I've been seeing quite a few posts hating on people who send out blind friend requests. Maybe we've just been on dating apps like Tinder for too long, but to us, it feels like the most straight-forward way to make a connection with someone, communicate at least a surface-level interest, and open the way for future meet-ups.
Given the current Covid situation, it seems like the stars may need to really align for an in-person hangout, so is a friend request a bad option?
Do you guys want messages from people you've never signaled interest to? What the best way someone might reach out to you?
Given the current Covid situation, it seems like the stars may need to really align for an in-person hangout, so is a friend request a bad option?
Do you guys want messages from people you've never signaled interest to? What the best way someone might reach out to you?
Blind friend requests are deleted. At least send a message saying hi and introducing yourself. Just my opinion
If you send a message introducing yourself, isn't that basically just doing exactly the same thing a profile bio does? And isn't sending the request basically a way of saying "hi"?
We like a Kik, easier to have a conversation that way. Mivyfun2
I feel like a nice message is the best ice breaker. Then if you share interests, follow up with friend request. That's just me.
GetSomeItsGot wrote:
If you send a message introducing yourself, isn't that basically just doing exactly the same thing a profile bio does? And isn't sending the request basically a way of saying "hi"?
I think a message indicates specific interest in that person/couple and a desire to see if you have more in common. It lets them know that you read their profile and found them interesting and attractive. Then the ball is in their court to see if they also find you interesting and attractive. If they do, they can message you back, or rend a friend request.
GetSomeItsGot wrote:
If you send a message introducing yourself, isn't that basically just doing exactly the same thing a profile bio does? And isn't sending the request basically a way of saying "hi"?
Then don’t send a message. You asked a question and we answered.
Can't speak for anyone else . . . but we generally do not accept blind friend requests. We just get too many of them and accepting them means they have access to ALL of our pics. Having said that - we are not paranoid either and we love to meet new couples.
When we receive a short and nice email that just tells us something about why they liked from our profile (that's not asking too much is it) that shows us they actually read our profile . . . and we will gladly accept the request.
If we haven't heard from someone for a while and it appears unlikely we will meet you in person anytime soon - we also clear out our friends list fairly often. This doesn't mean we don't like you and it doesn't mean we don't want to be friends . . . we would just rather not have our pics out there with people who have no intention of meeting us or connecting with us anywhere in person. We also prefer the first contact be through this or another LS website. We are happy to exchange better contact info if/when we are setting up a dinner, drinks or other meet.
We are always interested to hear what others do - but that is how we roll.
When we receive a short and nice email that just tells us something about why they liked from our profile (that's not asking too much is it) that shows us they actually read our profile . . . and we will gladly accept the request.
If we haven't heard from someone for a while and it appears unlikely we will meet you in person anytime soon - we also clear out our friends list fairly often. This doesn't mean we don't like you and it doesn't mean we don't want to be friends . . . we would just rather not have our pics out there with people who have no intention of meeting us or connecting with us anywhere in person. We also prefer the first contact be through this or another LS website. We are happy to exchange better contact info if/when we are setting up a dinner, drinks or other meet.
We are always interested to hear what others do - but that is how we roll.
Love when someone asks a question and then argues your answer lol.
Dude is a pic collector
Dude is a pic collector
TheFunCouple wrote:same here
There are a lot of picture collectors on this site. Sending a message shows actual interest. We get 3-5 friend requests a day with no message. Those go straight to the denied pile.
Those that only send a friend request USUALLY have no interest in dialog. All they want is sexy photos. If swingular had an option to be friends without seeing all our sexy photos before we wanted them too, I would be friends with them. just my .02
hyfax1 wrote:
same here
Those that only send a friend request USUALLY have no interest in dialog. All they want is sexy photos. If swingular had an option to be friends without seeing all our sexy photos before we wanted them too, I would be friends with them. just my .02
There is an option to make your private pics private...or friends only. We haven’t played with it but we haven’t needed to.
New rule might be to delete and block
SweettAndH wrote:
Can't speak for anyone else . . . but we generally do not accept blind friend requests. We just get too many of them and accepting them means they have access to ALL of our pics. Having said that - we are not paranoid either and we love to meet new couples.
When we receive a short and nice email that just tells us something about why they liked from our profile (that's not asking too much is it) that shows us they actually read our profile . . . and we will gladly accept the request.
If we haven't heard from someone for a while and it appears unlikely we will meet you in person anytime soon - we also clear out our friends list fairly often. This doesn't mean we don't like you and it doesn't mean we don't want to be friends . . . we would just rather not have our pics out there with people who have no intention of meeting us or connecting with us anywhere in person. We also prefer the first contact be through this or another LS website. We are happy to exchange better contact info if/when we are setting up a dinner, drinks or other meet.
We are always interested to hear what others do - but that is how we roll.
WELL said. this is us to a "T" we do want to meet people, but unfortunately there are many fake profiles that have no intentions of dialog or meeting up.
We have no issues with blind friend request but do think a quick intro is nice. They need a wink functionality 😉!
We don't mind friend request, messages or likes. As long as people are cool then it doesn't matter. I mean we can delete friends if things get weird.
An introductory email. KIK seems to be the simplest and most direct for coordinating a date or sharing pictures. The very best is face to face! 😉
KRFunCouple wrote:
Love when someone asks a question and then argues your answer lol.
Dude is a pic collector
That's called a discussion. It's what forums are for.
I rarely accept a friend request without some message. I don't find accepting does anything other than give them access to my nudes. It doesn't lead to dates, meeting, convo etc. Plus I'm specific about what I'm looking for and those who just send a rando friend request rarely took the time to read my profile and I end up just deleting them anyway as they dont meet my criteria. It feels lazy. 🤷♀️
I also prefer to keep contact here until I'm ready to meet or we've met in person previously. I try to limit the info I have avail online. Stalkers and hungry asshats have ruined it for the rest of us.
I also prefer to keep contact here until I'm ready to meet or we've met in person previously. I try to limit the info I have avail online. Stalkers and hungry asshats have ruined it for the rest of us.
We actually prefer to meet at a party, or some other event. Doesn't mean we don't enjoy meeting folks here. Here we prefer a little bit of a introduction with the request, as well. Our profile states that, as well as that we are not too interested in single males. We'd kind of like to know you were at least interested enough in us to read it. Unlike many on here we don't get bunches of friend requests. We're too old, too big...whatever, so we do tend to gamble once in awhile with blind requests. Some even work out well.
Usually when we get one we invite them to one of our parties here to get to know them a bit. That way if it doesn't work out...maybe they can meet someone here that does work! Unfortunately, Covid still has those parties on hold for us. Hopefully the friend requests we've accepted will still be interested in meeting us when things improve. Apologies to those people! We still want to meet you all!
Usually when we get one we invite them to one of our parties here to get to know them a bit. That way if it doesn't work out...maybe they can meet someone here that does work! Unfortunately, Covid still has those parties on hold for us. Hopefully the friend requests we've accepted will still be interested in meeting us when things improve. Apologies to those people! We still want to meet you all!
Im all ears, definitely curious cause im guilty of all three forms of attempting to say hello.
Great conversation and topic.
We share a fair amount about us in our profile. Including we don’t accept friend requests without a note. If we get a note, we always respond to them.
When we get a blind friend request we read the profile. If it is obvious they are only interested in pics, have only 1 pic, super young or similar, we will simply delete.
If they look like a couple we may be interested in we’ll send them a a message thanking them for the FR and ask them why they want to connect. Maybe 10% of people respond. If they don’t respond, delete!
The funniest response I got was “so I have more pics to jerk off to”.......
We will always send a note to a couple and essentially say hi, we’re interested in you. Take a look at our profile and if interested send us a FR.
Seems to work lol!
We share a fair amount about us in our profile. Including we don’t accept friend requests without a note. If we get a note, we always respond to them.
When we get a blind friend request we read the profile. If it is obvious they are only interested in pics, have only 1 pic, super young or similar, we will simply delete.
If they look like a couple we may be interested in we’ll send them a a message thanking them for the FR and ask them why they want to connect. Maybe 10% of people respond. If they don’t respond, delete!
The funniest response I got was “so I have more pics to jerk off to”.......
We will always send a note to a couple and essentially say hi, we’re interested in you. Take a look at our profile and if interested send us a FR.
Seems to work lol!
We prefer an introduction along with a friend request 😊
The problem we have with blind friend requests is that it gives us nothing to go on. Is it the male interested in our female half, or the female interested in the male half, or something else? Are both partners on the same page? And since we are an elderly couple, we want to know if age is an issue, what attracts you to us, what we might have in common, etc. Is the request because you are interested in us, or are you just sending out mass requests? Are you actually interested in getting to know us, or do you just want to look at the private photos? Lack of clarity on all of these issues makes it difficult for us to decide how to respond.
Furthermore, what is the point of a friend request if you have never interacted? A message is a better way of indicating interest, and is more likely to garner a meaningful response. Then, as interest mutually builds, you can add each other as friends.
Furthermore, what is the point of a friend request if you have never interacted? A message is a better way of indicating interest, and is more likely to garner a meaningful response. Then, as interest mutually builds, you can add each other as friends.
We don't sweat anything, this site nor any other swinger site are to be taken too seriously since no one here takes hardly anyone seriously. Even the most good looking, genuine, generous, giving, experienced couples or ladies get ghosted or lied to often by other couples and even get stood up by single males. We have to admit we are guilty of ghosting couples too. So, this is just a tool to meet potential friends but is more like panning for gold. Needless to say we have waaaaaaayy more success on other sites. As a matter of fact, we have more success on free sites than here. But, we already paid for the lifetime membership long time ago so mind as well get something out of it lol. But we welcome any forms of contact from anyone except single males which we just ignore unless it contributes to our amusement.
Yup, house parties are great venues to meet couples people as well. And, everybody is already there so no need to play silly games. We always ask if single males are allowed. With the closures of major swinger clubs here in SoCal, some private-for-profit house party venues are making a killing. They allow very limited number of single males. Last one we attended was $30 cpls, $80 single males (damn!), ladies free. Still had super low single male ratio which was great. Most were just silently sitting around silently watching couples mingle and have an awesome time.
TIFFND wrote:
We actually prefer to meet at a party, or some other event. Doesn't mean we don't enjoy meeting folks here. Here we prefer a little bit of a introduction with the request, as well. Our profile states that, as well as that we are not too interested in single males. We'd kind of like to know you were at least interested enough in us to read it. Unlike many on here we don't get bunches of friend requests. We're too old, too big...whatever, so we do tend to gamble once in awhile with blind requests. Some even work out well.
Usually when we get one we invite them to one of our parties here to get to know them a bit. That way if it doesn't work out...maybe they can meet someone here that does work! Unfortunately, Covid still has those parties on hold for us. Hopefully the friend requests we've accepted will still be interested in meeting us when things improve. Apologies to those people! We still want to meet you all!
Yup, house parties are great venues to meet couples people as well. And, everybody is already there so no need to play silly games. We always ask if single males are allowed. With the closures of major swinger clubs here in SoCal, some private-for-profit house party venues are making a killing. They allow very limited number of single males. Last one we attended was $30 cpls, $80 single males (damn!), ladies free. Still had super low single male ratio which was great. Most were just silently sitting around silently watching couples mingle and have an awesome time.
Most people have pics for the public. You can usually tell if you want to chat them or have any interest in them. To us, a blind friend request means your just lurking and just want more pics to jerk off to. If you wanted to chat or get to know us or hang with us, then say hi. Blind friend requests are super annoying and blows my mind people either can't read or are too fucking stupid when they read the only thing in your profile that says no blind friend requests, and they send you a blind friend request.
COUPLE801801 wrote:
Most people have pics for the public. You can usually tell if you want to chat them or have any interest in them. To us, a blind friend request means your just lurking and just want more pics to jerk off to. If you wanted to chat or get to know us or hang with us, then say hi. Blind friend requests are super annoying and blows my mind people either can't read or are too fucking stupid when they read the only thing in your profile that says no blind friend requests, and they send you a blind friend request.
Very Trueee! Lots of lurkers and picture collectors. Never understood why they wanna collect ours when the internet is full of dirty pictures. Out pictures are there so potential friends see what we are all about and how we look like. They are not a porn show.
We are ok with any form of communication but we can usually see and respond quicker through kik.