I am wondering how many people on Swingular identify as demisexual, and whether you are finding your needs met in the Swingular community? For those who may be unfamiliar with the term, demisexual means you only feel sexual attraction if there is already an emotional connection. In other words, an emotional connection is a necessary component of sexual attraction. This seems a little at odds with swinging, in that many couples try to avoid any emotional entanglement outside of their relationship. For a demisexual, however, the idea of being DTF without an emotional connection just does not compute. What are your thoughts?
This is very us! We feel like we need to have a connection of some sorts to make it enjoyable. Sex without connection seems very empty, but finding couples we connect with and can develop that have been rare to say the least. Of course we have excitement and needs but at the same time, the one and doners, the ghosters, the “my wife gives permission” assholes....no thanks.
We prefer FWB situation. Doesn’t mean it needs to be weeks or months of “courtship” but at least a common connection outside sex. It is difficult to fuck someone we don’t like (it is near impossible). That being said we at least like most people we meet, even at parties, and have had a very good time. Experience has taught us that it just works better when we’re all friends.
WifeyNeedsNew wrote:
This is very us! We feel like we need to have a connection of some sorts to make it enjoyable. Sex without connection seems very empty, but finding couples we connect with and can develop that have been rare to say the least. Of course we have excitement and needs but at the same time, the one and doners, the ghosters, the “my wife gives permission” assholes....no thanks.
Absolutely, this is the experience we are talking about, the “wife gives me permission” situations or the “you owe me an orgasm” situation is better avoided with the friendly policy.
While we do PREFER some type of at least mild emotional connection (and that connection can be on one or more of many very different levels) we don't absolutely NEED it. Mr. Evil is actually more of a sapiosexual and is extremely attracted to intelligence and wit.
My partner I’m seeing only has ever been with me because he only has sex with people he has a connection and relationship with. We are planning on playing soon tho on New Years
EVILDOERS wrote:Good thing for you right 😀!
While we do PREFER some type of at least mild emotional connection (and that connection can be on one or more of many very different levels) we don't absolutely NEED it. Mr. Evil is actually more of a sapiosexual and is extremely attracted to intelligence and wit.
Utahldscouple wrote:EVILDOERS wrote:Good thing for you right 😀!
While we do PREFER some type of at least mild emotional connection (and that connection can be on one or more of many very different levels) we don't absolutely NEED it. Mr. Evil is actually more of a sapiosexual and is extremely attracted to intelligence and wit.
Indeed. But it can also be quite a hindrance in this lifestyle where chemistry and physical attraction seem to trump the intellectual beauty that I find so appealing. C'est la vie.
We are a couple that likes having some kind of connection with who we meet. We enjoy the discovering and learning, while developing a connection of some sorts.
For the most part we like having a connection. We enjoy the 'ritual' of dinners..drinks...flirting..the building of anticipation.
But the wife really and truly loves (and wont stop talking about LOL) the hot wife scenerio of the very first time seeing a mans face is when he is on top of her.
But the wife really and truly loves (and wont stop talking about LOL) the hot wife scenerio of the very first time seeing a mans face is when he is on top of her.
Sounds like my wife