Swingers Forum - Blind friend requests: Do you some times accept to look at pics t

Title should read> Blind Friend Requests: Do You Some Times Accept To Look At Pics Then Promptly Delete?

With the number of blind requests we get, it would appear people either don't read our profile and our stance on blind requests... or just don't care. Either way, it's pretty much an instant turn-off. We always look at their profiles though, and photos... if they have any in their public album. A couple times, we broke our own rules and accepted blind requests because something in their profile sparked our curiosity. On one occasion, after we looked, and decided they were not our type (though they were attractive), we promptly deleted them. On another occasion, we accepted a request from an interesting looking couple and sent a message to them. We waited weeks for a response. After nothing, they too were deleted. To this day, they have not opened and read the message. Bummer....

We're wondering how you all handle these blind requests when you clearly state in your profile that they will be ignored. We have many just sitting there waiting for us to accept... and some we would like to, out of curiosity... because the people and profile may have something that draws us in. But....at the same time, we're thinking "If they can't take the time to write us a note...or read our profile which has a simple and reasonable request.... we're probably not going to click with them any way". But.... there's that strong curiosity with some.... thinking that we may like what we see, and it will lead to something.

Do any of you accept blind requests and immediately delete if the couple appear to not be your type?

Usually with a blind friend request I message the person and ask why they want to connect with us. I have ever only gotten 2 responses.

Like some people, if the couple looks really interesting we will accept and take a look. And, still ask why they requested to connect. If no response, we delete the request.

Utahldscouple wrote:

We try to respond to all request. Blind or otherwise. The site needs the ability to "flirt" as some people use the friend request to gauge interest. We have had a few that keep requesting after we have rejected them so we just ignore those ones as we get tired of them asking multiple times. Unfortunately, like everything online, people feel that can behave poorly and not follow social protocols. Again, we do try to respond even if it is a sorry no thank you. If you do accept and then delete a simple response to say that after reviewing your profile we aren't compatible (e.g. we aren't attracted to one or both of you )! We have accidentally clicked request before.

They have a flirt option on mobile. I haven't seen it on the web version.

JBANDMANDIEQT wrote:

Utahldscouple wrote:

We try to respond to all request. Blind or otherwise. The site needs the ability to "flirt" as some people use the friend request to gauge interest. We have had a few that keep requesting after we have rejected them so we just ignore those ones as we get tired of them asking multiple times. Unfortunately, like everything online, people feel that can behave poorly and not follow social protocols. Again, we do try to respond even if it is a sorry no thank you. If you do accept and then delete a simple response to say that after reviewing your profile we aren't compatible (e.g. we aren't attracted to one or both of you )! We have accidentally clicked request before.

They have a flirt option on mobile. I haven't seen it on the web version.

Do you have to have the mobile app to see it as well? Have you ever sent one or received one?

"Do you have to have the mobile app to see it as well? Have you ever sent one or received one?"

I believe it's a mobile app thing only.... that or I'm blind. We don't use the mobile app but haven't seen it on our PC. We have received a few notifications that we're being "flirted" with... presumably from those using the app. That's nice but there's no way for us to "flirt" back, if we wanted to.

we only really respond to blind friend request if they have a private album as well. We have lots of face pics in ours so if we see they don't then we usually will unfriend until we can get a better idea of who we are engaging with.If you just don't respond to their blind friend request at all then they will not be able to resend another one it will just show that its pending on their end.

Absolutely. Our profile states don't send blind requests without saying hi or showing interest. If they are dumb enough to send a blind request and they are sexy enough for us to accept the request we accept then delete.

Nope. We usually ignore them unless it's, say, someone we met out and about or possibly someone that was "referred" by someone we already know. Or in the extreme circumstance that we read their profile and feel like we have a great deal in common. And the only time we accept and then delete is if there aren't any face pics in their locked section.

I always delete them. My profile specifically says I don't accept blind requests. If they send one, I know they haven't read my profile so why would they be interested?

Canvas wrote:

How could someone not at least be curious enough to open and read their messages from a couple with whom they wanted to be "friends" with??
Swingular seems a place to witness some odd human behavior at times...

That sounds like either a bot or someone doesn't know how to access their inbox.

We add anyone. We are here for friends if people just do to see us naked we don’t care that’s why we are on here to get fucked and show off our naked body’s!

Utahldscouple wrote:

We try to respond to all request. Blind or otherwise. The site needs the ability to "flirt" as some people use the friend request to gauge interest. We have had a few that keep requesting after we have rejected them so we just ignore those ones as we get tired of them asking multiple times. Unfortunately, like everything online, people feel that can behave poorly and not follow social protocols. Again, we do try to respond even if it is a sorry no thank you. If you do accept and then delete a simple response to say that after reviewing your profile we aren't compatible (e.g. we aren't attracted to one or both of you )! We have accidentally clicked request before.

A flirt option is a great idea!

I was thinking about this same thing today. Because ours states blind friend request will be ignored, but also that we aren't "small" people and yet we get friend requests from people who state in their profile that they are only interested in HWP people...if that's the case why send a request and a blind one at that?

We don’t. And you shouldn’t either. They either don’t read nor do they care. It’s unfortunate but a byproduct of unthinking lust.

We do it, but we also send a message to see if they are trying to open a dialog or just hunting pictures.

Administrator wrote:

We now utilize the ‘like’ feature (favorites on desktop) instead. If two members end up liking each other it shows up as a match. This seems to be the most unobtrusive way to know if you are interested in each other.
I would just start liking as many members as you are interested in and hopefully you find a match.

Thanks for your post. I can't seem to find the "like" feature though. Where is it located?

We use the like button a lot and have only noticed 2 people have "matched with us" but for the most part we check out their profile and reach out if we like what we see we reach out letting them know we are interested. If not we usually do nothing lol

I immediately delete without saying anything and if they happen to send an intro later (which some have done), then I re-send them a friend request after we've done some back and forth. I've had no issues or drama with my method.

Administrator wrote:

Canvas wrote:

Thanks for your post. I can't seem to find "like" feature. Where is it located?

To like a member on the mobile site, you click the Like button on their profile. To like someone on the desktop site, you click the Add Favorite button on their profile.

That's nice! We had noticed the like feature on mobile, but had no idea about the add favorite button on the desktop. I'd bet the majority in here didn't know about it either.

DOUBLED03 wrote:

[quote=Administrator][quote=Canvas]We had noticed the like feature on mobile, but had no idea about the add favorite button on the desktop. I'd bet the majority in here didn't know about it either.

Unless there's a description somewhere around here, I'm wondering how anyone would have known about that or how it worked.??? But... it's not like I'm a techie person either. Anyway, I assumed it was a feature like a browsers "bookmarks" and had been using it as such since we became members here... so we could reference back to members that caught our attention, for one reason or another... and to possibly reach out at some point.

Not even worth the extra hassle for us. If we are interested in a profile we send a message, if the first few messages click for us, usually moves to a message app, and if things continue to go well, we usually send pics anyway.

Our profile clearly states how we handle friend requests. Anyone who sends us a friend request will pretty much know how we will treat the request.

Never. Pics alone are not enough for us anyway. A blind friend request is a clear indication that our profile wasn't fully read. That baseline rarely proves to be a good starting point for us.

We never send them either.

SexyPowSkiers wrote:

A blind friend request is a clear indication that our profile wasn't fully read.

That or they simply don't care. Either way is a turn-off for us. Thanks for the reply.

Thanks also to all the other posters. I wish there was a "like" button around here! Say, admins. Christmas is just around the corner, ya know.

When I get some, ill accept and then usually send a follow up message with it

No we typically delete them. Not friend or pic collectors

We didn’t know blind requests were not cool. We are sorry!! We just tried to friend the cool looking people/profiles. Our bad guys. We will get better as we go. Haha.

Playfulcoupled wrote:

Canvas wrote:

Thanks for your different perspective.
If you were an employer hiring, would you not want to look at cover letters and resumes first, before interviewing... to weed out folks who didn't meet your criteria? Seems that would save more work/time than interviewing everyone wanting the job.
We chose to let the reader know right up front in our intro what we are like and what we are looking for, thinking this would save them the hassle and time of finding out we were not cool enough to "hang" with them AFTER we started some correspondence. Saves both parties time and frustration... at least from our perspective. Plus, more important for us, is discretion. We don't want every Harry, Tom, and 'Dick' seeing our personal pics...particularly those whom we later found were too cool to "hang" with. Hope that .02 cent drift was clearer than mud.....

Easy tiger. 😜
I just think expecting someone to send an intro to you just to friend you is a little over the top. Isn’t that the whole point of your profile? The introduction was when they came across your profile and found interest. At that point, you can choose to friend them based on their profile, not some introduction just to friend you knowing that they would most likely copy and paste the same intro to everyone they attempt to friend.
It’s quite simple...send a friend request, accept or delete, if accepted introduce and carry on your conversation. It doesn’t have to be so difficult. We all put ourselves out here and if you have pictures and an intro on your profile whether we are interested or not, we will friend you. Let me be clear though... If there is no picture and no profile intro, no we will not friend you. My issue is more with the people telling you to send an intro with your friend request...isn’t that what my profile intro is for?
I have hired many people professionally that on paper don’t fit perfectly and they have become some of my best employees. I think if you see something you like on here through a friend request don’t be so quick to disregard it bc they didn’t give you an instant “personal” intro. You just might be missing out on something amazing and opening you up to be more flexible.
We are new on here and started sending friend requests without knowing you could send a message before that could happen. It’s not always done intentional.
You are right...it’s all about your perspective and if you can see beyond the writing on the wall or in your case in the mud. 👌

Heya sport! Being it doesn't look like you've been on Swingular long, maybe you haven't read many of the threads here. Many posters say they ignore blind friend requests without an introduction. And if you read profiles, you'll find that many if not the majority clearly ask people to NOT send a "friend request" without introducing themselves first. We have stated something similar, very clearly... and when people send friend requests any way, it tells us they either didn't read our profile, or just chose to ignore it. Either way, we find it off-putting. Seems many others feel the same way. How do we know those people sending blind requests are not pic hunters or unscrupulous in some way? We wish to get to know people a bit (for reasons of discretion)... before accepting a friend request which grants them access to our face pics in our "private" album. Make sense? It's not a great start on their end when they can't respect a simple request. At that point, we figure they probably wouldn't be people we'd feel compatible with... so we don't worry about what we may be missing out on.

Not sure what is "over the top" about that. Seems pretty simple. But, it could be that we're simply not understanding what each other is trying to convey. Happens....

EDIT. I see now that you did say you are new here. You edited... or I missed it before.👍

These responses are kinda humorous. We figure most blind friend request just want to see our locked pics (they are worth seeing). If it was more than that they might have sent an email since our profile says we don't accept blind friend request.

This is the reality of a swinger web site and we get it. Good thing we get choose whose sees those locked pics and who doesn't.

We usually accept most requests. Our personal opinion is if you have pics, a decent bio and are a couple we will accept your friend request and see where it goes. We also send a "thank you for your interest" email to those we accept, if they don't answer or the conversation doesn't go anywhere we remove them. We're not looking just to collect friends we want to actually get out and meet couples. Those without pics or single guys get ignored, a) no pics tells us you aren't willing to put yourself out there. b) Single guys, our profile explicitly states no SINGLE MALES, if there is interest she will contact you. Yes we do have a handful of friends on here that are Single Males.
Stay kinky😘
Mrs & Mr Nakedcouple5150

We wish this site gave us the option of a separate link to request a friendship and a separate link to open private photo albums.

We typically don’t accept blind requests or those with only 1 pic.

We usually message the person & tell them we don’t accept FR without a note saying why they are reaching out & ask them why they are. Weeds out 90% or so of the people.

Coupleoflove wrote:

We are one of those couples who send blind requests. Honestly we rarely send a message with a request because as funny as it sounds we usually send blind requests because of liking what we see in pictures and it would feel shallow of us to admit it. We have been reluctant to post pictures of ourselves. Not because we aren’t attractive or desirable. But we are both professionals with children and prefer to keep things as private as possible. We definitely understand why people don’t accept blind requests but being so inexperienced with this site the blind friend request seems to be a place that a lot of “shy” or discrete people start their adventure.

Good strategy. Frankly, kids are just self absorbed assholes who ruin your fun. We're way more about being unprofessional and totally without discretion. Hell, we'd out our own mothers if we found out they're in the LS. It's just plain fun trying to figure out who all of you are and then exposing you. Nevermind our pictures because we're certain we're attractive and desirable so none of you will ever hold any of it against us.

Does your profile really say "no fat people?"

Discretion (noun) - the quality of behaving or speaking in such a way as to avoid causing offense or revealing private information.

Well...if nothing else, Swingular has been a good source of entertainment!!

Its a learning process . . . and each LS website has a different feel.

We generally do NOT accept blinded friend requests and should probably put that on our main profile if we haven't already. We get quite a few each week. We nearly always respond to people who send us a brief note. If we can see we have nothing in common . . . or it appears the only thing we have in common is access to our pics - we generally respond with a polite 'no thanks'. Not sure we are doing it correctly - we certainly would not want to offend anyone. We also regularly clean out our friends folder to de-friend people we have not heard from or who it appears obvious we will not be meeting anytime soon. A click of the button can re-establish friendship - so hopefully nobody gets offended by being de-friended.

For us - its simply a way to exert SOME control over our photo albums. As far as ACTUAL friendship - we consider you ALL to be our friends - we may just not offer our picture album until we meet or are planning to meet. YMMV