From what we have gathered in our short time here, it appears unicorns are the ever elusive and ever desired mythical creature. But...are they really that rare? Do they have to be single...or, is there such a thing as a married unicorn with a hall pass? Or is there another term for a married woman with a pass and desire to play with another couple?
To my surprise, even though she may have been drunk on insomnia, my wife seemed open to the possibility of incorporating a unicorn into our lives when talking the other night. And...I'm no stranger to strange challenges or looking for needles in haystacks. As such, my wheels are turning. I am curious though how many here are or have been unicorns.
To my surprise, even though she may have been drunk on insomnia, my wife seemed open to the possibility of incorporating a unicorn into our lives when talking the other night. And...I'm no stranger to strange challenges or looking for needles in haystacks. As such, my wheels are turning. I am curious though how many here are or have been unicorns.
We've never actively pursued unicorns. I know, weird, huh? Not sure why, exactly, as it seems to be the pinnacle of what many, if not most, here desire. I guess I've just always enjoyed the interaction of four people instead of three and very much enjoy seeing my wife pleasured by another man. She lists herself as bi-comfortable but she is pretty much 98-99% straight.lol
She was, however, a de facto unicorn of sorts for many years. It wasn't that long ago (no idea if it's still the case) that Swingular offered a free additional listing to the females of a couple. I assume that was to pump up the numbers of unicorns as a marketing strategy to gain members but I don't know that for sure. And for a little while, she enjoyed having her own profile and playing occasionally with the odd single male or couple.
Over the years, however, as the numbers of single males skyrocketed, she was inundated with messages, many of which were extremely crude to say the least, and enjoyed it less and less as most didn't really understand the dynamics of the lifestyle and she finally stopped even checking her profile for messages let alone updating it or anything like that.
Now, the closest thing we've done that in any way resembles unicorn play is to take turns having different combinations of threesomes with other couples we've met and gotten to know well. And that's STILL, by far, the easiest way to experience that dynamic, in our opinion. Of course, there are many couples who won't play that way because in reality they really don't want another man coming anywhere near the wife. Kinda weird, if you ask me, because that really doesn't seem much like swinging. *shrug*
She was, however, a de facto unicorn of sorts for many years. It wasn't that long ago (no idea if it's still the case) that Swingular offered a free additional listing to the females of a couple. I assume that was to pump up the numbers of unicorns as a marketing strategy to gain members but I don't know that for sure. And for a little while, she enjoyed having her own profile and playing occasionally with the odd single male or couple.
Over the years, however, as the numbers of single males skyrocketed, she was inundated with messages, many of which were extremely crude to say the least, and enjoyed it less and less as most didn't really understand the dynamics of the lifestyle and she finally stopped even checking her profile for messages let alone updating it or anything like that.
Now, the closest thing we've done that in any way resembles unicorn play is to take turns having different combinations of threesomes with other couples we've met and gotten to know well. And that's STILL, by far, the easiest way to experience that dynamic, in our opinion. Of course, there are many couples who won't play that way because in reality they really don't want another man coming anywhere near the wife. Kinda weird, if you ask me, because that really doesn't seem much like swinging. *shrug*
There are obviously far more couples and single males, with profiles on this site, than there are single females. That's just a reality. As for social conditioning, our experience, is that once we started looking into the swinging experience, that the prevailing mindset within the swing community, is that bisexual single women, AKA unicorns, that are looking to hook up with couples are extremely rare. Almost to the point that it's almost not worth trying to actually find a unicorn. We have enjoyed quite a few threesomes with another bisexual woman, but it usually happens with a bisexual wife of another couple we already play with as a couple, rather than a single woman. Our lady will also play with these same couples as a third too. We husbands in these aforementioned equations, will also make ourselves available for a MFM. All of this pretty much always happens because only three of the four people in the two couples is available, and none of the four of us had any problem with the other three having fun when we can't.
If you two are looking for an intimate, intense, romantic, ongoing, maybe exclusive, sexual relationship with a bisexual women, then really it would be a lot less difficult and far less complicated is she is single. Be optimistic enough to give it a try! Happy and prosperous hunting!
If you two are looking for an intimate, intense, romantic, ongoing, maybe exclusive, sexual relationship with a bisexual women, then really it would be a lot less difficult and far less complicated is she is single. Be optimistic enough to give it a try! Happy and prosperous hunting!
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
Be optimistic enough to give it a try!
Thanks. Thanks go out to Evil's post too.
Totally okay with this/that combination with a couple we genuinely click with, but that “click” hasnt happened a lot. Drama, or one sided only hookups have been our majority 😳
I’m a single female. I get some inquires from couples, but mostly single me. Or the male half of a couple. I’ve also had wives contact me looking to surprise hubby while she was out of town or out of commission for whatever reason
I used to attend a party semi regularly and only ever had one person hit on me. One over an entire summer. I quit going.
I used to attend a party semi regularly and only ever had one person hit on me. One over an entire summer. I quit going.
WifeyNeedsNew wrote:
Totally okay with this/that combination with a couple we genuinely click with, but that “click” hasnt happened a lot. Drama, or one sided only hookups have been our majority 😳
One sided hookups meaning with the male half of a couple?
I have always though that trying to find a relationship where all 3 people love each other the same is going to be impossible. I have had girlfriends that I am romantic with while my husband is just really good friends with them. Some of them have fooled around with both of us but mostly my GF is for my emotional/physical support and my husband is happy to be best/good friends with her. Is that still considered a unicorn or is that something else?
Here here
Married here with a single female profile. When I swing, I always do so as a single. I've run into several women who do something similar to me or as shared above, who swing with known couples and friends their partners have approved. There certainly are truly single female swingers on here but my experience has been they don't stay single or around terribly long.
Some advice....I've participated in quite a few FFM swinging experiences and the very first thing I look for is being treated as an individual, not just a walking vagina serving up your fantasies. Unicorn hunting can be pretty toxic for the extra F, which burns most of us out quickly. This isn't meant to sound harsh just a reminder to not lose sight of the real people involved and how much that can enhance the experience. Personally, I don't respond to people who don't read the profile, don't treat me as a person rather than a fantsy fullfiller or who want the quick, easy, goodbye focused hookup. I like to enjoy the human(s) I'm with as it enhances the sex for me.
OP.. what does incorporate a unicorn into your lives look like? If it's more polyamorous focused, any advice you get from swinging will probably not serve you super well. I have some resources I can share that are more poly unicorn focused if you'd like. Otherwise, I wish you good fortune in your search.
Some advice....I've participated in quite a few FFM swinging experiences and the very first thing I look for is being treated as an individual, not just a walking vagina serving up your fantasies. Unicorn hunting can be pretty toxic for the extra F, which burns most of us out quickly. This isn't meant to sound harsh just a reminder to not lose sight of the real people involved and how much that can enhance the experience. Personally, I don't respond to people who don't read the profile, don't treat me as a person rather than a fantsy fullfiller or who want the quick, easy, goodbye focused hookup. I like to enjoy the human(s) I'm with as it enhances the sex for me.
OP.. what does incorporate a unicorn into your lives look like? If it's more polyamorous focused, any advice you get from swinging will probably not serve you super well. I have some resources I can share that are more poly unicorn focused if you'd like. Otherwise, I wish you good fortune in your search.
Newly separated unicorn right here. We do exist! But don’t like to advertise as such because of said crudeness mentioned before. Just b/c we love to fuck around, doesn’t make us someone’s whore or make us want to exchange pictures all night just so guys can rub one out before passing out, phone still in hand, leaving me....well, unsatisfied! Lol
After that book, evil doers, you should be on the Amazon number one seller’s list.
😆😆Really?
EVILDOERS wrote:
We've never actively pursued unicorns. The closest thing we've done that in any way resembles unicorn play is to take turns having different combinations of threesomes with other couples we've met and gotten to know well. And that's STILL, by far, the easiest way to experience that dynamic, in our opinion. Of course, there are many couples who won't play that way because in reality they really don't want another man coming anywhere near the wife. Kinda weird, if you ask me because that really doesn't seem much like swinging. *shrug*
I really think this is the best way to go about it depending on the couple's dynamics. If I or the other guy wants to take a break, pee, make a drink then, by all means, ravage the lone guy. Or even if some just can't keep going. Solves all the issues of the endless search for an oasis you'll never find. I've had three women on me at one time just because one guy went to go #2 (Odd I know) and the other just came. So I had my work cut out for me for all of 10 minutes or so.
Well hello there! Do you happen to be around the Mankato area?
MANDIEQT wrote:
OP.. what does incorporate a unicorn into your lives look like? If it's more polyamorous focused, any advice you get from swinging will probably not serve you super well. I have some resources I can share that are more poly unicorn focused if you'd like. Otherwise, I wish you good fortune in your search.
Good question! This whole idea is as far "out there" as anything has been for us. That said, at this point, a quick focused hookup... or using someone merely as a fantasy filler probably isn't our style. I'd say we'd be looking for someone to develop a true and good friendship with, first and foremost.
Re your resources: You can message them to us, if you'd like. Always curious to look at varying viewpoints. Thanks for your input! And thanks to the other posters as well!
The elusive unicorn... look no further than next door.
I've been a unicorn before but honestly I'm pretty picky and there has to be physical attraction for me. I've found that either I like one or the other of a couple but it's very hard to find a couple where I like both. I'm sure other women here can attest to that too. But I'm always seeking the perfect couple to play with so dont hesitate to say Hi. 😉😁
I dont know if I would say I was a unicorn, but i was a regular 3rd for a couple for a while.
I wish I knew how to get a hold of them again LOL.
I wish I knew how to get a hold of them again LOL.
MEOWMIX10000 wrote:
I dont know if I would say I was a unicorn, but i was a regular 3rd for a couple for a while.
I wish I knew how to get a hold of them again LOL.
You can be our regular third... 😘
playfulcouple1024 wrote:MEOWMIX10000 wrote:
I dont know if I would say I was a unicorn, but i was a regular 3rd for a couple for a while.
I wish I knew how to get a hold of them again LOL.
You can be our regular third... 😘
damn! too late for calling Dibbs!
Right here I am. The kicker is I'm in Alabama and I'm new to this and am just stuck on how to meet folks close to my small town. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
NinaJayne40 wrote:Don’t use this site as its primarily Utah. Find a site that’s popular in Alabama. There are quite a few.
Right here I am. The kicker is I'm in Alabama and I'm new to this and am just stuck on how to meet folks close to my small town. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
MANDIEQT wrote:
Married here with a single female profile. When I swing, I always do so as a single. I've run into several women who do something similar to me or as shared above, who swing with known couples and friends their partners have approved. There certainly are truly single female swingers on here but my experience has been they don't stay single or around terribly long.
Some advice....I've participated in quite a few FFM swinging experiences and the very first thing I look for is being treated as an individual, not just a walking vagina serving up your fantasies. Unicorn hunting can be pretty toxic for the extra F, which burns most of us out quickly. This isn't meant to sound harsh just a reminder to not lose sight of the real people involved and how much that can enhance the experience. Personally, I don't respond to people who don't read the profile, don't treat me as a person rather than a fantsy fullfiller or who want the quick, easy, goodbye focused hookup. I like to enjoy the human(s) I'm with as it enhances the sex for me.
OP.. what does incorporate a unicorn into your lives look like? If it's more polyamorous focused, any advice you get from swinging will probably not serve you super well. I have some resources I can share that are more poly unicorn focused if you'd like. Otherwise, I wish you good fortune in your search.
Thank you for stating this. This is exactly why I hate the term unicorn, I understand the meaning, but it dehumanizes the female. Respect is always important.
Is a hotwife a unicorn? Asking for a friend.
I'm a unicorn. But i guess i don't exist... Ha ha
We found a unicorn on this site we played with pretty regularly. We posted a Hook Up for couples and singles and she is the one who responded. I’m thinking now we are pretty lucky lol. It’s good to enjoy both couples and singles equally. Each experience has its own turn ons.
We have a beautiful unicorn we play with on a regular basis.
TEASIN wrote:
Is a hotwife a unicorn? Asking for a friend.
🤣 Of COURSE you were asking for a friend! I love it - As far as I am concerned a Hotwife fits the bill as a Unicorn . . . then again . . . I am OFTEN wrong . . . but never unsure! (lol)