We have an encounters post up and are out having a good time and when I check back in with the responses, this is one of them that came through. I have no idea what this is about. It’s gross and I will sit back and wait for the user responsible to come forward with whatever was said that said we only play with white people... talk about ruining the mood... that’s how you open a conversation!? Are we even the same couple you’re referring to? You should be ashamed. Prove it that something like that was ever said and I will eat my words happily. This behavior cannot be tolerated in this community. It makes newer people like us unsure if we even want to be here. It’s uncomfortable. Cant s person say no without being a racist...? Fucking hell.
Not to mention that’s if we even said no in the first place, maybe we got busy? Maybe life happens? Who knows, maybe you’re more aware of your own color than other people will ever be and you want to pull that card out every time you get a chance. I don’t get it anymore. No time for you’re type of attitude. I bet you would have been a ton of fun to conversate and play with. 🤮
You seem extra sensitive.
Perhaps. Cant say it hasn’t happened before. But I feel like it’s a pretty inappropriate conversation to be having in today’s world when you introduce yourself in that manner.
We all seem to have judgments. I/We don't like single men, bi sexuals, anal sex, heavy peeps, bald, nope...to tall...could go on and on about judgments! We get to have personal choice...I dislike myself having judgments and as hard as I try to remove them darn it I still have some. It doesn't mean when I judge someone they are less than...it's Me that's less than when I judge...just Love Us anyway, huh?
Really well put... thank you.
agreed with arousing times. Skin color is no issue with us (even though there's a lack of POC in the lifestyle and of course even more so in our demographic area). We will discriminate on appearances and attitude unrelated to skin color whether it's heavyset, rude, or just single males posing as couples. We're here to get to know people and have fun in whatever way we decide whether friendships or sexy time.
We haven’t experienced racism from LS couples yet not saying it’s not happening just think and hope it’s a one off, they’d be missing out if they didn’t like us cause we’re Latino 😊 you guys look really hot btw HMU(HUU🤷🏽♂️)don’t know if that’s the right abbreviation for couples 😂
Thank you for your response and support. See you in the DM’s. ❤️
Is it also racist when a profile says "BBC only"?
Attraction is attraction and you guys play with whomever you want. We had exchanges with couples who prefer to play with white couples for religious reasons. And that's perfectly ok! We are Latinos and prefer white or Latino couples for ourselves but are open to hear from anyone. The wife says she does not see herself with an Asian guy, I do not see myself with a black female. Those are just preferences. We do get plenty of attention from white and Latino couples in our area. We do not play with single males. Does that makes us racists now?
Who gives a shit if you dont like playing with a black person? Attraction is attraction, looks,weight,height,race,political views, hygiene,age....I could keep going.Why should somebody dictate who you decide to have sex with? When can anybody decide someone elses preferences for them? You dont have to justify your decision, but to pull the race card in the swinger community, well you just did the most desperate "I cant get laid" act imaginable. People in the lifestyle are all about pleasure and attraction, so who ITF this person thinks they are to try and justify why somebody, apparently did not want to do them. Newsflash, it has nothing to do with being black but everything to do with you being an ASSHOLE! BTW, can you imagine any possibility this happening in person and them being rejected and then say "Oh its because Im black!"
Thank you everyone for your responses. I was so frustrated that night, I usually let things go pretty well.... I couldn’t for this one. Just outraged. Such a ridiculous thing to have happen. Thank you for making me feel better, thank you for the support ❤️.
That's racial fetishization. If it's a consensual kink for all involved, great. But approaching black men unsolicited for this is racist. So is trans fetishization. Do not approach a POC or a non-cis person unsolicited for your fantasies involving their race or gender identity, EVER. On here, we can list what we are and are not into (this site is horrifically queer and transphobic, but so are all swinger sites - that's a whole thesis there), so that gives you a good jumping off point.
Yes, any person/couple who says they "don't get down with brown" is racist and that shit should be reported. This is not true of people who don't want to play with white folks, because you cannot be racist against the dominant power class. Go do some googling and learn about that. Not gonna debate facts.
I'm not here to comment on an incident. I'm saying this all in general because I have seen it, and I've been targeted. I'm white, but a lot of people don't see me that way, so I get y'all "brown girl" fetish messages. It's no wonder people of color don't engage in these discussions. I see how you talk about bisexuality with your entrenched male homophobia. I see how disgustingly transphobic people are - this is NOT a safe space for anyone outside the binary.
Tbh, the white hetero narrative in the swinger scene is why I only log into these sites a couple of times a year. I check to see if anyone (or this site with its nasty langauge about gender and sexual identity) has evolved. But nope, y'all shedding white tears and kicking up a stink cause someone called out racist microagressions (again, go Google. I'm taking responsibility for my whiteness). It's trash.
I won't check this thread again, so don't bother trying to engage. Only ever hit me up if you dig this sign and get it.
Yes, any person/couple who says they "don't get down with brown" is racist and that shit should be reported. This is not true of people who don't want to play with white folks, because you cannot be racist against the dominant power class. Go do some googling and learn about that. Not gonna debate facts.
I'm not here to comment on an incident. I'm saying this all in general because I have seen it, and I've been targeted. I'm white, but a lot of people don't see me that way, so I get y'all "brown girl" fetish messages. It's no wonder people of color don't engage in these discussions. I see how you talk about bisexuality with your entrenched male homophobia. I see how disgustingly transphobic people are - this is NOT a safe space for anyone outside the binary.
Tbh, the white hetero narrative in the swinger scene is why I only log into these sites a couple of times a year. I check to see if anyone (or this site with its nasty langauge about gender and sexual identity) has evolved. But nope, y'all shedding white tears and kicking up a stink cause someone called out racist microagressions (again, go Google. I'm taking responsibility for my whiteness). It's trash.
I won't check this thread again, so don't bother trying to engage. Only ever hit me up if you dig this sign and get it.