Just curious if anyone on this site likes to go out for drinks and dinner for meet-ups anymore?
It seems like most are geared towards “lifestyle events.” Dont get us wrong, those can be fun and all, but we tend to be shyer and struggle putting ourselves out there.
We personally really love an intimate setting where we can all get to know each other and laugh in a low pressure situation like drinks and dinner, but it seems like it’s hard to find couples that like that these days.
Maybe we are just old fashioned.
If there are some people also like that reading this though we’d love to hear from you!
It seems like most are geared towards “lifestyle events.” Dont get us wrong, those can be fun and all, but we tend to be shyer and struggle putting ourselves out there.
We personally really love an intimate setting where we can all get to know each other and laugh in a low pressure situation like drinks and dinner, but it seems like it’s hard to find couples that like that these days.
Maybe we are just old fashioned.
If there are some people also like that reading this though we’d love to hear from you!
We do
We definitely prefer meeting one couple for food and drinks over large meet ups. Although the meet & greets can be a lot of fun, we like the intimacy that meeting one couple provides better.
Definitely we like it as well easier to get to the know the people you are meeting
We definitely do.
Not huge fans of the clubbing, mega parties or meet & greets aspects of the lifestyle....we much prefer to meet in a casual location and see what happens. Hopefully what happens is that we all agree to have hot sex. 😉
Not huge fans of the clubbing, mega parties or meet & greets aspects of the lifestyle....we much prefer to meet in a casual location and see what happens. Hopefully what happens is that we all agree to have hot sex. 😉
We definitely are a meet for drinks / dinner or even coffee. We find it much nicer in getting to know a couple than doing so at a club or party.
We prefer it over events but events can be fun if you know people!
My posting has long included the offer to meet someone or a couple over dinner and have done so as well. Always been received well.
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We prefer to first meet up for drinks or dinner as well.
We'd love to. We find it's a great first way to meet in a neutral setting, and unwind a little after a few cocktails. 
We think meeting as a group, or a few couples works well. It honestly just depends on the vibe of the group, and couples.
We think meeting as a group, or a few couples works well. It honestly just depends on the vibe of the group, and couples.
Good luck! This isn’t really a response for swingular but LS couples in general. If you’re not Brad and Jennifer good luck. This could be an imperfect couple just being bitter but we’d love to meet for drinks or coffee and have never been able to make that happen since we’ve been here. This has caused us to not be very active here the last couple years. I would say that’s because we aren’t Ken and Barbie but we’ve made several attempts to meet people and it’s always fallen through. Our suggestion would be to be very specific as to what you want. If it’s casual and a one time thing says so. If you want full time play sessions, say it. Don’t mean to dump on your request but be ready stick to your standards. Maybe that’s why we haven’t met people... maybe they’ve stuck to their standards and we haven’t met them.
We are always up for drinks for the fist meet up always have been
Yup. "Dinner and drinks" is actually our "BIG move".
We literally just did Dinner and a wine tasting on sunday. It was a great time.
It's really the only way we meet people anymore and thereafter. We arent fans of big events and parties as we find them stressful. One or two other couples getting together is really the best fun for us.
We do, and we are open tonight for either dinner or drinks
Dinner....drinks????? Who are we, our parents? That shit is for old fashioned people.
I’d much prefer spending all night yelling over music, trying to get someone’s attention, then finally wearing myself out after 4 hours and just wanting to go home and go to bed.
We love dinner and drinks. We can’t screw a whole club but a couple is manageable.
Hold on, I have to check my flip phone, I think someone is calling us for dinner and drinks.
I’d much prefer spending all night yelling over music, trying to get someone’s attention, then finally wearing myself out after 4 hours and just wanting to go home and go to bed.
We love dinner and drinks. We can’t screw a whole club but a couple is manageable.
Hold on, I have to check my flip phone, I think someone is calling us for dinner and drinks.
Perhaps the lifestyle community needs to frequent a few local coffee shops. Someplace people can just drop in and meet each other.
As for the two of us, well we enjoy meeting people face to face. We have a lot going on in our lives, with family and friends, and each other, so we have a lot of opportunities in our lives, mostly outside of the lifestyle, where know we will enjoy the company. So we really have to feel like there is a lot of chemistry and attraction, straight up, right up front, before we we will agree to meet someone just to see if there might be chemistry. Frankly that’s hard to find if the online content and communications we see are really obscure, lacks much definition or specifics. Well, not everyone care for online communications. Face to face is better. We went to the Kandy K meet and greet last Friday night and we met a few really nice people. We spent most our lives before the advent of social media. Back in the day, most of the people we met, that became friends and or even lovers, were people we met through work, school, community involvement, hobbies or someplace we just ran into each other rather frequently. So recently, we decided that we would try and frequent the Kandy K meet and greets. It’s one Friday each month. The crowd included a pretty wide age range. There are people from all sorts of back grounds and walk of life and sizes and shapes, and origins. We like that kind of diversity. Everyone we have met seems to be respectful. years back we made a few really good connections at that same meet and greet, that became lovers, that eventually moved out of state or just live far enough down the 1-15 corridor from us that the distance makes hooking up a bit more difficult. The music is still a bit too loud to easily converse, at that meet and greet, but it is a lot less difficult than what we found at the big events. We figure that if we meet someone there, and there is chemistry the dinner and drinks step will just flow forward naturally.
As for the two of us, well we enjoy meeting people face to face. We have a lot going on in our lives, with family and friends, and each other, so we have a lot of opportunities in our lives, mostly outside of the lifestyle, where know we will enjoy the company. So we really have to feel like there is a lot of chemistry and attraction, straight up, right up front, before we we will agree to meet someone just to see if there might be chemistry. Frankly that’s hard to find if the online content and communications we see are really obscure, lacks much definition or specifics. Well, not everyone care for online communications. Face to face is better. We went to the Kandy K meet and greet last Friday night and we met a few really nice people. We spent most our lives before the advent of social media. Back in the day, most of the people we met, that became friends and or even lovers, were people we met through work, school, community involvement, hobbies or someplace we just ran into each other rather frequently. So recently, we decided that we would try and frequent the Kandy K meet and greets. It’s one Friday each month. The crowd included a pretty wide age range. There are people from all sorts of back grounds and walk of life and sizes and shapes, and origins. We like that kind of diversity. Everyone we have met seems to be respectful. years back we made a few really good connections at that same meet and greet, that became lovers, that eventually moved out of state or just live far enough down the 1-15 corridor from us that the distance makes hooking up a bit more difficult. The music is still a bit too loud to easily converse, at that meet and greet, but it is a lot less difficult than what we found at the big events. We figure that if we meet someone there, and there is chemistry the dinner and drinks step will just flow forward naturally.
I've wondered the same thing, we've been invited on several occasions to dinner and drinks and been stood up. Seeing to positive attitude toward meeting personally rather than at events I have to wonder, "What gives?" Are WE doing something wrong?
We prefer dinner and drinks when meeting a couple. It not only gives us a perspective on how sexy they are, but let’s us see there interactions with each other. Are they both in this together, are there personalities fun and easy going, etc. Much preferred over a large gathering. But I guess it’s all about what a couple is looking for too.
Yep,
We met a couple at a house party and have started a routine with them where we go out for dinner to a place none of us have gone before.
Also, dinner and drinks is a great way to get to know a new couple in a relaxed no pressure environment.
So, wanna meet for dinner and drinks? Hit us up
K&S
We met a couple at a house party and have started a routine with them where we go out for dinner to a place none of us have gone before.
Also, dinner and drinks is a great way to get to know a new couple in a relaxed no pressure environment.
So, wanna meet for dinner and drinks? Hit us up
K&S
I prefer to meet and have drinks and some light food to start out. If I eat too much, I’ll want to sleep 😂. My go to spot when I’m going out with a group for fun is prohibition. It’s got a really sexy atmosphere, good drinks and some really great small plates.
That's very much our thing. Sunday brunch has also worked out well before. We haven't even been to a LS event yet.
Glad to know we aren’t the only ones!
We’d love to meet you all for some dinner and drinks at some point! 😘
We’d love to meet you all for some dinner and drinks at some point! 😘
So we THINK we prefer to meet for dinner and drinks. Unfortunately, the few times we've done it - the people were VERY different from their profiles. Its not that we can't enjoy dinner or drinks with just about anyone (we can). . . but part of it is we were attracted to a picture and a profile. When somebody else shows up its a total boner killer. This has made us very hesitant.
We've had great experiences meeting people at resorts like Desire - and many of those people we've met up with after Mexico and maintain a close friendship with them still. We'd love to meet more people here - but the LS events intimidate us a bit and now we are pretty gun shy about dinner. So its US not YOU . . . but we're still trying to figure this thing out.
We would appreciate any suggestions. Some of your profiles are so damn sexy that we are dying to meet you - especially those of you who are funny and fun! . . . but we're 4 for 4 in having somebody VERY different show up for drinks/dinner. No offense to those we met - but . . . not sure how else to say it. Suggestions?
We've had great experiences meeting people at resorts like Desire - and many of those people we've met up with after Mexico and maintain a close friendship with them still. We'd love to meet more people here - but the LS events intimidate us a bit and now we are pretty gun shy about dinner. So its US not YOU . . . but we're still trying to figure this thing out.
We would appreciate any suggestions. Some of your profiles are so damn sexy that we are dying to meet you - especially those of you who are funny and fun! . . . but we're 4 for 4 in having somebody VERY different show up for drinks/dinner. No offense to those we met - but . . . not sure how else to say it. Suggestions?
We have noticed a similar thing. We like going to events and having fun though we have tried to get together with couples and nothing has ever come around. Making any solid plans feels just as effective as nailing jello to the wall.
We’re always down to meet up with couples. It does seem like events are a more effective way to meet people though.
We’re always down to meet up with couples. It does seem like events are a more effective way to meet people though.
We are the same way at events on the shyer side to. We prefer meeting for a drink or dinner.
Maybe the secret is to get a room over a long weekend at a hotel with a nice bar and coffee shop. Let anyone that interest you, and that seemed to be interested in you when and where you will be in advance. If some of them show up meet them in the coffee shop or bar, and if there is chemistry go to the room. If not just enjoy getting to know them and say good bye. Yes you will probably have no shows and maybe somebody will show up unannounced while you are with another couple, but hey, ain't nothing but a party! Figure it out as you go.
We would love to meet people for a drink and food. We are doing that tonight if anyone wants to join us?
I think it is a great way to meet a couple. It is very nice to talk and get to know each other.
Definitely some drunk mario kart or Mario party! 😜
We’d love to meet / greet if your interested. We could host (bountiful area) or meet at a local place for food. Let us know. Dan 801-707-5384
I think these guys look like a good option. Just saying. 🙂
Hilarious! Gotta love these guys! 🤣
Not a bad idea, but do people need to go to Logan to meet up with you? 😉
Hi, we are completely new to this, but someone told us to post more pics and to have pics of what we actually look like (Face included) in the private album. We just did that, and hopefully that is successful. I just noticed that you have only one pic... We might be interested in meeting you, but it is hard to tell based on what you have showing right now.
We are totally new to this. We are open to the dinner, drinks or whatever, and like cool people. We are also here for sex because acting out a fantasy by humping a tree in public can cause chafing, give you genital slivers, and get you a minor amount of jail time. So, when they release us from jail, we might like to meet some of you. Hit us up if you're interested. Don't worry, the slivers should be removed by the time we meet. 😉🤣
Where is the meet and greet you are talking about? I’ve tried to find some and have had no luck.
Dinner or drinks Here! Even Host
Dinner and drinks... what’s not to like about that! Dinner and drinks just makes everything a little less awkward....most of the time.
We love going out for dinner and drinks... however we aren't strangers to a good party either. However at parties we usually use it for meeting new people usually nothing happens after just because it's so loud and we can't really talk... we will usually go out for drinks at a later date.
We are up for a meet and great
SUMMERLOVINFOLK wrote:
We’d love to meet / greet if your interested. We could host (bountiful area) or meet at a local place for food. Let us know. Dan 801-707-5384
Messaged you!
We’d love to meet all you sexy people 😘
We do 🍷🍸
Yes we do.
We do as well. Always better to meet somewhere one on one (or two on two) and get to know each other better first. Parties and events don't let that happen very well.
Meeting up for a casual meet n greet sounds like hoe we would prefer it. Whether just 2 couples or more.
Yes, we do.
However, we also like to meet for an outdoor activity. You're more likely to be the fit, active, and healthy people we prefer if you're unafraid to ski, bike, swim, etc. Even if we didn't connect, at least we had fun.
We often prefer events and parties more. Takes the entire focus and pressure off of us. If things aren't clicking we can all move on to socializing with other people instead of feeling entirely disappointed.
However, we also like to meet for an outdoor activity. You're more likely to be the fit, active, and healthy people we prefer if you're unafraid to ski, bike, swim, etc. Even if we didn't connect, at least we had fun.
We often prefer events and parties more. Takes the entire focus and pressure off of us. If things aren't clicking we can all move on to socializing with other people instead of feeling entirely disappointed.
We are a fan of drinks... usually followed by cards or games/hot tub, etc.. just to visit.
Generally do not play until we've hung out a few times.
Generally do not play until we've hung out a few times.
We do.. it’s a nice way to get to know each other with out any pressure ☺️
we prefer it...were are we going?
It's a good way to get to know someone first. As a single male it is more common than not to first meet for drinks at least.
Who doesnt? 🤷♂️
Who doesnt? 🤷♂️
Dinner and drinks is easiest for us since we have kids. If we didn't, I think it'd be fun to mix it up..sometimes going to events and sometimes meeting up in a more laid back setting
Well we are definitely down to meet all you sexy people since this forum was resurrected form the dead! 😂😘
Great topic! There are very few that are willing to meet for dinner or drinks and have an opportunity to actually get to know each other. I understand that is not for everyone, it is our preference however...
We love to meet for dinner and drinks.
We definitely prefer dinner and drinks to meet. Everyone's different but I think a lot of us still do it the old fashioned way 😉
We usually just meet for something more casual such as coffee or a beer initially. That way if there is no chemistry you don’t have to suffer through an entire meal...lol
We are always down for Dinner or drinks
Oh hell, on some days you need drinks AS dinner!
I love doing dinner and drinks! But as a dating single male, it's usually a deal breaker. I NEVER go to a Meetup alone unless it's clear that it's what we're doing. I date a few women that are in the lifestyle and are FWB, heavy on the friends part- LOL!
But, you know, there are a few single guys that leave a bad taste, so to speak, and it's understandable why most couples aren't looking at single guys eating other women.
Sorry for the rant, rack'em!
(Extra points if you get that reference! LOL!)
But, you know, there are a few single guys that leave a bad taste, so to speak, and it's understandable why most couples aren't looking at single guys eating other women.
Sorry for the rant, rack'em!
(Extra points if you get that reference! LOL!)
We do. Just with the holidays it's tough to get out. Almost done with them and we can finally get back to what we enjoy....people and parties!
My partner and I prefer to meet for drinks before anything else happens. Sometimes dinner can happen but I'm too self-conscious about trying to be suave and sexy while chomping on a big burger or something.
We love dinner and drinks
LUCKY_LU_801 wrote:
I love doing dinner and drinks! But as a dating single male, it's usually a deal breaker. I NEVER go to a Meetup alone unless it's clear that it's what we're doing. I date a few women that are in the lifestyle and are FWB, heavy on the friends part- LOL!
But, you know, there are a few single guys that leave a bad taste, so to speak, and it's understandable why most couples aren't looking at single guys eating other women.
Sorry for the rant, rack'em!
(Extra points if you get that reference! LOL!)
OMG! Dating other women! Not EATING- LOL!
We do... We are free most nights and weekends.. hit us up
We do . Hit us up !
LUCKY_LU_801 wrote:LUCKY_LU_801 wrote:
I love doing dinner and drinks! But as a dating single male, it's usually a deal breaker. I NEVER go to a Meetup alone unless it's clear that it's what we're doing. I date a few women that are in the lifestyle and are FWB, heavy on the friends part- LOL!
But, you know, there are a few single guys that leave a bad taste, so to speak, and it's understandable why most couples aren't looking at single guys eating other women.
Sorry for the rant, rack'em!
(Extra points if you get that reference! LOL!)
OMG! Dating other women! Not EATING- LOL!
Funny autocorrect or swipe fail, though.
We do!
With people we already know, we love doing candle lit dinner parties with just one other couple, or a few friends followed with playtime for dessert. We have one of our younger adult children, who has moved back in for a bit, so that’s not so available of an opportunity right now.
First or second meetings can be over dinner. More likely, that’s a second meeting. First meetings we frankly prefer happen at a meet and greet, or in a really casual setting, like coffee or drinks, unless the pre-meeting chemistry and attraction has been excellent! Some people say that whether or not sex happens, isn’t that important, and they are just looking for friends, but sex is a consideration, and it’s probably near the top of the list of reasons why we all joined a sex site.
First or second meetings can be over dinner. More likely, that’s a second meeting. First meetings we frankly prefer happen at a meet and greet, or in a really casual setting, like coffee or drinks, unless the pre-meeting chemistry and attraction has been excellent! Some people say that whether or not sex happens, isn’t that important, and they are just looking for friends, but sex is a consideration, and it’s probably near the top of the list of reasons why we all joined a sex site.
feel the same way, we are down in st George if ever down here
We always do some kind of low to no pressure thing when we meet new people. Dinner or drinks is our norm.
We love getting to know, as well as continue friendships. Over dinner and drinks.
We are new to this lifestyle. And would prefer drinks and dinner.
We've found that with people we know that we like play, then dinner & drinks (and then more play). Because good sex makes you hungry and thirsty, right?
But first meets are always good over drinks. Nobody ever really seems to eat on first meets.....
But first meets are always good over drinks. Nobody ever really seems to eat on first meets.....
Open to meet and see what happens whether new friends or FWB. No pressure we are fun and a bit smart ass so hit us up if interested.
Yes we are doing that tonight if interested?
We do, please message us to set it up!
Thank you I have posted something similar now! Of course it will be my pleasure anytime.