I've noticed with my single lady profile from time to time the male half of a couple trying to hook up even when their profile says no to play alone.
So this raised the question in my head on weather or not people check that when they communicate with people for that sort of hook up.
Do you check that before continuing to talk to someone? Do you assume that they got a hall pass and didn't update their profile?
I know we don't play alone. Yes I have my old single female profile but I don't use it anymore.
So this raised the question in my head on weather or not people check that when they communicate with people for that sort of hook up.
Do you check that before continuing to talk to someone? Do you assume that they got a hall pass and didn't update their profile?
I know we don't play alone. Yes I have my old single female profile but I don't use it anymore.
We would have the partner verify that hall pass regardless of what the profile says.
1000% agree. If a SO is truthful about the other being ok with things, then they can go out of their way to validate....texts, group phone calls, etc. We’ve been called out and yelled at before for asking this, but this is out of respect for the other, if the person can’t see that, and even appreciate it, drop em like a rock. I would SEEK out someone who showed that respect to us, and run from the opposite
We use to look at peoples profiles to see if they played alone but it always lead to that awkward conversation of asking what the stipulations are. Now it's just easier to avoid it and assume nobody plays alone unless they mention it in person when both parties are present.
Whenever anyone new sends us anything, we read their profile. If we need clarification we ask for it. We try and be as clear as we can about our druthers right up front. With that said, every relationship will have it’s own dynamic, and if there is great chemistry and honest communication, we find that the terms of engagement, just sort of become fluid and comfortable. Pushy and aggressive behaviors usually stem from some level of selfishness. Selfish sorts are more often than not, terrible lovers. If a couple or an individual has boundaries that are somewhat more restrictive than our own, that’s fine, we will respect their boundaries if we all choose to get together. Boundaries are not a sign of selfishness. Trying to evade or compromise someone’s boundaries is.
All single males who open profiles here end up soloing.