So we recently did a post on bareback and cumming in strangers. đ. Hot, we know. And we have to say WOW! Thanks for all of the incredible messages and forum posts. I donât think weâve received that much mail in a long time. Weâre flattered. But to the subject of this post we have to ask. And here goes.
Why? Why oh why oh why do couples and/or singles have private pictures when they are the same thing as your public pictures? If we add or accept a couple, that means we are interested and like what we read and saw in your public posts and pics and now want to see the rest of you. If itâs nothing else to look at then honestly whatâs the point? You are swingers. Stop being shy and show yourselves. If youâre truly worried about âyour jobâ or others seeing you than maybe youâre in the wrong place? We donât say that to be snarky. But Iâm pretty sure your conservative neighbor or corporate manager wonât be viewing your profile. And if they do than theyâll want you to be just a discreet as you expect others to be right? Show those beautiful mugs! Let us see who weâre courting. Weâre looking to share our spouses in the most intimate of encounters and weâre not meeting up in the hopes that we are attracted. Donât be shy. We donât bite. Ok we may nibble a little bit we donât bite. Show yourselves or weâre calling the swing police.
Next is the requests with no pics or single males with no pics. Two words. Nope - Delete. End of story. If you have nothing to show or share weâre not here to provide entertainment for your impending jerk off session. Buy a flesh light and some lube and go away. đ
To those with the beautiful spreads (pictures and pussies) we thank you. And for taking the time to write some very nice messages. We will be answering everyone. If you donât hear back than thatâs usually a good sign that youâre just not our type. Nothing personal. But I think thatâs how most people do it. We can say no thanks but that feels harsh so we avoid it. But so far weâve seen pretty much all good. Yay!
I can say there are some gorgeous couples on here. We really look forward to possibly meeting some of you. Or meating some of you. Either or. But seriously, weâre excited to meet some new friends. And then violate them in the most licentious sort of way. đ.
Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable with us regarding a real delicate subject. Weâre blown away by the honesty and all the like minds. Now letâs all have some kinky fun!!!
K & A.
Why? Why oh why oh why do couples and/or singles have private pictures when they are the same thing as your public pictures? If we add or accept a couple, that means we are interested and like what we read and saw in your public posts and pics and now want to see the rest of you. If itâs nothing else to look at then honestly whatâs the point? You are swingers. Stop being shy and show yourselves. If youâre truly worried about âyour jobâ or others seeing you than maybe youâre in the wrong place? We donât say that to be snarky. But Iâm pretty sure your conservative neighbor or corporate manager wonât be viewing your profile. And if they do than theyâll want you to be just a discreet as you expect others to be right? Show those beautiful mugs! Let us see who weâre courting. Weâre looking to share our spouses in the most intimate of encounters and weâre not meeting up in the hopes that we are attracted. Donât be shy. We donât bite. Ok we may nibble a little bit we donât bite. Show yourselves or weâre calling the swing police.
Next is the requests with no pics or single males with no pics. Two words. Nope - Delete. End of story. If you have nothing to show or share weâre not here to provide entertainment for your impending jerk off session. Buy a flesh light and some lube and go away. đ
To those with the beautiful spreads (pictures and pussies) we thank you. And for taking the time to write some very nice messages. We will be answering everyone. If you donât hear back than thatâs usually a good sign that youâre just not our type. Nothing personal. But I think thatâs how most people do it. We can say no thanks but that feels harsh so we avoid it. But so far weâve seen pretty much all good. Yay!
I can say there are some gorgeous couples on here. We really look forward to possibly meeting some of you. Or meating some of you. Either or. But seriously, weâre excited to meet some new friends. And then violate them in the most licentious sort of way. đ.
Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable with us regarding a real delicate subject. Weâre blown away by the honesty and all the like minds. Now letâs all have some kinky fun!!!
K & A.
Completely agree with you - it was an interesting topic and sparked some good conversation between my wife and I.
As for the subject of this post - absolutely agree. If you are serious about meeting people, have pics of both people in the profile. Yes, as guys we do most of the âlookingâ and our eyes will be drawn to sexy shots, boob pics, pussy pics etc. I donât think too many people then read the profile, they just click âfriendâ. No message, nothing. My take on that - I liked the sexy pic and just want to see more for jerk off material.
If youâre interested, write a quick note of why you are reaching out. And, have full pics of both couples in your private pics. Once I find a couple that looks interesting, my wife wants to hear about the couple and see some pics. And trust me, she does enjoy the sexy pics of the ladies, but she wants to see more than a dick pic of the guy. She wants to see full body, face etc. if there arenât full pics, things stop right there.
My advice, if you are serious, have some good pics that are public, read the couples profile & have full body and face pics of both of you (and they must be recent). Otherwise, donât come knocking!
As for the subject of this post - absolutely agree. If you are serious about meeting people, have pics of both people in the profile. Yes, as guys we do most of the âlookingâ and our eyes will be drawn to sexy shots, boob pics, pussy pics etc. I donât think too many people then read the profile, they just click âfriendâ. No message, nothing. My take on that - I liked the sexy pic and just want to see more for jerk off material.
If youâre interested, write a quick note of why you are reaching out. And, have full pics of both couples in your private pics. Once I find a couple that looks interesting, my wife wants to hear about the couple and see some pics. And trust me, she does enjoy the sexy pics of the ladies, but she wants to see more than a dick pic of the guy. She wants to see full body, face etc. if there arenât full pics, things stop right there.
My advice, if you are serious, have some good pics that are public, read the couples profile & have full body and face pics of both of you (and they must be recent). Otherwise, donât come knocking!
We think the most attractive part of a person, especially in a LS sense, is their face and smile. And we think the confidence that goes with showing the full you is very sexy. Faceless public pics, even those showing T&A or anonymous sex images, really do not entice us to investigate deeper.
On the other hand we also think that LS people are still stigmatized to a degree, and we understand why others want to be somewhat more confident about those they reveal their faces to online. Even in the enclosure of the swingular site. Just saying that the reluctance doesn't lead us in.
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On the other hand we also think that LS people are still stigmatized to a degree, and we understand why others want to be somewhat more confident about those they reveal their faces to online. Even in the enclosure of the swingular site. Just saying that the reluctance doesn't lead us in.
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Well if you are Katie Hill or have aspirations to run for office đ! We agree with all the above. We personally feel from the neck down most people are very similar looking. The face and smile go a long way but at the end of the day personality goes so much further. We think there has to be some attraction but find we at times get in the way of ourselves meeting fun couples. Some of the most fun couples we have met we werenât the most attracted to.
Anyone, who might wish to do us harm, or frankly judge us harshly for our non-monogamous tendencies, or who might be offended by our nudity (Why are they on the site if they are offended) most probably would not recognize us from our public profile pictures with our faces cut in half. Our private pictures show our faces. People on the site, we would hope are sex friendly. Occasionally one or both of us will feel a bit paranoid and we will show a bit less publicly. Mrs. Deliciously, rarely logs in. If we just met someone in person that really positively hit her right between the eyes, and or maybe right between the legs, she tends to log in frequently, until communications end up in phone calls and playtimes. The whole vetting process, and some of the malarkey online, diminishes her experience just a bit. Interestingly enough, when she meets people in person, she has next to no preconception and maybe preconception is sometimes a barrier to real discovery. She is more in the here and now moment. I enjoy the online experience. It has become a bit more convoluted than it was when we first began the online portion of our swinging adventure. We started out meeting people at a couple of meet and greets some friends told us about. So many people asked us what our profile name was, we decided to look into getting a profile. So here we are for quite a few years. Weâve started to hit one particular meet and greet. As for actually making great compatible friendships with benefits, face to face, leading into online familiarity has worked for us in the past. Meeting at a meet and greet kind of takes the pressure off. If there is a connection, everyone knows it, and you can move into the next phase. If there is a mixed reaction, there isnât as obvious of a looming question, who in the equation was disinterested.
Have to agree with the OP statements here. While we're not so bold as to have our faces right there in our public profile; Very public facing jobs preclude us feeling that comfortable. However, our private one has everything you need to know and see. We also try and keep our pictures current and our profile accurate. I get a kick out of how many people lie about their age, trust me no matter how good you look for your age we can usually figure it out pretty quick - and guess what. It doesn't matter, but we do think it's funny people feel the need to hide it. And finally there is the "straight men". I'm a bisexual man and so far on the site I've only met two guys where it was total no fly zone. Guys, if you don't mind messing around with a another guy it's okay to say so... After all everyone expects all the women to be bi...
E&S
E&S
Agree and disagree ...
Unfortunately there are idiots in our world who have nothing better to do with their pathetic lives than just be .. well idiots. And the smart ones can be pretty good detectives if they want to. So just be as discreet as you want and need to be.
Unfortunately there are idiots in our world who have nothing better to do with their pathetic lives than just be .. well idiots. And the smart ones can be pretty good detectives if they want to. So just be as discreet as you want and need to be.
experience wrote:How about the times someone sends you a friend request but has not private photos? What's the purpose of that? Just to see your photos?
We have to agree, some of the photos both public and private, we do not understand at all. But each to his own I guess. If you are going to share your private photos, we should be able to see your face, if that's a problem you can always send it on a message or through KIK. But if there is no face photos in their private folder, we usually just pass.
We are definitely more attracted to profiles with sexy, but not graphic âmoney shotâ, images. Itâs not for us to say itâs right or wrong, it just is kind of a turn off for us. We are more than happy to share our face pictures, but do not have them publicly available. Our privacy is important for those who are just lookie loos. Just like everything else, just ask and we will share đ
Kik - HereAndThere4Fun
Kik - HereAndThere4Fun
AND... Just because I was active in the forums today I've received a slew of blind friend requests... Sigh in the trash they go cuz people cant be bothered to say hello. This is one big reason people don't have pictures. Too many people that you have no idea if they are actually interested in meeting you or just want to add you to their spank bank...
The main reason we took our face pics out of our profile was due to the swingular watermark but for no other reason. Figured we can share our pics through kik so that there are no watermarks.
Same here - 6 blind requests today
ESPECIALTY wrote:Forums are the best way to know if the profiles are real or fake đ! No one wants a fake spank bank đđ ââď¸!
AND... Just because I was active in the forums today I've received a slew of blind friend requests... Sigh in the trash they go cuz people cant be bothered to say hello. This is one big reason people don't have pictures. Too many people that you have no idea if they are actually interested in meeting you or just want to add you to their spank bank...
What's wrong with you people? Surely their profiles mentioned how fit, well endowed, attractive, and youthful they look. Don't you believe them, and why should you decide for yourselves? They've kindly done it for you. It's like you all think a picture is worth a thousand words! That's absurd. Who ever heard of such a thing?
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I guess I'll play the devil's advocate for a second and share an opposing point of view. And this isn't meant to be offensive, just presenting another way to look at the initial question/complaint. First off, and I've mentioned this time after time in different posts, there is no one correct way to swing, to post a profile or to live a swinger life. If your opinion (and I don't mean you, as in the poster of the thread, just a generic term) is that people should show their faces and it irritates you if they don't, that's a fine opinion to have, but it's just that, an opinion. If you are in a position in your life that you don't mind if friends, family and co workers know you swing or see graphic pics of you, possibly from another source other than you sending them, or from a random search through a swinger website, that's great. It might be empowering and refreshing to some degree. However, some people don't feel comfortable with that or may actually suffer harm to their reputations, face loss of income or have other unwelcome things happen to them. It has happened to people and the threat, even if just perceived, feels very real to some. We live in a prejudicial society that places its values and norms on others and sometimes punishes those who don't comply with that version of normalcy and moral behavior. It seems an understandable worry to me and to others.
" If youâre truly worried about âyour jobâ or others seeing you than maybe youâre in the wrong place?"
That doesn't make much sense to me. Though taking a break now, we have been successful "swingers" for many years and we were always careful and had a worry about certain people finding out. We know many, many others who feel the same, so to say we might be in the wrong place doesn't hold much water as anything other than your preference for who you meet or how you prefer a profile to look.
As with all aspects of life, but let's direct this to swinging, there is no black and white, right or wrong. Personally we have always tried to bend our preferences, to give people the benefit of the doubt unless there was a glaring red flag or we were not in the least attracted because of what we read, profile pics (attraction) or something else that wasn't attractive or inviting to us. But no worries. There are a lot of different people with different needs and expectations. It is always fun for us to expand our prejudices, learn new things, try new things and step away from a list set in stone that we need to follow. That being said, we have our own preferences and opinions on what we are looking for, but that's all they are. We understand some people want to meet and fuck after a quick hello and exchanging a kiss. Some want more of a poly relationship. Some will never play in the same room while others demand it. There us a beautiful spectrum to life, to swinging to...everything.
Just my opinion, of course. You may limit meeting some amazing people by creating strict rules about what you expect, especially related to profiles. Many new couples are super sensitive about even being on the site. But if that is what works well for a couple, great. That's how they do it. It would be wonderful to be in a place where we could all be honest and open with everyone we knew. But we don't and we can't, or perhaps it is just we choose not to because of the severe consequences we may face. I respect people's choices to progress at their own speed, to exchange face pics when they feel comfortable with it and to feel safe in the situation they are working in.
For us, and the way we know many of our friends do it, the public pics are a little bit of an appetizer. The private pics have traditionally been more sexy and naughty. Then we have 20 or so face pics in the folder that we specifically have to give access to. Our reasoning is that some people want to add you as a friend so they can keep track of you, show interest, or yes, sometimes just see pics. For those pic hunters especially, we don't share face pics unless we are interested. It provides a level of comfort and security for us, even if it really isn't that safe and only gives us warm and fuzzies. It also is beneficial when nosy people are snooping on the site to see who they know, and even though it doesn't worry you, it worries some.
Last up, we too have frustrations about certain profiles or they way people progress with their pics and such. But we certainly think they have the right to be swingers in whatever capacity they choose. If we don't like something, get too frustrated, we move on. But we do it knowing the other person or couple is swinging as they choose and we support that.
I think the forums can be fun places to share ideas. It's a place to learn about others and see an opinion that you might not agree with or haven't thought about. Or, it's a place to ramble on about not much, so if you have read this far, good for you.
xoxo
Mr SRO
" If youâre truly worried about âyour jobâ or others seeing you than maybe youâre in the wrong place?"
That doesn't make much sense to me. Though taking a break now, we have been successful "swingers" for many years and we were always careful and had a worry about certain people finding out. We know many, many others who feel the same, so to say we might be in the wrong place doesn't hold much water as anything other than your preference for who you meet or how you prefer a profile to look.
As with all aspects of life, but let's direct this to swinging, there is no black and white, right or wrong. Personally we have always tried to bend our preferences, to give people the benefit of the doubt unless there was a glaring red flag or we were not in the least attracted because of what we read, profile pics (attraction) or something else that wasn't attractive or inviting to us. But no worries. There are a lot of different people with different needs and expectations. It is always fun for us to expand our prejudices, learn new things, try new things and step away from a list set in stone that we need to follow. That being said, we have our own preferences and opinions on what we are looking for, but that's all they are. We understand some people want to meet and fuck after a quick hello and exchanging a kiss. Some want more of a poly relationship. Some will never play in the same room while others demand it. There us a beautiful spectrum to life, to swinging to...everything.
Just my opinion, of course. You may limit meeting some amazing people by creating strict rules about what you expect, especially related to profiles. Many new couples are super sensitive about even being on the site. But if that is what works well for a couple, great. That's how they do it. It would be wonderful to be in a place where we could all be honest and open with everyone we knew. But we don't and we can't, or perhaps it is just we choose not to because of the severe consequences we may face. I respect people's choices to progress at their own speed, to exchange face pics when they feel comfortable with it and to feel safe in the situation they are working in.
For us, and the way we know many of our friends do it, the public pics are a little bit of an appetizer. The private pics have traditionally been more sexy and naughty. Then we have 20 or so face pics in the folder that we specifically have to give access to. Our reasoning is that some people want to add you as a friend so they can keep track of you, show interest, or yes, sometimes just see pics. For those pic hunters especially, we don't share face pics unless we are interested. It provides a level of comfort and security for us, even if it really isn't that safe and only gives us warm and fuzzies. It also is beneficial when nosy people are snooping on the site to see who they know, and even though it doesn't worry you, it worries some.
Last up, we too have frustrations about certain profiles or they way people progress with their pics and such. But we certainly think they have the right to be swingers in whatever capacity they choose. If we don't like something, get too frustrated, we move on. But we do it knowing the other person or couple is swinging as they choose and we support that.
I think the forums can be fun places to share ideas. It's a place to learn about others and see an opinion that you might not agree with or haven't thought about. Or, it's a place to ramble on about not much, so if you have read this far, good for you.
xoxo
Mr SRO
We have minimal pictures on our profile, used to have lots more, just got sick of the friend requests with no communication after. If someone reaches out to us, we want it to be because they liked our profile and want to get to know us better, not because âoooh I want to fuck that...â Not knocking anyone else's preferences, thats just what works for us đ
I see both sides. Back when I was nervously exploring all of this, I was terrified of everything. I was scared of being recognized. Being outed. Being judged.
Now that I have fully accepted my heathen ways, I don't actually care who knows. But it did take me a long 7 years to get here.
I don't think there's a right or wrong here, just a "good fit for me and bad fit for me."
Someone who is new to all of this and scared, probably isn't going to vibe well with my out and IDGAF personality, and that's ok. I think there's something for everyone.
Now that I have fully accepted my heathen ways, I don't actually care who knows. But it did take me a long 7 years to get here.
I don't think there's a right or wrong here, just a "good fit for me and bad fit for me."
Someone who is new to all of this and scared, probably isn't going to vibe well with my out and IDGAF personality, and that's ok. I think there's something for everyone.