why is it that you message people and you get ghosted lol I know we aren't ken and barbie but hell just want to have fun its aggregating sometimes
Yea, I definitely understand that feeling.
We would message you both backđ
I would also. Im not in Idaho though.
I can suggest you should not let it bother you. I have sent many emails to members in my local area (Houston) and never received a response. When we cum to our place in Sandy I usually change our listing to reflect that. We have almost always responded to emails that had something to say. We do not respond to blind friend request or short simple sentences. Such as: How you doing or What up. Sorry but if you cant put together a few sentences we dont feel the need to respond.
Now we are older and far from what some couples are looking for so not getting a response does not bother us. We do have single men blocked so that certainly helps everything but the blind friend request. Dont take non responsive emails personally, just hang in there and someone is gonna like what you have to say and see the possibilities.
Now we are older and far from what some couples are looking for so not getting a response does not bother us. We do have single men blocked so that certainly helps everything but the blind friend request. Dont take non responsive emails personally, just hang in there and someone is gonna like what you have to say and see the possibilities.
Itâs uncomfortable for some people to say they donât find an attraction to people when confronted so itâs easier to not answer at all. No answer is equivalent to no Thank you. Also, a lot of profiles are not active. We try to always respond even if itâs a no Thank you. Just keep doing your thing and donât let it bother you.
Scoobywilldoo wrote:
I myself would like an answer either positive or a polite no thank you , nothing rude that just sucks.
I agree, it is the polite thing to do.
Single males here are a penny a dozen and overwhelm the couples and the rare and elusive single females. The recipient does not have to do anything if they choose not to, being polite has little to do with it.
Get used to it.
Get used to it.
I get that it's "polite" to respond but why are you "owed" that response?
We will anwser you we always do one way or the other
I think if you are really interested in someone make it a thoughtful message. I usually like something personal that shows itâs not a random throw it out there to as many people as possible.
The message âwhatâs upâ usually doesnât get a response. Sorry!
We have many good long lasting friends that sent very creative messages over the years, thatâs what we like đ
The message âwhatâs upâ usually doesnât get a response. Sorry!
We have many good long lasting friends that sent very creative messages over the years, thatâs what we like đ
Itâs not the no reply emails that bother us, itâs the appearance that people on this website use it like a Facebook account, trying to collect the most friends. What I mean by this is people accept your friend request and thatâs the last you hear from them. They donât remove your friendship if they arenât attracted to you and they never respond to your messages.
Speaking only on our behalf, we are not on this website to just create a large friend list. We only accept friend request and reach out to those we are initially attracted to. If you are only interested in developing a gratifying friends list and have no intention of actually trying to get to know the people your accepting in order to develop a relationship with, then please donât accept our friend request and waste our time.
Just my two cents.
Speaking only on our behalf, we are not on this website to just create a large friend list. We only accept friend request and reach out to those we are initially attracted to. If you are only interested in developing a gratifying friends list and have no intention of actually trying to get to know the people your accepting in order to develop a relationship with, then please donât accept our friend request and waste our time.
Just my two cents.
1. All the sites are crawling with fake couple profiles that are pic collectors or guys trying to cheat.
2. People here have the idea of dabbling but are not serious about it.
3. People have their ideal encounter in their head and are only looking for that exact situation.
4. People are simply lazy. They wanna push a button (like the FR one) and let you do all the work.
5. People totally content with swinging are already in an established party or meet group and have people come to them now. They are tons of fun, experienced swingers that know how to balance normal life and swinging life.
So we always tell newbs there is a huge learning curve to this lifestyle. No, itâs not the sex part, we all already do that, itâs the ability to sort through the mess and find connections. Living where you do makes it even harder. Try some other sites to see if they fit better. AFF usually has a good listing in your area. Try posting up something when you have free time and see what comes your way. Donât jump at every friend request. Our experience over 4 years is the blind ones with no message lead no where.
We use the sites for first contact, then k!k (you can live pic verify there) and chat to see if itâs a match. Remember itâs a frustrating road ahead. Even after getting to full chat and meeting time, we really only meet 5% of the people we talk to, and we are super flexible and drive many miles to meet and play. Just keep at it. We are to the point now we can spot most flakes, cheaters and collectors quickly and we block and move on. When you do finally meet just be open. Network, be friends, that can lead to parties or new friends. Start looking to just meet cool fucking people and learn from there.
2. People here have the idea of dabbling but are not serious about it.
3. People have their ideal encounter in their head and are only looking for that exact situation.
4. People are simply lazy. They wanna push a button (like the FR one) and let you do all the work.
5. People totally content with swinging are already in an established party or meet group and have people come to them now. They are tons of fun, experienced swingers that know how to balance normal life and swinging life.
So we always tell newbs there is a huge learning curve to this lifestyle. No, itâs not the sex part, we all already do that, itâs the ability to sort through the mess and find connections. Living where you do makes it even harder. Try some other sites to see if they fit better. AFF usually has a good listing in your area. Try posting up something when you have free time and see what comes your way. Donât jump at every friend request. Our experience over 4 years is the blind ones with no message lead no where.
We use the sites for first contact, then k!k (you can live pic verify there) and chat to see if itâs a match. Remember itâs a frustrating road ahead. Even after getting to full chat and meeting time, we really only meet 5% of the people we talk to, and we are super flexible and drive many miles to meet and play. Just keep at it. We are to the point now we can spot most flakes, cheaters and collectors quickly and we block and move on. When you do finally meet just be open. Network, be friends, that can lead to parties or new friends. Start looking to just meet cool fucking people and learn from there.
We get that frequently, I'm guessing because of age and not Ken and Barbie. I make a little note in the box to not contact again. When we have a party and you respond we ignore it. We haven't changed for you we are just not good enough for you. On that note we have a great party set-up if anyone is interested.
Im sorry. I hope i wasnt one of those people. If so it want intentional.
Yes, there are a lot of people on here even if close to your location do not respond to messages at all. I would hope that they would at least acknowledge receipt and say not interested but most do not.
Sad.
Sad.
Luvrs42 wrote:
Itâs not the no reply emails that bother us, itâs the appearance that people on this website use it like a Facebook account, trying to collect the most friends. What I mean by this is people accept your friend request and thatâs the last you hear from them. They donât remove your friendship if they arenât attracted to you and they never respond to your messages.
Speaking only on our behalf, we are not on this website to just create a large friend list. We only accept friend request and reach out to those we are initially attracted to. If you are only interested in developing a gratifying friends list and have no intention of actually trying to get to know the people your accepting in order to develop a relationship with, then please donât accept our friend request and waste our time.
Just my two cents.
That's what annoys us too, we understand the busy family life too. If we become friends with a couple and nothing goes beyond that we remove them. We want good friends that whether or not we fuck each other we know we're in good company. Now for the SM emails those just get deleted with no response. We have explicitly made it known on our profile that if the Mrs wants a SM she will seek him out. So when. SM send us a friend request or email we know he didn't read our profile or thought he was the exception. The same goes for profiles with no pictures, public or private.
SKICOUPLE wrote:
We have almost always responded to emails that had something to say. We do not respond to blind friend request or short simple sentences. Such as: How you doing or What up. Sorry but if you cant put together a few sentences we dont feel the need to respond.
I've always approached online communication the same as in person. If someone speaks to me in person, I don't simply ignore them and walk away. The exception is something said off the wall, rude, or without tact. We haven't received any rude messages here but are getting more and more bordering on tasteless. And, most of those, are as you mentioned: Short simple sentences. And we've gotten some which I'm not even sure what the sender is saying.
For us, a thoughtful note with more than a few short sentences will always get our attention and a response. Otherwise, it's getting to the point that we're less likely to take the time to respond at all. Goes against our natural friendliness but a line has to be drawn some where.
Hope weâre not ghosting anybody but we have been ghosted plenty of times, the secret is donât let it get to ya.
Sm435 wrote:
5. People totally content with swinging are already in an established party or meet group and have people come to them now. They are tons of fun, experienced swingers that know how to balance normal life and swinging life.
So we always tell newbs there is a huge learning curve to this lifestyle. No, itâs not the sex part, we all already do that, itâs the ability to sort through the mess and find connections. Living where you do makes it even harder. Try some other sites to see if they fit better.
Donât jump at every friend request. Our experience over 4 years is the blind ones with no message lead no where.
We use the sites for first contact, then k!k (you can live pic verify there) and chat to see if itâs a match. Remember itâs a frustrating road ahead.
Just keep at it. We are to the point now we can spot most flakes, cheaters and collectors quickly and we block and move on. When you do finally meet just be open. Network, be friends, that can lead to parties or new friends. Start looking to just meet cool fucking people and learn from there.
Well said. We just quoted the parts we completely agree with. You should remember that once you find a good group of FWB - you are less inclined to follow up on every offer. This is more a time management issue than a rejection. Hopefully people will still be responsive.
The only emails we donât respond to are blind friend requests .... especially from people with no profile pics. Sorry - we wonât respond to blind requests. If you are interested - send a thoughtful message - if you are not, simply say so. We think that is good form.
Good luck - itâs wonderful when it works. We have been extremely lucky in finding some lifetime great friends. Weâve only had one couple we played with who ghosted us - weâll never understand that - but it happens. Thatâs on them, not us. We feel like what comes around goes around. Wouldnât change anything about our LS experience though - we feel blessed to have expanded our circle of friends to FWB. Lucky, lucky, lucky us!! May you all have similar luck!