again for the great thread!
UTGolf wrote:cj13888 wrote:
We also enjoy the softer side of the lifestyle. Just getting to know people and their journey's in life is amazing. There is usually some sexual tension in all those types of meetings which we like. We are open to most things as long as everyone is comfortable but also have no expectations for more than people would want.
We're just getting started but I think the sexual tension can be a lot of fun too. How do you normally start things. Just with messages on here and see where things go? Is it bad if we don't have a lot of pictures? My wife is concerned with too many pictures on here so I'm honoring her concern. Being both in professional fields I do understand the concern but worry we'll miss out on meeting a lot of great, fun couples.
If you see a profile that matches many of the things you are interested in, send a message (not a friend request) try to have good messages back and forth to see if there is enough of an interest to meet up for dinner or drinks. Then if you hit it off, go dancing or play some games where there can be a little flirting. That will get all of you excited without going to far. Just our opinion.
As far as photos go, we completely understand. However, we think it is beneficial to have at least a few photos of you. With that said, we do not like face photos in the general section just so that SNOOPERS, or locals can rat you out. Also, there are many photo collectors on these sites. Just be careful who you give access to, and you will be fine.
Best wishes.
UTGolf wrote:cj13888 wrote:
We also enjoy the softer side of the lifestyle. Just getting to know people and their journey's in life is amazing. There is usually some sexual tension in all those types of meetings which we like. We are open to most things as long as everyone is comfortable but also have no expectations for more than people would want.
Is it bad if we don't have a lot of pictures? My wife is concerned with too many pictures on here so I'm honoring her concern. Being both in professional fields I do understand the concern but worry we'll miss out on meeting a lot of great, fun couples.
We totally understand with the pic thing. We only have face shots in our private album and we normally don't accept friend requests until getting to know people fairly well first.
I'd recommend adding more pics to your public album. Not face pics, but pics of you two doing things you enjoy, some body shots if you're comfortable. Doesn't have to be raunchy. Just give people something to go off from. Showcase your best assets, ie, if your wife has a nice tush, add a pic. Have fun with it.
UTGolf wrote:It's not bad not having a ton of pictures but having some pictures that you can get an ideal of the overall look goes a long way. We personally won't meet anyone without face pictures at some point. We feel the lifestyle is full of beautiful bodies and not so many beautiful facescj13888 wrote:
We also enjoy the softer side of the lifestyle. Just getting to know people and their journey's in life is amazing. There is usually some sexual tension in all those types of meetings which we like. We are open to most things as long as everyone is comfortable but also have no expectations for more than people would want.
We're just getting started but I think the sexual tension can be a lot of fun too. How do you normally start things. Just with messages on here and see where things go? Is it bad if we don't have a lot of pictures? My wife is concerned with too many pictures on here so I'm honoring her concern. Being both in professional fields I do understand the concern but worry we'll miss out on meeting a lot of great, fun couples.
!Don't get us wrong. We very much enjoy the softer side sometimes as well, but occasionally, depending on the particular dynamic/mood/situation with a given couple, soft-swap can be a little like going to a big sumptuous buffet and only getting salad. 
EVILDOERS wrote:Some people could use more salad and less buffet
Don't get us wrong. We very much enjoy the softer side sometimes as well, but occasionally, depending on the particular dynamic/mood/situation with a given couple, soft-swap can be a little like going to a big sumptuous buffet and only getting salad.
. Just saying...Maleficient wrote:So true! That and profiles with just pictures of one half of the couple (makes us think the other half is not shown for a reason)😂!
ROTFL 🤣
“We feel the lifestyle is full of beautiful bodies and not so many beautiful faces
OMG yes. 😶
It is nice to know we are not alone. Hubby is more open to things than I am. We have dabbled in mfm scenarios but I have yet to feel comfortable enough to share him. I would love to meet some female friends that I can connect with and talk about this lifestyle. We are looking for adult friends we can hang out with first. Then if and when we are comfortable we’d love for a sexy scenario to unfold naturally.
Yes, slooooow and easy ~ ~ ~
We just go with the flow if its soft swap we are cool with it full swap is just extra if it gets there 
Hi. How are you guys doing? So we are new to this as well and have the feelings we are interested in soft swap or maybe even just same room sex. Friends would be awesome. And if nothing happens worse case scenario you made new friends.
Hey yes
EasyLook wrote:
We enjoy soft swap and welcome anyone who does to contact us. We would love new friends.
Hmmm 🤔 - looking at your profile no pics. Listed as single female…. States you are a couple. What is one to believe?
we are considerate and make it comfortable for the other couple or singles, always looking for a new experiences and meet new people
We are always interested in the softer side. We've been at this for a while and enjoy meeting new people. If you're new to the lifestyle and just want to take it slow - we're good with that. If you've been at it for a while and just don't want to do more, we're good with that too. What's most important to us is that you enjoy the time that you're spending with us.
Starlights wrote:Nakkidfun wrote:
Hmmm 🤔 - looking at your profile no pics. Listed as single female…. States you are a couple. What is one to believe?
We sometimes wonder how these types of profiles ever manage to get any attention from anyone. If at all.
In our opinion your profile represents you and what you’re looking for. Step up your profiles people 🤦🏽♂️
Our feelings to a T! Profiles are the way to get a first impression...to get something of a feel. One profile pic doesn't allow others to get much of a sense...and sometimes none at all, depending on the pic. The same can be said for the "about us" and "what we're looking for" sections. One or two sentences doesn't tell the viewer much. For us, these sort of scant profiles immediately get dismissed. A bummer as some good connections could be lost. But...
Rant out. We sure have appreciated the responses here. Happy Friday and have a great weekend, everyone!
We're soft all over (lol) . . . and . . . we like ALL the different kinds of play.
We are definitely interested in the softer side as well in fact we would be perfectly happy finding people to be just friends with..
SweettAndH wrote:
We're soft all over (lol) . . . and . . . we like ALL the different kinds of play.
😳 soft all over…. Hopefully not everything is always soft🤔! 😂😂😂
We like it all
Nakkidfun wrote:
😳 soft all over…. Hopefully not everything is always soft🤔! 😂😂😂
Definitely NOT! (lol)
We can almost second that exactly!
We are just jumping into this LS together. Limited, but great experiences, looking for more 🤩
An observation we've made, from some who have contacted us, and in this and similar threads... and in looking at random profiles: Some have the "full swap" box checked in their profiles yet say they are not a "full swap" couple. It's a discrepancy, how ever small, that can create a little confusion...if not cause the warning light to flicker. We're betting there's a perfectly good explanation behind most. However, if there's no clear explanation in writing, then the reader is left to wonder.🤔
Again, just an observation, and something that others may want to consider.😀 We've enjoyed all the posts. Keep'em coming!
Again, just an observation, and something that others may want to consider.😀 We've enjoyed all the posts. Keep'em coming!
Canvas wrote:We find a lot of people don’t even look at those. Would be curious what the default is? Because many don’t change or update things. We just recently updated and changed a few things as we all evolve in the LS. We have met a couple that went from being a full swap couple to being soft swap only. So maybe it’s them?
An observation we've made, from some who have contacted us, and in this and similar threads... and in looking at random profiles: Some have the "full swap" box checked in their profiles yet say they are not a "full swap" couple. It's a discrepancy, how ever small, that can create a little confusion...if not cause the warning light to flicker. We're betting there's a perfectly good explanation behind most. However, if there's no clear explanation in writing, then the reader is left to wonder.🤔
Again, just an observation, and something that others may want to consider.😀 We've enjoyed all the posts. Keep'em coming!
I agree with Utahldscouple, I don't think a lot of people read the profiles. No matter, it's easy to set them straight - or ignore them. Everyone makes mistakes.
And Utahldscouple is also right about a lot of people not updating their profile. I'm guilty. We were relatively inactive for a while so didn't bother. Now we're sticking a toe in the water so I've updated our profile. But, this is a good prompt to go back through it again to see what's changed.
And Utahldscouple is also right about a lot of people not updating their profile. I'm guilty. We were relatively inactive for a while so didn't bother. Now we're sticking a toe in the water so I've updated our profile. But, this is a good prompt to go back through it again to see what's changed.
I'm much more comfortable with slooow, comfy and soft play ~ ~ ~
We're up for it also .
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