We've dated a few couples and have had a blast... Anyone interested? Check us out, read our profile and message us if you're interested in what we're looking for.
While I understand the term binogamy from your posted definition, I am not processing a clear picture of what this looks like in terms of sexual context. Part of my confusion may derive from the following on your profile: "NOT LOOKING FOR: same room sex or swinging...".
Please excuse my naiveté but (and I ask out of pure curiosity), could you explain what the relationship you seek looks like to you? If it's not same room sex or swinging (which I believe many people would interpret as swapping), what is it then? Is it an exclusive relationship with another couple where you are indeed swapping, but in different rooms... or even entirely different locations at different times... but, when not having sexual relations, you are all friends who hang out and recreate together, with the agreement the four of you will remain faithful to each other?
Please excuse my naiveté but (and I ask out of pure curiosity), could you explain what the relationship you seek looks like to you? If it's not same room sex or swinging (which I believe many people would interpret as swapping), what is it then? Is it an exclusive relationship with another couple where you are indeed swapping, but in different rooms... or even entirely different locations at different times... but, when not having sexual relations, you are all friends who hang out and recreate together, with the agreement the four of you will remain faithful to each other?
My interpretation for what it’s worth 
. Is that they are seeking exclusive couples dating. Wife-Husband date and play together and Husband-Wife date and play together independently of each couple.
. Is that they are seeking exclusive couples dating. Wife-Husband date and play together and Husband-Wife date and play together independently of each couple.Seems like a very cool concept. Almost like a secondary marriage as it pertains to sex. It’s kept within the same group of people to help avoid STDs. Let’s a unique secondary relationship similar to your primary marriage relationship exist. With it comes all the benefits of relationships that are built upon which enhances sex. It avoids awkwardness of 4 people all being attracted to each other. The list goes on. It also has the whole stag/vixen draw to it.
I think in order for it to work. Both couples would have to have the required personalities along with a rock solid primary relationship to avoid jealous, insecurities, doubts etc. And a little bit of a stag/vixen kink to help enhance your primary relationship.
I think in order for it to work. Both couples would have to have the required personalities along with a rock solid primary relationship to avoid jealous, insecurities, doubts etc. And a little bit of a stag/vixen kink to help enhance your primary relationship.
We renamed Covid 19 to Cockblock '20. Haha! It has really stymied our lifestyle fun. Therefore, due to coronavirus concerns, we are actually now CONSIDERING a "TEMPORARY" exclusive fwb situation with just one couple (maybe a single too). We have always enjoyed the variety of having a core group with a few couples and singles. But, we feel it may be safer to be "EXCLUSIVE" for full swap playtime with just one couple for a little while. Essentially, this means that, other than sex with our own spouses, they won't have sex with any others and we won't have sex with any others. Full swap sex could be in the same room or separate rooms. Please note that Hall Passes will NOT be permitted in this arrangement. To be clear, this will NOT be a polyamorous relationship since the intent is strictly fwb and to avoid any feelings of love outside our marriages. We want to have full swap play and also hang out for fun vanilla activities together. Hopefully, this situation wouldn't last too long as we desire to eventually reopen ourselves up to more than one couple and singles again. But, it's not easy finding another couple that will agree to play exclusively, even if just for a little while. Again, we are not committed to this concept yet; but we are giving it some thought. We would love to hear your opinions.
Yes, just to clarify, we are looking for another married couple to exclusively date. We have exclusively dated 3 couples in the past 8 years and it has been a blast! We're looking for a new couple to date. We consider it a bf/gf relationships. With the other people we dated, we would go on group dates the 4 of us just to hang out and go to dinner and then we'd split up and do our own things with our bf/gf. We even did trips together but stayed with our bf/gf, not our spouses. The girls would have girl time and just hang out and go shopping and the guys would go to bars or watch a game together. We never did sexual things all 4 of us together and we wouldn't do too much PDA, just kissing, hugging and holding hands was all we'd do when we were all hanging out. We always kept the bf/gf relationships separate. We even hung out with our kids and extended families. We have a very strong relationship so it was fun for us to have a side relationship like that with another couple that we actually dated. We know it's probably not the norm and you do have to have a strong marriage in order for something like this to work but we like having a connection with the people we have sex with and we like the "dating" aspect of it all and the friendship. We know other people like the same idea, it's just hard finding the right couple where we are all on the same page.
Yeah, we aren't interested in ever playing together. Not our jam.
Candyrocks69 wrote:
Yes, just to clarify, we are looking for another married couple to exclusively date. We have exclusively dated 3 couples in the past 8 years and it has been a blast! We're looking for a new couple to date. We consider it a bf/gf relationships. With the other people we dated, we would go on group dates the 4 of us just to hang out and go to dinner and then we'd split up and do our own things with our bf/gf. We even did trips together but stayed with our bf/gf, not our spouses. The girls would have girl time and just hang out and go shopping and the guys would go to bars or watch a game together. We never did sexual things all 4 of us together and we wouldn't do too much PDA, just kissing, hugging and holding hands was all we'd do when we were all hanging out. We always kept the bf/gf relationships separate. We even hung out with our kids and extended families. We have a very strong relationship so it was fun for us to have a side relationship like that with another couple that we actually dated. We know it's probably not the norm and you do have to have a strong marriage in order for something like this to work but we like having a connection with the people we have sex with and we like the "dating" aspect of it all and the friendship. We know other people like the same idea, it's just hard finding the right couple where we are all on the same page.
Interesting. Thanks for clarifying. Best of luck!
@candyrocks69...thanks for clarifying. Just one more question from us. If you are in the mood to see your g/f, but your wife would rather stay home; are you allowed to go out with your g/f alone while your wife stays home?
There are no set rules here people, we just go with the flow. We do go out separately and the other spouse stays home so at least one parent is home with our kiddo. Honestly, it all depends on the couple we date and how all of our schedules jive. That's usually how we plan how often we see the other couple. Like I said, we don't have rules, we just figure things out as we go.
And yes, if one of us isn't liking the situation, we both break things off with the other couple. We both have to like how things are going or it makes it not fun and that's all we want is to have fun and a great connection with an awesome couple.
I’m enjoying this discussion. We are having a hard time finding one couple that we are both interested in. I’m in awe of the fact that you’ve find multiple that are seeking the same thing you are. ❤️
Hey
Wats up
My partner and I are looking for a FWB with another Bi or Bi Curious couple. We also are having a hard time finding the right couple. It seems every one wants to just get it on right away.I like to get to know the couple and see if we click either as FWB or just hang out friends. We live in Central Arkansas
We maybe interested. It seems our tastes are changing as we explore our options.
just4funxxx11 wrote:that's why we generally stay away from newbies. They don't typically know what they want yet lol
We maybe interested. It seems our tastes are changing as we explore our options.
Always interested in something like this
Looking for an awesome couple
We’ve been fortunate to have this a few times over the years and it’s amazing. We kind of gravitate to this when the connection is right.
We have not had the luck you have. Maybe it's because we are new but want to explore.
SEXYRIDERS wrote:it really is awesome if you can make it work.
We’ve been fortunate to have this a few times over the years and it’s amazing. We kind of gravitate to this when the connection is right.
Married Couple of 25 years, Looking for FWB situation, would like to meet up and play before we possibly play sperate. We also chat on kik shockme71
We are also looking for a couple to date in the same capacity as the original thread poster. It’s a little difficult at times with my wife being a trans woman. We tend to get a lot of couples teach out, but only the guy half of the couple will talk. Make excuses why the female half isn’t around.... then say they really want to live out a fantasy with my wife. Which upsets her, and leaves me let down. I wish we could find a compatible couple with a bi husband, or a trans friendly husband half. She is so beautiful, and I wouldn’t trade her for the world!
Wanderlustduo wrote:
I’m enjoying this discussion. We are having a hard time finding one couple that we are both interested in. I’m in awe of the fact that you’ve find multiple that are seeking the same thing you are. ❤️
We agree, it is hard to find four people that all grove with each other at the same time. We have, and it's been fantastic! Some of our closest friends are couples we met in the LS. Threesomes seem to be a more likely scenario for us as of late. Always open for a couple to play with. Positive vibes for the perfect couple for you.
Bee5252 wrote:
We have not had the luck you have. Maybe it's because we are new but want to explore.
Might be you only have one photo of the male. Might help if you add some more photos of both of you.
We're very interested.
Seems like a lot of interest, but it would be challenging to keep up.
How many on here have made this work?
How many on here have made this work?
Male partner is interested
Bunnies wrote:we've had some good experiences that have lasted for a while. It can work if you find the right couple
Seems like a lot of interest, but it would be challenging to keep up.
How many on here have made this work?
We have been in the lifestyle for a while now and this starts to sound more and more appealing. Just need to find the right couple and we'd be interested.
TOTALLY4FUN wrote:AANDR wrote:
We have been in the lifestyle for a while now and this starts to sound more and more appealing. Just need to find the right couple and we'd be interested.
We must admit that we agree with you guys. The idea of having an exclusive dating couple never appealed to us early on. In fact, we had some close friends who went down this path and it ended their marriage. One of the sets decided they wanted to be with each other and so they divorced and then married the other. Of course this can happen to any couple for any number of reasons, but it scared us off initially.
Now we're finding it more interesting due to the fact we're totally secure in our marriage and confident. It sounds fun to learn more about a couple and to gain some compatibility on many different levels.
That's exactly how we feel. We know our relationship is strong enough to do this. We wouldn't want to be a part of a ruined marriage so the other couple would also have to be strong in their relationship.
Very interesting thought
ITSFUNTRYINGNEW wrote:we think so
Very interesting thought
@candyrocks69,
You want to date only one couple which has some quality benefits. But, are you OK if your fwb couple has a few dates with different couples too?
You want to date only one couple which has some quality benefits. But, are you OK if your fwb couple has a few dates with different couples too?
Interested in pursuing
SEXYRIDERS wrote:
We’ve been fortunate to have this a few times over the years and it’s amazing. We kind of gravitate to this when the connection is right.
Connections are hard to find.
When you find the right couple hold on.
The friendship is priceless for sure
RDPFUN wrote:SEXYRIDERS wrote:
We’ve been fortunate to have this a few times over the years and it’s amazing. We kind of gravitate to this when the connection is right.
Connections are hard to find.
When you find the right couple hold on.
The friendship is priceless for sure
Truth
TOTALLY4FUN wrote:This seems to be more frequent than most of us will admit. We know several couples this has happened. The divorce will inevitably come it’s just a matter of time. The question is do you want to facilitate the process? All the couples that we know thought they had a secure relationship too (most over 15 years of marriage) but everyone is unique and different. The appeal is definitely there because creating chemistry takes time.AANDR wrote:
We have been in the lifestyle for a while now and this starts to sound more and more appealing. Just need to find the right couple and we'd be interested.
We must admit that we agree with you guys. The idea of having an exclusive dating couple never appealed to us early on. In fact, we had some close friends who went down this path and it ended their marriage. One of the sets decided they wanted to be with each other and so they divorced and then married the other. Of course this can happen to any couple for any number of reasons, but it scared us off initially.
Now we're finding it more interesting due to the fact we're totally secure in our marriage and confident. It sounds fun to learn more about a couple and to gain some compatibility on many different levels.
We have seen some couples go down this path and eventually get divorced. The OP knows that they have a secure enough of a marriage to do this. But, does the OP really know the other couple's marriage security until they start dating? Naturally, the other couple will profess that they are very secure. But, one really doesn't know.
It happened to good friends of ours. They went exclusive with another couple who assured them that their marriage was secure enough to do this. Unfortunately, the other wife fell in love with my friend, who then ended it. Our friends' marriage had no problems since they are very secure. But the other couple's marriage did not survive.
I think that if the other couple that the OP is dating is allowed to date other couples, the potential pitfalls to this type of relationship might lessen. But, that's just my opinion. That's why I always ask the OP:
Even though you don't want to date any other couples, would you be okay if the your couple dates others?
It happened to good friends of ours. They went exclusive with another couple who assured them that their marriage was secure enough to do this. Unfortunately, the other wife fell in love with my friend, who then ended it. Our friends' marriage had no problems since they are very secure. But the other couple's marriage did not survive.
I think that if the other couple that the OP is dating is allowed to date other couples, the potential pitfalls to this type of relationship might lessen. But, that's just my opinion. That's why I always ask the OP:
Even though you don't want to date any other couples, would you be okay if the your couple dates others?
Like Candyrocks, we are looking for the same type of relationship. With the exception, that we like to play together in same room and as a group at times. Sharing the experience together as a couple is most important to us. But we also think its important to be able to do some individual dating, etc. Communication and a solid marriage are very important.
We are interested! Want to chat?
Yes please
Yes please
We love fwb it takes all the risk and frustration out of constantly searching for a good couple that are compatible
Me and my wife have been searching for sometime looking for that couple. We have met with other couples but because of distance it's hard for a consistant FWB couple.
We are both straight but are open to to explore. We only play together and are currently looking for a bi-m couple in southern idaho.
We are both straight but are open to to explore. We only play together and are currently looking for a bi-m couple in southern idaho.
We would love to meet a couple to "date" regularly
We've had the opportunity to do this multiple times. It's great with people you get along with. And we remain friends even after we have all moved on.
Nowadays we just take it one day at a time. While we are always willing to meet people and see where things go, we aren't in any hurry. If it happens great, if not oh well and we keep moving along.
Nowadays we just take it one day at a time. While we are always willing to meet people and see where things go, we aren't in any hurry. If it happens great, if not oh well and we keep moving along.
Because we frequently travel to Salt Lake City, we have established a very nice core group of couples in SLC that we manage to see every time we visit. We don't see all of them every time, but at least one or two. We really enjoy our ongoing friendships with them because they are all amazing people and we appreciate them!(You know who you are since you add comments to the forums a lot. lol) However, we still remain open to adding another couple or two to our core group. We much prefer seeing our friends regularly instead the "one and done" situation.
I’m down 😉
This is a fascinating idea and one that holds a lot of appeal. I do like the idea but I tend to want to be more open to all the possibilities that exist instead of trying to constrain a relationship. I feel like there is a small sense of trying to create the security of monogamy but with a little more excitement.
The challenge is definitely the dynamic of mutual attraction, personality fit, availability, etc… Dating apps are hard enough when you are only trying to find one person who fits you, trying to find 4 people who all genuinely enjoy each other, are interested in the same thing and share attraction is incredibly hard. And just because you have all of those things, sometimes you just don’t click. This comes to larger issue of most profiles being incredibly minimal, and frequently only showing pictures of one part of the couple (definitely a pet peeve). Best of luck on the journey, it is a fascinating one with a lot of upside.
Love to hear what people have done to effectively connect with couples that are a good fit.
The challenge is definitely the dynamic of mutual attraction, personality fit, availability, etc… Dating apps are hard enough when you are only trying to find one person who fits you, trying to find 4 people who all genuinely enjoy each other, are interested in the same thing and share attraction is incredibly hard. And just because you have all of those things, sometimes you just don’t click. This comes to larger issue of most profiles being incredibly minimal, and frequently only showing pictures of one part of the couple (definitely a pet peeve). Best of luck on the journey, it is a fascinating one with a lot of upside.
Love to hear what people have done to effectively connect with couples that are a good fit.
Hi , I wanna meet you
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Some of the best friendships we have had over the past few decades have been with other married couples having similar interests and respect. One of the best things to come from a close relationship like these has been the ability to travel together. We have been able to share suites or homes and relax without having to worry about looking our best. Nights sitting around in pj's if you wear them or whatever was comfortable and play games, watch tv, have a snack and just relax at night after a day of vacationing was wonderful.
I am in this scenario right now. I tell you what, it is a mental mind-fuck.
Spiderandbutterfly wrote:We are curious! How so? In a good way?
I am in this scenario right now. I tell you what, it is a mental mind-fuck.
HYM4CYN wrote:
Some of the best friendships we have had over the past few decades have been with other married couples having similar interests and respect. One of the best things to come from a close relationship like these has been the ability to travel together. We have been able to share suites or homes and relax without having to worry about looking our best. Nights sitting around in pj's if you wear them or whatever was comfortable and play games, watch tv, have a snack and just relax at night after a day of vacationing was wonderful.
Totally agree
This is the type of thing we are searching for.
We are looking for FWB also.
Sexyplayfulcpl wrote:
We are looking for FWB also.
Food for thought to get interest a profile with more content helps
SWINGSETS wrote:it's true. Having more info on your profile helps. It also weeds out the people who say "we're looking for the same things". We know pretty quickly if they have actually read our profile or not.Sexyplayfulcpl wrote:
We are looking for FWB also.
Food for thought to get interest a profile with more content helps
We'd love a fun couple but most that meet are far away
Playfulcple68 wrote:
A couple where we could enjoy thier company on a regular basis would be so nice. Lots of hey let's be friends and never meet gets old.
You guys are looking great