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Trying to figure out if anyone on here is real lol. We’ve reached out to many. How do you even go about getting started in this life style...need someone to show us the ropes.
Well posting on here is a good start. Unfortunately, a lot of bots/fakes, flakes, etc. So it takes time and patience. If you look at discussion boards you can see those that are active. Also, attending some events (been difficult with the Rona) helps to meet others as well. If you have any questions feel free to reach out to us.
Reached out to many? You just became a member yesterday according to your profile date.
Patience is a virtue.
These kids nowadays, always needing instant gratification.
Very nice
As said sometimes it can take a little bit but hang in there and it usually works out and don’t forget a lot of others are gonna be hesitant due to the Rona and all
As said sometimes it can take a little bit but hang in there and it usually works out and don’t forget a lot of others are gonna be hesitant due to the Rona and all
Always send a message with your friend requests. I ignore blind requests.
1DIVA wrote:

Always send a message with your friend requests. I ignore blind requests.


Truth!
ConverGent wrote:

Reached out to many? You just became a member yesterday according to your profile date.
Patience is a virtue.
These kids nowadays, always needing instant gratification.


Haha You’re right! I’ve had a profile for a while, but created a new one with the hubby. Just anxious!
Part of the struggle of all this. For every 10 you might get 1 response and then if that 1 even goes beyond responding to meeting....
LICK_TICKLE_NCUM wrote:

Part of the struggle of all this. For every 10 you might get 1 response and then if that 1 even goes beyond responding to meeting....


100% true, but it's worth looking for the right couples.
As other have said getting into this isn't easy. We've been in this lifestyle for about 4 years and have run into may flakes along the way. You will also find the ones that (in our experience) are in it for the numbers or the quick fuck. Some people are fine with that but we'd rather make friends and have a connection with people then just have sex.
ConverGent wrote:

Reached out to many? You just became a member yesterday according to your profile date.
Patience is a virtue.
These kids nowadays, always needing instant gratification.


😅😂🤣
Like others have said, it takes patience. There are lots of fakes and flakes. Just keep putting yourself out there and you will find someone
Nakedcouple5150 wrote:

LICK_TICKLE_NCUM wrote:

Part of the struggle of all this. For every 10 you might get 1 response and then if that 1 even goes beyond responding to meeting....

100% true, but it's worth looking for the right couples.

True it is. The right couple can make the whole difference. Apparently we aren't the right couple. Just have to wait and hope one day.
It’s gotta be hard to find the fun. Know what I’m talkin bout?
We’ve been there for sure. Hang in there and find some good people! (We like to think we are in that category 😉)
Go out to the stansbury nude beach on a weekend and flirt with another couple; ) go to naughty by nature this weekend that risque Soiree is putting on
And remember, not everyone is looking for the same thing. We all do the LS in our own way because we can.
Some people are looking for relationships then sex, others sex then friendship, or just some good ole romp in the hay and never talk to them again.
There are more than a just a few swingers that are standing down right now, due to the pandemic. So that eliminates some in the community, who aren't going to hook up as the risk seems too high for their comfort level. Most of the meet and greets are also in stand down mode. Social distancing rules in the bars and restaurants, that are open, make it hard to develop the sort of intimacy that leads to sexual shenanigans. Add to the mix all the other uncertainties that might be part of some within the communities life at this time, and swinging may have dropped way down on their list of priorities. Add all of that to all the reasons why it's difficult to find just the right connections, and there you have it.
Might also be worth knowing that if you're using the mobile app to browse profiles that you have no way of knowing whether that profile has even logged in during the past 10 years. It may be that you're sending messages to inactive profiles. If you switch to the desktop interface you can search for people who have logged in within the last few weeks, and check a profile before you message to see if they're active.
Yeah it takes a lot of time to sort through people who aren't serious about playing, but it always does if you're relying on the internet to make connections. Of course they tend to happen more naturally through meet-ups, but as others have said covid has put a real damper on on the lifestyle. Best of luck to you!
But dont you want the fun to be hard? No girl wants soft fun. Lol just having fun, it is rough to find people and there are alot of flakes out in this world. But the more you get out the easier it becomes.
...need someone to show you the ropes?
Here ya go .... you’re welcome! 😂
No seriously, with everything related to the virus, it’s a tough time to start into the LS right now. Be patient...it will return to normal someday. In the meantime, be grateful for what you have with each other. 😈💕👍🏻
Hit us up we can chat
Yes, this year is probably not the best time....
Well, if you weren’t so young 😂
This is a unique forum are you on any of the swinger social sites?
I’m interested so wassup 👀 I’m real for sure
Fun is Hard when You find it :)
Looking for fun is easy. Finding it is more difficult, Creating it an even greater challenge. You can always do what I did... send out 650 evites to a house party, it worked for me, but then again, only 130 showed up... lol
It can be very exhausting it takes a lot of time to find the right couple and get the schedules lined up. Not everyone works a 9to5 so playtime can be tricky.
First bit of advice. Don’t listen to any advice from single males.....
My wife and I run the Venus Game Nights, and like has been mentioned, we are also at a stand still at the moment, waiting for some normalcy to return. We felt that with the risk right now, many people have immune system problems or other things going on that they may not know about so we have decided that in the best interests of our more than 1,500 members, that we would abstain from holding any parties for the time being. Though we are considering a zoom meetup that would be NSFW with everyone having some fun online.

We have a growing group of lifestylers and you are free to join the group if you would like or reach out to us for more information. We really try to make everyone feel welcome and wanted and are always available to help with any questions you have about the lifestyle.

If you would like to join the group, head over to www.meetup.com/venus-game-nights and join the group. We also post on here when we have parties and whatnot, but that won't be happening for a while, sadly.

We are also available on Kik, just shoot us a message there - "CalianaZ". This goes for anyone else that has questions or suggestions on things we can do during this crazy time to get everyone together in a safe way.
This
Sign up for as many house parties, meet and greets and events that you can. Every time we attend an event we make some lasting friends and It let’s you get to know them in person. Simply chatting does not let you know who the person is, likes and dislikes and how nice they actually are. It takes kissing a lot of frogs to find a prince and princess and finding the right combo is even harder.

But things are limited right now so be patient.
Our biggest struggle is trying to find a couple who we can get our schedules to line up.
It can be a struggle sometimes but once things sync up and you guys are able to meet and play with another couple you should have fun. Groups and parties can be a little more promising than just inviting another couple over sometimes. Would be happy to meet you guys or have you over sometime ourselves
There is no better place for adult fun than taking a trip to Hedonism in Jamaica or Desire in Mexico. Nothing better!
We'll chat with you and see where it goes! Sent you a PM.
We would love to have some fun with you guys
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SexyFineAsianWhite wrote:

Want to meet sometime for a drink and see how things go? We are from Herriman , UT.
Interested send us a inbox.


Daaayyuuummm. We wouldn't mind taking you up on that offer. hahaha!
JJMoreno wrote:

Trying to figure out if anyone on here is real lol. We’ve reached out to many. How do you even go about getting started in this life style...need someone to show us the ropes.


hey guys kik us dansantos310
We try not to seem flakey, but it can sometimes take us awhile to hook up. We have gotten older and slower and find time to play a lot more difficult having so many demands from kids and grandkids. We still love to play when we can find those people who are attracted to a GILF and partner, and aren't in a big hurry to get to the bedroom.
I think you might be confusing looking with actually finding. Looking is easy. Finding people to play with during a pandemic, however, is a bit like trying to find toilet paper last March. You're prolly gonna have to get up pretty early...and stand in line. ;-P
Yes look for the verified badge on profiles and we would be happy to talk to you about the lifestyle
EVILDOERS wrote:

I think you might be confusing looking with actually finding. Looking is easy. Finding people to play with during a pandemic, however, is a bit like trying to find toilet paper last March. You're prolly gonna have to get up pretty early...and stand in line. ;-P


Agreed! Finding people to play with during a pandemic...is a bit like trying to find toilet paper last March. And if you found any toilet paper, it was most likely a barn find. 😅😂🤣

We’re staying far away from the “barn finds” these days...as they are a dime a dozen...according to the bazillion friend requests we get. Would suggest paying more attention to your significant other during these trying times. Ya never know, you might create a new found spice while waiting for better social times to cum. 😈🙌
GLTA