I'm curious why a profile name would include the letters "LDS"? I understand what the letters stand for, but isn't this lifestyle and the activities typically associated with this site strictly prohibited by the church?
Is it an indication that you're still actively involved in the church and doing this on the down-low? Or maybe you're proud of the fact that you're thumbing your nose at the church establishment? Obviously the location of most members on this site has an impact.
However I don't see too many other profiles with religious references in the name like CatholicCouple or SexyJews4You, but we've seen multiple profiles with "LDS" and just can't figure it out.
There is absolutely no offense intended with this post and I apologize in advance if I anyone is offended. Just really curious.
Thanks!
Is it an indication that you're still actively involved in the church and doing this on the down-low? Or maybe you're proud of the fact that you're thumbing your nose at the church establishment? Obviously the location of most members on this site has an impact.
However I don't see too many other profiles with religious references in the name like CatholicCouple or SexyJews4You, but we've seen multiple profiles with "LDS" and just can't figure it out.
There is absolutely no offense intended with this post and I apologize in advance if I anyone is offended. Just really curious.
Thanks!
Totally agree, we find it interesting as well.
Well to understand our background and where we are coming from. We get judged by both groups. We find it funny that people get caught up by the name.
We think it's great. Kudo's to Utahldscouple.
I'm actually upset because we are Jewish and didn't think of SexyJews4You! Shit! But, to your point we find it interesting as well. In fact we have seen profiles where the LDS folks only want to fuck other LDS folks. We have not seen that in years, but it was on here at one time. I'm glad we're past that. Let's all just have fun.
We used to be Mormons (Well, technically, Ms. Evil still is, I guess.). And we've know MANY swingers over the years who have been involved in recreational non-monogamy (A nice way to say committing adultery. LOL) as well as differing levels of activity in the LDS church.
We knew one couple a few years back who would party HARD on Sat. night and still be up early and in the pews every Sunday morning. Invariably they would text us every Sunday evening telling us that they were no longer going to swing...and then about Wednesday of every week they would text again asking us if there were any parties going on the next weekend. LOL It never really bothered us that they somehow justified or practiced some sort of cognitive dissonance when it came to the two activities since most people we know do the same thing but in differing areas of their lives.
One of several reasons we chose our screen name was to poke a little fun at ourselves for taking up wife swapping while we were still somewhat active Mormons. I think,perhaps, a more interesting question/topic isn't how many have "LDS" (or some other designation associated with Mormonism) in their screen names but how very many once staunch Mormons have felt a strong desire to flaunt the strict and onerous chastity laws of the Mormon church to actively participate in our little hobby.
We knew one couple a few years back who would party HARD on Sat. night and still be up early and in the pews every Sunday morning. Invariably they would text us every Sunday evening telling us that they were no longer going to swing...and then about Wednesday of every week they would text again asking us if there were any parties going on the next weekend. LOL It never really bothered us that they somehow justified or practiced some sort of cognitive dissonance when it came to the two activities since most people we know do the same thing but in differing areas of their lives.
One of several reasons we chose our screen name was to poke a little fun at ourselves for taking up wife swapping while we were still somewhat active Mormons. I think,perhaps, a more interesting question/topic isn't how many have "LDS" (or some other designation associated with Mormonism) in their screen names but how very many once staunch Mormons have felt a strong desire to flaunt the strict and onerous chastity laws of the Mormon church to actively participate in our little hobby.
Maybe I'm being bad but I've heard an argument that the LDS folks were the original swingers!
Some have a hard time getting out of church due to family and jobs. I don't have a hard time with the names, or the occasional joke. In a way this kind of a turn on seeing others that have gotten over the dominant authoritarian control of the church and the guilt trip that the church gives their members!
We have met several couples who are very much active in the LDS church. We don't think their screen names portray this. We did however meet one couple who told us their going out clothes were laid out next to their church clothes šš
Utahldscouple wrote:
Well to understand our background and where we are coming from. We get judged by both groups. We find it funny that people get caught up by the name.
Well my concern would be meeting up with you and then you guys breaking down with regret asking us to help you repent!
I think people in Utah obsess W A Y too much about the Mormon / non-Mormon thing. We must remember that the point of ALL religions in the Judeo-Christian tradition is to help people find their ābest selvesā. Some would argue that equates to ācontrolā. We have never seen a control element beyond what participants were willing to give. In fact, the very nature of the religions we have been exposed to is to get people to voluntarily submit to a set of standards and/or guidelines. The fact that some people use that to rub otherās noses in is not a tenant or the fault of the religion - but of the small minded people in a religion . . . who parenthetically . . . are still working on finding THEIR best selves and just havenāt figured it out yet. (IOHO).
As to swinging and religion . . . May we also submit that some may be looking at it bass ackwards!?! I mean - as we understand the commandments . . . arenāt the top two to āLove Godā and to āLove Othersā??? Maybe we misunderstood. In the LS, we are presented with better opportunities to love others . . . and to āloveā them more completely. As to the definition of āadultryā . . . which is one of those ādown the list commandmentsā - maybe this is just self justification . . . but to us, adultry has always referred to ābehind the backā behavior (not THAT kind of behind the back . . . the proverbial kind of behind the back) . . . and to us . . . it (as weāve defined it) is still abhorrent. While we donāt judge others - that is just not the way either of us wants to roll. We must remember that small minded people had reduced Godās law of āKeeping the Sabbath Day Holyā to how many steps they could take. Really? You think God cares about how many steps we take on ANY day of the week??? Small minded people have always bastardized religion for either their own purposes or to make themselves feel better about themselves at the expense of others.
OK - so maybe we have misunderstood religion. Maybe we have conveniently re-interpreted Godās commandments. It works for us. In our minds, we are still trying to be the best version of ourselves. It is what we aspire to. We assume others are doing the same thing. LS participation is evolved thinking. Whether that amounts to sin is a matter of discussion and disagreement. We feel that people in the LS are more honest and true to themselves. When both parts of a couple are involved with the full knowledge and explicit approval of the other - we just canāt see how there is anything wrong with that. The fact that some people in any religion would interpret it differently and use that information to kick people out of the religion . . . well - again - we see that as more small mindedness and the fault of people . . . not any religion.
We recognize there are many who feel differently about this topic. Isnāt it beautiful that we can agree to disagree?? I donāt think any of us should give two shits about whether any religion is referenced in a profile name. To us it is interesting. Some of the coolest people we have met in the LS have been active LDS, Catholic, Prostestants and Jews (did we leave anyone out?? If so . . . it wasnāt intentional . . . we just havenāt met you yet). God bless them/you all! It makes them/you interesting to us and colors the various shades of who they/you are. We love to learn more about what makes people tick and how they think about lifeās greatest issues. For those who disagree . . . Well, I always say that: āIām often wrong, but NEVER unsure!ā. YTMV.
As to swinging and religion . . . May we also submit that some may be looking at it bass ackwards!?! I mean - as we understand the commandments . . . arenāt the top two to āLove Godā and to āLove Othersā??? Maybe we misunderstood. In the LS, we are presented with better opportunities to love others . . . and to āloveā them more completely. As to the definition of āadultryā . . . which is one of those ādown the list commandmentsā - maybe this is just self justification . . . but to us, adultry has always referred to ābehind the backā behavior (not THAT kind of behind the back . . . the proverbial kind of behind the back) . . . and to us . . . it (as weāve defined it) is still abhorrent. While we donāt judge others - that is just not the way either of us wants to roll. We must remember that small minded people had reduced Godās law of āKeeping the Sabbath Day Holyā to how many steps they could take. Really? You think God cares about how many steps we take on ANY day of the week??? Small minded people have always bastardized religion for either their own purposes or to make themselves feel better about themselves at the expense of others.
OK - so maybe we have misunderstood religion. Maybe we have conveniently re-interpreted Godās commandments. It works for us. In our minds, we are still trying to be the best version of ourselves. It is what we aspire to. We assume others are doing the same thing. LS participation is evolved thinking. Whether that amounts to sin is a matter of discussion and disagreement. We feel that people in the LS are more honest and true to themselves. When both parts of a couple are involved with the full knowledge and explicit approval of the other - we just canāt see how there is anything wrong with that. The fact that some people in any religion would interpret it differently and use that information to kick people out of the religion . . . well - again - we see that as more small mindedness and the fault of people . . . not any religion.
We recognize there are many who feel differently about this topic. Isnāt it beautiful that we can agree to disagree?? I donāt think any of us should give two shits about whether any religion is referenced in a profile name. To us it is interesting. Some of the coolest people we have met in the LS have been active LDS, Catholic, Prostestants and Jews (did we leave anyone out?? If so . . . it wasnāt intentional . . . we just havenāt met you yet). God bless them/you all! It makes them/you interesting to us and colors the various shades of who they/you are. We love to learn more about what makes people tick and how they think about lifeās greatest issues. For those who disagree . . . Well, I always say that: āIām often wrong, but NEVER unsure!ā. YTMV.
I am just happy they are in the lifestyle. I don't judge.
Chalbri wrote:You know what the best part of that is? You can make that decision before meeting up with us because we are full disclosure up front. You donāt have to meet up with us and itās ok to have your preferences.Utahldscouple wrote:
Well to understand our background and where we are coming from. We get judged by both groups. We find it funny that people get caught up by the name.
Well my concern would be meeting up with you and then you guys breaking down with regret asking us to help you repent!
We think itās weird to advertise it, just our opinion. I assume itās because they want to attract others of the same faith, why else would you do it? We could care less one way or the other as long as they arenāt hypocrites.
We're love lifestylers of any religion. As long as you don't try and convert us while we're naked in the hot tub we're all good. š
FunKinkyDuo wrote:Same reason others advertise it things their name. Pretty simple here so the anti bashers can let us be and we can find others that understand our background.
We think itās weird to advertise it, just our opinion. I assume itās because they want to attract others of the same faith, why else would you do it? We could care less one way or the other as long as they arenāt hypocrites.
Utahldscouple wrote:
Same reason others advertise it things their name. Pretty simple here so the anti bashers can let us be and we can find others that understand our background.
This makes sense to me, having once been Mo myself. I may not be part of it anymore but respect it and appreciate much of what I took from it. I do not wish to hear any bashing.
What it DID do was make me want to make up for some lost time on a handful of things.
MrNMrsHorny wrote:
We're love lifestylers of any religion. As long as you don't try and convert us while we're naked in the hot tub we're all good. š
Can I have an Amen!
I say to each their own.āļø
Interesting....
Check out what soaking means. Could be what they are looking for. Or maybe looking to end up in polygamous marriage.
Check out what soaking means. Could be what they are looking for. Or maybe looking to end up in polygamous marriage.
Its a double edged sword. On one side, its a signal to other of us in the faith that we understand discretion and if we chat and get to know each other, they understand why they may or may not do somethings. On the other side, you do open yourself up to mockery and jokes. But it also tells you who will take you seriously and who wont. In the end, it's up to anyone if they want to meet or not.