I always read all the way through a profile when I am drawn to one. I will admit that initially a photo is what catches my eye first. We get a lot of emails that we know dang well they didnt take the time to read anything which is very rude I think. We use our profile info to tell something about us, to also tell others what we are looken for, and things that turn us on, or off about the lifestyle. We are drawn to profiles with at least one photo to get a idea on what you look like, but also you could have a knock out picture and profile info not worth a dam and we wouldnt be interested. We look at the info to get a good idea on interests, likes, dislikes ....what they/you are looking for, etc. We like it to obviously match what we are wanting in order for us to contact them. Some ppl get carried away and tell a lifestory, or an autobiography those get pretty boring to read, however a short summary on what you like, what you are about, interests you may have and something about your relationship. We like to read those that are very specific on what they are looking for......
What draws our attention is the way the profile is worded. You can't count 100% on the photo's as being real or recent, but if the profile draws you in to read more - and after reading it you want to know even more about the person(s) then that's a good start. If 90% of the words are misspelled and you wonder what the heck the profile is trying to say - then we move on.
If pictures are posted - and it's supposedly a couple - look to see if there's a picture of the two of them together. We've seen posting where the woman is drop dead beautiful (and looks to be a picture off the internet!!) - but the guy is taking a picture of himself in the mirror - that tells you something's not right.
Oh yes - RESPOND TO EVERY EMAIL. Nothing is worse than writing to someone and you get nothing in return. Take the time and at least write back to say you're interested or not.
Just be honest and tell everyone what you're looking for. Finding real people in the lifestyle is not as easy as one would think. There is a lot of BS out there!
If pictures are posted - and it's supposedly a couple - look to see if there's a picture of the two of them together. We've seen posting where the woman is drop dead beautiful (and looks to be a picture off the internet!!) - but the guy is taking a picture of himself in the mirror - that tells you something's not right.
Oh yes - RESPOND TO EVERY EMAIL. Nothing is worse than writing to someone and you get nothing in return. Take the time and at least write back to say you're interested or not.
Just be honest and tell everyone what you're looking for. Finding real people in the lifestyle is not as easy as one would think. There is a lot of BS out there!
For us, we like to see pictures of the face, BUT if there are none in the profile and we like the bodies we see, we will ask to see the faces.
We look at pictures mainly to determine if we find an initial attraction. At that point we read. If we like what we read, we write to them. If we were unsure about pictures, we definitely read the profile to see if there are some matches...
Most important to us is the smile and what the profile says...It is VERY rare indeed that we will write to someone who has very little in their profile, but there have been some super sexy people we wrote to based solely on pictures.
We look at pictures mainly to determine if we find an initial attraction. At that point we read. If we like what we read, we write to them. If we were unsure about pictures, we definitely read the profile to see if there are some matches...
Most important to us is the smile and what the profile says...It is VERY rare indeed that we will write to someone who has very little in their profile, but there have been some super sexy people we wrote to based solely on pictures.
Obviously the main picture is what catches our eye, after that we read the entire profile and if we feel we may get along we then send an email to them to get to know them. Alot of the attraction for us is not just the looks it's the brains. If someone doesn't fill out their profile at least a little telling everyone a little about themselves besides " looking for sex" then we usually just pass 'em by. The hubby is fine with just looks but the wife doesn't get "hot and bothered" by just that. She is attracted to personality and how he treats her and his own wife. If he is respectful and a gentleman then that particular couple may be the ones we connect with more than the couple that is in it just for sex.
Just our .02
Mrs.
Just our .02
Mrs.