Any couples going to be at Temptation the third week of April?
Are you talking about the Temptation resort in Cancun? We’ll be at the Desire Riviera Maya that same week. This will be our first time at a lifestyle resort. We’re super excited.
We’re there 2/13-17
We're next door at DRM, but leave the day before you arrive. Usually once you go to Temptation and find out what's next door, you want to be there.
We were looking at Hedo in Jamaica, has anyone already been to one of these? We’re wondering how it is.
JEMBJE0707 wrote:
We were looking at Hedo in Jamaica, has anyone already been to one of these? We’re wondering how it is.
All different with a unique vibe. A LS takeover can change the vibe again. Just really depends on what your bent is. Do you like Jamaica or Mexico? Single men your thing? How hard do you like to party?
Are any of these naughty friendly resorts considered true 4 or 5 star resorts? Many seem pretty “all inclusive” cheesy.
FunKinkyDuo wrote:
Are any of these naughty friendly resorts considered true 4 or 5 star resorts? Many seem pretty “all inclusive” cheesy.
Define "true 4 or 5 star resorts" and hotels in each country where it's a sliding scale. Define "cheesy" and is this from experience?
Sure, many resorts are all inclusive and can be cheesy. Doing your homework can reduce the cheese factor and so can picking where and when you participate while there. However, they bring like minded people together who aren't carrying around wallets and purses for obvious reasons.
SexyPowSkiers wrote:
Define "true 4 or 5 star resorts" and hotels in each country where it's a sliding scale. Define "cheesy" and is this from experience?
Sure, many resorts are all inclusive and can be cheesy. Doing your homework can reduce the cheese factor and so can picking where and when you participate while there. However, they bring like minded people together who aren't carrying around wallets and purses for obvious reasons.
IMO from experience 4-5 star standard is the same regardless of the country. Some locations just don’t have them.
But ok, I’ll agree, one girls cheesy is another girls dream vacation ... so let me re-phrase the question. Which of these resorts are the nicest in terms of accommodations, service, food, and cleanliness. I think some of the nicest are probably the high end clothing optional resorts, and not the “lifestyle” resorts.
FunKinkyDuo wrote:
IMO from experience 4-5 star standard is the same regardless of the country. Some locations just don’t have them.
Ha ha! At the risk of offending, your experience is limited. Try applying that standard to both Monaco and a central African country.
There are really three categories. LS resorts, LS friendly resorts, and clothing optional resorts. Some clothing optional resorts have rules against anything more, are newer and feel more high end, and attract a hard partying crowd trying to get their money's worth. Maybe your dream includes lots of single men, drugs, and drunks impaired beyond their ability to read situations and hold their liquor. Some of the smaller more established LS or LS friendly resorts may not seem as nice, but the food is good, the service attentive, and the crowd for whom you really came for is respectful and well behaved.
SexyPowSkiers wrote:IMO from experience 4-5 star standard is the same regardless of the country. Some locations just don’t have them.[/quote]
Ha ha! At the risk of offending, your experience is limited. Try applying that standard to both Monaco and a central African country.
There are really three categories. LS resorts, LS friendly resorts, and clothing optional resorts. Some clothing optional resorts have rules against anything more, are newer and feel more high end, and attract a hard partying crowd trying to get their money's worth. Maybe your dream includes lots of single men, drugs, and drunks impaired beyond their ability to read situations and hold their liquor. Some of the smaller more established LS or LS friendly resorts may not seem as nice, but the food is good, the service attentive, and the crowd for whom you really came for is respectful and well behaved.[/quote]
Based on your shallow response I suspect our travel experience far exceeds yours lol. But I’m not being judgy like you are. Perhaps without knowing anything about us you also want to compare your “pow” skiing prowess to ours as well 😉
And btw, since you obviously don’t know, star ratings are actually a defined standard, applied by most of the top travel publications and personal conceirge services, and many places just don’t have them. Just because a towns best accommodation is a Super 8 doesn’t make it a 5 star hotel. ... Anyway, never mind , it wasn't that hard of a fucking question to opine on in a productive way.
FunKinkyDuo wrote:
Based on your shallow response I suspect our travel experience far exceeds yours lol. But I’m not being judgy like you are. Perhaps without knowing anything about us you also want to compare your “pow” skiing prowess to ours as well
And btw, since you obviously don’t know, star ratings are actually a defined standard, applied by most of the top travel publications and personal conceirge services, and many places just don’t have them. Just because a towns best accommodation is a Super 8 doesn’t make it a 5 star hotel. ... Anyway, never mind , it wasn't that hard of a fucking question to opine on in a productive way.
Don't believe us. Google is your friend. Anyone here can do their homework and read the many articles from CNN, Travel & Leisure, etc. that will tell you it's not a defined standard.
and no. We don't spend time with angry defensive people so eager to compare. That says more about you really.
Suggest you lighten up and read up instead of flaming. Maybe book that fun sexy vacation you're due?
SexyPowSkiers wrote:
@DANDTCURIOUS
Don't believe us. Google is your friend. Anyone here can do their homework and read the many articles from CNN, Travel & Leisure, etc. that will tell you it's not a defined standard.
and no. We don't spend time with angry defensive people so eager to compare. That says more about you really.
Suggest you lighten up and read up instead of flaming. Maybe book that fun sexy vacation you're due?
There you go judging us again, too funny.
I am always surprised thow important is this status trend in the swinger community Life is too short. I think such materialistic focus brings a bad taste to people like us, who thinks people, respect and good manners are the foundation of a healthy sexual kinky relationship.
SexyPowSkiers wrote:
All different with a unique vibe. A LS takeover can change the vibe again. Just really depends on what your bent is. Do you like Jamaica or Mexico? Single men your thing? How hard do you like to party?
I’ve only cruised in Mexico, never been to Jamaica or a resort in Mexico. We’ve had single men before, but I wouldn’t say it’s our thing. Our travel tastes may not be as refined as others, we like the idea of an all inclusive LS resort but would happily pay more to avoid a subpar experience.
How do we find a LS takeover?? That sounds fun.
-Blake
Athleticeuropean wrote:
I am always surprised thow important is this status trend in the swinger community Life is too short. I think such materialistic focus brings a bad taste to people like us, who thinks people, respect and good manners are the foundation of a healthy sexual kinky relationship.
My original question has nothing to do with status or what anyone thinks. Some of us just want to stay at the nicest place we can for our vacations. Many many of the reviews of the lifestyle resorts are quite bad, not just a little bad. That was my reason for asking if there are any 4-5 star lifestyle resorts, which turned into a stupid response of what a 4-5 star resort is.
And You’re right, Life is too short to stay at a shitty hotel on vacation if you can avoid it ... and we’ve stayed in plenty lol.
JEMBJE0707 wrote:
How do we find a LS takeover?? That sounds fun.
The resorts themselves will post an announcement on their website. Sometimes you must look on their calendar of events where they block it. They also literally block rooms too.
Lifestyle groups are usually the "hosts" whether it be a website like this, a couple with a site/podcast, or a LS friendly travel agent. Some keyword searches on the web will reveal them.
SexyPowSkiers wrote:
The resorts themselves will post an announcement on their website. Sometimes you must look on their calendar of events where they block it. They also literally block rooms too.
Lifestyle groups are usually the "hosts" whether it be a website like this, a couple with a site/podcast, or a LS friendly travel agent. Some keyword searches on the web will reveal them.
Let’s have a Swingular takeover!!
JEMBJE0707 wrote:
Let’s have a Swingular takeover!!
We like your enthusiasm! However, usually site owners/moderators/administrators passionate enough to facilitate fun can organize such a takeover. Unfortunately, in the few months we've been here we've come to believe others who describe this site as "rudderless or without support." It has some usefulness, but we don't expect it does much more than enable locals to advertise and message.
Best to check out other sites and groups. Takeovers often develop into annual events with themes and target demographics. You can reach out and contact them to see if they would be a match for you before booking. The best hosts engage and answer your questions and do not ignore you.
There are likely plenty around here with much experience with takeovers. Search the forum or start one and ask.
tastymama wrote:
We’re there 2/13-17
Dang miss you by a week!
KeJ wrote:
Are you talking about the Temptation resort in Cancun? We’ll be at the Desire Riviera Maya that same week. This will be our first time at a lifestyle resort. We’re super excited.
Yes and sorry don't get on here as often as we should. But wish the email function would work like it used to so we would know when there was replies and emails. Desire is our next one we hope. Been to Hedo a few years ago.
Excited to visit DRM for the 3rd time!! 2/29-3/9
Have also enjoyed Desire Pearl and Temptation. Our favorite is Rivera Mya. Hoping to try Hedo this year to check out that vibe.
Have also enjoyed Desire Pearl and Temptation. Our favorite is Rivera Mya. Hoping to try Hedo this year to check out that vibe.
At the risk of stepping into a shitstorm .... we’ll try to provide our feedback. We’ve traveled the world - been to every continent. Mr Sweet is a Delta 3M Miler and has 1M (Es) on United and SW - which certainly doesn't equate to any level of expertise . . . just a broad perspective.
Having said that, it had been our experience that both sides are correct. The Star and Diamonds awarded by the American Academy of Hospitality and the like (there are more than one who do this) are set standards. However, many hotels pirate their ratings, especially in smaller countries - so once again, to assume that a 4 or 5 star and/or Diamond ranking are the same internationally - is just incorrect. After all - just about anyone can have a wooden plaque made with 4 or 5 diamonds on it. They are very easy to imitate. Wouldn't it be nice if all hotels played by the same 'rules'??? Our experience is that there is very much a ‘sliding scale’ , especially in 3rd world countries - because these claims are easy to make, and harder to document when you are booking them. To another's point, that does not mean they met any type of standard to ‘earn’ the label.
As to LS resorts - we’ve been to Temptations, DRM (Desire RM), Desire Pearl, Hedo - and a few not mentioned above. Our favorite is Pearl and we are returning there this Sunday (2/9-2/16). The rooms are clean and nice, the service is good (butler and concierge available To owners). 3 onsite restaurants, and the booze flows freely. Although we have certainly stayed at nicer resorts if you judge by luxury - none have been as nice in terms of the people, the vibe, ... and these have the advantage of being LS friendly. If you come expecting a true ‘’5-star (AAHS, or AAA)’ experience .... and that is what is important to you ... you should probably stay home - you won't find that at ANY of these resorts. People that go to Pearl and RM are there for the experience and the people. They would probably get a 3 start by the AAHS or AAA standards. You will not find a Stein Erikson or Grand Hotel experience. However, we have not heard of anyone being disappointed ... ever. I’m sure it happens - but this will be our 10th trip to Pearl - and frankly, we’ve never enjoyed a place better. Hope that helps someone.
If you are going to Mexico next week - please reach out. If you are contemplating going, but just haven't worked out the 'jitters' hit us up - we'd be more than happy to answer any questions you may have. We are very community oriented - reaching out doesn’t have to mean anything other than you’d like more info, or that you'd like to know other like-minded couples.
Best of luck - hope you all find what you are looking for!
Having said that, it had been our experience that both sides are correct. The Star and Diamonds awarded by the American Academy of Hospitality and the like (there are more than one who do this) are set standards. However, many hotels pirate their ratings, especially in smaller countries - so once again, to assume that a 4 or 5 star and/or Diamond ranking are the same internationally - is just incorrect. After all - just about anyone can have a wooden plaque made with 4 or 5 diamonds on it. They are very easy to imitate. Wouldn't it be nice if all hotels played by the same 'rules'??? Our experience is that there is very much a ‘sliding scale’ , especially in 3rd world countries - because these claims are easy to make, and harder to document when you are booking them. To another's point, that does not mean they met any type of standard to ‘earn’ the label.
As to LS resorts - we’ve been to Temptations, DRM (Desire RM), Desire Pearl, Hedo - and a few not mentioned above. Our favorite is Pearl and we are returning there this Sunday (2/9-2/16). The rooms are clean and nice, the service is good (butler and concierge available To owners). 3 onsite restaurants, and the booze flows freely. Although we have certainly stayed at nicer resorts if you judge by luxury - none have been as nice in terms of the people, the vibe, ... and these have the advantage of being LS friendly. If you come expecting a true ‘’5-star (AAHS, or AAA)’ experience .... and that is what is important to you ... you should probably stay home - you won't find that at ANY of these resorts. People that go to Pearl and RM are there for the experience and the people. They would probably get a 3 start by the AAHS or AAA standards. You will not find a Stein Erikson or Grand Hotel experience. However, we have not heard of anyone being disappointed ... ever. I’m sure it happens - but this will be our 10th trip to Pearl - and frankly, we’ve never enjoyed a place better. Hope that helps someone.
If you are going to Mexico next week - please reach out. If you are contemplating going, but just haven't worked out the 'jitters' hit us up - we'd be more than happy to answer any questions you may have. We are very community oriented - reaching out doesn’t have to mean anything other than you’d like more info, or that you'd like to know other like-minded couples.
Best of luck - hope you all find what you are looking for!
Interesting reading. :-)
We have visited Desire Riviera Maya 4 times over past years. We think it is very relaxing and fun.
The resort itself is easily a 4 star, very nice. All inclusive is necessary as there isnt anything outside gates. Restaurants, bars, and entertainment are very good.
They are growing. Expect a big construction project soon that will probably double the size of the resort.
The experience with others can be fantastic, but that's uo to you and the others. We have had great LS experiences.
Feel free to message us directly for more info.
XO
We have visited Desire Riviera Maya 4 times over past years. We think it is very relaxing and fun.
The resort itself is easily a 4 star, very nice. All inclusive is necessary as there isnt anything outside gates. Restaurants, bars, and entertainment are very good.
They are growing. Expect a big construction project soon that will probably double the size of the resort.
The experience with others can be fantastic, but that's uo to you and the others. We have had great LS experiences.
Feel free to message us directly for more info.
XO
Wish we were..we love Temptation!
SweettAndH wrote:
However, many hotels pirate their ratings, especially in smaller countries - so once again, to assume that a 4 or 5 star and/or Diamond ranking are the same internationally - is just incorrect. After all - just about anyone can have a wooden plaque made with 4 or 5 diamonds on it. They are very easy to imitate. Wouldn't it be nice if all hotels played by the same 'rules'??? Our experience is that there is very much a ‘sliding scale’ , especially in 3rd world countries - because these claims are easy to make, and harder to document when you are booking them. To another's point, that does not mean they met any type of standard to ‘earn’ the label.
Absolutely correct. Our experience living and travelling overseas has taught us that some two star properties are very clean, modern, and attentive. We've been to over priced four star properties that are dated, dirty, with poor service, and probably only got their rating for having a long list of amenities. Sometimes that list really disappoints. We've come away from 5 star properties shaking our heads. We just do our homework, seek value, and hope for the best. Sometimes it disappoints, but others are often pleasant surprises. It's all relative and subjective.
Yes, with LS friendly resorts the first criteria should be the fellow guests who largely create the vibe. If not, you're missing the point.
We will be there over memorial weekend in May, can’t wait!