We understand that there is still the covid thing going around but it seams like the majority of the people I talk to already have there circle of playmates and don't want to expand or no response at all. Is this because we are new to the sight or are the groups really that cliquey? Just asking to know if this is what we should expect.
That being said we have talked to and meet up with some wonderful people we would like to thank them all. love ya guys.
That being said we have talked to and meet up with some wonderful people we would like to thank them all. love ya guys.
We text you guys but no answer...
Sorry I remember talking to you about boats then I got nothing after that. I am not sure what is going on.
Text us anytime
Prestonbu wrote:
We understand that there is still the covid thing going around but it seams like the majority of the people I talk to already have there circle of playmates and don't want to expand or no response at all. Is this because we are new to the sight or are the groups really that cliquey? Just asking to know if this is what we should expect.
That being said we have talked to and meet up with some wonderful people we would like to thank them all. love ya guys.
COVID - everything’s been really, really quite this year. No parties or events for new folks to meet others at and lots of people are not interested in chatting as they won’t be playing for awhile anyway.
Hoping things change soon, but who knows.
From our experience here. Yes, you are close to exactly right. We tell newbs to get on this site to look for k! K groups, party groups, parties and events and meet and greets. When you find those you will soon find a group and branch from there. Some of the most amazing people you will ever meet are in this site, they just don’t use the dating features.
Couple swap “dating” here is terrible. I think one, a lot of couple profiles here are fake and they are sending friends requests to look at your pictures. Two one party is on here looking and not consenting to contact you until after you have started = ghosting. Three, the real couples like yourself are having the same thing happen and they get as frustrated as you and give up.
Look for groups so you can hit a party and mingle or at least chat with people. Starting out is so very frustrating. Many many nights we had big plans and ended up sitting home bored from this very thing wondering “what’s wrong with us”.
Stop excepting or sending any friend requests without a message. If you feel anyone is fake, block them. The learning curve is hard in the lifestyle but your time should be valuable to you weather you are the sexiest couple on here or not, quickly cut away anything that wastes your time. This is supposed to be fun and exciting.
Couple swap “dating” here is terrible. I think one, a lot of couple profiles here are fake and they are sending friends requests to look at your pictures. Two one party is on here looking and not consenting to contact you until after you have started = ghosting. Three, the real couples like yourself are having the same thing happen and they get as frustrated as you and give up.
Look for groups so you can hit a party and mingle or at least chat with people. Starting out is so very frustrating. Many many nights we had big plans and ended up sitting home bored from this very thing wondering “what’s wrong with us”.
Stop excepting or sending any friend requests without a message. If you feel anyone is fake, block them. The learning curve is hard in the lifestyle but your time should be valuable to you weather you are the sexiest couple on here or not, quickly cut away anything that wastes your time. This is supposed to be fun and exciting.
Yes, the lifestyle, like high school, church, and many other things in life that revolve around people in groups large and small, is cliquey. Luckily, many swingers are always on the lookout for fresh meat (that's an impolite way to say people they haven't already fucked) so if you don't mind doing a little homework...and slogging thru a whole BUNCH of profiles, some of which could even be fake...or at least disingenuous, you will eventually find plenty of really awesome people to hang out with and maybe even, if you're lucky, have a little sexy time as well. Nobody ever said this would be easy...they just said it would be worth it! 
EVILDOERS wrote:
Yes, the lifestyle, like high school, church, and many other things in life that revolve around people in groups large and small, is cliquey. Luckily, many swingers are always on the lookout for fresh meat (that's an impolite way to say people they haven't already fucked) so if you don't mind doing a little homework...and slogging thru a whole BUNCH of profiles, some of which could even be fake...or at least disingenuous, you will eventually find plenty of really awesome people to hang out with and maybe even, if you're lucky, have a little sexy time as well. Nobody ever said this would be easy...they just said it would be worth it!
LEVILDOERS wrote:
Yes, the lifestyle, like high school, church, and many other things in life that revolve around people in groups large and small, is cliquey. Luckily, many swingers are always on the lookout for fresh meat (that's an impolite way to say people they haven't already fucked) so if you don't mind doing a little homework...and slogging thru a whole BUNCH of profiles, some of which could even be fake...or at least disingenuous, you will eventually find plenty of really awesome people to hang out with and maybe even, if you're lucky, have a little sexy time as well. Nobody ever said this would be easy...they just said it would be worth it!
OMG!That is a wonderful and perfect response
It’s hard for younger couples as well, not just newer couples. So we definitely feel your pain!
Sm435 wrote:
From our experience here. Yes, you are close to exactly right. We tell newbs to get on this site to look for k! K groups, party groups, parties and events and meet and greets. When you find those you will soon find a group and branch from there. Some of the most amazing people you will ever meet are in this site, they just don’t use the dating features.
Look for groups so you can hit a party and mingle or at least chat with people. Starting out is so very frustrating. Many many nights we had big plans and ended up sitting home bored from this very thing wondering “what’s wrong with us”..
EXACTLY THIS!!! This site is a great starting place for Utah. Go to the events posted below to meet people and expand your circle. Join KIK groups and Facebook groups, that's where the house parties are. If you see profiles on here that you like with a KIK name, reach out to them on KIK instead of messaging them here.
Prestonbu wrote:
.... or no response at all.
Are you referring to notes you have sent to members, or just friend requests? We respond to notes but not friend requests with no notes (blind requests)... though we did once. And we did receive the latter from you.
We are not clicky and are the opposite of snooty. But, we are particular in this realm... and have taken the time on our profile to give an honest and clear snap shot of what we are like and the type of people we would be interested in getting to know.
That said, if you are referring to sending notes to folks and not getting responses... that seems to be a sign of the times. Some are comfortable ignoring or ghosting others when behind their screen. We are not. For us, unless a message is tactless (which some have been, or are bordering on) or rude... we will respond. However... a friend request with no note = no response.
I approach on-line communication the same as in person. If a person greets me or says something nice, or asks a question.... I am not going to ignore them. Common courtesy. Unless terribly offensive, everyone deserves it, in our opinion. Unfortunately, not everyone subscribes to that courtesy on screen.
Best of luck.
This seems to be a common theme that pops up with many newer folks. What we've found to be true for us.....
1. Many profiles are either fake, or created by one person in a relationship without the others knowledge. Their only hopes are to collect sexy pics...or perhaps cheat on their spouse. Most here want to avoid being involved with either case. Most everyone here would prefer not everyone know of this side of us. Parents, kids, the list is long. So...they tend to be real careful who sees their pictures. We all have risks.
2.So we use filters. First is usually "No blind friend requests" Send a note, too...give us somewhere to start to find out a little about you. And then, when we reply...respond! You are as new to us, as we are to you.
3. Yes..there are cliques. Absolutely. But most are approachable with a little effort on your part. And some, you will find, are simply not worth your effort. lol
4.People approach this lifestyle in many different ways. Many just want new people to have sex with. Another notch in the bedpost, so to speak. Many, like us, just want friends that that we are comfortable enough with, that sex is not out of the question. We have many friends here that, that has never, nor will it be likely to happen with. I think most who have been here for a number of years feel this same way.
4.Physical appearance, or age. Sure, we all have our preferences, but we are not above going outside of those for friends..that may turn into more. Some of the best sex we have had has sometimes been with some older, younger, bigger, or thinner than our preferences. Many absolutely do NOT feel this way, and will not give you the time of day if you don't meet their qualifications. Just a fact. Sorry if that offends anyone.
5. It is the internet. Many just feel it is ok to be rude here, in anonymity.
That said...welcome aboard! Hopefully we will get a chance to meet you guys down the road!
1. Many profiles are either fake, or created by one person in a relationship without the others knowledge. Their only hopes are to collect sexy pics...or perhaps cheat on their spouse. Most here want to avoid being involved with either case. Most everyone here would prefer not everyone know of this side of us. Parents, kids, the list is long. So...they tend to be real careful who sees their pictures. We all have risks.
2.So we use filters. First is usually "No blind friend requests" Send a note, too...give us somewhere to start to find out a little about you. And then, when we reply...respond! You are as new to us, as we are to you.
3. Yes..there are cliques. Absolutely. But most are approachable with a little effort on your part. And some, you will find, are simply not worth your effort. lol
4.People approach this lifestyle in many different ways. Many just want new people to have sex with. Another notch in the bedpost, so to speak. Many, like us, just want friends that that we are comfortable enough with, that sex is not out of the question. We have many friends here that, that has never, nor will it be likely to happen with. I think most who have been here for a number of years feel this same way.
4.Physical appearance, or age. Sure, we all have our preferences, but we are not above going outside of those for friends..that may turn into more. Some of the best sex we have had has sometimes been with some older, younger, bigger, or thinner than our preferences. Many absolutely do NOT feel this way, and will not give you the time of day if you don't meet their qualifications. Just a fact. Sorry if that offends anyone.
5. It is the internet. Many just feel it is ok to be rude here, in anonymity.
That said...welcome aboard! Hopefully we will get a chance to meet you guys down the road!
Your message gives me hope that we will find people who we can share our experience with. We are fairly new and have only swung a couple of times. We are both very open to meeting all kinds of couples preferably experienced so we can learn more things from them. We wish to be at a level where we can also pass on that knowledge to other and keep this heat and passion going.
Hey sweetheart
How do we find these private groups on kiik or anything else
Are you close
Do you live close
I never received anything I’m sorry
Me
Hey sweetheart
Hey sweetheart
Some one Just sent me the directions I’ll copy them for you
We are in Utah
I’m Also new and it’s hard to navigate and I’m not really getting much out of it are you
We've met. We arent clicky 
I can't agree more I have had a hard time meeting new people as well. I have also had a hard time with the stigma that single male carries as well.
Hi Prestonbu we are fairly new also. Reach out on Kik mivyfun2 and let’s arrange to meet????
Yes it has been difficult the times we try. I
I have to admit that’s it’s been difficult for us to meet people here that are okay with full figured woman and a large man. We both are power lifters and work out a lot but because we are bigger it’s hard to find interested couples or woman.
We feel the same way, both of us are bigger, but we are some of the nicest non-judgmental people anyone will ever meet
We've had similar issues. Just seems that most that we could potentially click with pull away when we can actually meet
We started years ago, but when we started going burn events we met people that were really opened minded and it gave us a chance to really get to know them. It’s hard to click but merely arranging a play date and for couple both people don’t always have chemistry.
Try meet and great and camp outs or sip your toe into a house party they are usually wrist banded to your comfort level if the hosts know what they are doing.
Good luck
Try meet and great and camp outs or sip your toe into a house party they are usually wrist banded to your comfort level if the hosts know what they are doing.
Good luck
I'm sure right now has to be tough for new people joining the site. There's not a lot going on this year. Seem more Facebook groups have been formed than posts going on here.
Hoping when all this crap comes to an end more parties will open up and better gatherings.
For you new ones to the site get varifed it helps, add more than one picture to your profile. Make sure you have face pictures, and pictures of the man ( the ladies want an idea of what they are getting in the deal) nothing like trying meet another couple and you have no clue what the other people look like. Guess it works if the girl walks in with no shirt on lol.
Don't just send friend request send a message you'll get a better response, and don't get discouraged if you don't get a response. Call it what it is you might not be there cup of tea.
Hoping when all this crap comes to an end more parties will open up and better gatherings.
For you new ones to the site get varifed it helps, add more than one picture to your profile. Make sure you have face pictures, and pictures of the man ( the ladies want an idea of what they are getting in the deal) nothing like trying meet another couple and you have no clue what the other people look like. Guess it works if the girl walks in with no shirt on lol.
Don't just send friend request send a message you'll get a better response, and don't get discouraged if you don't get a response. Call it what it is you might not be there cup of tea.
COVID is killing all the fun!
Welcome to message and talk to us anytime. We'd love to meet you guys.
also we hat to point this out but we've noticed an increase in the flaking lately. Im sure were all busy with our lives and what not but its a little disappointing. But anyways for sure hit us up we'd love to meet you guys and/or have you over for a party or group night or something
Thanks for the heads up. I'll have to take this into consideration and everything with a grain of salt.
PRESTONBU, I don't know how anyone could miss an opportunity to meet you. From your pics and profile you look very alluring and fun. Are you sure you don't have everyone blocked?
We are not new but easy to meet... 
SoScrewMe wrote:
We are not new but easy to meet...
WOW ^^^ Fuck me. Sorry did I say that out loud? One hot lady.
We are actively looking to meet others no responses on messages or anything.
new here and i don't bite lol.
SoScrewMe wrote:
We are not new but easy to meet...
well it would be a pleasure to learn a bit more about you
We want to get back to having fun, but we have been playing it low. We just want to be careful.
Yeah looks like this web is fake and the little people is real they are very picky and they don't say nothing is no that hard to say we no interest but thanks for contact us simple as that but poor education or very lazy people to respond just think if they are like that on the other side of the web how they going to be in person
Yeah looks like this web is fake and the little people is real they are very picky and they don't say nothing is no that hard to say we no interest but thanks for contact us simple as that but poor education or very lazy people to respond just think if they are like that on the other side of the web how they going to be in person
Me being new to here is hard, not many couples want single guys like myself. Yeah I know my profile is very under filled but I give everyone a chance to talk to me. I am very respectful. Even if you don't have a k!k I am always on to read emails. The last thing I got from a couple they stopped showing and thus leaving me hanging.