When playing with another couple, do you prefer same room or separate room or something in between?
We find it is better doing separate room. If you are in the same room sometimes you are too worried about your significant other having a good time to concentrate on the person you’re with.
We agree with HORNDOGER75. Separate room is a lot more relaxing, in our view. In fact, separate locations altogether is our preference, generally. Finding couples where all four people click on that level is incredibly challenging, and it often leaves one or more people feeling like they are “taking one for the team.” So we prefer to just date separately. Each person picks the individuals they are interested in, and everyone has a good time! It does require a lot of trust and communication, but if you are strong enough for it, we’ve found it intensely more satisfying.
Definitely same room. Info just want to fuck and enjoy a sexual moment it would be with my spouse. To enjoy the sexual experience of something new with each other is what drives us. To watch her please a man or to take another man deep in turns him on and to see another woman pleased And enjoying herself because of him and to be able to touch each other or to see each other enjoying the moment is what draws us to these moments.
Separate usually. Depends on the mood though! Both are awesome for different reasons and circumstances.
Both are fun in their own way
We like same room. Different rooms makes us feel like we are just in it to fuck other people which isnt the case. We are in it together and enjoy bouncing back and forth between partners and sharing the moment together.
Def "something in between". We LOVE fucking on the floor in a hallway between rooms. It's super hot and sexy and then we have some nice rug burns the next day to remind us of all the hot nasty hallway sex we had.
We enjoy both. We prefer same room, most of the time. It kind of depends on the mood in the moment, and of course the druthers of our partners. If we are with a couple and they want to play in separate rooms, it's not like we feel like doing so is a capitulation.
We are happy just to have a room.
Same. However, separate has occurred with an extraordinary amount of trust and time.
Both of us prefer separate rooms because we can focus better on the person we're with. We have done four in the same bed but we both find it more enjoyable in separate rooms.
Same room. Half of the fun is watching!!!
Utahldscouple wrote:Yes!
Same room. Half of the fun is watching!!!
TRIXXIVIXXEN wrote:True. And agree. It is pretty much situational for us. Just wanted to get an idea of general consensus...
We have experienced both and loved it. There is definitely an excitement at watching your partner! It is also true that in separate rooms it can be easier to focus on a "new friend."
COUPLE801801 wrote:We like this too!
We like same room. Different rooms makes us feel like we are just in it to fuck other people which isnt the case. We are in it together and enjoy bouncing back and forth between partners and sharing the moment together.
Lucky4us2gether wrote:Sounds like a lot of fun!
Definitely same room. Info just want to fuck and enjoy a sexual moment it would be with my spouse. To enjoy the sexual experience of something new with each other is what drives us. To watch her please a man or to take another man deep in turns him on and to see another woman pleased And enjoying herself because of him and to be able to touch each other or to see each other enjoying the moment is what draws us to these moments.
We prefer separate but do same room often. If the others prefer same room, same room it is. No problem.
I get a little distracted/overstimulated when too much is going on, and I like intimacy, so one on one time is my favorite. And then I get to hear about my wife’s experience while she fucks me later, so the fun just keeps going.
I get a little distracted/overstimulated when too much is going on, and I like intimacy, so one on one time is my favorite. And then I get to hear about my wife’s experience while she fucks me later, so the fun just keeps going.
Same room 🔥 love the energy of a room full of sexy play and spontaneity.
Our play is circumstantially flexible. We prefer separate rooms but we also think a same room pleasure pile is incredibly erotic. We’ll go on record as saying All Of The Above.
CandHSugar wrote:
Our play is circumstantially flexible. We prefer separate rooms but we also think a same room pleasure pile is incredibly erotic. We’ll go on record as saying All Of The Above.
We feel the same.
We prefer separate rooms. We have done same room a few times and it has been enjoyable, but hearing about each others experience, just adds more excitement to the whole thing.
We are ok with both. We think it's hot when we can all be in the same room. Keeps the trust between everyone the same and there are no conflicts with "what did you do?" Type stuff. We aren't one for taking one for the team. It's difficult to find a connection between all 4 people but it's so worth it! Our philosophy is if 1 person is out or uncomfortable then everyone is. On that note we have no problem with separate rooms as long as there is good communication between spouses...
Same room. Watching partner being naughty XXX is crazy exciting. Super-charged porn on steroids!!!
We prefer to just go with the flow so same room separate rooms on the deck the living room just about any place works for us.
We prefer seperate, but do same room, but are careful of drama couples...
we have enjoyed both. Depends on the situation and mood and we roll with it.
We have only done same room. Have been discussing different rooms. The pros and con's. We are just having fun and take things as they come. 🐇
Definitely benefits to both! We enjoy watching each other, for sure...and switching partners is fun! As has been said before, though....finding four that are compatible is sometimes difficult. It's nice to be able to just slip off for a few with an interested partner for a little alone time, as well! It's all good! We always have a room available for just those encounters at our parties!
We started solely same room only, but have recently tried and loved separate room play. We need to have a certain level of comfort there for that though because there is potential for a bad exp if things are not flowing for the other couple.
We like both. The mood can be different with each situation but we generally go with what is more comfortable for the people we are about to see naked 
Same room, I consider any sexual interaction as sex with the spouse...so if he isn't there, I'm not able to share in his excitement. I wanna see it all :-)
PANDEMONIA wrote:
Same room, I consider any sexual interaction as sex with the spouse...so if he isn't there, I'm not able to share in his excitement. I wanna see it all :-)
What she said!!!
We enjoy both. We definitely like watching each other with a new playmate. But being in separate rooms has its fun and is fun to talk about after with each other. Who’s ready to play?
Same room, it's a turn on watching another woman enjoy my man. If I just wanted to have sex with a stranger without my guy with me I would, I have, and I probably will in the future but that's not why we are here.
We definitely like separate rooms best. We do both but separate is our preference.
utahfuncouple1234 wrote:us too... Maybe we can connectCOUPLE801801 wrote:We like this too!
We like same room. Different rooms makes us feel like we are just in it to fuck other people which isnt the case. We are in it together and enjoy bouncing back and forth between partners and sharing the moment together.
ALLWENEEDISU wrote:We are the same way here... Maybe we can get together sometime soon
Same room, it's a turn on watching another woman enjoy my man. If I just wanted to have sex with a stranger without my guy with me I would, I have, and I probably will in the future but that's not why we are here.
We prefer same room. Love to feel the vibe, the energy of sexual power...generated...by...all...mmmm...
And seeing,hearing, and smelling each other as we enjoy others, and others enjoy us, and others enjoy others....
That being said, different room or house, or whatever (out in the woods) does have it's charms as well, ability to focus on what we are doing and who we're with enjoying the sensations...yeah...
And then to compare or not any notes, any new things we learned, that is fun.
And seeing,hearing, and smelling each other as we enjoy others, and others enjoy us, and others enjoy others....
That being said, different room or house, or whatever (out in the woods) does have it's charms as well, ability to focus on what we are doing and who we're with enjoying the sensations...yeah...
And then to compare or not any notes, any new things we learned, that is fun.
We prefer same room as well. I love watching my spouse getting turned on and also watching what he does to her. I also love to be able to reach over and touch him time to time or do a little intertwining with all of us. It's such a turn on to watch and we're in it to make sure we're both pleased and having a good time, I feel with separate we wouldn't know that our partner is for sure getting taken care of or know if there was a problem.
GOODTIMES4US wrote:
We prefer same room as well. I love watching my spouse getting turned on and also watching what he does to her. I also love to be able to reach over and touch him time to time or do a little intertwining with all of us. It's such a turn on to watch and we're in it to make sure we're both pleased and having a good time, I feel with separate we wouldn't know that our partner is for sure getting taken care of or know if there was a problem.
You've hit on a key part of the dilemma of separate room play. The uncertainty of our partner's experience. That can be stimulating to ruminate upon, presuming it is a good time. It can also be distracting to contemplate, presuming it is not a good time. It can be mitigated when there has been same room play, and proven to be a great time. This swings the scale more to the stimulating ruminations, due to previous experience.
Both are great, depends on the mood.
We have really enjoyed same room and look forward to the next experience! 😉
This subject seems to come up quite a bit. So, here is what I said on another thread about this same subject:
Why not do both and get the best of each scenario?
Although we both enjoy same and separate rooms, I prefer same and my wife prefers separate.
Like a lot of other husbands, I like same room because it really turns me on watching my wife being pleased by another guy. Generally, men are more stimulated visually than women are. I love glancing over from time to time to watch her. However, I still focus on my new partner as much as possible.
Unfortunately, we have been with some couples where the other husband likes watching me with his wife so much that he loses some focus on my wife. A few have annoyingly lost complete focus to reach over to kiss his wife or ask her a question like "is he fucking you good?" At times, just as my wife is getting ready to get off, the other husband is distracted from his rhythm (fingering, oral, or penetration) to watch his wife as his wife's noises indicate things are getting intense for her. His rhythm may be thrown off barely, but just enough to stop the momentum of my wife's pleasure. This so annoying to my wife, which is why she prefers to START in separate rooms. She enjoys and craves the full attention given to her. She feels that since she is giving herself to another man, he should pay utmost attention to her. I still get turned on because, although she is in the next room a few feet away, I can still hear her moans because she is very vocal and loud.
After all of us have cum, we all seem to get together in the same room to relax, chat, and play around until we are ready to go again. But, this time it just organically seems to stay in the same room. It's probably because my wife has previously coached him on what she likes and is now sexually satisfied. The same room now has just become the icing on the cake. Now, we do what I prefer which is to glance at her. In our relationship, I gladly place her preferences over my mine because I am still having a great time regardless.
But, this is us. Everyone enjoys playtime differently, which is why we will always defer to the other couple's preferences since we still enjoy either the same or separate room. Most of our play has been in the same room because it seems like most couples prefer it that way. But, when we meet a couple that is comfortable in separate rooms, we like to start there. Then round two is in the same room.
So, why not do both same and separate rooms?
Why not do both and get the best of each scenario?
Although we both enjoy same and separate rooms, I prefer same and my wife prefers separate.
Like a lot of other husbands, I like same room because it really turns me on watching my wife being pleased by another guy. Generally, men are more stimulated visually than women are. I love glancing over from time to time to watch her. However, I still focus on my new partner as much as possible.
Unfortunately, we have been with some couples where the other husband likes watching me with his wife so much that he loses some focus on my wife. A few have annoyingly lost complete focus to reach over to kiss his wife or ask her a question like "is he fucking you good?" At times, just as my wife is getting ready to get off, the other husband is distracted from his rhythm (fingering, oral, or penetration) to watch his wife as his wife's noises indicate things are getting intense for her. His rhythm may be thrown off barely, but just enough to stop the momentum of my wife's pleasure. This so annoying to my wife, which is why she prefers to START in separate rooms. She enjoys and craves the full attention given to her. She feels that since she is giving herself to another man, he should pay utmost attention to her. I still get turned on because, although she is in the next room a few feet away, I can still hear her moans because she is very vocal and loud.
After all of us have cum, we all seem to get together in the same room to relax, chat, and play around until we are ready to go again. But, this time it just organically seems to stay in the same room. It's probably because my wife has previously coached him on what she likes and is now sexually satisfied. The same room now has just become the icing on the cake. Now, we do what I prefer which is to glance at her. In our relationship, I gladly place her preferences over my mine because I am still having a great time regardless.
But, this is us. Everyone enjoys playtime differently, which is why we will always defer to the other couple's preferences since we still enjoy either the same or separate room. Most of our play has been in the same room because it seems like most couples prefer it that way. But, when we meet a couple that is comfortable in separate rooms, we like to start there. Then round two is in the same room.
So, why not do both same and separate rooms?