Are there any real players on this site?
Does anyone ever get a response to an inquiry even if is just to say hello?
Of all the sites of which I am member, this site seems the least friendly.
You thoughts?
Does anyone ever get a response to an inquiry even if is just to say hello?
Of all the sites of which I am member, this site seems the least friendly.
You thoughts?
Willplay wrote:Players is a very interesting word to choose. We almost always respond to request (doesn’t mean yes). But we have met plenty of people on this site. But this is really more Utah centric so your location may be an issue.
Are there any real players on this site?
Does anyone ever get a response to an inquiry even if is just to say hello?
Of all the sites of which I am member, this site seems the least friendly.
You thoughts?
I guess I don't mean "players" so much as "people who like to play".
I am always courteous, polite and I think friendly, but wondered why so many people join these sites if they're really not interested in interacting with others with similar interests.
Perhaps it's just a bunch of men posting pics of their wives or girlfriends in the hope of others doing the same.
Anyway for those of you who are real, a friendly response to a "hello" or "friend request" even if it is "no thank-you" is much appreciated. AT least we'd know there are real people out there!
I am always courteous, polite and I think friendly, but wondered why so many people join these sites if they're really not interested in interacting with others with similar interests.
Perhaps it's just a bunch of men posting pics of their wives or girlfriends in the hope of others doing the same.
Anyway for those of you who are real, a friendly response to a "hello" or "friend request" even if it is "no thank-you" is much appreciated. AT least we'd know there are real people out there!
Willplay wrote:
I guess I don't mean "players" so much as "people who like to play".
I am always courteous, polite and I think friendly, but wondered why so many people join these sites if they're really not interested in interacting with others with similar interests.
Perhaps it's just a bunch of men posting pics of their wives or girlfriends in the hope of others doing the same.
Anyway for those of you who are real, a friendly response to a "hello" or "friend request" even if it is "no thank-you" is much appreciated. AT least we'd know there are real people out there!
There are plenty of people here who like to play. WHO, exactly, they like to play with is the overriding question. As some have pointed out, geography is somewhat against you here as well as the fact that you're a single male and, for some, don't bring as much to the table (i.e. a partner).
But there are plenty of people who play with single males. It's just that with single males it's DEF a buyers market and those who play with them can be, and often are, very choosey. Simple supply and demand. And I know it's hard for some guys (not saying you're in this category) to not think that all swingers are DTF anyone, any time, anywhere.
Market yourself wisely. Find your target audience (Read profiles METICULOUSLY to make sure you know someone is looking for someone like you.) and, most of all, be patient and you will eventually find people to play with.
Well said Evil!!
I think the part most forget is the "(Read profiles METICULOUSLY to make sure you know someone is looking for someone like you.)" part.
I think the part most forget is the "(Read profiles METICULOUSLY to make sure you know someone is looking for someone like you.)" part.
We have met some really fun people on this site but we are I Utah and it seems to be more active here. I think half the profiles think they want to be swingers, make a profile then get scared and never come back. Lol.
This is mainly a Utah site. If your not in the surrounding areas you are unlikely to get much response.
Mayaswellplay wrote:
We have met some really fun people on this site but we are I Utah and it seems to be more active here. I think half the profiles think they want to be swingers, make a profile then get scared and never come back. Lol.
We have a similar opinion.
Having lived all over the country, while participating in the lifestyle, we have observed that Utah has an entirely different, and quite immature vibe when it comes to swinging. We believe being on the site is what gets them off. They're being SUPER naughty, crafting fantasies together, but doing nothing more than taking up space.
The forums are a great example of that. All these threads about posting pics are lame AF. "Whose got the best ass!", "Show us your big dick", "TITTY TUESDAY!!". WTF ever... that's Jr. High stuff. You really don't see it on other sites the way you do on this one. In other parts of the country, they don't want you to post a pic of you pussy. They want you to get in the car and bring it over to the house to get fucked. After all, that IS the point. From the outside looking in, having experienced both sides, Utah is comical AF!
Our experience: There are plenty of people on the site looking for connections and couples to potentially play with. There are also a fair number of people that are DTF - including with singles. Ourselves, and most of those we have interacted with, are looking for friends first - those with whom we share a strong connection and chemistry, with the potential to play. Chemistry and connection are inclusive of attraction . . . and, believe it or not, that can't be imposed on anyone just because of one participant in the equation or another's sexual desire and/or motivation. One must remember that this is a hobby for most, not their most dominant or even their secondary priority. When one considers their own and other's demanding schedules, then add to that the chemistry and hormonal wave frequencies which vary from couple to couple (e.g. whether or not they are feeling horny), its actually a small miracle of the LS Gods when any three or four people connect for a sexually related liaison. Some get offended by this condition - most just understand its the price of admission. When all the stars line up for everyone . . . it can be magical. Our advise: Keep the faith - and maybe consider one or more other websites (especially those which cater to your locale). Good luck and happy hunting.
Yes ... there’s real people out here ..lol I’m Ed she is Sunny we are in Mississippi the real question is is there any real people in Mississippi? Lol?
Wildcouple1234 wrote:this probably is t the best site for Mississippi.
Yes ... there’s real people out here ..lol I’m Ed she is Sunny we are in Mississippi the real question is is there any real people in Mississippi? Lol?
This is not mainly a Utah Site. It is less productive if you are contacting people outside of your area. The bigger problem you may run into is that you are a single male. been there, done that. Ya see on here there are lots of couples that in many ways say they are not interested in single males. But damn, those single males contact them any way. And when they clearly don’t want single males, they kinda forget etiquette and don’t reply. therefore giving you the impression they aren’t real. Most single males don’t seem to think the words NO SINGLE MALES somehow doesn’t mean them. Please single males read the entire profile, especially of couples. reply to those who might be interested in you rather than the ones who state they aren’t. If we want you we will contact you. Be assured that we would if that was what we chose to do. It is not up to you to decide that for us. You also have ge fancies to be totally unaware that many couples want friends first not just to fuck you when you want it. We want friends and relationships. You may want to say hi or damn your lady looks fine, but after so many that disregard the NO SINGLE MALE request. It is a waste of our time and disrespectful to us and we don’t want to say hi and we know our ladies are hot.
So is the life of many single males on a swinger site. Swinging used to mean wife swapping, not sex just to satisfy single males.
Good luck in your quest.
So is the life of many single males on a swinger site. Swinging used to mean wife swapping, not sex just to satisfy single males.
Good luck in your quest.
Willplay wrote:
Are there any real players on this site?
Does anyone ever get a response to an inquiry even if is just to say hello?
Of all the sites of which I am member, this site seems the least friendly.
You thoughts?
nobody here is real, much less serious
you also look fake
you don't fool us;
You are:
*most handsome gentleman we've seen
*gainfully employed
*looking for casual sex with strangers
*bet you also enjoy a chick-fil-a lunch occasionally
AND YOU ARE LOOKING FOR HOOKUPS?
cmon, we know you get all the ass at the trailer park and at the swap meet
Willplay wrote:
Are there any real players on this site?
Does anyone ever get a response to an inquiry even if is just to say hello?
Of all the sites of which I am member, this site seems the least friendly.
You thoughts?
We get plenty of responses and have found this site to be quite fulfilling. If you have not, then we must conclude that you:
-Are too far away for your contacts to consider. This site is absolutely Utah-centric
-Are contacting inactive members
-Are contacting members who have little to no interest in you as an individual. As Evil pointed out, it is a buyers market, and if you aren't bringing something unique or otherwise desired to the table, then you will have a difficult time
Having patience, contacting those who have listed your status as an interest, and being mindful of their activity level will see you through eventually. Patience is your best virtue, at least around here.