Something none of us can control at present is growing older. For most of us, getting older means physical and some mental changes. These changes have a tendency to make us less desirable especially to the younger crowds, yet the minds of the maturing swingers still feel the need for participation along with the attraction for others. So, the questions are: How do you handle getting older and finding yourself less attractive to others and less involved. And, what are your age boundaries, if any. The youngest you will participate with and the oldest you will friend and why. We have our own opinions, we will express later, but we would like to see what others think.
We think the biggest issue isn't so much age as interest changes. We personally again have found that who we are attracted to is more based on common interest, lifestyles, etc.
I'll second Utahldscouple. Interests and comfort level with play partners is more important than age. There are many mature swingers much more attractive than younger ones too. Perhaps they have more time to devote to fitness. Age really means nothing to us. Body types don't matter much either. It's really a package deal and a balance of all the qualities that make an individual or couple.
We've taken a somewhat different approach and have simply halted the aging process entirely by no longer acknowledging our respective birthdays and, more importantly, sleeping in a giant Tupperware container. Burping ourselves in each night is rather tricky but it's worth it every morning when we look in the mirror and don't notice any new wilting on our faces. This is a pic of Ms. Evil last December, at one of our famous Tupperware/key parties, getting the ladies all warmed up and horny for the men to arrive and see who's lid fits which woman's Tupperware.
we have not to much to say about this subject but i (the male half) do have the need to throw our 2 cents in the pot, i have been in the lifestyle for a while and all thru the time in the lifestyle i never look at age to me it was always a number and still is sexy is sexy at any age, to me then and is the same now its all about the asshole factor when that is high then there is no attraction at all...
i know this is not the answer to the question at large, but one cant control the minds of others so just keep being sexy in ur own way and to each other and there will be others that u will rock there world,,,
i know this is not the answer to the question at large, but one cant control the minds of others so just keep being sexy in ur own way and to each other and there will be others that u will rock there world,,,
We've met younger couples who enjoy mature couples. So they have been as young as in their 20s. Others as old as late 60s, early 70s.
It's more about the people than the age.
It's more about the people than the age.
In the same vein as most of the responses. Was younger than most when I started. When I first started it was just partying with my friends. There were several couples but a majority of my friends were single and just exploring. My location I think had something to do with my exposure. South Beach and Miami Beach have catered to all of this. Then I married fairly early. While I had experience he had none. He was more hung up with ages than I. Even early on I had hooked up with older couples or singles, 10+ or more my senior. For me maturity levels was much more important than the age. Also realizing experienced partners were more enjoyable for me. Short marriage, he didn’t have the mind for swinging and I think this is the case for one of the parts of a couple that I have experienced. Now all my partners are senior to me. I really don’t meet new couples alone only through parties of my friends. So age is not a deciding factor for me. Experience and maturity are the top two and attraction is right up there. The one point about lifestyles makes sense as well, being single at my age I really don’t run in the same circles as couples with children. Unless the friendship was cultivated early on.
We have always enjoyed people similar to our own age. If you would have told us in our late 20s that we would not be attracted to late 20 year olds, we would have called you a damn liar. Just like us, our tastes have matured. 30 somethings to 50 somethings are much more interesting than people in their 20s or 60s. It is what it is.
I'll chime in since we're on the younger side, but like many have said as long as we have comparable or same interests and can hold a conversation whether bullshitting, jobs, politics, and enjoy each other's company I don't have issues with appearances. My only caveat is the other couple taking care of themselves as we prefer couples whether you're 20 or 60 that you wear that age nicely and are HWP. If you're messaging us and both or one part of the couple is obese then it's going to be a no because we communicate. HWP and pushiness are my two pet peeves. I'll make friends with anyone and go offroading, shooting, house parties, etc, but playing is about getting something for the two of us.
Thank you so much HYM4CYN for broaching this topic, and for all the thoughtful responses. Though I've had the desire my whole life to experience the "lifestyle," circumstances made that impossible. Now that circumstances have changed and I CAN explore this lifelong interest, according to what I've read here, being the stigmatized "single guy" may be the biggest problem for me. Speaking for myself, I agree with those who have said that chemistry and common interests have more to do with attraction than age or body type. Not that I blame anyone, because when I was a couple, we felt the same way, but I think single guys are often discounted before given a chance to find out if there is chemistry or common interests. There are so many beautiful people on here... there are ample good choices for couples to consider without having to wade through the glut of single guys to find someone they might truly connect with. So unless or until I become a couple again, I'll just keep being my awesome self LOL.
It is hard to imagine having hot raging sex with new partners would be boring
But the edge was wearing off.
Do we began to experiment with BDSM, leather, restraint, combined with Tantra.
As We added more erotic and sexual tension our orgasm became explosive again.
We play this way not every time but we lose tha erotic feeling
But the edge was wearing off.
Do we began to experiment with BDSM, leather, restraint, combined with Tantra.
As We added more erotic and sexual tension our orgasm became explosive again.
We play this way not every time but we lose tha erotic feeling
Great topic. I know that we aren't as toned as when in our early 20s but we are also much more experienced sexually. Personally speaking, when I (Scott) was single and in the lifestyle, it was the couple's who were older and more experienced that I had the most fun with.
I co-hosted a party back in 2013 and there was a couple who had been in the lifestyle since the late 70s. She was still stunning and he was handsome. I think that those who judge solely on looks will miss out on great times. Mutual interests, common life experience, and sexual compatibility are also very important.
I co-hosted a party back in 2013 and there was a couple who had been in the lifestyle since the late 70s. She was still stunning and he was handsome. I think that those who judge solely on looks will miss out on great times. Mutual interests, common life experience, and sexual compatibility are also very important.
Like most of the responders we enjoy all ages depending on the chemistry and interaction. What we have found is in most cases we may not be someone they would seek out but at a party it's a whole different set of circumstances. At Naughty in Nawlins we have met and played with different age groups. Keeping up is based on that individuals desire and energy level. Like anything else it just depends on the person.
We do usually prefer playing with couples our age and younger to about the 40's. Most of the couples we are friends with are 50s and 60s
We do usually prefer playing with couples our age and younger to about the 40's. Most of the couples we are friends with are 50s and 60s
I was a wild man in my twenties and thirties as a ski bum, them marriage and monogamy. That is all in the past and to quote a friend, "the older you get, the more invisible you become" That is true especially in Utah but I can make a hot 34 year old Philippino very satisfied where it counts. There is a huge geography issue however.
Although we aren't quite as rabid towards swinging as maybe we were 15 years ago we still do enjoy getting out to meet and greets, parties or a one on one date on occasion. Although we have lived out many incredible fantasies we certainly do enjoy experiencing them again and we find the best place to do that is on a trip to Hedonism or Desire. We typically go at least once a year and for those who have never been we would highly recommend trying to get there asap! It is basically adult fantasyland. There is nothing better! Hopefully we will get there this October if the Corona doesn't get in the way. Definitely not a sure thing at this point in time.
Well - you can start by taking a mulligan. For non-golfers . . . I don't know how to help you.
Age is just a number, and, to paraphrase the words of Ronald Regan (He was a US President of the United States for all you young people 🤣) when asked about his age in comparison to a much younger candidate "we promise not make people's age and inexperience an issue in this campaign" 🤣
We are more than happy to share whatever our life experience has taught us🤣 In the meantime - we find we spend more time working out and trying to stay young than we ever did when we were younger. Other than the few years in high school and college when I played ball - I think I'm in the best shape of my life - which doesn't mean I have any plans to relent anytime soon. The Mrs would say the same!
As far as swinging - we are still the newbies on that front - so in lifestyle years . . . we are still in our mid-20's. It is a hobby for us . . . not our primary focus and we still value friendship over sex . . . although having friends that don't mind getting naked with you at the end of the day . . . and allowing for a 'grope fest' well, that is just the best of the best!!!
Age is just a number, and, to paraphrase the words of Ronald Regan (He was a US President of the United States for all you young people 🤣) when asked about his age in comparison to a much younger candidate "we promise not make people's age and inexperience an issue in this campaign" 🤣
We are more than happy to share whatever our life experience has taught us🤣 In the meantime - we find we spend more time working out and trying to stay young than we ever did when we were younger. Other than the few years in high school and college when I played ball - I think I'm in the best shape of my life - which doesn't mean I have any plans to relent anytime soon. The Mrs would say the same!
As far as swinging - we are still the newbies on that front - so in lifestyle years . . . we are still in our mid-20's. It is a hobby for us . . . not our primary focus and we still value friendship over sex . . . although having friends that don't mind getting naked with you at the end of the day . . . and allowing for a 'grope fest' well, that is just the best of the best!!!
We have discussed this issue and agree we have a shelf life like a can of beans. However we are motivated to keep our bodies in shape and regularly have the most intense sex ever. It actually gets better with age and experience. So whatever floats your boat there is no judgement here. We love sex because it’s all about the couple or individual and what your feel like in the moment.
Whiskey_Girl wrote:
We have discussed this issue and agree we have a shelf life like a can of beans. However we are motivated to keep our bodies in shape and regularly have the most intense sex ever. It actually gets better with age and experience. So whatever floats your boat there is no judgement here. We love sex because it’s all about the couple or individual and what your feel like in the moment.
We agree completely....why waste time.
This is a great discussion. We, too, have aged in many ways since entering the shared lifestyle. We were always selective, but now, it is the mental connection more than ever. Being comfortable with people who accept themselves and we hope we offer the same. We both have had health challenges the last few years...it happens, but are working to make the most of what we have left. We find sharing intimacy with couples of similar age and life experiences brings the best connection. Sometimes we question if it is time to move on due to our age, but for now...we enjoy that very rare connection that hooked us long ago...being naughty and doing what was "forbidden."
HYM4CYN wrote:
Something none of us can control at present is growing older. For most of us, getting older means physical and some mental changes. These changes have a tendency to make us less desirable especially to the younger crowds, yet the minds of the maturing swingers still feel the need for participation along with the attraction for others. So, the questions are: How do you handle getting older and finding yourself less attractive to others and less involved. And, what are your age boundaries, if any. The youngest you will participate with and the oldest you will friend and why. We have our own opinions, we will express later, but we would like to see what others think.
We have no age boundaries, when we were in our 20's we would play with people up to their 60's. Now that we are in our 40's, we play with couples in their 20's occasionally. We had played with couples younger than our youngest kid lol. Our secret? If a couple does not like us there may be a million reasons for us to worry about it. We had been turned down by older and way less attractive couples than us. We just move on to the next one, stay positive and don't overthink shit.