Are there any single females or couples open to chatting with single males in Utah?
Oh fucking jeeeeze ... nope none, nada, nix, no lol. How many more of these identical single dude forum posts do we have to endure?
FYI to all you single guys ... there just aren’t any single women here looking for guys ... and next, when most of us couples want single guys we will find you. Maybe try Match.com ... just sayin lol
FYI to all you single guys ... there just aren’t any single women here looking for guys ... and next, when most of us couples want single guys we will find you. Maybe try Match.com ... just sayin lol
Wow, that’s pretty bitter. We have actually met some really great single guys from this site and enjoyed playing with them.
Same with us , but it’s a silly post on a swinger forum site. He needs to lift a lazy finger and actually do some work to meet those that are a good fit! Not bitter Karen, just factual!
Yeah we are not a commodity, more of a tool or utensil when needed. None the less. How you doing 🤣
There are single women on here who love meeting single guys🤗 I have been swinging many years and I find most single men on here adorable. So, for what it is worth....respect goes a long way. Putting other swingers in a category that doesn't fit for you, is less than classy. Nothing wrong with anyone here who wants, needs, and desires. It is good to have opinions. I just believe you may miss a super good time. With or without sex. Being Open minded is a great thing!
Are you looking for a a couple?
New couple here looking for any kind of fun if anyone is interested
Im single straight male") looking for couple's or single females,, or 2 bi female that will enjoy a male, lol
Alfonzo wrote:
Im single straight male") looking for couple's or single females,, or 2 bi female that will enjoy a male, lol
We're always looking for new friends, single guy is a plus. We have met several single guys, haven't had a bad experience. Some were way better then others. All have been respectful, gave effort to fit in and remained gentlemanly. Given a chance most singles are fun and worth the date. Good for you trying an available Avenue of approach.
Yes , there seems to be a lot of bias or non acceptance of single guys in the LS., at least here in utah, it seems. At one time all of us were single. There is no need to bash the single guys, just like its not right to bash single women in the LS. Be polite and respect full. You might be surprised who you meet that will exceed your expectations .
Thank you all for the support for single men,, that is awesome")
I really don’t think it was a bashing, just an opinion. We mostly play with singles. TBH we don’t give two fucks who we play with as long as there is attraction and we have fun.
That said, I think the bashing would be greatly reduced with some site changes. We are in some that you need a valid post count or other ways to validate yourself, before being able to post new threads. Or maybe have forum spots for single’s posts. While we do play mostly with singles, we are definitely tired of trial members sending friend requests or seeing posts of single guys looking for single women. There are sites for that, as that’s not swinging (sorry kitten) it’s called hooking up, so use tinder.
What people are gripping about is this is a swingers forum, you must be two people with trust in a relationship to actually swing, and they come here, a site they paid for, to see it crawling with singles posts. Some of the sexy pictures threads that have been going for years, still have comments by singles all over in them. I think they want to see the couples profiles here treated, or have more rights, than the singles. I’m not bashing anyone, in any way, it’s allowed so go for it. They just want the site rules different.
That said, I think the bashing would be greatly reduced with some site changes. We are in some that you need a valid post count or other ways to validate yourself, before being able to post new threads. Or maybe have forum spots for single’s posts. While we do play mostly with singles, we are definitely tired of trial members sending friend requests or seeing posts of single guys looking for single women. There are sites for that, as that’s not swinging (sorry kitten) it’s called hooking up, so use tinder.
What people are gripping about is this is a swingers forum, you must be two people with trust in a relationship to actually swing, and they come here, a site they paid for, to see it crawling with singles posts. Some of the sexy pictures threads that have been going for years, still have comments by singles all over in them. I think they want to see the couples profiles here treated, or have more rights, than the singles. I’m not bashing anyone, in any way, it’s allowed so go for it. They just want the site rules different.
Sm435 wrote:
I really don’t think it was a bashing, just an opinion. We mostly play with singles. TBH we don’t give two fucks who we play with as long as there is attraction and we have fun.
That said, I think the bashing would be greatly reduced with some site changes. We are in some that you need a valid post count or other ways to validate yourself, before being able to post new threads. Or maybe have forum spots for single’s posts. While we do play mostly with singles, we are definitely tired of trial members sending friend requests or seeing posts of single guys looking for single women. There are sites for that, as that’s not swinging (sorry kitten) it’s called hooking up, so use tinder.
What people are gripping about is this is a swingers forum, you must be two people with trust in a relationship to actually swing, and they come here, a site they paid for, to see it crawling with singles posts. Some of the sexy pictures threads that have been going for years, still have comments by singles all over in them. I think they want to see the couples profiles here treated, or have more rights, than the singles. I’m not bashing anyone, in any way, it’s allowed so go for it. They just want the site rules different.
I completely agree with you here. My girl is very new to all of this. We get a lot of messages from pushy single men.
I guess I need to look at my settings again, but it would make sense if you could turn off messages from certain groups. Something similar to POF in the beginnings. If you don’t meet age requirements, have pictures, or whatever it simply states you can’t message this user!
Sm435 wrote:
I really don’t think it was a bashing, just an opinion. We mostly play with singles. TBH we don’t give two fucks who we play with as long as there is attraction and we have fun.
That said, I think the bashing would be greatly reduced with some site changes. We are in some that you need a valid post count or other ways to validate yourself, before being able to post new threads. Or maybe have forum spots for single’s posts. While we do play mostly with singles, we are definitely tired of trial members sending friend requests or seeing posts of single guys looking for single women. There are sites for that, as that’s not swinging (sorry kitten) it’s called hooking up, so use tinder.
What people are gripping about is this is a swingers forum, you must be two people with trust in a relationship to actually swing, and they come here, a site they paid for, to see it crawling with singles posts. Some of the sexy pictures threads that have been going for years, still have comments by singles all over in them. I think they want to see the couples profiles here treated, or have more rights, than the singles. I’m not bashing anyone, in any way, it’s allowed so go for it. They just want the site rules different.
Very well said. Totally agree we also play with singles but trial members looking for single females gets old.
FunKinkyDuo wrote:
Same with us , but it’s a silly post on a swinger forum site. He needs to lift a lazy finger and actually do some work to meet those that are a good fit! Not bitter Karen, just factual!
So you just assume I'm not out there trying?
NaughtyAlder wrote:
we met a single guy last night!! and he was amazing!!
Sweet! Where did you meet him?
I think you typed in tinder snd swingular came up.
Swingular is for people who have a partner to share with another couple. It’s also known as swinging or “the lifestyle”.
If you are a single male there are bars and tinder snd even grinder for those so inclined. I hear backpage Eros guide and a lot of other sites work pretty good as well.
But coming to this site empty handed well that is sort of sad and to be honest I’d never come on a site like this as a single male around all these cock studs with hot wife’s with nothing to offer. See we all have ourselves to offer to one another wife’s and them to ours. It’s also known as a swap.
I showed my other half, yes the better half your profile snd she said not interested he isn’t in the lifestyle he is just a single male. Sorry young man.
Good luck on erosguide.
Swingular is for people who have a partner to share with another couple. It’s also known as swinging or “the lifestyle”.
If you are a single male there are bars and tinder snd even grinder for those so inclined. I hear backpage Eros guide and a lot of other sites work pretty good as well.
But coming to this site empty handed well that is sort of sad and to be honest I’d never come on a site like this as a single male around all these cock studs with hot wife’s with nothing to offer. See we all have ourselves to offer to one another wife’s and them to ours. It’s also known as a swap.
I showed my other half, yes the better half your profile snd she said not interested he isn’t in the lifestyle he is just a single male. Sorry young man.
Good luck on erosguide.
So single females are fine but not single males sounds pretty fucked
So right now on the top forum posts we have this one , a single guy trolling for couples and single women, a straight guy with a couple profile that now says he’s a bi male looking for another real bi male, another single guy post who is “hosting for 2 couples” lol, oh, and a fake female dom from Poland .... this is such a great swinger site !
FunKinkyDuo wrote:
So right now on the top forum posts we have this one , a single guy trolling for couples and single women, a straight guy with a couple profile that now says he’s a bi male looking for another real bi male, another single guy post who is “hosting for 2 couples” lol, oh, and a fake female dom from Poland .... this is such a great swinger site !
OK, so why is it trolling? How many members actually use the "search" function? Who else is he searching or advertising to but couples and single females? Posting is just a way for others on the site to possibly see their profile without going through the search feature.
It's not trolling, it's putting yourself out there to get noticed by someone who might really want to get to know you, if they only knew that you were here.
Sexy is on the inside as well as the outside. I'm learning to not only look at the profiles (as a resume) but to also look at the posts that members put out there before an attempted contact, because you can tell so much more from their posts than you can from their profiles. Kind of how employers look at social media as well as your resume to get a whole picture of who you really are.
I have not posted an "encounter or booty call" because I don't want the retribution from it. But from my posts, I've recieved a few friends requests, because I think they have a little insight into who I am. No matter how sexy the profile picture is or how well the profile is put together, if the comments they post are negative or demeaning, they're not worth my time.
I am who I am, single is what it is, I can't help where I am at the moment. Get to know me and you'll find out why. And for those who want admin to change things up for the singles here, that's fine. I'll be the loudest proponent for admin to take action against those who continue to bash, demean or degrade anyone or group on this site.
Officially off my soap box now.
Utscarter wrote:
OK, so why is it trolling? How many members actually use the "search" function? Who else is he searching or advertising to but couples and single females? Posting is just a way for others on the site to possibly see their profile without going through the search feature.
It's not trolling, it's putting yourself out there to get noticed by someone who might really want to get to know you, if they only knew that you were here.
Sexy is on the inside as well as the outside. I'm learning to not only look at the profiles (as a resume) but to also look at the posts that members put out there before an attempted contact, because you can tell so much more from their posts than you can from their profiles. Kind of how employers look at social media as well as your resume to get a whole picture of who you really are.
I have not posted an "encounter or booty call" because I don't want the retribution from it. But from my posts, I've recieved a few friends requests, because I think they have a little insight into who I am. No matter how sexy the profile picture is or how well the profile is put together, if the comments they post are negative or demeaning, they're not worth my time.
I am who I am, single is what it is, I can't help where I am at the moment. Get to know me and you'll find out why. And for those who want admin to change things up for the singles here, that's fine. I'll be the loudest proponent for admin to take action against those who continue to bash, demean or degrade anyone or group on this site.
Officially off my soap box now.
It is totally trolling lol ... and you’ve obviously missed my tongue in cheek point about this being a “swinger site” 🙄
COUPLE0318 wrote:
So single females are fine but not single males sounds pretty fucked
Because you can stick your head out your front door and yell for some singles guys, I’m sure you’ll find some enthusiastic volunteers.
These posts remind me of this whole political environment we find ourselves in right now. There are the ones who want to put down others who don't do it the way they think it should be done; there are those who say they are just making use of the technology while they just misuse the platform; there are those who want the site owners to censor individuals that they don't agree with; and then there are the ones who make statements about themselves and how respectful and great they are while many of us have attempted to interact with them and have seen how full of shit they really are.
There are some valid points to many of the posts here. In this case, single guys should make an effort and when given the chance they should be responsive and not think it's about them. But this is a swinger site and there are a lot of different interests and tastes, it isn't just about how YOU think it should be. Someone for everyone, right?
There, politically correct enough, flip flop enough, moderate enough, non-committal enough for everyone??
There are some valid points to many of the posts here. In this case, single guys should make an effort and when given the chance they should be responsive and not think it's about them. But this is a swinger site and there are a lot of different interests and tastes, it isn't just about how YOU think it should be. Someone for everyone, right?
There, politically correct enough, flip flop enough, moderate enough, non-committal enough for everyone??
Oh my heck .... I’ve realized others might have interpreted “trolling” as something different than the intent in my original point.
My analogy was quite literally to that of trolling for fish behind a boat ... throw out a lure, put the rod in a rod holder, grab a beer, kick back, check Swingular for messages, and lazily wait for the fish to do all the work lol 😂
My analogy was quite literally to that of trolling for fish behind a boat ... throw out a lure, put the rod in a rod holder, grab a beer, kick back, check Swingular for messages, and lazily wait for the fish to do all the work lol 😂
Funkinkyduo, I probably did miss that. In this age of txt and email, I lose a lot from not having the inflection that goes along with conversation. I read these in monotone, so I don't always get the tongue in cheek or sarcasm. I've always been one to stick up for others and myself. No harm is ever intended. I definitely consider myself a swinger and hope I'm lucky enough to find a woman who swings or will be open with it to grow old (older) with. The single world where most of the time I'm looked at as a paycheck first before anything else, is really old.
Thank you for your understanding.
Thank you for your understanding.
Hi I’m one of the guys that posted in the forums, and I’m not lazy I’m just not on the site a lot. I have pmed some couples but mostly replied and said I’m a little young which is fine I totally understand the only reason I post is to let people know who are looking for single males that I’d love to meet them, I can host so Incase they have kids or hectic lives where they can’t really do it that often I’m providing them with an opportunity. I understand some of the single guys on here can’t take a hint and ruin it for the rest of us, but I’ve also met some great couples on here who enjoyed my company as well. I’m not mad or frustrated people have different opinions and it’s ok I just thought the forum would be a good way to inform people. Anyways hope everyone is having a great day😊
To each their own, but these type of posts in the forums appear to be nothing more than a personal ad...as opposed to a topic of discussion. Perhaps it would be better to post something like this as a meetup or booty call.
It’s obvious to those of us that have been on this site for a while...that the single male "adnosium" has increased since Craigslist took down their personals section. That’s great for those looking for single males, but those that are not, well...now you might understand how they feel. They’re also tired of getting the “hey babe”, “what’s up” and “DTF” emails.
In any event...good luck to all.
It’s obvious to those of us that have been on this site for a while...that the single male "adnosium" has increased since Craigslist took down their personals section. That’s great for those looking for single males, but those that are not, well...now you might understand how they feel. They’re also tired of getting the “hey babe”, “what’s up” and “DTF” emails.
In any event...good luck to all.
Lets just all get together and make a movie....stay calm, fuck on..
We are new here and hoping to find a single bi top male for us to play with.
Ummm, swingers are single males, single females and couples with a wide range of play preferences.
Now we have single guys blocked because we are not really interested. Everyone on a swinger site should be allowed to participate with any and all willing partners. Bias against single men by name calling just is not a very attractive quality on a swinger site. We respect how others choose to play and show interest when we think there maybe a possibility.
Now we have single guys blocked because we are not really interested. Everyone on a swinger site should be allowed to participate with any and all willing partners. Bias against single men by name calling just is not a very attractive quality on a swinger site. We respect how others choose to play and show interest when we think there maybe a possibility.
If the husband of swinger couple uses his hall pass to play with another couple, is he " swinging or swapping"? This scenario is not swapping, but he is in the lifestyle.
If the husband of a swinger couple likes to set up gangbangs for his wife, are they "swinging or swapping"? No, but it's part of the lifestyle.
If a couple likes to have sex with their own spouse only, where other couples watch or play in a room with other couples that will only have sex with their own spouses only, are they "swinging or swapping"? Even though they don't play with a different spouse, they are in the lifestyle.
If a couple wants to have sex with a single female, are they "swinging or swapping "? No, but they are in the lifestyle.
Although the vast majority of our play is with swinger couples, we prefer to describe ourselves as a "lifestyle couple", who includes couples, single guys and single ladies in many aspects of consensual non-monogamous sex.
If the husband of a swinger couple likes to set up gangbangs for his wife, are they "swinging or swapping"? No, but it's part of the lifestyle.
If a couple likes to have sex with their own spouse only, where other couples watch or play in a room with other couples that will only have sex with their own spouses only, are they "swinging or swapping"? Even though they don't play with a different spouse, they are in the lifestyle.
If a couple wants to have sex with a single female, are they "swinging or swapping "? No, but they are in the lifestyle.
Although the vast majority of our play is with swinger couples, we prefer to describe ourselves as a "lifestyle couple", who includes couples, single guys and single ladies in many aspects of consensual non-monogamous sex.
Extremely well said PARTYINLV!!
As long as I have been a member of lifestyles, the topic of single men continues to come up in conversation and debate. Over the many years I have noticed that my opinions and attitude has changed both because of becoming older and from negative and positive experiences.
I think for this occasion, I am going to try to avoid the adjectives, names, and political correctness and just say it the way that I see it. As honest and blunt as I can. I realize I am risking some rebuttal, but that is how freedom works. Just please don't be insulting.
we are all in lifestyles for one reason, experimentation of sexual experiences. Wheither you enjoy hardcore sex, kinky sex, romantic sex, social sex, lifestyles is the opportunity to exercise that curiousity and taboo desire that dwells in all of us. We enjoy being able to discuss topics that normally aren't excepted in social circles, we aren't offended when someone hugs our spouse or gets a little friendly. We become involved in nude swimming, hot tubing, nude beaches and graduate to sharing or swapping partners and enjoying the variety of sexual experiences from someone or someones other than our spouse. So, where do single guys fit in? Its easy, be realistic and honest and most of us know we have had need of one at some time or other. We want our hotwives to be flirted with and seduced. I would rather have a single guy than a cheating husband take her home. When we want some form of group sex, mfm, dp, orgy, gangbang, or whatever you want to do that requires additional participants, we look for help mainly from single guys. Why? We don't want conflict with an unhappy wife. Another reason can be the attempt to match up couples both for social and physical activities isn't always easy. Everyone being compatible can require time, effort, patience and other things that we sometimes just don't want to deal with.
I feel I am really just singing to the choir, we all already know everything I am trying to say.
Single men provide a service for most of us. The problem can become the way some go about it. The other problem is our pride and opinion of ourselves and spouses. I think sometimes we place ourselves too high up as couples and look down on others that may not be as fortunate as ourselves. No doubt there are a lot of very attractive couples here. Its impressive. We may look down on those who aren't up to our believed standards. Some of the sexiest and most attractive people, who have become long term friends, weren't the centerfold models. We all have something to offer to someone else.
Enough soap boxing. What I mean to say is first, to the single men. Respect and being a gentleman can go along way with first impressions. Wives are not objects of ownership or playtoys. They are people that have feelings and desires. Spend a little time flirting with caution until you know if you are welcome or not. Don't take rejection to personal. Married couples are united and choose to be selective. Don't introduce yourself with photos of your package and what you want to do between the sheets. Be playful but respectful. Your rewards are having a wonderful sexual experience without having to date and worry about a long term commitment or marriage. Know when you are welcome and when you are not.
Couples, keep in mind that we all at sometime would like the assistance of another person. They also have feelings, self images and desires. If we invite them in, be respectful of them. They are providing us a service also. We are asking them to do something for us or spouse that can put them on display or situations of being judged and critiqued for their performance. They also have to go home alone while we are privileged with having our sweet spouses to spend the night with.
We are all needed and should be welcomed here if we can all just get along and play with maturity.
I think for this occasion, I am going to try to avoid the adjectives, names, and political correctness and just say it the way that I see it. As honest and blunt as I can. I realize I am risking some rebuttal, but that is how freedom works. Just please don't be insulting.
we are all in lifestyles for one reason, experimentation of sexual experiences. Wheither you enjoy hardcore sex, kinky sex, romantic sex, social sex, lifestyles is the opportunity to exercise that curiousity and taboo desire that dwells in all of us. We enjoy being able to discuss topics that normally aren't excepted in social circles, we aren't offended when someone hugs our spouse or gets a little friendly. We become involved in nude swimming, hot tubing, nude beaches and graduate to sharing or swapping partners and enjoying the variety of sexual experiences from someone or someones other than our spouse. So, where do single guys fit in? Its easy, be realistic and honest and most of us know we have had need of one at some time or other. We want our hotwives to be flirted with and seduced. I would rather have a single guy than a cheating husband take her home. When we want some form of group sex, mfm, dp, orgy, gangbang, or whatever you want to do that requires additional participants, we look for help mainly from single guys. Why? We don't want conflict with an unhappy wife. Another reason can be the attempt to match up couples both for social and physical activities isn't always easy. Everyone being compatible can require time, effort, patience and other things that we sometimes just don't want to deal with.
I feel I am really just singing to the choir, we all already know everything I am trying to say.
Single men provide a service for most of us. The problem can become the way some go about it. The other problem is our pride and opinion of ourselves and spouses. I think sometimes we place ourselves too high up as couples and look down on others that may not be as fortunate as ourselves. No doubt there are a lot of very attractive couples here. Its impressive. We may look down on those who aren't up to our believed standards. Some of the sexiest and most attractive people, who have become long term friends, weren't the centerfold models. We all have something to offer to someone else.
Enough soap boxing. What I mean to say is first, to the single men. Respect and being a gentleman can go along way with first impressions. Wives are not objects of ownership or playtoys. They are people that have feelings and desires. Spend a little time flirting with caution until you know if you are welcome or not. Don't take rejection to personal. Married couples are united and choose to be selective. Don't introduce yourself with photos of your package and what you want to do between the sheets. Be playful but respectful. Your rewards are having a wonderful sexual experience without having to date and worry about a long term commitment or marriage. Know when you are welcome and when you are not.
Couples, keep in mind that we all at sometime would like the assistance of another person. They also have feelings, self images and desires. If we invite them in, be respectful of them. They are providing us a service also. We are asking them to do something for us or spouse that can put them on display or situations of being judged and critiqued for their performance. They also have to go home alone while we are privileged with having our sweet spouses to spend the night with.
We are all needed and should be welcomed here if we can all just get along and play with maturity.
Sorry but singles are NOT swingers.
You have a 40 year older lady, divorced, and lives alone. She is very open sexually and has a different playmate join her every night of the week. Most are single guys, one is a cheating husband from work, and one is a couple that the wife likes to watch her man fuck other women. The only swingers in that scenario is the couple. The rest are sexually non monogamous I think is the correct 2020 term.
The reason we want to make that clear is the same reason people are going crazy on this post. You post you are looking for a single, or hosting a party they can join, then they send a bunch of dick picts and beg to join. When they find out the said party isn’t a fuck-fest orgy they don’t want to come. Yes swingers have sex with other people, but in 2020 and beyond, very selectively! If we can make this clear all the pic collectors and cheaters will move on to Fetlife or something and pose as fake Doms or bulls and leave us alone.
You have a 40 year older lady, divorced, and lives alone. She is very open sexually and has a different playmate join her every night of the week. Most are single guys, one is a cheating husband from work, and one is a couple that the wife likes to watch her man fuck other women. The only swingers in that scenario is the couple. The rest are sexually non monogamous I think is the correct 2020 term.
The reason we want to make that clear is the same reason people are going crazy on this post. You post you are looking for a single, or hosting a party they can join, then they send a bunch of dick picts and beg to join. When they find out the said party isn’t a fuck-fest orgy they don’t want to come. Yes swingers have sex with other people, but in 2020 and beyond, very selectively! If we can make this clear all the pic collectors and cheaters will move on to Fetlife or something and pose as fake Doms or bulls and leave us alone.
I am a married man looking to explore with a couple and make some friends. I live in Arkansas. Is there any other Arkansas folks here.