So, we understand discretion but when do you break discretion to warn your LS friends about certain people?
When it can harm to anyone else
DESERTCOUPLE101 wrote:It would depend on what you are warning them about? We try not to discuss too many details about bad experiences as we know each situation is unique. Now if the issue is of safety (e.g. disease or violence) you definitely should warn your LS friends!
So, we understand discretion but when do you break discretion to warn your LS friends about certain people?
Utahldscouple wrote:
It would depend on what you are warning them about? We try not to discuss too many details about bad experiences as we know each situation is unique. Now if the issue is of safety (e.g. disease or violence) you definitely should warn your LS friends!
This is exactly what we do.
My thoughts exactly.
Utahldscouple wrote:
It would depend on what you are warning them about? We try not to discuss too many details about bad experiences as we know each situation is unique. Now if the issue is of safety (e.g. disease or violence) you definitely should warn your LS friends!
100% agree
We find many refuse to warn for fear the offender will “out” you. Once we recognized we didn’t worry about such things we began warning about several individuals.
We only tell what we saw first hand no second hand information is ever shared. And we only do it privately via emails, not a public posting.
We have found that many times we have gave a warning only to have the couple come back and say we felt something was off.
Most folks know quickly if something isn’t right, they just refuse to want to believe it.
We only tell what we saw first hand no second hand information is ever shared. And we only do it privately via emails, not a public posting.
We have found that many times we have gave a warning only to have the couple come back and say we felt something was off.
Most folks know quickly if something isn’t right, they just refuse to want to believe it.
Disease and violence are good reasons.
I would say fake info (singles posing as couples or fake pictures) should probably be outed. Save the rest of us from inevitable disappointment. 🤣
If they are rude, it could have been bad chemistry or maybe it wasn’t them...
I would say fake info (singles posing as couples or fake pictures) should probably be outed. Save the rest of us from inevitable disappointment. 🤣
If they are rude, it could have been bad chemistry or maybe it wasn’t them...
We learned the hard way that "warning" people can sometimes backfire. We were very close to a couple (probably TOO close and didn't see the warning signs as easily as we should have) and their extremely manipulative, behind-the-back, behavior almost cost us our marriage. We tried to warn some close mutual friends and, instead, lost their friendship when they didn't believe us. Ironically, they did the same and WORSE to those friends who later came back and told us they should have listened to us. Not sure if we would do the same thing if we had to do it over again. *shrug*
EVILDOERS wrote:
We learned the hard way that "warning" people can sometimes backfire. We were very close to a couple (probably TOO close and didn't see the warning signs as easily as we should have) and their extremely manipulative, behind-the-back, behavior almost cost us our marriage). We tried to warn some close mutual friends and, instead, lost their friendship when they didn't believe us. Ironically, they did the same and WORSE to those friends who later came back and told us they should have listened to us. Not sure if we would do the same thing if we had to do it over again. *shrug*
Wow! That is horrible!