Swingers Forum - What is hotwife?

KittyBear wrote:

I see lots of people mention hotwife play or asking for hotwife. What is "hotwife"? What is the expected play associated with it?

Although there are a number of "definitions" of so-called 'hotwifing', usually based on individial couples interpretations of the term, it is usually the dynamic of the wife (sometimes known as the "Vixen") going out and meeting and playing with other men while the husband (sometimes knows as the "Stag") stays home and anticipates her return and report of her activities.

There are, for some people, inclusions of cuckhold type play and sometimes the husband will accompany the wife and watch her with her playpartner.

Hotwife Urban Dictionary

DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:

In our limited experience, remembering that we don't personally know everyone in the local "swinging lifestyle" community, "hot wife" seems to mean that the wife is free, and probably even encouraged to play with people, other than the husband or wife in a couple, that her husband and her play with in the more traditional definition of swingers. Mostly, it seems to refer to a wife that plays with single men. Most of the "hot wives" we have met, also play together with their husbands with other couples, or in threesomes with another woman or another man, and the husband enjoys similar freedoms. Cuckoldry does not seem to be all that prevalent locally, in our experience. So really, the term "Hot Wife" may be used rather loosely here in Utah. We ourselves are guilty of this. We are not at all into cuckoldry, or anything verging on disrespect, but we enjoy opportunities, and adventures, that for lack of a better description, verge on the worship of the divine feminine sexual experience, with my wife as the object of my and other's sexual
adoration.
How's that for a convoluted response!

Thorough based on personal experience and exactly what I have experienced as the single male in a hotwife situation.

WifeyNeedsNew wrote:

We have had some experiences in this. It is what we started with, and worked out because we have little ones and rarely could get a sitter for that long, but I could stay and watch while wifey went out. More bad experiences than good, we still do on rate occasion, but requires is both to get to know the guy very well before a meet. Cuck is not our thing, I like to know and approve of the Mr as well as her and know that BOTH of us and our relationship is respected. Her enjoyment is my enjoyment. Knowing that feeling she gets when being hit on and flirted with is awesome, and it subconsciously makes me want to step up my game to make sure that I am still her number one.

We've never really done this...but have always said it would be acceptable for either of us. We've just never pursued it ourselves, and have never been approached by anyone accept single guys that the wife has little interest in. But I would imagine it could open the door to a lot of bad experience if it wasn't handled just this way.

Harder2017 wrote:

So this is an interesting question due to it's popularity. Our interpretation of the Stag(Dom) and Vixen(Hotwife) relationship is not even close to the Cuck relationship. The Stag is in complete control of all encounters the Vixen has with single men. The Stag will set up fantasies/encounters for his Vixen by vetting males. The same goes for the Vixen getting cupcake/unicorn for her Stag. We could be wrong but that's how we interpret it. Of course that's how we roll as well 😜
D&T

Also how we roll....

Harder2017 wrote:

So this is an interesting question due to it's popularity. Our interpretation of the Stag(Dom) and Vixen(Hotwife) relationship is not even close to the Cuck relationship. The Stag is in complete control of all encounters the Vixen has with single men. The Stag will set up fantasies/encounters for his Vixen by vetting males. The same goes for the Vixen getting cupcake/unicorn for her Stag. We could be wrong but that's how we interpret it. Of course that's how we roll as well 😜
D&T

As our username suggests. The Mr. half of the couple has been in the lifestyle for years. With his new Vixen, the rules changed but in his mind she comes first as with any stable swinging couple. However, that being said and the usual process of a woman being hit on; guys are just dogs with little pink things trying to get wet. Now with the previous statement not all guys/bulls are like this. But one must find the diamonds in the rough. Whom are out to watch a vixen achieve sexual transcendence with multiple partners. Her pleasure and comfort are at the center of every hotwife couple I’ve ever met. Meaning even if it’s a stag/cuck her pleasure is first and foremost in the relationship. His pleasure is secondary and is always better because her affections are returned 10 fold because she feels cherished.

Hope that long windedness helps. All other comments here are still very valid descriptions.

ParkCityWife wrote:

Stag/ Hotwife couple here. The whole cuckold thing is not our direction. She likes the excitement of meeting someone new and having a fun night out on the town. If all goes well then we seek a long-term boyfriend. We always meet as a couple first. Single dudes, have some g-rated pics in a private folder if you are really interested. Would like to find a guy who we can enjoy the outdoors with then end up in the hot tub.

Love to go out sometime. 😁

runmanand wrote:

I have said this in another hot wife forum I love hot wife play!! Just moved here from Ohio and been missing the hot wife I would see on a regular basis. Any couples looking for this I would like to get to know you both. I especially want to get to know the husband, I always like him feeling 100% comfortable with me being with his wife.

true playa right here

not a hot wife per se...but i do love to put on a show for my husband!!