Swingers Forum - What are your motivating factors?

Just curious....what brings you here? Is it curiosity? Lonliness? Pressure from a significant other? A burning desire to expand your sexual knowledge? So far we have been dissapointed that people seem to hide thier motives. As far as we are concerned any motive is acceptable as long as it is not masked or dishonest. Anyone? As far as I am concerned this is my post so my rules and all can speak freely here. Speak your mind, please. Perhaps someone will relate to your position and become more comfortable. Here is ours.

Hi....the dirty duo here...wanting to open the door for all the less than perfect ladies and couples out there. We are just hitting our stride at this point in life and if fun and xtc is what you seek, well, just maybe we can go down thru there together. Fair warning, we smoke, and. Occasionally partake and don't give a rats ass if anyone likes it or not. This has put us on the outs with many here, but we really don't wanna hang with that crowd anyway. We are down to earth, have no expectations, but very high hopes. If you are trying to find a church buddy we aren't for you. Same goes if you want to show off your new friends to the neighborhood association. However, if you are actually interested in continuing your sexual journey then let's talk and see what jives. After all, isn't that the essence of why we come to this site??

Ohhhh shit! You cracked us up!! Thank God for that!! Lol

I was originally introduced to the lifestyle by my X. My experience with him was not the best. However, along the road I have met some of the best people in this community. I have found them to be more genuine and classy than many vanilla people. That's what motivates me. Meeting good, like minded people.

Bahahaha!! Evil, we love your wicked sense of humor(. Always spot on and funny as hell!! Diva, well said! Man, we just want to actually make some real friends and we really are that horny. We have been here and pretty vocal for 6 months and yet to have an encounter. Frustrating. Doesn't have to be instant nor do we require a long courtship. We are down with as much as our friends to be are. I think in our attempts to throw the persistent sm and fakes off we have come accross too hardcore

Fuckin a!! We need to hangout soon!!

I tried this site years ago and had some really fun experiences with sexy house parties and fun M&G's. I met a few people and enjoyed some small group play, mfm, a GB, and meeting some single ladies and hotwifes.
So i'm here because of positive past experience.

straightalk wrote:

I'm a married guy, pretending to be single so I can trick women into having sex with me. I usually end up playing with bored cheating wives, overweight mature women and newcomers that don't know any better. (At least that's what 90% of you think)

OK have to say I chocked a little while reading this.

DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:

I grew up in a 900 square foot cinder block home, in a rough neck, blue collar neighborhood in Glendale Arizona. I ended up in a few really good garage bands. The girls in the neighborhood tended to be pretty liberated sexually, so I had a lot of casual sex. I went to college, ended up in a few really good bands, sometimes fusion rock, and sometimes jazz. I went on tour and had a lot of sexual adventures. Meanwhile, in the not so distant town of Peoria Arizona, in wealthier neighborhood, the woman who would eventually become the love of my life was being raised a good Mormon girl. Eventually, I for some reason, thought I needed to move more toward a mainstream life, and I actually tried organized religion. It really didn't stick. It had something to do with my basic nature, which included the whole desire to be a father, and have a life long partner. I met this long legged beauty, who I could tell, had all this sexual drive beating away at her. We found out we were compatible in so many ways, and we got married. We raised a family, and had a great monogamous sexual relationship. No complaints, it was a great time in our lives. In time, the cognitive dissonance within her, about "the Church" got to a point she started to openly express her thoughts. She discovered that there is an even higher level of intimacy available outside of that particular box. It's so nice to be honest without having an outside influence pulling on a guilt leash. So we talked about all the things, she never tried, that she deep down inside, would have liked to try. So here we are! Deep down inside, we both were, and are, cut out to be a pair bonded couple, parents, family people. We just don't feel we need any guidance from a pulpit to be good partners or parents. And, we don't need to be monogamous. We can fuck other people, and we enjoy watching each other fuck other people, hearing about each other fucking other people, we love it! We have been away from organized religion for years and years. We have not found non-monogamy, AKA swinging, to do any damage to our relationship. It's been really fun! Due to the inability of some within society, to not want to control everyone's behaviors; and where as, these same people, especially in groups, have the tendency to be punitive, yes, we are still some what careful. Our kids are all healthy happy successful adults, and most of them are in great relationships, and we have grand kids. Family takes up most of our time and energy. Do our kids know? Yeah, some of them are not exactly monogamous, so, the apples didn't fall too far from the tree. Do we talk about it? Not really. Kids really don't want to, and probably shouldn't know all the specifics, about their parents sex lives, and parents, really don't need to know all the specifics about their adult children's sex lives. Swinging is a part of our lives, but not anything approaching a ruling force, or our defining moniker.
Oh, the question at hand....Our motivating factors are a desire to meet fun and exciting people, some of whom, will become sexual partners. Interesting, kind, compassionate, sexually driven people who enjoy a similar erotic perspective and desires.

Bravo!! Well said DELICIOUSLYWET.

In a nut shell, I'm a sensual, sexual, passionate, slightly kinky human being, and main stream vanilla just doesn't offer what I like, want or seek. That, and you all, are a lot more fun too!