This may be personal but I was wondering what got people into swinging and why you stay.
We enjoy still feeling like we “still got it”. Also has made our communication in our marriage a lot better with being able to freely talk about each other’s turn ons. We got into it out of curiosity when our good friends started doing it. We’ve also read some good books and listened to some podcasts on open relationships. Best thing is learning about everything and then deciding what you want.
Are there any books you would recommend?
Own the day, own your life by Aubrey Marcus
The truth-Neil Strauss
Sex at dawn- Christopher Ryan
All have interesting things, but not one is “amazing” and the go to book. Hope that helps.
The truth-Neil Strauss
Sex at dawn- Christopher Ryan
All have interesting things, but not one is “amazing” and the go to book. Hope that helps.
Got into it because we both grew up as Molly and Marvin? Mormon and wondered what we'd missed out on only fucking each other. We STAYED in it because we enjoy hanging out with people that we don't have to censor ourselves around.
Thanks, I just love learning so i'm sure they will help.
ABYSOLFIEND wrote:
Are there any books you would recommend?
The Ethical Slut is a staple
We got in quite by accident . . . seriously. We went to a club because we heard we could watch real people fuck. When one of the couples asked us if we wanted to touch her boobs . . . well who were we to say "no". After that happened - we liked talking about it later and we loved what it did to make us feel more connected. We've stayed in because we love the people in it - they are more authentic than any of our other (non LS) friends. Honestly, whether or not we 'play' with people - we just love the sexy vibe that exists with most every lifestyle couple we've met. YMMV . . . but for us - it feels like home!!
For the pussy--- why else ??
As other have said it can enhance your relationship with your significant other and create a bond like no other but not for everyone. True swingers enjoy sex and should not have jealousy issues and take pleasure in the experience of sharing with the people they are attracted to and get along with.
We have made some great friends and had some wonderful experiences but not always and we accept that sometimes the unexpected may happen and thats ok. At the point where you are not having fun you should walk away and we are still having way too much fun.
We have made some great friends and had some wonderful experiences but not always and we accept that sometimes the unexpected may happen and thats ok. At the point where you are not having fun you should walk away and we are still having way too much fun.
Well as a child I loved swings... who doesn’t like to swing!!!! And as an adult I still love to swing 😈 🤣
For us it began with a sense of curiosity, as conversations started going we became more and more intrigued and finally dove right into it from then on we were hooked. Why we stay? We've met some incredible sexy people we can be ourselves around! It's also fun to have that little secret behind closed doors 😘
CLUBCIGAR wrote:
For the pussy--- why else ??
us 2.. hot asses and yummy pussy
Because it's fun! We like making great friends too.
Newcouple42 wrote:
Own the day, own your life by Aubrey Marcus
The truth-Neil Strauss
Sex at dawn- Christopher Ryan
All have interesting things, but not one is “amazing” and the go to book. Hope that helps.
“Own the Day, Own your Life“, was fantastic along with Chris Ryan’s book.
We initially gave it a shot to spice things up, but found in the process we were communicating more, more mindful of each other, and genuinely excited for each others fun. Our marriage got better, and the sex....my God was through the roof, better than at any point in our lives.
Sex at Dawn is heavy lifting for some - but if you want scientifically sound explanations as to why we were never meant to be monogamous . . . we think its a 'must read'. Cerebral, to be sure, but very well documented. Good stuff.
even though we came about it somewhat by accident and somewhat later on, I feel as though we were inherently swingers. it just took a long time to figure out that what society was feeding us and what we were feeling wasn’t wrong. we have the most amazing conversations and the best sex ever. we have more love and intimate times with each other and share the things in life that really matter and can still be individuals with wants and desires and can be happy for one another in the others joy and pleasure and still know we have that rock and hsafe place to rely on. we are having more fun than ever. hit us up if you wanna join in our fun.
We got into it totally by accident to be honest. We had a really wild night another couple who were long time friends that started out as skinny dipping in their pool late one night and it turned into a full out wife swap. Didn’t see that coming! We were so excited by the thought of opening our sex life to others that we expanded from there.
It is exciting for both of us. We both love sex and love to explore new experiences. We have also met some really great people.✌🏼
It Don't Mean A Thing If It Ain't Got That Swing. The poignant tale of a single male wandering the streets of, I wanna say...Sugarhouse? (could be Magna), looking for someone to swing with him. Luckily he's a snazzy dresser AND he can sing AND dance. Eventually, after wandering the streets soliciting anyone in sight, he finds some other single guys (I guess they're at least bi-curious) who want to swing with him but as they start to swing he sees a unicorn and decides he'd rather swing with her. Soon, other horny couples see them swinging and decide they want to swing with them too and it becomes an all-out orgy right there in the street with all kinds of crazy moves and positions. Why nobody calls the cops or church security is amazing and finally everyone involved is satiated and spent. This won the Oscar in 1956 for Best Short Porn Musical.
2nd_Time yes!! Initially we tried because it sounded hot and we wanted to spice things up, but found our marriage got better and us more connected. We have met amazing and dear friends, probably our best friends. And we are constantly evolving what we are looking for not because we need this or that new kink, but because we want to keep giving other pleasures.
I started early in college, wasn’t called swinging but partying, had been with women already but the threesomes and larger parties started then too. Had gotten married after grad school to someone that hadn’t experienced any of it. Started as pillow talk when he asked about my past, I asked him then if he seriously wanted to know, in the back of my mind I knew I shouldn’t bring it up. But things in bed weren’t great and I had tried and was trying to talk about it but he didn’t take suggestions well. So I thought putting it all out there might help. In the beginning it did help, we were trying new stuff just between the two of us but always talking. Then he asked if I still knew anyone, told them pretty much everyone you have met of my friends had been or still are involved. He asked if I what sex with her or her or her, but then reluctantly asked if I had sex with him or him and told him. Those two I had threesomed with, been with her and her and him and him. We would have great sex while I was telling him about the parties or whatever. I asked him if he wanted to go to a party sometime? I made sure I asked while we were not having sex so he could absorb it all or hope he would. At that point personally I don’t think I would need to swing but the thought of starting up again was certainly exciting for me as well. Am sure you can probably understand how this all went. Unfortunately he didn’t have the mind for swinging, talking about it or fantasizing about it he did. Thought the best thing would be for me to invite a couple over. Friends of mine that he had gotten to know, he was quite taken by her. I had always had a great time with them. I spoke to them both to see if they were interested, told them how we got to this point. They said they would be up for, us three agreed we would take it slow and let him try and get a handle on how things progressed. Had asked him if he wanted to be in the same room with things heated up? We would see how it went and make a decision then. My gf thought it might be better if they were separate and he didn’t have to worry about me in the room with him. All went great, dinner and drinks, out by their pool, the 4 of us were talking about all and at one point Tina grabbed him and took him to their bedroom. Was telling him I had no idea how this was going to go, but relaxed and started having some fun myself. Very shortly after I could hear them in the kitchen, she and I had talked that before they came out she would take him somewhere close so I would know they were on their way out and I could stop rather than be in the middle of something. Her husband knew as well. Tina and my husband were telling us how much fun they had but I knew something didn’t go well. Finding out he was asking Tina about my past, all sorts of questions, things he didn’t ask me. Of course Tina’s response to all were I don’t know, we got home and in bed I was asking how it went, he was telling me a bunch of shit, how he got her off, how much she loved it, a lot more of the same, also how much of a stud he was and she did things I never did. He asked what we did, told him not much, mostly talk, had given him oral, why just that, because you were gone less than a half hour, but told him we were talking. So much for the great sex after. Like I said earlier, he just didn’t have the mind for it, nothing I was going to do or say would have changed that I believe. After we went to a couple of house parties, but the pillow talk had stopped and knowing after he saw me had sex at a house party it wasn’t going to continue like our marriage, snide comments about me with other men and other reasons were the end of our marriage. Was meant to be single, truly believe that even when I get a romantic connection now with a partner, man or woman.
Because the Physical Benefits of Swinging Running and Jumping onto swings, pushing other swingers, pumping legs to gain height and jumping out of swings all aid with locomotion, balance and coordination skills. Swings also gently develop muscle strength and fine motor skills. Balancing on a swing seat can strengthen the core. 😂
DEEPMOAN wrote:
I started early in college, wasn’t called swinging but partying, had been with women already but the threesomes and larger parties started then too. Had gotten married after grad school to someone that hadn’t experienced any of it. Started as pillow talk when he asked about my past, I asked him then if he seriously wanted to know, in the back of my mind I knew I shouldn’t bring it up. But things in bed weren’t great and I had tried and was trying to talk about it but he didn’t take suggestions well. So I thought putting it all out there might help. In the beginning it did help, we were trying new stuff just between the two of us but always talking. Then he asked if I still knew anyone, told them pretty much everyone you have met of my friends had been or still are involved. He asked if I what sex with her or her or her, but then reluctantly asked if I had sex with him or him and told him. Those two I had threesomed with, been with her and her and him and him. We would have great sex while I was telling him about the parties or whatever. I asked him if he wanted to go to a party sometime? I made sure I asked while we were not having sex so he could absorb it all or hope he would. At that point personally I don’t think I would need to swing but the thought of starting up again was certainly exciting for me as well. Am sure you can probably understand how this all went. Unfortunately he didn’t have the mind for swinging, talking about it or fantasizing about it he did. Thought the best thing would be for me to invite a couple over. Friends of mine that he had gotten to know, he was quite taken by her. I had always had a great time with them. I spoke to them both to see if they were interested, told them how we got to this point. They said they would be up for, us three agreed we would take it slow and let him try and get a handle on how things progressed. Had asked him if he wanted to be in the same room with things heated up? We would see how it went and make a decision then. My gf thought it might be better if they were separate and he didn’t have to worry about me in the room with him. All went great, dinner and drinks, out by their pool, the 4 of us were talking about all and at one point Tina grabbed him and took him to their bedroom. Was telling him I had no idea how this was going to go, but relaxed and started having some fun myself. Very shortly after I could hear them in the kitchen, she and I had talked that before they came out she would take him somewhere close so I would know they were on their way out and I could stop rather than be in the middle of something. Her husband knew as well. Tina and my husband were telling us how much fun they had but I knew something didn’t go well. Finding out he was asking Tina about my past, all sorts of questions, things he didn’t ask me. Of course Tina’s response to all were I don’t know, we got home and in bed I was asking how it went, he was telling me a bunch of shit, how he got her off, how much she loved it, a lot more of the same, also how much of a stud he was and she did things I never did. He asked what we did, told him not much, mostly talk, had given him oral, why just that, because you were gone less than a half hour, but told him we were talking. So much for the great sex after. Like I said earlier, he just didn’t have the mind for it, nothing I was going to do or say would have changed that I believe. After we went to a couple of house parties, but the pillow talk had stopped and knowing after he saw me had sex at a house party it wasn’t going to continue like our marriage, snide comments about me with other men and other reasons were the end of our marriage. Was meant to be single, truly believe that even when I get a romantic connection now with a partner, man or woman.
That really sucks. Sorry to hear that. It makes me laugh (cringe?) when I hear so many swingers talking about vanilla hunting and/or converting their friends to swinging. The harsh truth is that MOST people simply cannot handle swinging and are best left to their fantasies about fucking other people recreationally.
Like many in this area, we great up in very strict religious families with no idea what sex really was or even how to have it. Our first few days of marriage were nightmares trying to learn something that had been so taboo for so long. After a few years, sex was boring. Cyn then found many men were very attracted to her when she left the conservative attire at home when we traveled. That started our curiosity and we quickly advanced. We found many friends in similar situations and feelings. They were honest and fun. Now, later in life we stay active but not as aggressive out of necessity. Physical handicap makes it very difficult for myself as the husband to be sexually active so there is nothing more exciting than continuing to see my lovely wife continue to enjoy physical pleasures and please others. My satisfaction comes from seeing her enjoy herself without regret or guilt. Something lifestyles or swinging fulfills for us.