After our last encounter (he is not on Swingular), my wife and I were chatting about how we might be unusual in our expectations, so I thought I would put it out here.
I am sure it depends on the other person/couple, but we mostly want to end things pretty quickly. That is easier when we are not hosting, though it could make it look like we didn't have a good time. When we are hosting it is an entirely different issue, as we don't want to shove them out the door.
After the sex is done and everyone is clothed, how long would you like to sit there and chat? Would you think it rude if pre meetup your partner were to set a time "we would like you to leave within 10 minutes after"
I am sure it depends on the other person/couple, but we mostly want to end things pretty quickly. That is easier when we are not hosting, though it could make it look like we didn't have a good time. When we are hosting it is an entirely different issue, as we don't want to shove them out the door.
After the sex is done and everyone is clothed, how long would you like to sit there and chat? Would you think it rude if pre meetup your partner were to set a time "we would like you to leave within 10 minutes after"
When we were new and doing MFM stuff it was normal for the guy to get dressed and go so we could enjoy eachother after. Especially in Utah, it was like they sinned and couldn’t wait to leave (then they would get home and jerk off 4 more time from how erotic it was, and share it all with the wife).
Then we went to Germany and it is normal for them to play, chat, play, chat, play. You basically have to kick them out when you’re ready. But we had some experience so we honestly both loved it. The people that joined us were super nice, excited, and very genuine.
But if you are hosting,especially single males, it’s your rules. It is not considered rude to tell them prior it’s a fuck and go situation. When they host we do tell them up front we both do this to add spice and the after sex, so if we are comfortable your gonna have to watch or we may leave soon after. Most of the single guys that have gotten a room went a couple rounds then left us there to stay. Kinda depends if you don’t host, but it should always be what you are she is comfortable with.
Then we went to Germany and it is normal for them to play, chat, play, chat, play. You basically have to kick them out when you’re ready. But we had some experience so we honestly both loved it. The people that joined us were super nice, excited, and very genuine.
But if you are hosting,especially single males, it’s your rules. It is not considered rude to tell them prior it’s a fuck and go situation. When they host we do tell them up front we both do this to add spice and the after sex, so if we are comfortable your gonna have to watch or we may leave soon after. Most of the single guys that have gotten a room went a couple rounds then left us there to stay. Kinda depends if you don’t host, but it should always be what you are she is comfortable with.
Setting expectations beforehand isn't a bad thing just have the conversation. Makes it easier when it is time. Each experience and couple is different. If you would like them to leave it's completely fine. And if afterwards you decide you want them to stay longer you can ask them to stay longer. We have found some like to do their thing and leave as well so it's a two way street. The key is communication and expectations, set them beforehand 
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!With our MFM’s, we just let them know before hand they won’t be spending the night, if we don’t want him to of course. They’ll know when it’s time to bail and if not, just ask and they’ll accommodate.
Good question. It does seem to vary a lot. I (male half) tend to not want to mill around too much, (although I do want to make connections) but at a recent small event the host was clearly disappointed people were leaving. I'd say if you're planning the event...just like in a vanilla situation make sure you communicate a time it will end. If you're not hosting...just do what works for you and make sure you communicate. I have been offered a place to sleep, and I'm like "oh...I've only got a couple hours". It just runs the gamut. Some people are in to really connecting and going camping, sporting events, etc. Others are just looking to spice up their sex lives. Just keep looking and you'll find the right people. I'd love to chat more if you're interested. We seem to be on same page!
I’ve experienced both as well when I’ve played solo. Most couples will say upfront “after we’re done we would like our alone time if that’s okay?” I don’t think anyone would be insulted. I have also experienced where everyone is more comfortable hanging around and talking about how great it was, and maybe have a second and third round.
Anytime I have done Hot Wife play the couples have always wanted to have their alone time. Either way it should be what everyone wants and no feelings hurt. Good luck!
Anytime I have done Hot Wife play the couples have always wanted to have their alone time. Either way it should be what everyone wants and no feelings hurt. Good luck!
It’s been a topic ...
We’ve tried to make sure everyone is “ in the know” at all times... same convo with limits. Set expectations up front and schedule a 2nd date if you want 😉 ...
We’ve tried to make sure everyone is “ in the know” at all times... same convo with limits. Set expectations up front and schedule a 2nd date if you want 😉 ...
Since we don't do much with single guys we don't know the protocol. With couples we enjoy naked conversation afterwards. We also enjoy a second romp during the evening when everyone is up for it. We kinda go with the flow and while I'm sure we have misjudged situations no one seemed to care very much. This particular circumstance should never be a contributor for drama when hooking up.
Leave after we all fuck
Thanks all for your responses! It is interesting seeing other people's preferences.